Ignoring women's questions

[Reykhel]

Women, just like children, have a tendency to ask some pretty silly questions....

Why answer them? Why give them any importance? Why not simply ignore them while giving them an amused look?

I admittedly would get frustrated at what I labelled "dumb" questions. However, what I observed was that frustrating was coming from labelling their questions "dumb". How could she be so dumb after all, right? But there was an expectation not been met. The expectation been that the questions or mentality "shouldn't be dumb". And when there's a disparity between expected behavior and received behavior frustration can blossom. It may be just a question of semantics but the word "silly" seems to work better. There's innocence in silly. There's no expectation not been met.

Ignore silly questions.

It sometimes has the secondary effect of driving her crazy and notching up the tension...

It also prevents you form entering into her frame and jumping through her hoops, especially when it comes to silly interview type questions. Silly interview type questions are without tension and end up been a supplication frame. She'll later say there was no spark and label you boring. This self entitlement....believing you are there to amuse her, like a clown..... must be mocked.

When she's persistent (or perhaps the tension becomes too much for you to bear...) and you feel like you've got to answer? Be like a politician. Politicians answer indirectly. Or to put it a better way...a skilled politician will answer the question that he feels the interviewer should have asked him. Rather than taking the bait from the interviewer and being lead, the astute politician answers in an oblique way.

It saves time and cuts down on silliness.

 

[guru1000]

When asked a qualifying question, I always go with, "Are you qualifying me? What qualifications do you have that make you think you're in a position to qualify ME? I say this half serious, half mocking. Silence usually ensues for a few seconds as she is trying to figure out if I am being serious, followed by her qualifying herself thereon.

Respond with a question and divert. If I can end a date having said nothing about myself, it was a good date.

Other dialogue I use often:

Her: So what exactly do you do for a living?
Guru: I kill people--or--I'm a clean-up consultant

Then for the rest of the date I indulge my "profession" for laughs. For example:

Guru: "Better be careful, I have lots of room ... in my trunk."
Guru: " I have an auction tomorrow ... <silence>"
Guru: "Hey, don't make me angry."
Guru: "You look like a prime candidate."
Guru: "Stand up for a second."
Guru: "You ... I see potential."
Guru: "Hmm ... never mind."
Guru: "Why are you still here?"
Guru: "Do I look like a guy you can trust."

Simple anchors incite positive momentum which you can build mountains of fun with.

 

[Poon King]

The rule for answering questions is pretty simple.. and this applies to people in general.. not just women.

Always respond to questions in a way that increases or maximizes your POWER and LEVERAGE in that situation. If that is not possible, then don't answer the question. Being a grown man, you don't owe anyone an explanation for anything.. unless you're at a job interview.

Very simple and easy rule to follow.

 

[Reykhel]

@guru1000
I love the throwing a qualifying question back at her. Agree that it needs to be said half serious and half mocking. That is to say, have fun with it, rather than going on the defensive. Gotta flow. But yeah I'd say that's the standard response from 90% of them.....a brief silence (cue the tumbleweed ) ....nice tension builder.

"Simple anchors incite positive momentum which you can build mountains of fun with."

Brilliantly said. Women want to try and figure the man out. It's exciting to unravel the mystery. When they feel they can't quite figure
you out or they're not sure what way to take you, it's sends them into overdrive. It feeds their ego to believe that they are going to be the
one to figure you out..........

 

[WitnessGR]

@guru1000
I love the throwing a qualifying question back at her. Agree that it needs to be said half serious and half mocking. That is to say, have fun with it, rather than going on the defensive. Gotta flow. But yeah I'd say that's the standard response from 90% of them.....a brief silence (cue the tumbleweed ) ....nice tension builder.

"Simple anchors incite positive momentum which you can build mountains of fun with."

Brilliantly said. Women want to try and figure the man out. It's exciting to unravel the mystery. When they feel they can't quite figure
you out or they're not sure what way to take you, it's sends them into overdrive. It feeds their ego to believe that they are going to be the
one to figure you out..........

The more difficult the lock, the trickier the maze may be, the more rewarding the treasure is... right? I mean who would go through all the trouble hiding nothing, there must be something there!

It is absolutely like this for women, they want the gems, they want the treasure, and they want it all for themselves (so they can flaunt their riches to their friends and family.) The worst trap you can get yourself into is being predictable, not only women, but most people in society, once they think they've figured you out, you have to own all of their ideas and thoughts, they will assume you do this, and you are x type of person who must do this or that.

As a chess player, I am constantly not only trying to figure out which is the best move available for me but also my opponent. When they do something that is "wrong" even if it was not optimal, you still question your own thinking and try to figure out what their angle is.

 

[devilkingx2]

When asked a qualifying question, I always go with, "Are you qualifying me? What qualifications do you have that make you think you're in a position to qualify ME? I say this half serious, half mocking. Silence usually ensues for a few seconds as she is trying to figure out if I am being serious, followed by her qualifying herself thereon.

Respond with a question and divert. If I can end a date having said nothing about myself, it was a good date.

Other dialogue I use often:

Her: So what exactly do you do for a living?
Guru: I kill people--or--I'm a clean-up consultant

Then for the rest of the date I indulge my "profession" for laughs. For example:

Guru: "Better be careful, I have lots of room ... in my trunk."
Guru: " I have an auction tomorrow ... <silence>"
Guru: "Hey, don't make me angry."
Guru: "You look like a prime candidate."
Guru: "Stand up for a second."
Guru: "You ... I see potential."
Guru: "Hmm ... never mind."
Guru: "Why are you still here?"
Guru: "Do I look like a guy you can trust."

Simple anchors incite positive momentum which you can build mountains of fun with.

this is totally my style, I like to make jokes and troll people and any question I am asked is a good opportunity to do so

 

[Reykhel]

People ask questions, often under the guise of helping, but they're usually asking to benefit themselves.

For me, exercising the freedom to not answer or offer explanations is fullfilling and powerful because it detaches myself from others' expectations/wants.

Exactly. I think it's beneficial to have a healthy skepticism mindset when people start (sniffing around) asking you questions....
the majority of the time, there is an agenda....

This is what's advised when traveling to such destinations as Thailand and Cuba.....where you really do not want to spend your whole
vacation being overly paranoid, but at the same time you do not want to let your guard down fully as there are those looking to scam a willing victim........so a healthy dose of skepticism is well advised.....

“…he who seeks to deceive will always find someone who will allow himself to be deceived.”
― Niccolò Machiavelli

 

[El Payaso]

People ask questions, often under the guise of helping, but they're usually asking to benefit themselves.

For me, exercising the freedom to not answer or offer explanations is fullfilling and powerful because it detaches myself from others' expectations/wants.

Very wise words.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

For me, exercising the freedom to not answer or offer explanations is fullfilling and powerful because it detaches myself from others' expectations/wants.

A couple of great examples of this behavior (albeit fake hollywood constructions) are Jack Reacher and that one chick from the English version of the Girl With The Dragon Tattoo.

Forget the storylines, etc., but I'm certain the writers consciously gave those characters that behavior of completely ignoring the questions they didn't feel like answering.