I have a gut feeling my gf is cheating on me

[Trainwreck]

Background)

I've been long distance dating her for like 3 years and was literally at the other end of the country for half a year and I have never had this feeling before. Like it is that feeling you just know something is up, but you don't have any evidence to back up. She's 20 in college and I'm 23 with a real job, so there's a huge difference in maturity and personalities. She actually acts like she is 17 and I feel like I am becoming too old for her. I could write a whole another topic on this, but I just wanted to put this out here. It's to the point where I'm embarrassed to be with her and I'm hiding the relationship from my friends and family. I'm looking on Tinder and bumble to monkey branch, but so far it's been empty haha. Either way, here are 3 things I can think of to why I have this feeling.

1) She's in a sorority and she just got this little that is bad news. This girl is a mudshark(hangs around and screws black thugs), smokes weed, and has nothing going for her in life. Plus, I don't think this girl likes me because I'm the exact opposite of a black thug and she thinks i'm an *******. I know how easily girls can succumb to group think and peer pressure, so all it takes is for her to just go out hanging out with this girl on a weekend and she could be put in a situation in which she could cheat on me.

2) She seems kind of reluctant to visit me this weekend. Usually she would confirm plans the Monday of if she wanted to come see me or I come see her, but she didn't do it this week. In addition, she preferred to party last weekend rather than see me so I went to Atlanta lol. I'm supposed to go to her formal party thing next weekend, but I'm starting to have second doubts on going. The weekend before last weekend, she was reluctant to put out and the sex was horrible. I would not be surprised if she pulled the same stunt that weekend.

3) Hasn't texted me since noon today which is rare. This might be an overreaction though lol.

So guys what do yall think? Am I just being paranoid or do I have the right to feel this way based on the reasons I have posted.

 

[marmel75]

You need to get out of fantasy land. Long distance relationships NEVER work. So you have just been jacking off for the last 3 years? What's the point? If you can't have sex with a girl you are "in a relationship" with on a regular basis, its not a real relationship, just one that is made up in your mind. Because best believe she is having sex with someone else if you aren't there.

My advice is to start dating women that live near you.

 

[Trainwreck]

Her hometown was in the same city as my college, so it was only ldr during the school year. I was in college then and she asked me to go exclusive so that's why I went for it lol.

I honestly don't give a rat's flying ass if yall disagree with the concept of a ldr or not. I personally like not seeing a girl every second and this is probably why the relationship has even lasted this long because I dumped her ass during the summer she was near me. If she has cheated on me before I had this feeling than good for her. All I want to know is if my gut feeling is at the moment and what to do!

 

[marmel75]

Her hometown was in the same city as my college, so it was only ldr during the school year. I was in college then and she asked me to go exclusive so that's why I went for it lol.

I honestly don't give a rat's flying ass if yall disagree with the concept of a ldr or not. I personally like not seeing a girl every second and this is probably why the relationship has even lasted this long because I dumped her ass during the summer she was near me. If she has cheated on me before I had this feeling than good for her. All I want to know is if my gut feeling is at the moment and what to do!

We just told you what to do. Start dating women that live near you. Get out of this fantasy relationship you are in because she isn't in the same fantasy relationship with you.

 

[Trainwreck]

We just told you what to do. Start dating women that live near you. Get out of this fantasy relationship you are in because she isn't in the same fantasy relationship with you.

That's easier said than done. Can't match with anything remotely attractive on tinder or bumble. I'm stuck in this suburb until my lease expires and I don't have a social circle that introduces me to girls. I'm not dating a girl at my work either.

 

[marmel75]

That's easier said than done. Can't match with anything remotely attractive on tinder or bumble. I'm stuck in this suburb until my lease expires and I don't have a social circle that introduces me to girls. I'm not dating a girl at my work either.

Nothing worthwhile is easy. If you want to continue being her good little pet, then do so. Maybe she'll toss you a treat every once in a while. I gave you my opinion.

 

[Trainwreck]

Nothing worthwhile is easy. If you want to continue being her good little pet, then do so. Maybe she'll toss you a treat every once in a while. I gave you my opinion.

Yes, I feel like her pet right now. Should I just dump her and just take the dry spell until I find something. Believe me, I'm starting to look for other options.

 

[marmel75]

Yes, I feel like her pet right now. Should I just dump her and just take the dry spell until I find something. Believe me, I'm starting to look for other options.

There should only ever be one option when faced with choosing your self respect and dignity or a woman. And it should never be the woman.

 

[Trainwreck]

should I try and test her or just end it abruptly?

 

[ChangePages]

Two things I've learned this year.

1) Never do a long distance relationship, long distance never works
2) She'll always be looking for your replacement while shes with you because physically you're not there for her so therefore, you dont matter.

Oh, And always trust your gut.

 

[Juanto]

I've been long distance

Been there, done that, got the tshirt. Find p*ssy closer to home and move on. If she is flaking on you (plus she is really young) you dont need anything else to put an end to it.

