Joked about breaking up with GF, her response: "Things havent been the same anyway"

[devilkingx2]

lol, it's so funny you guys talk about 'my woman knows I can walk away and that's what keeps her in check'. Did you ever stop and think that maybe she is good to you because she cares and wants you to be happy? Maybe she doesn't walk around 24/7 'fearing' losing you and that is ;what is keeping her behavior in check'. Maybe she is actually a quality female?

If she is walking around in fear 24/7 about losing you then she is walking on eggshells about keeping you happy. If this is true then she has horrifically low self esteem and incredibly high anxiety and not much regard for the quality of her mental state.

Have you ever walked around in a state of high anxiety 24/7? It really messes with you mentally after awhile, loops your head funny.

idk why you guys brag about doing this to a female - "she lives in fear of loosing me" as if it was something classy to impose to a human being.

think of it like this,

I know plenty of people who, if we fought, would beat my ass six ways to sunday in 2 seconds flat. However I know that most of these people won't fight me for no reason, so as long as I don't fvck their girlfriends and call any of their moms a slvt or anything like that, I have nothing to fear, so I'm not afraid of anything, but I know not to pick fights I can't win for no reason

this parallels how you want your woman to be in a relationship, you want her to know that you could and would leave her to go bang her sister, but that you don't particularly want to throw her on the street and start running game on her family members, so she knows not to give you a reason to do that.

she's not supposed to live in constant fear that she'll be dumped any second, but she is supposed to remember that she can be dumped if she fvcks up too hard.

 

[sazc]

think of it like this,

I know plenty of people who, if we fought, would beat my ass six ways to sunday in 2 seconds flat. However I know that most of these people won't fight me for no reason, so as long as I don't fvck their girlfriends and call any of their moms a slvt or anything like that, I have nothing to fear, so I'm not afraid of anything, but I know not to pick fights I can't win for no reason

this parallels how you want your woman to be in a relationship, you want her to know that you could and would leave her to go bang her sister, but that you don't particularly want to throw her on the street and start running game on her family members, so she knows not to give you a reason to do that.

she's not supposed to live in constant fear that she'll be dumped any second, but she is supposed to remember that she can be dumped if she fvcks up too hard.

ANYONE will and should be dumped if they fvck up too hard, male or female, I think everyone knows that. And if they dont, they deserve to be dumped if they are azzholes.

Again, if you really think communicating to your female that you will dump her without hesitation if she 'fvcks up too hard', and having her live in fear, and walking on eggshells around this large unknown boundary that you place on her, and she does this, then you most likely have a female who has zero self esteem. You have a shell of a female that is good for fvcking and ordering around. If that i what you are into, more power to you, no judgement here.

What I was commenting on was, if your female is being good to you, it may just be because she's that into you, and not walking around in fear or on eggshells that 'one wrong move' and you'll dump her.

 

[sazc]

This post is a good example of why you should never take dating/relationship advice from a woman. You have no idea how OP's girlfriend feels or why she might feel that way but that doesn't stop you from throwing boilerplate female rationalizations for why a relationship doesn't work out.

At the end of the day, what the girl did was extremely disrespectful, especially considering that she's been dating the OP for 3 years. They are lying in bed, and she's telling him about her mother giving an attractive waiter her phone number and says that breaking up "is not a big deal" for her. OP, it's time to cut her loose. It's over anyway.

A 3 year relationship isnt chump change. I agree that her timing was WAY off, but she may have not known how to start the conversation any other way (we're not exactly taught how to communicate well & without fear). OP needed to decide if this was a relationship worth investing in via communication, or if his feelings had changed as well and it was time to get one last roll in the hay and them move on.

The man or woman who believes that they can find a successful, fulfilling relationship, LTR, or long term plate status, with a reasonable female, and thinks that he will never have to communicate with their partner on sensitive subjects, it extremely misguided.

 

[devilkingx2]

ANYONE will and should be dumped if they fvck up too hard, male or female, I think everyone knows that.

I once dumped a girl for doing something that I told her I hated like a week after we met (like, it came up in conversation and I mentioned disliking it, months later she does it anyway, while remembering that I hated it, she still seemed surprised when I dumped her lmao)

so no, people sometimes forget and take things for granted.

Again, if you really think communicating to your female that you will dump her without hesitation if she 'fvcks up too hard', and having her live in fear, and walking on eggshells around this large unknown boundary that you place on her, then you have a female who has zero self esteem. You have a shell of a female that is good for fvcking and ordering around. If that i what you are into, more power to you, no judgement here.

it depends on what your rules are though. if you're a reasonable sort then she doesn't need to live in fear or walk on eggshells or anything like that, if the only rule a girl has to follow is not to cheat on you, is she living in fear when she knows that if she cheats on you even a little bit she'll be single? of course not.

now if you have relatively unreasonable rules (like saying she's not allowed to talk to any of the other guys she knows while she dates you) AND are extremely strict about them, that's kind of BS, imo it should be one or the other, you can either have numerous/hard to follow rules OR be strict about them, it's not really fair to do both.

What I was commenting on was, if your female is being good to you, it may just be because she's that into you, and not walking around in fear or on eggshells that 'one wrong move' and you'll dump her.

I remember being that naive, good times.