What's your opinion on cheaters?

[Lutz]

I had recently dated a girl who has cheated several times. I know this because it was with me.

In your opinion, do you guys think cheaters ever reform or is it a character flaw? What about women who are on mood stabilizers?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I had recently dated a girl who has cheated several times. I know this because it was with me.

In your opinion, do you guys think cheaters ever reform or is it a character flaw? What about women who are on mood stabilizers?

If they have serious repurcussions they can change. IE: going to jail, all friends turn on them, etc. Otherwise they get worse.

 

[fastlife]

I had recently dated a girl who has cheated several times. I know this because it was with me.

In your opinion, do you guys think cheaters ever reform or is it a character flaw? What about women who are on mood stabilizers?

Two of my non-negotiable immediate disqualifications`from emotional investment--ever. Seriously dude, you know better or else you wouldn't be asking.

Look, I get it. Been in almost the exact situation. You think she only cheated with you because you're so awesome--and you're feeling like the alpha of alphas and your ego doesn't want to deal with the fact that you're probably dealing with someone who isn't emotionally/mentally stable (thus invalidating the validation that feels so damned good right now--to the extent that you're trying to rationalize the prospect of keeping her around). That's real talk--do what you're gonna do but promise to update this thread so that others can learn

On another note (in a more general sense), every girl will cheat in the right circumstance--but the specificity of those circumstances will vary widely from girl to girl (and a considerable percentage of girls won't ever have all those factors align and actually go through with it). Lots of girls. I'd find one who has no history of cheating.

 

[blind_one]

She is instantly and forever degraded to plate status.
At some point in time I was morally against it ( If I am aware she is with someone else ). But right now I feel that if its not my cawk, she will find some other.

 

[BeTheChange]

If they have serious repurcussions they can change. IE: going to jail, all friends turn on them, etc. Otherwise they get worse.

Yep 100%. Problem is there are so many beta cucks out there that more than often these women face almost no consequence to their actions and so it subconciously reinforces the notion that it's ok. This is why they get worse.

Even I am guilty of this to some degree. Had strong suspicions that my ex was at the very least texting another guy(s) because she had done something similar a year earlier but I let it slide - huge mistake. Fast forward to recent times and I was not going to sacrifice my pride and allow myself to be cuckolded like a fagg0t so pulled the trigger. You can't just be angry for a few days and take them back. You have to let these h0es pay by ensuring you discard them like the trash they are and move on to better prospects.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

I started talking to a gir that cheated on her bf with me and she betrayed me lol.

 

[Lutz]

Two of my non-negotiable immediate disqualifications`from emotional investment--ever. Seriously dude, you know better or else you wouldn't be asking.

Look, I get it. Been in almost the exact situation. You think she only cheated with you because you're so awesome--and you're feeling like the alpha of alphas and your ego doesn't want to deal with the fact that you're probably dealing with someone who isn't emotionally/mentally stable (thus invalidating the validation that feels so damned good right now--to the extent that you're trying to rationalize the prospect of keeping her around). That's real talk--do what you're gonna do but promise to update this thread so that others can learn

On another note (in a more general sense), every girl will cheat in the right circumstance--but the specificity of those circumstances will vary widely from girl to girl (and a considerable percentage of girls won't ever have all those factors align and actually go through with it). Lots of girls. I'd find one who has no history of cheating.

It's a person I've known for a long time whom I've had several flings with. First one was about six years ago on her first husband. Most recently was the past few months on her current bf. About six times. And that's just with me. I'm not sure what else she has done in the past.

She is on mood stabilizers and sees a therapist. Even tells me from the beginning that she's crap at relationships because she always manages to hurt people in some way, acknowledging her issues. Kind of like a "when a person tells you what they are, believe them the first time", sort of deal.

Her and talked about dating, she even brought up the convo proposing that we do, and that she'll leave him if I want to. I say yes we should. Huzzah, we are officially dating...for less than a week.

