Cheating

[SmooveMooves]

Cheating? Yay or Nay? Would you do it? Do you not gaf? Or are you just not that type of guy? A man of your word? Discuss.

Me personally, I didn't really feel anything when I did. No guilt, remorse, nothing. She never knew and it was like nothing had changed. Really makes you think how easy it is that I could happen to you. In 2016 if somebody doesn't want you to know something, unless they're sex offender, you won't...... Shít even then.

I don't cheat anymore though because thats fúcked up.

 

[cola]

First let me go over the most common reasons men cheat.

• Not getting enough sex.
• Boring sex.
• The thrill of it.
• Was cheated on before so now cheats before they cheat on you.
• No longer attracted to girlfriend/wife.

Not getting enough sex:
This is a boundry you set at the beginning of the relationship. I will tell my LTR I want sex a minimum of twice a week. You may require more. Only exception will be sickness or monthly cycle. This is a standard you do not compromise on. If sex slacks up she gets one warning. If no improvement, as far as im concerned im single. And I tell it to them just like that too. No sugar coating this. If she can't agree we never even make it to an LTR.

Boring Sex:
This is something that can be fixed. Spice it up, bring toys, play sex games, explore fetishes etc etc

The Thrill:
If you are this guy you just shouldnt do LTRs

Preemptive Cheater:
You cant come into a relationship carrying baggage and past hurt. You have to get over the old girl and move on.

No longer attracted:
This is the tough one. When you are in a ltr you see her at her worst. Smell her poop in the bathroom, see her with all type of face masks..
If she is getting fat, start going to grocery store and take an active role in meal prep. Also invite her to the gym and running with you. If she wont participate, end it.
If you are maintaining your looks by eating well and working out you deserve the same.
Also if you are trying to live a fit lifestyle you cannot live with a woman who is not.

So as you can see there is never a reason to cheat other than selfishness and lack of balls to just end it.

 

[wifehunter]

Nah, if I thought I needed to cheat, I'm with the wrong woman.

 

[jdb]

As a dude, I accepted that the thoughts of cheating will always entertain me.

When the thought of cheating comes through my head, I just jack off. I think back on if the sacrifice of being in a good relationship is worth it. It's not and I take that as a self esteem boost.

 

[thatfeel]

Cheating is a reflection of your integrity. Cheating for both sexes tends to happen the most when the cheater feels like the chances of getting caught are low. So what does that say about your character? Cheating might be easy these days but that doesn't make it right. It's a poor way to treat someone who believes they mean something to you and it makes you look a person who thinks they can get away with things with impunity. Those are my thoughts.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

As a dude, I accepted that the thoughts of cheating will always entertain me.

When the thought of cheating comes through my head, I just jack off. I think back on if the sacrifice of being in a good relationship is worth it. It's not and I take that as a self esteem boost.

Do you have good pvssy at home?

 

[Bayne05]

No matter how much people can come up with reasons for cheating, it's actually a choice. It's really that simple, that particular person turned you on and then you chose to fvck them. Cheating is wrong and it's always been wrong but we do it anyway because we choose to.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

No matter how much people can come up with reasons for cheating, it's actually a choice. It's really that simple, that particular person turned you on and then you chose to fvck them. Cheating is wrong and it's always been wrong but we do it anyway because we choose to.

You can also choose NOT to cheat. It's a decision. You simply won't put yourself into situations or scenarios which are disrespectful to your relationship. People act like its so hard not to cheat.

 

[Bayne05]

You can also choose NOT to cheat. It's a decision. You simply won't put yourself into situations or scenarios which are disrespectful to your relationship. People act like its so hard not to cheat.

Exactly my point. There is no excuse for cheating, people always try to justify it by blaming their partners behaviour. If there's a problem in the relationship you either fix it or leave them. If you want to fvck around, stay single and have all the casual sex you want.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Exactly my point. There is no excuse for cheating, people always try to justify it by blaming their partners behaviour. If there's a problem in the relationship you either fix it or leave them. If you want to fvck around, stay single and have all the casual sex you want.

