Handling strangers who mock your style on the streets

[Suspens]

This is how my new style looks like. Black overcoat, leather gloves and the exact same hairstyle. I am comfortable with myself and the new choices most of the time. Standing in front of the mirror, everything looks coherent. Getting looks from decent chicks, etc.


However there are also some ugly peasant chicks who silently make a comment and then start laughing as if I made a funny face or something. At first it actually made me feel better and I interpreted it as a sign of attraction. However I am starting to feel nervous. I even got into an argument and called the girl a fat *****, which shocked her and her classmate (I am assuming they were uni students.). And another time told a guy to shut up when he said "eww that haircut".

So what is the ideal response, putting them in their places, walking by indifferently or actually reevaluate my style?

 

[Julian]

lol not sure if srs...


ur walkin around looking like marilyn manson...tf

 

[Skyline]

I listen to Marylin Manson and even heavier music such as Black Metal. But I don't think I would dress myself as either one of those, you would probably never guess I even listened to any type of metal.

Would you have freaked out if you were Keanu Reeves? That dude is extremely successful yet dresses like a regular person and even takes the train.

I would reevaluate your style since you don't seem contempt with it. You can still go for a Metal look, all you really need is tatts, gauges, tanks, and maybe grow out your hair. Just loose the leather and makeup and you should be fine.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Well no one ever makes fun of me on the streets, but if they did I'd prolly give them a piece of my mind and escalate the situation to violence and possibly get my ass kicked, or get really close to violence and threaten to kill them. But that's only if they were by themselves and directly insulting me. If it was a group of guys, I know better than to try something. Or if they were just talking to their friends about it, it's whatever. You probably don't emit a strong masculine tough vibe to you. When you do, no one messes with you, and they even move out of your way when you walk lol. Just bare that in mind.

 

[Roober]

I haven't ever had this issue. Why do you care? If you are working towards being a DJ, who the fvck cares what other people think about your style?

Keep frame, do your thing, be yourself, fvck everyone else!

 

[ubercat]

I've got several Marilyn Manson CDs but let's face it the guy is a freak. Look at the end of the day you have to be your own man but if you position yourself on the fringe expect to be given a little sh1t. chicks giving you crap is great practice so I wouldn't worry about that. but from guys that's a different story. I would strongly recommend getting some training in a combat sport. it will give you more physical confidence and you will move differently. if you are ripped and move Like A Stone Cold killer you could wear a f****** pink tutu and most guys wouldn't risk it.

 

[SgtSplacker]

I prefer to demonstrate style with character and personality not clothing.

 

[Alvafe]

This is how my new style looks like. Black overcoat, leather gloves and the exact same hairstyle. I am comfortable with myself and the new choices most of the time. Standing in front of the mirror, everything looks coherent. Getting looks from decent chicks, etc.


However there are also some ugly peasant chicks who silently make a comment and then start laughing as if I made a funny face or something. At first it actually made me feel better and I interpreted it as a sign of attraction. However I am starting to feel nervous. I even got into an argument and called the girl a fat *****, which shocked her and her classmate (I am assuming they were uni students.). And another time told a guy to shut up when he said "eww that haircut".

So what is the ideal response, putting them in their places, walking by indifferently or actually reevaluate my style?

I normally wear black clothes, but even so when I do I get sometimes compliments, thing is I don't like colorfull clothes so I wear black gray or white, and really don't care much about anything else, you should do the same, not care, that is kinda paranoid, how you are sure they was talking about you?

if a dude really try to give you grief talking with you, what I would do is make fun of him, serious people like that normally have serious problems with his confidence, so he try to fit in and in doing so he make it easy for you to bait him and use him for comedy. btw who that **** says eww? that is gay to say the least .....

 

[GoodOne123]

Sorry but if you dress like that in public then stuff like that is what you have to deal with. Yes, it would be great if people could mind their own business, but they don't and that's not going to change.

Another thing to factor in. When women look at you, more often than not they look at you because of your outfit, not attraction. Thats true unless you look as good as brad Pitt or channing tatum, in that case it's highly probable that it's attraction.

Just try not to get in a fight with a group of guys and get fked up bad. Pick your fights wisely.

 

[Suspens]

lol not sure if srs...


ur walkin around looking like marilyn manson...tf

I would reevaluate your style since you don't seem contempt with it. You can still go for a Metal look, all you really need is tatts, gauges, tanks, and maybe grow out your hair. Just loose the leather and makeup and you should be fine.

I don't wear the makeup, I just have the same hairstyle (slightly more greasy looking) and wear leather gloves. I think the haircut is what is attracting the negative attention from some uncivilized hoes and losers.

But yes, I Might have to look for a different style, something less tryhard, since I am growing tired of worrying about people's 'feedback' every time I go out.

You probably don't emit a strong masculine tough vibe to you. When you do, no one messes with you, and they even move out of your way when you walk lol. Just bare that in mind.

Great point, And deep down I knew that was the core issue.

I haven't ever had this issue. Why do you care? If you are working towards being a DJ, who the fvck cares what other people think about your style?

