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Master Don Juan
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Do you want to have kids? How certain are you about that? How many? Does she?I have to say I did re-read several times and it's very solid advice. Thank You !
Thing is she isn't putting the pressure on me . I'm putting the pressure upon myself. She's willing to take it slow. I initiated everything and said I wanted to move in with her (within 8 months of dating) But it's just me worrying about the future messing everything up. I wasn't sure if it was cold feet or not. But I did have doubts yet second guessing them.
She can say she is willing to take it slow, but her biology is not. I am not saying that to pressure you further. I think you need to quit beating yourself up about not feeling ready to take the next step with her now. Her biological clock is indeed ticking. It's not her pressuring you or you pressuring you. It's a fact of life.
You do not sound like you are ready to have kids in the next few years. That's the bottom line in my observation. Don't force yourself to change that.
Especially if she wants kids, set her free to have a family with someone else, while she still can.
If you want kids, but not for several years, set her free (unless you are both straight up willing to adopt. Do not set yourself up for the fertility treatment ride with her. Crazy expensive and odds aren't so great.)
Follow what is true for you. If you are not ready, then you are simply not ready. There is a reason for it. Don't force yourself.