Jaded after an affair

[Ronaldo7]

Two simple answers, as is TMK's way.

1) You clearly are seeking something that you're not getting with your GF. Cheating on someone you've agreed to be exclusive with is lame. Cheating on two women from the same gym is just fcking stupid man. You deserved to get caught for being so dumb.

2) Save yourself a lot of hassle by being single. Then no one can say a word about what you do and with whom. I'd be sure that if you went single, your GF would likely still want to see you anyway.

I've been approached by a couple of attached women recently and though I've been tempted, it's far more hassle than it's worth. It's an ego boost, that's all. They just end up flakey and/or disproportionately demanding.

1) Yes and no. The woman is stable, does everything for me and sees me as everything to be. I keep her around for those reasons, but i wouldn't trade her for some random woman i'll sleep with a maximum of 3-5 times. One thing is simple fornication and another is a relationship.

See, i didn't get "caught". I took a calculated risk by asking for her forgiveness before she found out from someone else. I ejected at the right moment. The other woman was a milf. 20 years older & absolutely gorgeous. However, i knew that she'd toss me out once she was satisfied enough. Nothing serious would happen. I took Mayweather's philosophy and simply did a one-two punch and backed away. Best strategy to leave them wanting more.

2) My girlfriend is 8 years older than i am. She wants to marry. Although i have her very attached, i know she wouldn't see me if i went single.

@Grewd : When you are able to lay out factual advice instead of offering ominous prophecies, i'll gladly analyze and reflect upon what you have to say.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Well, I'm not one to tell others what to do really. I think you're creating a lot of drama where there need be none. Like you OP infers, it's tiresome.

Gaming older women is easy pickings, especially if you are half decent looking and confident. But of course the time will soon come that those favours and mothering tendencies that you enjoy will quickly dissipate. She'll realise she's never going to get a child out of you - if she hasn't already. She's just hanging around for sex and companionship and lack of any other options. As soon as she finds another option - which she will - she'll be off quick than a dirty shirt.

I know what I would do - and that is exactly what I am doing. I am not even considering exclusivity for a good few years yet. And even then the bird better be something pretty spectacular. I am not settling; that's what women and betas do. And it sounds like you're scared of being alone and having to wash your own laundry.

 

[Serenity]

@Ronaldo7 Are you aware of how massive and fvcked up the implications can become? You have cheated, you want to continue cheating and you know she doesn't like it. Do you love her? No, absolutely no. If you two have a child you can damage an innocent child beyond repair. If not you can damage her, another human being beyond repair. Does that matter to you at all? Do other peoples feelings matter to you? If it doesn't then what does that say about you?

If you can deceive your girlfriend, cannot your girlfriend deceive you? What if she fvcked a bunch of other dudes? Would that matter to you? What would you do if your girlfriend fvcked other guys in your exclusive relationship? If she didn't tell you? If she blatantly lied about it? If she even confessed? Would you trust her? Wouldn't you suspect she'd do it again?

Question stuff and do some real reflection here, because I'm not seeing it.

 

[thatfeel]

It's as simple as this.

If you feel the need to continue cheating, then just break it off with your girlfriend and move on with your life.

You say: "I love my girlfriend for these reasons: X, Y, Z, etc".

I ask you then, is your girlfriend giving you some magical things you can't give or earn yourself? If the answer is yes, then you're a co-dependent beta faggot plain and simple due to the pure fact that you're not in control of your own life.

If the answer is no then you have abolustely no reason or justification to continue to cheat and deceive another human.

 

[Ronaldo7]

It's as simple as this.

If you feel the need to continue cheating, then just break it off with your girlfriend and move on with your life.

You say: "I love my girlfriend for these reasons: X, Y, Z, etc".

I ask you then, is your girlfriend giving you some magical things you can't give or earn yourself? If the answer is yes, then you're a co-dependent beta faggot plain and simple due to the pure fact that you're not in control of your own life.

If the answer is no then you have abolustely no reason or justification to continue to cheat and deceive another human.

I'm not going to succumb if i'm not with her anymore. Not at all.

