How Many Long-Standing Male Friends Do you have?

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BlueAlpha1

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Sorry if this doesn't belong in the main forum and gets moved, but it's the most active and I'd like to know your answers.

I want to know how many true bonds of brotherhood you have. Asking you to include only the kind of guy you trust them with your blank checks or alone in a room with your girl.

I have 5 including my brother, and I consider myself very lucky in this regard, because my father is deceased and I do not have any older brothers. I am very much without older male role models, but have a good handful of guys who've been there through hard times.

My brother is 5 years younger, has a similar worldview, He's studying medicine, found a great girl, and has been there for me through all of it. Not much else I can say as I consider him my best friend.

Two are coworkers from my last job. It was a sales position and we're all red pill guys of a similar age. We politicked about the job and women, and two years after leaving the job I still talk to them both. One of them is teaching English in China as we speak.

One is a friend from middle school I've known 15 years. We were rejects at the time who bullied and got bullied and went through the worst phases of adolescence together. Our friendship had dwindled down to talking and seeing each other once a year, but now I see him every 3-4 months. He's now he's a body builder making a very good salary as a mortgage loan officer.

Another is a guy I've known since I'm 12, also about 15 years. Both his family and mine had a timeshare in Puerto Rico when that country had much better days. We went the same week every year, a good 10 years in a row. I haven't been back there since 2008, but our friendship transcended that resort. He's blue-pill, but a loyal guy and successful. He's the operations manager at a prime time hostel in Times Square.

The actual number I could give is closer to 10. This includes guys from my past who mean well and are still happy to take my call. But these guys are not successful and I chose not to spend a whole lot of time on them. I subscribe to the idea that you are the average of the 5 guys you spend the most time with. I can't stress this enough as a personal opinion.

I'd say that since I was a teen, I've only lost 3 very good friends. All were their doing as they were examples of guys who just ghosted me like a disinterested female. So my retention rate is actually pretty good given 5/8 are still around. Elliot Hulse (alpha self-help Youtube guru) said if you have one very good friend in life you're lucky. Three of these guys are joining me for a night on the town this Saturday for my 27th birthday. I know them a combined 30+ years.
 

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It's tough to find guys without the blue pill mentality. And, the rest are jerks/@ssholes. The brain washing is much too common.

Funny enough, I get along with gay guys better. They're usually more open, with nothing to prove.

It's sad really. :-(
 
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Long standing... Outside of a co-worker or two? Zero...
No kidding... Zero. I have a very wide social circle and I have a lot of people who I associate with, and who know me. But nobody who is an actual "friend" mostly because they can be liabilities to me. People know me, my face, and a few minor details but they do not KNOW me and I prefer to have it that way.
 

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I lost many of my good guy friends after they got married. Talking more than 20 years of friendship down the drain.
Tried many times to arrange a meet up but it's always busy with kids or needing 'permission' from his wife.
 

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after 50 years of life
3 friends
 

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None...they all bailed when I lost my job and got divorced.
 
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None...they all bailed when I lost my job and got divorced.
Pretty awful bro. I expect that kind of opportunism from all women and some guys, but am surprised a few didn't stick by you. My how men have fallen from their ideals
 

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Hmm, close friends long term.

1. 32 years. Meet 3 times a year in different parts of the world. (Married)

1. 21 years. Hang out about 5 times a month.

1. 12 years. Hang out about 12 times a month

1. 8 years Hang out about 12 times a month (getting married soon).

These 4 have made it through all of my relationships, and me through theirs.....so far.
 

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Pretty awful bro. I expect that kind of opportunism from all women and some guys, but am surprised a few didn't stick by you. My how men have fallen from their ideals
Oh well, I get along fine without them. No big deal.
 

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I have one left really but don't see him much since his wife was misbehaving and I helped him catch her. He had the red pill slowly going down his throat but then choked and it came back out. before this I got along with his wife just fine. But now she says I'm just a bitter son of a b!tch and he's best not to hang around me. Sadly he listens to her . I don't even ask anymore. Oh well the brotherhood I have with my dog is great.
 
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I have one left really but don't see him much since his wife was misbehaving and I helped him catch her. He had the red pill slowly going down his throat but then choked and it came back out. before this I got along with his wife just fine. But now she says I'm just a bitter son of a b!tch and he's best not to hang around me. Sadly he listens to her . I don't even ask anymore. Oh well the brotherhood I have with my dog is great.
What a clown your boy is.

You should bang her sister or adult daughter if she has one.
 

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I've had the same best friend since 1979, age 9. As we get older it becomes harder and harder to meet real friends (while it becomes easier to make acquaintances).
 
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