Let me preface this by saying, when I met this girl I was king ****, had a roster of girls, driving a brand new Maserati but now a douche-bag by any means. I legitimately fell for this girl and felt as if it's a component of my life I'd been missing for awhile.
Quick Story, I'm 27, she's 22, a college senior. I know, I know. We met in August, had a wonderful, playful relationship, she seemed mature, very easy and light to be around. We laugh about everything. I have trust issues, and shes bad with communication, she'd pass out at 8pm and leave me hanging and be like WTF where are you, stop doing that ****" She'd counter with im sorry but understand I'm in college, busy i pass out sometimes, I appreciate your need for contact but i'm learning as I go i've never in a relationship where someone actually gave a ****"
I remember inf act, in the beginning saying "What am I doing, you're so young, a college, girl, you sure you can even do this?" And she was SO about it.
-Fine, whatever. She goes home for thanksgiving, I know she's partying with people she hasn't seen, I'm cool with it, until one night she vanishes from like 11 to 3, said she came home early passed out because shes sick. I flip out because, well.. my trust issues. We work it out and I apologize, she pushes to be Facebook official and invites me to meet ALL of her family, the first guy ever. It's like a big Christmas thing, awesome. Happy **** is moving forward.
-We haven't had sex in like a week and a half, we have this big weekend planned at the casino and shes super lovey dovey, gives me a happy one month anniversary card, it's really heartfelt and sweet. We get too drunk, pass out and don't end up banging.
I drive her home after a good next day, she becomes noticeably distant, says she has a headache and is stressed about finals. -We were suppose to see eachother, she blows me off. I'm like WTF, we havent been intimate in awhile, we should see eachother. I get pushy, stress her more, im like something must be off, this distance is weird, "sorry im just really stressed and taking it out on you hopefully we can talk later in the week.
She goes No contact for two days. I call her Thursday, she says "youre welcome to come over but we should talk about things."
I go over, shes cold, we go for coffee. We talk, she tells "Said she wasn't ready and jumped into it and school is her priority..said she can't give me the time and doesn't want me to be hurt me, she's not looking that forward into the future, she doesn't want me to meet her family, she needs to focus.. asked about friends, I asked if someonebody else "no" but asked about doing a break and I said what kind she said idk while Im home, aka A month I said are we gonna remain exclusive to each other during the break, she said I mean I don't go out looking for other guys but if something happens I don't feel we should have to tell each other.. Asked her for one last roll in the sheets she said no j said ok let me get my coat and left said call me if you change your mind"
Did I scare her by being a little pushy? I told her I'd give her all the space she needs to focus on schoolwork and all my BS will stop now, what we have is worth saving, I feel"
Did she meet someone else? How do you invite me your big family thing, write me this beautiful letter then go so cold?
..She doesn't want me to meet her family now, that really means she doesn't see a future.
Maybe I should have told her how much I care? I didn't want to seem like a ****ing beta though.
-Some things worth noting- The guy before me, she dated for like a year, left her ass, they were never official he never wanted to commit and strung her along. She did a lot of **** for him. Like staying home over break.
-The guy before THAT, they broke up and he ended up dying, this was like a year or so ago..dunno, maybe scared of serious commitments?
I treated this girl so goddamn good, and kept it alpha in the beginning and plowed her well.
I dunno, I guess I have no choice but to go no contact huh.. she dumped me so **** it I guess? Really do like her though.
Quick Story, I'm 27, she's 22, a college senior. I know, I know. We met in August, had a wonderful, playful relationship, she seemed mature, very easy and light to be around. We laugh about everything. I have trust issues, and shes bad with communication, she'd pass out at 8pm and leave me hanging and be like WTF where are you, stop doing that ****" She'd counter with im sorry but understand I'm in college, busy i pass out sometimes, I appreciate your need for contact but i'm learning as I go i've never in a relationship where someone actually gave a ****"
I remember inf act, in the beginning saying "What am I doing, you're so young, a college, girl, you sure you can even do this?" And she was SO about it.
-Fine, whatever. She goes home for thanksgiving, I know she's partying with people she hasn't seen, I'm cool with it, until one night she vanishes from like 11 to 3, said she came home early passed out because shes sick. I flip out because, well.. my trust issues. We work it out and I apologize, she pushes to be Facebook official and invites me to meet ALL of her family, the first guy ever. It's like a big Christmas thing, awesome. Happy **** is moving forward.
-We haven't had sex in like a week and a half, we have this big weekend planned at the casino and shes super lovey dovey, gives me a happy one month anniversary card, it's really heartfelt and sweet. We get too drunk, pass out and don't end up banging.
I drive her home after a good next day, she becomes noticeably distant, says she has a headache and is stressed about finals. -We were suppose to see eachother, she blows me off. I'm like WTF, we havent been intimate in awhile, we should see eachother. I get pushy, stress her more, im like something must be off, this distance is weird, "sorry im just really stressed and taking it out on you hopefully we can talk later in the week.
She goes No contact for two days. I call her Thursday, she says "youre welcome to come over but we should talk about things."
I go over, shes cold, we go for coffee. We talk, she tells "Said she wasn't ready and jumped into it and school is her priority..said she can't give me the time and doesn't want me to be hurt me, she's not looking that forward into the future, she doesn't want me to meet her family, she needs to focus.. asked about friends, I asked if someonebody else "no" but asked about doing a break and I said what kind she said idk while Im home, aka A month I said are we gonna remain exclusive to each other during the break, she said I mean I don't go out looking for other guys but if something happens I don't feel we should have to tell each other.. Asked her for one last roll in the sheets she said no j said ok let me get my coat and left said call me if you change your mind"
Did I scare her by being a little pushy? I told her I'd give her all the space she needs to focus on schoolwork and all my BS will stop now, what we have is worth saving, I feel"
Did she meet someone else? How do you invite me your big family thing, write me this beautiful letter then go so cold?
..She doesn't want me to meet her family now, that really means she doesn't see a future.
Maybe I should have told her how much I care? I didn't want to seem like a ****ing beta though.
-Some things worth noting- The guy before me, she dated for like a year, left her ass, they were never official he never wanted to commit and strung her along. She did a lot of **** for him. Like staying home over break.
-The guy before THAT, they broke up and he ended up dying, this was like a year or so ago..dunno, maybe scared of serious commitments?
I treated this girl so goddamn good, and kept it alpha in the beginning and plowed her well.
I dunno, I guess I have no choice but to go no contact huh.. she dumped me so **** it I guess? Really do like her though.
