My succesfull (bar) approach - explained

TheGambino

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I'm going to write a thread about my approach last week that got me the date this evening as it went extremely succesfull. I do this all the time.

You know it. You see a girl you like, good height, nice butt, cute face and a cute walk and vibe.
The first thing I do to reduce the chance of rejection is look in her eyes and smile. When she smiles back she gives you the green light for the approach. It never happened to me that a girl smiled back and then didn't want to talk to me.

So I had the green light with the cute blond girl last week. I waved to her ''come''. You can offcourse go to her too, the higher the psychical attraction she has for you the more likeley that she will obey and come to you.

I immediatley put my hand on her shoulder and ask for her name. She asks for mine 99% of the time.
Then I give her a true compliment. The girl of last week has beautifull eyes, so I f8cking tell her that. It sets the tone. After that you could build some rapport by asking who she is with. What she thinks of the music tonight, and if she has something exciting to do later that day. The most important thing is to listen to what she says so you can keep the convo up, but more important kino. Act like you don't hear her good in a club for example, touch her arms, her hands when you bend over to her, and go close with your face to her ears if you want to answer or ask something.

I asked the particular girl what she likes to do. She replied. A lot! blablabla Then she asks me what I like. My answer is short. ''Cars, working out, sex''

When you say sex, they love it, they laugh and look at you with big wondering eyes usually if the attraction is there. After that I offer her a drink (that's my style). You get two drinks, in a club you dance with her (step your game up if you can't dance). While dancing, I put my hands on her lower back, sniff her neck, tell her ''your fire'' in her ears, grab her hands and pull her towards me and make out or keep flirting.

You can offcourse give her some information about what you do in your life and ask her a lot of questions so that she trusts you. Usually I try to find similar interests, she will feel safe, and ''normal'' around you. You will have something to talk and laugh about.

The next point is somewhat important too. You tell her that you got to run to your friends again, if your not sure if she stays or whatever go for the number close right there. I usually do.

Then you go have some fun with your friends and don't pay to much attention to her to confuse her a bit. If she is interested she will look out for you, smile, stay in your range and maybe even walk to you at some point. Mine didn't last week, but she stayed in my range to ''watch me'' I felt.

Anyway you can friendly, briefly chat up other women without the dancing, touching and making out. This will tick her a bit, if she gets annoyed quit it out. After a while approach her again and in the conversation give her all the attention again, dance, kino more, make out do whatever but enjoy yourself and give her a good time.

You can offcourse grab her hand and isolate her for more make outs. At the end of the night, make sure you make out and be sexual by, touching her a lot and saying flirty things like "You don't know yet what I'm willing to do to you'' It will drive her nuts.

If you can invite her over, do it, if not make out and bail immediatley.

I few rules with approaches like this:
1. Never show your annoyed or mad
2. Laugh off a rejection, never make a big deal out of it, and try again later.
3. Never get upset
4. Your the man, you have to lead her around
5. Grab your chances, make out when you stare at eachother
6. Rejection is part of the game, I got rejected 100s of times, I don't care. Now Im at a point that they don't reject me directly because my game is solid. They might reject the next day when I'm texting but never in my face
7. Never show neediness, desperateness and don't negative talk, only positive vibes

Add rules and tips guys!

This is usually my club, bar approach.

I did the same with a cute hb8 blonde girl last week who I have a date with tonight. I'm going to be very touchy tonight. Ill update you tonight or tommorow about what happened!

Cheers boys, step your game up, lifes too short!
 
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Solid stuff man. The part when you back out is a good move. It drove my future ex nuts when I left her with some chumps on a party during which we innitially met.

Which drives across strong points

You are not needy.
You are not jealous because you have your pick of women.
You are the boss and you lead the interaction.

Keep up the good work.
 

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Wait, so if they don't reject you to your face and do it thru text or whatever, that means that your game is better? I'm not sure I understand this.
 

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Wait, so if they don't reject you to your face and do it thru text or whatever, that means that your game is better? I'm not sure I understand this.
If they don't straight up reject you to your face it means you're better than a needy idiot. Your value is high, just not high enough to continue with her. There's some respect as opposed to no respect shown towards needy men.

If you're rejected straight in your face it means your game is absolute sh!t, they view you as a piece of trash.

@TheGambino The way you handle it is awesome, keep it up.
 

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That feel when the only reason to chase status in life is so that you have an easier time getting pvssy.
 

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Blonde girl stood me up. Called twice at the location didnt pick up. On to the next i dont sweat it.
 

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If they don't straight up reject you to your face it means you're better than a needy idiot. Your value is high, just not high enough to continue with her. There's some respect as opposed to no respect shown towards needy men.

If you're rejected straight in your face it means your game is absolute sh!t, they view you as a piece of trash.

@TheGambino The way you handle it is awesome, keep it up.
Huh, I never really knew that meant there was a difference in my my game. Always thought if a chick did it straight up and cold-heartedly tht she was just a mean b!tch as a person.

Sweet, so then that means I have high value lol. Not high enough, but still bigh nonetheless haha. Feelsgoodman.jpg
 

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That feel when the only reason to chase status in life is so that you have an easier time getting pvssy.
Which is why I don't chase status. I chase happiness any way I can get it
Huh, I never really knew that meant there was a difference in my my game. Always thought if a chick did it straight up and cold-heartedly tht she was just a mean b!tch as a person.

Sweet, so then that means I have high value lol. Not high enough, but still bigh nonetheless haha. Feelsgoodman.jpg
Well, kinda. Point is that you're not always either low or high value, there's a few levels in between. How hard they go on your rejection depends on how good your game is.

Needy men also have a tendency to be completely unaware of how their actions affect other people, meaning their game is sh!t and they do things she'll strongly dislike. Women don't like clingers and clingers won't stop clinging, their only choice is to straight out reject them to their face to get rid of them. That's humiliating, but the guy is low value and deserves the humiliation because he's a fvcking pest with that clinging.

Then you've got the one's who you'll have an awesome night with, but won't call back. The reasons for this are many. Could be afterthought from coming down from the high of the moment. Thoughts of future risks, current life situation and past experiences. So while they still enjoyed your company, they've decided to not take it further. You're still high value, but not high enough to make her forget all worries.

Then there's the one's who get back to you. Their minds aren't occupied as much with worries because they either don't have them, don't care or you made a good enough impression that you seem worth the risk.

As long as you're not harshly treated you can be pretty safe you're not at the bottom with regards to game.
 

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Great stuff TheGambino!

This sometimes happens to me at the club: I dance with a girl, chat it up and have a good time overall. Then some random guy comes up to her pretending to know her and asks her "is he(me) bothering you?" And she says no, and he feels stupid and walks away and I can't help but smirk that a wall flower who just got done getting pumped up from the gym tries to intercept a girl I'm talking to. White Knight thugs I tell you...
 
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