How to Handle Flakes

[BreezyB84]

I have to see this girl that flaked on me at least 3 times a week. how do I handle this??can I completely ignore her?? I just want to go about this the right way.

 

[Young OG]

I have to see this girl that flaked on me at least 3 times a week. how do I handle this??can I completely ignore her?? I just want to go about this the right way.

Act like nothing ever happened. Don't bring it up. When you see her, act friendly and say hi. You don't have to strike up a big conversation with her. Ignoring her makes you look butt hurt. You need to come off as you don't care and her flaking is nothing to you.

 

[CuddleJunkie]

What does "3 time a week mean"? If it means what I think it does, I have two things to say:
a) she's a b¡tch
b) you need to put some more work in your inner game
Anyhow, just ignore it if you HAVE TO see her for business, social circle, family reasons. Otherwise, don't ignore the situation but ignore her.

 

[BreezyB84]

I am coa

What does "3 time a week mean"? If it means what I think it does, I have two things to say:
a) she's a b¡tch
b) you need to put some more work in your inner game
Anyhow, just ignore it if you HAVE TO see her for business, social circle, family reasons. Otherwise, don't ignore the situation but ignore her.

I am a coach at a gym she works out(crossfit) and sometimes she takes my class. we also have somewhat of the same social circle . I've honestly been avoiding her to this point.

 

[CuddleJunkie]

I am coa

I am a coach at a gym she works out(crossfit) and sometimes she takes my class. we also have somewhat of the same social circle . I've honestly been avoiding her to this point.

I see, then just ignore the situation. And bro, don't keep on validating a woman's attention seeking behaviour by rewarding the flakes with more offers to hang out. I'm assuming you are fit as fvck, that's high value enough to not do sh't like this. As I said, work more in your inner game if you need it.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I've had great success lately doing the following:

When she flakes act cool and be like OK, no problem.

3-4 days later send her the following: "Hey Flakey McFlakester, had to give you -10 points for [Insert something relevant]. You're losing me. You've got ground to make up."

You tease her about the flake then basically let her know you don't like her actions in a playful manner while putting her in the chase position of "making up ground" so she doesn't "lose you".

This only works when the woman has "some" interest in you...you might have lost out etc...but it squarely puts you back on the map as a guy who knows how to handle himself properly in these situations which makes her start to wonder what other types of situations you can handle yourself properly in...if you get my drift. You will stand out from most guys who either get pissed off or beg...

I've gotten several dates out of this including 2 chicks I ended up banging and 2 others I'm moving in that direction with which would have never happened previouslyby going ghost.

 

[BreezyB84]

I

I've had great success lately doing the following:

When she flakes act cool and be like OK, no problem.

3-4 days later send her the following: "Hey Flakey McFlakester, had to give you -10 points for [Insert something relevant]. You're losing me. You've got ground to make up."

You tease her about the flake then basically let her know you don't like her actions in a playful manner while putting her in the chase position of "making up ground" so she doesn't "lose you".

This only works when the woman has "some" interest in you...you might have lost out etc...but it squarely puts you back on the map as a guy who knows how to handle himself properly in these situations which makes her start to wonder what other types of situations you can handle yourself properly in...if you get my drift. You will stand out from most guys who either get pissed off or beg...

I've gotten several dates out of this including 2 chicks I ended up banging and 2 others I'm moving in that direction with which would have never happened previouslyby going ghost.

Appreciate guys..it was a situation where I didn't escalate after two dates . she cancelled on me an hour before our date and then told me she wouldn't be free until next week (rolling my eyes ).no neediness or nothing so Its my fault lol.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I

Appreciate guys..it was a situation where I didn't escalate after two dates . she cancelled on me an hour before our date and then told me she wouldn't be free until next week (rolling my eyes ).no neediness or nothing so Its my fault lol.

Ok, try this out, but you might be shot due to lack of escalation...won't hurt tho, maybe she'll give you another chance...if she does you better escalate

 

[RangerMIke]

Stop asking her out. Clearly she isn't interest, just move on to the next one.

 

[dude99]

I have to see this girl that flaked on me at least 3 times a week. how do I handle this??can I completely ignore her?? I just want to go about this the right way.

Treat her like you never asked her out. Treat her like you have put her into the friendzone. Not butt hurt not upset. But also next her and do not ask her out again.

Treat her now as a friend, that you aren't interested in dating what so ever.

 

[dude99]

I am coa

I am a coach at a gym she works out(crossfit) and sometimes she takes my class. we also have somewhat of the same social circle . I've honestly been avoiding her to this point.

