Would it be crazy to fly to Mexico City for a woman?

[DiegoSantori]

- Tired of Western women, like really tired

- 2 1/2 months ago, I (25/male/German) started to chat on Instagram with a beautiful woman (26/female/Mexican) from Mexico City. I initiated the text convo.

- Endless texting (she is very polite and nice but not needy), she gives me compliments, says she wants to see me. Her photos are legit. A lot of group photos, friends write under her photos. No fake pics.

- I'm seriously considering a journey to Mexico City. I would take a flight from Frankfurt some time in summer and book a nice hotel room (so I'm not dependent on her).

- Problem is I've never been outside of Europe, let alone unaccompanied, and I am really scared despite her being willing to directly pick me up at the airport.

- I've read a lot about Mexico City in the past few weeks and the information I gathered is slightly contradictory.

- Some say it's safe. Some say it's dangerous.

- Other problems: Expensive flight (More than 1k, including return flight. I could afford it, but damn, I'd probably shed a tear or two while saying goodbye to my hard-earned money) / What if she doesn't show up at the airport? / What if there's no chemistry?

- High risk, High Rewards or High risk, Low Rewards? Your opinion brahs?

 

[marmel75]

Not only crazy, but desperate.

The problem isn't Western women. The problem is YOU.

 

[Building_and_Loan]

Definitely not. I don't care how real she may seem online, there's still a chance she could actually be a 47 year old drug dealer named Paco looking to mug you when you arrive.

If you REALLY want, just take a trip to Cancun or some other Mexican resort and tell her you'll be there. That way, if she wants to meet you, she'll have to invest some and you're not at all outcome dependant on her.

Worst case scenario is you get to take a vacation by yourself to a badass resort.

 

[KingBeef]

This sounds like a rather extreme move...there are no guarantees and the risk/reward factor is not on your side.

 

[Maximus Rex]

Simp thread.

 

[DiegoSantori]

Not only crazy, but desperate.

The problem isn't Western women. The problem is YOU.

I understand your point of view. I'd probably say the same as a reader of this post. But I've experienced horrible heartbreak in the past few years and my confidence is at an all time low. So, yes, you're right. The problem is me. Sadly, I am a romantic person and I tend to do romantic sh** which might be interpreted as "desperate" by some and I completely understand it. Being romantic is stupid.

If you REALLY want, just take a trip to Cancun or some other Mexican resort and tell her you'll be there. That way, if she wants to meet you, she'll have to invest some and you're not at all outcome dependant on her.

Funnily enough, I had the same idea. I haven't suggested it yet but it's definitely a better idea than the orginal idea because of the outcome independence and the fact that she would invest something in it, which is definitely an aspect that shouldn't be disregarded.

This sounds like a rather extreme move...there are no guarantees and the risk/reward factor is not on your side.

I guess, extreme moves are in my nature. I used to be a big risk taker a couple of years ago. Now I still tend to take risks, but less and more calculated ones.

 

[LiveYourDream]

Spending $1000 in travel, the cost of time away from work, the cost of accommodations, all to meet a woman you have only texted with, on Instagram, and only for 10 weeks, is not the sign of a centered man. It is the sign of a man chasing a fantasy that he hopes will come true and save him from his reality. Wake up!

Don't chase any woman, expecting that she's going to be what finally makes your life better. You make your life better. Women are best as an addition, to an already good life that you have created for yourself.

Hold off on any travel. Check out reality some more. Shift from text/pic only Instagram interactions to real time Skype dates. Have real time conversations where you see her and interact live and she sees you. Have her get sexy with you on Skype. If after months of getting to know each other, in real time that way, then and only then, consider the investment of traveling to meet her in person.

Do not put all your focus on this one woman. Don't feed oneitis. Make sure you continue to see/pursue other women, in person, in your local area.

 

[Tictac]

The problem is me

If you fly to Mexico, it's certain that you will be there. Since you know the problem is you, what's the point of spending all that money?

 

[DiegoSantori]

It is the sign of a man chasing a fantasy that he hopes will come true and save him from his reality. Wake up!

Damn, very concise analysis of my love life right now. I have to admit it. And I'll think about skyping her. Thank you for your answer.

