When To Argue With Her?

[dude99]

Hey guys,

So for the past week or so, it's been tough with my girlfriend. She's moody and bitchy and complains about me. (I'm 21 and so is she by the way.) She complains that I don't desire her enough. She also complains that I put my business first and don't invest into her or the relationship. She feels like she's going out of her way more than I am. (she takes a 1h30 long bus ride to see me on the weekends and spend time in my house). She feels like I don't desire her enough and don't invest enough into the relationship. Meanwhile, I spend loads of time with her (entire weekends) and do fun activities such as yoga, cooking, etc. I'm kind of broke because Im still working on my business so we can't do anything big. So I rather stay at home and do stuff there.

We keep getting into arguments about stuff and I know I shouldn't be arguing with a woman. She makes me feel selfish though. I'm not sure if Im being selfish or if she's being ungrateful. I also feel like i shouldn't be speaking logically with a woman. I don't know guys, Im confused. Any words of advice?

She is acting like a spoiled brat and dumping her shiiit wagon onto you. Most girls under 25 do.

When should you argue with her? Never.
When she displays this behaviour you soft next her. Tell her her behaviour is unacceptable. Then ignore her attempts to talk and argue and crap goe 3 or 4 days. Zero contact. Then call her up and carry on and do not bring her behaviour up. If she tries to pick a fight after this you soft next her again for 4 to 7 days this time. Zero contact. If after this she tries to still fight with you then you have an inflexable selfish brat on your hands and you dump. Zero second chances.

 

[dude99]

She's preparing for a breakup, she's not happy about the lack of money. Cut the dead weight: this toxic spoiled brat. Focus on your business and your future, which she could not give a f*ck about believe me.

You raisea good point. She could be mid branch swing and already started her next relationship before she ends this one

 

[dude99]

Plus, this is fairly new. Before, she would happily do as I told but now she's more resentful and get's on my case.

Her interest is dropping. That usually starts when they start to get attention from other guys.

When that happens you start to hear about everything that is wrongwith you and the things they want you to "fix"

 

[dude99]

She did be somewhat specific. She would say stuff like, save up money for us to go on a trip, get her flowers, etc...But still, it's like what the ****

Dump.

 

[wifehunter]

Dump.

Yep, dump, then give it time and see if she changes her tune (ego adjustment). She needs to get the message that you won't be molded by her.

If not, walk!

 

[Roober]

When I was married, I sort of lived by the mantra.. happy wife = happy wife. Total AFC in the way I interpreted it and dealt with it. I basically became compliant to her BS

It can also be used for red pill thinking for those in LTRs. happy wife = happy life.

You never argue with a woman.
Why? because you will never win!
Why? because it allows you to get emotional (AFC)
Why? because if you win, you don't really win
Why? If you handle it like a man, the makeup secks will be amazing (which should happen almost immediately after)

If she wants to start an argument (the emotional feminine energy is in full display), you...
-Tell her to talk to you like an adult
-ignore her
-neg her
-change the topic
-try to secks her

I know some of you don't like Corey Wayne, but he has a great example of how to deal with an emotional woman, keeping her in her frame and maintaining yours. Arguments are healthy if handled properly. It is also a great filtering mechanism as you can determine her commitment to the relationship and her mental maturity. What is the point of the whole thing? Letting her express herself while you remain completely unaffected. At that point, you can judge if she has legitimate reason or discard her for her poor behavior.

 

[Von]

She did be somewhat specific. She would say stuff like, save up money for us to go on a trip, get her flowers, etc...But still, it's like what the ****

Arguments are healthy for a relationships and they need to happen. Also, makeup sex is the best.

However, when an arguments is about ''your value'', when arguments starts with challenging ''value'' and your ''frame'' that's when the relationship is turning into a garbage.

A healthy argument will never be about the ''value'' you have or she has in the relationship.

In this case, it seems she wants ''more and more'' attention or start detering you from what you want (your goal)... this is never good, cause she wants to mold you into her hand.. when she does that, she'll likely drop you.

You say you pass all your week-end with her, focusing on her... and she complains you don't ''spent'' on her... she's started arguing your ''value''...

Might be good to pass her... a healthy relationship is not a headache and energy consuming and it never brings a ''what to do post'' on sosuave