Don't go out of your way to avoid. Just live your life. Date other women and next this one as far as dating goes.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

What does "3 time a week mean"? If it means what I think it does, I have two things to say:
a) she's a b¡tch
b) you need to put some more work in your inner game
Anyhow, just ignore it if you HAVE TO see her for business, social circle, family reasons. Otherwise, don't ignore the situation but ignore her.

Plan a big dinner or shopping for her and flake her back

 

[Floydispink01]

Treat her like the attendant at the gas station.

 

[Glassguy]

I've had great success lately doing the following:

When she flakes act cool and be like OK, no problem.

3-4 days later send her the following: "Hey Flakey McFlakester, had to give you -10 points for [Insert something relevant]. You're losing me. You've got ground to make up."

You tease her about the flake then basically let her know you don't like her actions in a playful manner while putting her in the chase position of "making up ground" so she doesn't "lose you".

This only works when the woman has "some" interest in you...you might have lost out etc...but it squarely puts you back on the map as a guy who knows how to handle himself properly in these situations which makes her start to wonder what other types of situations you can handle yourself properly in...if you get my drift. You will stand out from most guys who either get pissed off or beg...

I've gotten several dates out of this including 2 chicks I ended up banging and 2 others I'm moving in that direction with which would have never happened previouslyby going ghost.

Terrible advise if you ask me. Why even give a chick the slightest notion that you are thinking of how she flaked on you? That is completely giving up control over the situation (which you will still have if you just move on like nothing happened).

You ask a chick out: Anything but a YES to a definite day, time and place is a NO. If she is busy that day and doesnt offer another specific day, time and place its a NO.

If she says YES to a specific day, time and place, and she either:

Doesnt show up: See ya later.....NO, and I mean NO initiation of contact on your part from then on. Period.

If she calls/texts before you are supposed to meet up and says something came up, she either offers another day, time and place or see above.

Pretty simple if you ask me.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

You're a fitness instructor. Many of tgese women likely see you as "alpha." In my opinion High-value confident men with options (AKA SPIN PLATES) simply shrug it off and move on to other women.

If it was a planned meeting that took a lot of time and prep on your behalf, you wouldn't flake her back?

 

[skinnyguy]

Wow some guys on here are giving really bad advice. Stop trying to stick your penis in low interest women. Move on asap

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Terrible advise if you ask me. Why even give a chick the slightest notion that you are thinking of how she flaked on you? That is completely giving up control over the situation (which you will still have if you just move on like nothing happened).

You ask a chick out: Anything but a YES to a definite day, time and place is a NO. If she is busy that day and doesnt offer another specific day, time and place its a NO.

If she says YES to a specific day, time and place, and she either:

Doesnt show up: See ya later.....NO, and I mean NO initiation of contact on your part from then on. Period.

If she calls/texts before you are supposed to meet up and says something came up, she either offers another day, time and place or see above.

Pretty simple if you ask me.

If everything only fit in the little tiny boxes you try put them in....things aren't as black and white as people claim them to be. I've learned first hand the advice you have given, leads to ZERO lays for me while the advice I've given(which I took from Chateu Hartiste so?) leads to better results. For me at least...

And as I judge things based on results, it's clear which way works better.

 

[BreezyB84]

Admittedly Id been avoiding my flake as of late.I've been teaching afternoon insread of the morning classes bc i am very easy to read.I'm teaching my class today and see her..i won't lie, I was caught off guard. I just put all my energy into my class and was extra loud today.. I'm already an High enegry person so I was dancing around a people were clapping while i was dancing and coaching.. I just didn't want to look at her so I didn't . I coach on my work break so i rush out..I get outside....flake is parked next to me....coincidence?????I'm not really sure but it is what it is..On to the next..

 

[Tenacity]

I have to see this girl that flaked on me at least 3 times a week. how do I handle this??can I completely ignore her?? I just want to go about this the right way.

- Play it cool

- Act like nothing happened

- No longer pursue or flirt with her

- Make sure to let her see your new girlfriend hugging and making out with you during one of those 3 days you have to see her a week

 

[Glassguy]

If everything only fit in the little tiny boxes you try put them in....things aren't as black and white as people claim them to be. I've learned first hand the advice you have given, leads to ZERO lays for me while the advice I've given(which I took from Chateu Hartiste so?) leads to better results. For me at least...

And as I judge things based on results, it's clear which way works better.

You keep blowing up their phone after they flake on you and you look like a faggot creeper. Your choice.

I bang chicks every week. It's not hard. I move on from flakes in a hurry and if they come back around quickly I can determine whether or not to work them in.
I'm not saying be a **** to them but I have too much pride and too many options to text them days later and joke about how they stood me up.
This isn't The Notebook and they aren't Snow White. This is real life and my time is important.

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