Yea I know, it can be hard as a mother f*cker to actually do it and break it off, but the rewards after far outweigh the dificulty of doing it.

 

[Trainwreck]

She just texted me a picture of us on her desktop screensaver or something. Even if she isn't cheating, the lack of ***** is killing me.

 

[Trainwreck]

Go out tomorrow, and approach at least 5 other women.

This woman isn't sh*t.

I work monday thru friday 7-4 and I live 35 minutes away from the city.

 

[btownbuck2012]

Background)

I've been long distance dating her for like 3 years and was literally at the other end of the country for half a year and I have never had this feeling before.

I didn't even read past this. Of course she's ****ing around. Women are cerebral and if it's a "long distance" relationship and your woman is even somewhat attractive, she'll have plenty of options to stray and she'll certainly take the opportunity should it arise. Long distance relationships are horse****. Of course she is ****ing around.

 

[narcissist]

She might or might not be cheating. Regardless, long distance is stupid at this age. If there is any doubt, i would end it. Meaning if she wasn't completely head over heels for me I would not at all be dating her long distance. Seems like she aint head over heels. So, the risk of her cheating definitely is higher, and she might have already done it. I would just end it, or stop taking it seriously. I would treat this relationship as if it wasnt going to work out. Go out and approach other girls.

Also ALWAYS FOLLOW THIS PRECEPT: NEVER EVER DATE A GIRL THAT ISNT HEAD OVER HEELS FOR YOU. AND ALWAYS ALWAYS BE 10-15% LESS INTERESTED IN YOUR GIRLFRIEND THEN SHE IS IN YOU.

So if she is 90% you gotta be 80% > when she goes down to 60% you are at 45%

also 50% interest means you are fvcking other girls > 60%-70% means you are at least approaching. So you gauge her interest level and determine. This is all contingent on her interest level in you.

Me personally. I wouldn't date any girl that was below 80%> if my girlfriend dips below 80% I dont even talk to her, until she shows me her interest is back up.

 

[narcissist]

also, I would never ever date a girl in a sorority.

I would fvck them absolutely.

But I only date a particular type of girl. One that is into the patriarchal style of relationship (who is somewhat innocent and looks to me for direction.) If it is not that I wont even waste my time with relationships.

relationships are not beneficial to men unless the man is in control. releationships are mainly beneficial to women. so if you are not in control its a lose lose.

Men are better off being single and fvcking many women.

 

[dustmuffin]

As someone that was dumped in a long distance relationship I would tell you to go with your gut. I didn't and it caused me a lot of pain and anguish.

If I were you I would dump her and not look back. There are plenty of local women that will be willing to bang you. You just have to go out and find them.

 

[MrWood]

This girl is a mudshark(hangs around and screws black thugs), smokes weed, and has nothing going for her in life.

wtf is wrong with you Sir?

 

[CuddleJunkie]

Bro, all I see at least excuses. Get more attractive through lifting, style , and inner game, build a solid social circle, learn some basic ddaygame. There you go. Would you need resources or more info, let me know.

 

[dude99]

Background)

I've been long distance dating her for like 3 years and was literally at the other end of the country for half a year and I have never had this feeling before. Like it is that feeling you just know something is up, but you don't have any evidence to back up. She's 20 in college and I'm 23 with a real job, so there's a huge difference in maturity and personalities. She actually acts like she is 17 and I feel like I am becoming too old for her. I could write a whole another topic on this, but I just wanted to put this out here. It's to the point where I'm embarrassed to be with her and I'm hiding the relationship from my friends and family. I'm looking on Tinder and bumble to monkey branch, but so far it's been empty haha. Either way, here are 3 things I can think of to why I have this feeling.

1) She's in a sorority and she just got this little that is bad news. This girl is a mudshark(hangs around and screws black thugs), smokes weed, and has nothing going for her in life. Plus, I don't think this girl likes me because I'm the exact opposite of a black thug and she thinks i'm an *******. I know how easily girls can succumb to group think and peer pressure, so all it takes is for her to just go out hanging out with this girl on a weekend and she could be put in a situation in which she could cheat on me.

2) She seems kind of reluctant to visit me this weekend. Usually she would confirm plans the Monday of if she wanted to come see me or I come see her, but she didn't do it this week. In addition, she preferred to party last weekend rather than see me so I went to Atlanta lol. I'm supposed to go to her formal party thing next weekend, but I'm starting to have second doubts on going. The weekend before last weekend, she was reluctant to put out and the sex was horrible. I would not be surprised if she pulled the same stunt that weekend.

3) Hasn't texted me since noon today which is rare. This might be an overreaction though lol.

So guys what do yall think? Am I just being paranoid or do I have the right to feel this way based on the reasons I have posted.

LDR means you have a pen pal. Not a girlfriend.

Your reason number 2 is evidence of her plummeting interest.

My advice. Don't make any serious commitments with girls under 25. They mature enough to handle a real relationship and by your description of her you can see i am right.

Go spin plates.