I just don't have any male mentors or role models in my life right now who I can ask prior to any important decision. That's why I appreciate your opinions brahs.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Damn, very concise analysis of my love life right now. I have to admit it. And I'll think about skyping her. Thank you for your answer.

I just don't have any male mentors or role models in my life right now who I can ask prior to any important decision. That's why I appreciate your opinions brahs.

It would make more sense to fly her to your territory, somewhere that you are familiar with and have confidence. You won't have that in Mexico City on her turf.

 

[Yewki]

I guarantee you, if you had even one or two options in your own country, you wouldn't be considering this idea.

Go out and pursue girls in your area. Stop hiding behind your computer chasing women online, from different continents.

 

[DiegoSantori]

I guarantee you, if you had even one or two options in your own country, you wouldn't be considering this idea.

Go out and pursue girls in your area. Stop hiding behind your computer chasing women online, from different continents.

I agree. It's all about options. I just need to find my old confidence again after all these heartbreaks. It will definitely take some time but I'm positive about it.

Maybe it just felt good hearing all these compliments and getting all this attention from her. As "LiveYourDream" already said, it is worrying that a Instagram chick is enough to make me seriously consider spending $1000 in travel. I consciously know that this is not a good idea but subconciously I think to myself "Why not?".

Maybe I'll suggest that she should come to Germany and if she says she can't, I'll go ghost forever.

 

[LiveYourDream]

I'll think about skyping her.

Maybe I'll suggest that she should come to Germany and if she says she can't, I'll go ghost forever.

Why would you need to "think" about Skyping her, rather than just do it. Why would you avoid the opportunity for live conversation/interaction with this woman before flying to meet in her in a foreign country, or her in yours? I get the sense you don't want to face reality and risk seeing your fantasy fall apart.

 

[SeymourCake]

F*ck no. Are you out of your mind? If she's attractive, then she is probably owned by some Mexican pimps who want to rob you.

Educate yourself on the "Black Widow Scam".

 

[DiegoSantori]

Why would you need to "think" about Skyping her, rather than just do it. Why would you avoid the opportunity for live conversation/interaction with this woman before flying to meet in her in a foreign country, or her in yours? I get the sense you don't want to face reality and risk seeing your fantasy fall apart.

Just asked her if she got skype. Waiting for her response right now.

F*ck no. Are you out of your mind? If she's attractive, then she is probably owned by some Mexican pimps who want to rob you.

Educate yourself on the "Black Widow Scam".

Sounds scary. Will watch later when I got more time.

 

[marmel75]

I understand your point of view. I'd probably say the same as a reader of this post. But I've experienced horrible heartbreak in the past few years and my confidence is at an all time low. So, yes, you're right. The problem is me. Sadly, I am a romantic person and I tend to do romantic sh** which might be interpreted as "desperate" by some and I completely understand it. Being romantic is stupid.



Funnily enough, I had the same idea. I haven't suggested it yet but it's definitely a better idea than the orginal idea because of the outcome independence and the fact that she would invest something in it, which is definitely an aspect that shouldn't be disregarded.



I guess, extreme moves are in my nature. I used to be a big risk taker a couple of years ago. Now I still tend to take risks, but less and more calculated ones.

Get your testosterone levels checked. I find it hard to believe a man with proper testosterone levels would ever be talking like this.

 

[BetterCallSaul]

Are you that desperate? Reading your OP it sounds like it. If you had any self-respect you'd be able to get pu$$y in your own backyard in Europe. You're supposed to be the prize right? Sounds like you need convincing of that more than anything else.

If it all works out, then she can fly to come visit you.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

It sounds like you got your legs knocked from under you with that last "hard" breakup. I'd be getting puzzy in my own area, to make sure that's not the problem. It very well may be. You may be basing your confidence off your long last LTR that failed and it's keeping you down. Hang around some friends who are having success with ladies.

 

[marmel75]

You will be surprised but Mexico has many German communities around the country, do a google search. Also, I would recommend having a plan B if this girl flakes, Mexico City is huge and there is so much to do, if you don't want to go to Mexico City, go to Acapulco, it's about a two hour drive from Mexico City, you'll find many girls there from Canadian to French. Or go to Cancun, it's in Mexico, but tourist outweigh the locals.

with the amount of kidnapping and murders that take place in Mexico seemingly at random every day that would be the last place I'd be going

 

[Dingo]

Muy mala idea.....