The answer to your question is no. However, i'm almost a decade younger than she is and i know i'll transition out of my adrenaline tendencies in due time. It would be foolish to leave a stock you may have some use for later in the future. It may not give you immediate earnings at the moment, but one is wise to maintain it to see its process and behavior. It does not represent a massive investment and one has the luxury to leave it there.

The question is - Why not?

@Ronaldo7 Are you aware of how massive and fvcked up the implications can become? You have cheated, you want to continue cheating and you know she doesn't like it. Do you love her? No, absolutely no. If you two have a child you can damage an innocent child beyond repair. If not you can damage her, another human being beyond repair. Does that matter to you at all? Do other peoples feelings matter to you? If it doesn't then what does that say about you?

If you can deceive your girlfriend, cannot your girlfriend deceive you? What if she fvcked a bunch of other dudes? Would that matter to you? What would you do if your girlfriend fvcked other guys in your exclusive relationship? If she didn't tell you? If she blatantly lied about it? If she even confessed? Would you trust her? Wouldn't you suspect she'd do it again?

Question stuff and do some real reflection here, because I'm not seeing it.

I don't have plans for a child in the short-term or the medium-term.

I do care for her and am very fond of her affection for me.

The woman is borderline obsessed with me. She has given up a lot to be with me and is waiting for me to be ready. I've very confident in her loyalty to me.

I do love her. I wouldn't exchange my relationship for some random woman i'd sleep with. It's just an adrenaline rush i get out of it. I believe in men being hunters and women are there for the taking. Fornication doesn't necessarily involve love. It is entirely a physical act. A pleasurable experience. Nothing else.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I'm not going to succumb if i'm not with her anymore. Not at all.

The answer to your question is no. However, i'm almost a decade younger than she is and i know i'll transition out of my adrenaline tendencies in due time. It would be foolish to leave a stock you may have some use for later in the future. It may not give you immediate earnings at the moment, but one is wise to maintain it to see its process and behavior. It does not represent a massive investment and one has the luxury to leave it there.

The question is - Why not?



I don't have plans for a child in the short-term or the medium-term.

I do care for her and am very fond of her affection for me.

The woman is borderline obsessed with me. She has given up a lot to be with me and is waiting for me to be ready. I've very confident in her loyalty to me.

I do love her. I wouldn't exchange my relationship for some random woman i'd sleep with. It's just an adrenaline rush i get out of it. I believe in men being hunters and women are there for the taking. Fornication doesn't necessarily involve love. It is entirely a physical act. A pleasurable experience. Nothing else.

If you where going to do this lifestyle, the best way to do it is without being traceable. Perhaps do it in the other town and keep it to one night stands or multiple stands in the same bar. I like how she's your priority cause you know she's special and she's got your back. Don't do it where it's close to home or possibly someone she may know and it crushes her and makes her not want to be kind to men anymore. This is how a lot of them get jaded and want to treat men badly.

 

[Serenity]

@Ronaldo7 What a load of bullsh!t, what you have for her is not love. One does not deceive the people they love. You can say you love her all fvcking day, but actions speak louder than words. Your actions contradict your words, your actions say you don't really love her. If you really loved her you wouldn't go behind her back doing things you know would hurt her if she knew.

You only keep her as an ego boost. You want her as girlfriend purely for selfish reasons. Love is not selfish. She has love for you, but you don't for her. She gives a lot for you as you say, what you give back is pure sh!t. You don't care for her, you just care for her affection towards you, there's a huge difference.

It gives you an "adrenaline rush" to cheat... Is that supposed to make it ok to do it? If you caught your girlfriend cheating and she presented the same pathetic arguments you do, would you accept it or see it for the bad excuses they are?

 

[Billtx49]

If you where going to do this lifestyle, the best way to do it is without being traceable. Perhaps do it in the other town and keep it to one night stands or multiple stands in the same bar. I like how she's your priority cause you know she's special and she's got your back. Don't do it where it's close to home or possibly someone she may know and it crushes her and makes her not want to be kind to men anymore. This is how a lot of them get jaded and want to treat men badly.

Amen. Just like some men start thinking AWALT, a scorned woman will start thinking AMALT, and never be the same again.
Not only is he hurting her, but very possibly all the men she comes into contact with in her future…