She tells me after 5 days that she misses the ex more than she thought she would. She also lied to me about seeing him the night before her and I have this talk because I know he was at her house from a buddy telling me he saw the guy walk in. Told me, straight to my face, that they had only said four words to each other and had not seen each other at all. I would be a fool to think they didn't do anything. So, I thought, foolishly, that I was exempt from her behavior, but it's like a pattern she repeats. This is someone I've known for 15 years. Telling me a bald faced lie.W e weren't dating for a week.

Needless to say, she tells me she wants to get back together with him. I tell her that's too bad and that I am not sure I ever want to see her again. I felt like that was the best thing for me to do because this isn't the first time she's hurt me. Heck, this isn't the first time she's done this to a person in general. They say once a cheater always a cheater. It's true in this situation.

She called it from the beginning, though. She told me she was afraid to date because she was afraid we would end up hating each other. And she also told me putrightbthst she is crap at relationships.

So, yes, past history of cheating and mood stabilizers. Stay away.

 

[KingBeef]

Its quite obvious that this girl is severely damaged goods on meds. I assume that the OP is a normal healthy human being. Outside of her being a random unattached booty call, why deal with her nonsense? Have more options....

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Its quite obvious that this girl is severely damaged goods on meds. I assume that the OP is a normal healthy human being. Outside of her being a random unattached booty call, why deal with her nonsense? Have more options....

She can be "broken" out of her childish cheating habit but there must be repurcussions. Remove your leg of the table, any of your support and communication. That would be a repercussion. Also revealing her to others she is cheating on or stealing from. Will be other repurcussions. Cheaters can change but they have to pay for their actions.

 

[RangerMIke]

All women have the tendency to cheat. Just like men do. They are no different than we are in this regard. I am not a relationship guy so I really don't give a fvck if women 'cheat'. I don't own them... they don't own me. Wear a condom and stop worrying about it.

Look western society is such now where women have no consequences for cheating... there is no shame and nothing happens to them. In fact, they are treated like heroines for taking back their sexuality. When women cheat it's the man's fault for not meeting her needs. If a woman was not raised in an environment where loyalty was rewarded and disloyalty was punished, her chances of cheating are very high.

Chances are if you are in a relationship with a woman... she HAS already cheated on you, and you don't know about it. I get hit on by married women all the freaking time... I can think of 3 right now right off the top of my head that if I put even a tiny bit of effort towards them, could have them. Of course, ignoring them only makes them want you more.

 

[playa99]

You have made several posts about this woman, trying to justify you getting with her.

I have always lived by the mantra, if she will cheat with you, then what makes you so special that she won't cheat on you?

You've said this woman has said she is sh1tty in relationships.
You've said she is on mood stabilizers.
She has already lied to you and seen her ex.

Those are 3 huge red flags. They also aren't opinions, they are facts.

How does your coming into her life make her change her ways?

You may want her to change, but that is up to her, not you to be collateral damage whilst she may or may not be trying to change.

I'm not asking you to respond, just think about it honestly and reflect.
She sounds nuts so is probably making your head explode in the bedroom..

 

[Julian]

sloots gon sloot

 

[Casillas]

Once a cheater, always a cheater.

 

[dude99]

I had recently dated a girl who has cheated several times. I know this because it was with me.

In your opinion, do you guys think cheaters ever reform or is it a character flaw? What about women who are on mood stabilizers?

Mood stabilizers and cheating kind of go hand and hand don't they. It is an easy excuse for a girl who wants to blame her bad behaviour on anything except herself

Cheaters don't deserve the time of day. Do not waste your precious time money and attention on a cheater.

Girls on mood stabilizers are also to be avoided. Just say no.

 

[Dynamited]

If you know that a girl you have been dating has cheated before, DO NOT even consider making her your gf. She's only good for a fwb deal.

I was dating this girl for a few months and things were going fine. Till we had a discussion on infidelity and she mentioned that she cheated once on her ex and had an affair with a married man for 6 months.

At that point i knew she's low quality and I would be crazy to invest any more emotions into this.

Remember guys, your happiness and peace of mind comes first.