I do have an exclusion. Someone may choose to open their relation or be swingers. Or they could have a cheating clause which is the last ditch before scrapping the relationship. But yes, it's a conscious decision and if sex and affection becomes a problem in a relationship it is usually a sign of much bigger problems.

 

[daddymonsterpoodle]

I dont think long term monogamy is innate or natural. It is a societal construct designed to keep men working. Yeah, we can say no to our own biology. We have the power to choose ongoing routine and stay with someone forever. If there is anyone on these boards who can say there is as much passion and fun in their relationship after 10 years as there was after 10 weeks I am going to call bull**** though. If that is true why the hell are you on these boards anyway?

I dont think we should cheat. I am as conditioned as anyone to believe that is wrong but do I understand why people do, hell yes.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I dont think long term monogamy is innate or natural. It is a societal construct designed to keep men working. Yeah, we can say no to our own biology. We have the power to choose ongoing routine and stay with someone forever. If there is anyone on these boards who can say there is as much passion and fun in their relationship after 10 years as there was after 10 weeks I am going to call bull**** though. If that is true why the hell are you on these boards anyway?

I dont think we should cheat. I am as conditioned as anyone to believe that is wrong but do I understand why people do, hell yes.

One of my ex, the passion and lust grew year by years for like 8 years. She ended up turning on me though, it was a control thing in the end. Control is a b1tch because it starts out small and takes over the entire relation. What kept it good was I had cheated earlier in life and hurt ladies I cared deeply about so my head was no longer on a swivel. Plus she made the sex good. So yes, if you take care of it and respect it certain feelings can grow over time.

 

[daddymonsterpoodle]

Lol... So you cant say that the sex was better after 10 years because you only lasted for 8.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Lol... So you cant say that the sex was better after 10 years because you only lasted for 8.

Swear to god it was better than cocaine and even she admits it. She learned how to deepthroat better than 99% of porn on me, at least back in those days it wasn't common. It was like there was a great vagina in her throat. I think in the end she messed it up, due to control, and she didn't want to know she was helping me. So it would've kept getting better and better as long as we took care of it.

 

[Bingo-Player]

First let me go over the most common reasons men cheat.

• Not getting enough sex.
• Boring sex.
• The thrill of it.
• Was cheated on before so now cheats before they cheat on you.
• No longer attracted to girlfriend/wife.

Not getting enough sex:
This is a boundry you set at the beginning of the relationship. I will tell my LTR I want sex a minimum of twice a week. You may require more. Only exception will be sickness or monthly cycle. This is a standard you do not compromise on. If sex slacks up she gets one warning. If no improvement, as far as im concerned im single. And I tell it to them just like that too. No sugar coating this. If she can't agree we never even make it to an LTR.

Boring Sex:
This is something that can be fixed. Spice it up, bring toys, play sex games, explore fetishes etc etc

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this is interesting because a friend of mine cheated on his girlfriend multiple times because of the above

she was a nice girl and was a good fit for "girlfriend material" which is i suppose why he didn't want to get rid of her completely

but unfortunately when it came down to business he said he could barely get her to move off her back , she had no interest in riding him , doggy , toys , dress up nothing sex drive was literally once a month if he was lucky

now im sorry but a young woman in her 20's these days knows what is expected of her in bed she would of had to of been living on the moon for the last 20 years to be ignorant to it

males are inherently designed to have sex with multiple females , its the females job too make her man NOT WANT to have sex with another female if she cant do that then im afraid they aren't suited

women have a lot of power when it comes to sex but unfortunately they cannot get away with poor / non existent performances in bed she will simply be replaced with one that can satisfy ......

 

[Julian]

I have cheated. Not proud of this. Its a dirty act.

 

[Ronaldo7]

The thrill of it.

There's a certain adrenaline rush to it.