Keep frame, do your thing, be yourself, fvck everyone else!

That was used to be my preferred mindset, but I got tired of some fatty hoes feeling bold enough to judge me, even if it's some indirect flamboyant grinning. I have never been ridiculed by classy girls etc. I think where I live has some thing to do with it as well, it is some downtown slum.

chicks giving you crap is great practice so I wouldn't worry about that.

How would you deal with this if it happened to you, would you join and laugh together? I can't get along with that way of thinking anymore.

I would strongly recommend getting some training in a combat sport. it will give you more physical confidence and you will move differently. if you are ripped and move Like A Stone Cold killer you could wear a f****** pink tutu and most guys wouldn't risk it.

I've got the confidence, but it is mentally exhausting that I should be always prepared to get into a fight every time I go out sarging. Not to mention that in the end it is not worth it. But you are right, just like ImTheDoubleGreatest said, I have to reevaluate how I carry myself and walk outdoors.



Thanks everyone for your replies, glad to see this place is a lot more active than it used to be.

 

[bigneil]

Sometimes I get dirty looks from sloppily dressed men when I'm wearing a bow tie. I get right in their face and say "How ARE you??" and they look right away. One time a college punk in downtown Austin said "Ha ha! Nice BOW tie!" and I stopped, turned around, walked up to him, shook his hand, squeezed hard enough to see veins on his temples and said "I'm big enough to get away with it". He very politely agreed, as did his entourage of 6 people.

Last week I was in a biker bar with a bow tie and one large guy from a group said "Hey, did you just go to a wedding!" I just said "Good one. Did you write that one?" as his group chuckled. He later shook my hand and apologized, and we both said we voted Trump.

In other words, be willing to kick ass to defend your style.

 

[ubercat]

Arrgh I m not meant to be posting. But OK just to clarify a wrong idea. @Suspens You re not trying to win fights. You re training to avoid them. It will improve your posture, how u move and your situational awareness (basically how your eyes move). Guys will see that and instantly form an impression that you re nobody to screw with.

 

[bb47]

The guys who end up caring when someone mocks them have a problems with their egos. Ask yourself, why does it even matter? The reason why it doesn't is because you already have a decent enough life. You're not going to lose anything if you get humiliated. And you won't gain anything if you fight back and try to humiliate them

So if someone mocks you in public, just go "uh huh" or "umm ok". They'll get pissed that you don't even give a damn about them and aren't reacting

 

[daddymonsterpoodle]

I went to a crazy wedding in a pink dress... People made jokes but no-one made rude comments. If you do something unusual you have to own it.
People will give you ****. It is what people do. If you can joke about it with people you will be sweet as.

Or you could get all aggressive about it, show everyone that you are a douchebag with low self-esteem and possibly anger management issues.

 

[Suspens]

Thanks everyone for the quality feedback.

sosuave

 

[Trunks]

The problem isn't how you dress, it's the fragile ego that you portray in your post.

 

[Scars]

I agree with this completely. I just turned 27, so I am approaching 30 pretty quickly. When I was in my twenties, tight skater jeans, big ear guages, tattoos, lip rings, different color hair, and all that was the "cool" thing. Some of that stuff I can't change now (like my stretched ears, or tattoos) but I have adopted a more "mature" look, and for the most part, people don't **** with me. Dressing the way I used to was pretty much asking for a fight or confrontation anytime I stepped outside my door. I can't really say it has helped with woman much, but my social circle is still younger woman in their 20s, so naturally they still go for the bad boy looking guys. It took me a long time that how you are and how you dress is a reflection of the woman you attract. If you look like a punk ass, you're going to attract woman like that as well, with no laws, boundaries, or care/respect for authority (which can easily translate into someday having zero respect for your as well). If you dress like a stud, as you described, you attract a different kind of a woman. I think it all depends on what you want out of life my friend.

 

[JohnChops]

Sometimes I get dirty looks from sloppily dressed men when I'm wearing a bow tie. I get right in their face and say "How ARE you??" and they look right away. One time a college punk in downtown Austin said "Ha ha! Nice BOW tie!" and I stopped, turned around, walked up to him, shook his hand, squeezed hard enough to see veins on his temples and said "I'm big enough to get away with it". He very politely agreed, as did his entourage of 6 people.

Last week I was in a biker bar with a bow tie and one large guy from a group said "Hey, did you just go to a wedding!" I just said "Good one. Did you write that one?" as his group chuckled. He later shook my hand and apologized, and we both said we voted Trump.

In other words, be willing to kick ass to defend your style.

I've found that people do not give a **** if you don't, plus being a 200+ lbs guy doesn't hurt either.

Love.Manson, but I'd never dress like him .

 

[bigneil]

When someone disrespects an Alpha male, he usually gets in their face and they usually back down.

 

[daddymonsterpoodle]

Maybe wear what you feel comfortable in.... I don"t think women care that much IMVHO so long as you don"t look like a wino. If you are comfortable in yourself you can get away with it.