I met this chic on match, went on a date, drove her back, maked out with her. Texted couple of times, she responded, but never asked question about me. I read this as a bad sign. I asked her if she had nay plans for the weekend, if she was interested brunch. No response. My issue is I dont know what were her intentions. Maybe she wanted to see what another person is like, bc she might b with someone else. Or maybe she just wants to bang? I feel I want to text her to hang out at my place and if she doesnt respond I want to call her out. I know there are plenty of other girls around, I meet them all the time (exageration, you get the point) Its not cool to go out on a date just to sample. I dont do it. Question I have is what is a great way to call someone out who just wanted to sample a date?
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hockeyfreak79
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Facepalm, read the DJ bible & update your age if you are going to post in the mature section.
I don't understand what or why you are going to call her out?
Sounds like you have some reading to do. Good luck!
I don't understand what or why you are going to call her out?
Sounds like you have some reading to do. Good luck!
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She didn't text you back. She's not interested. What you feel about that is irrelevant.
If you want to ask her over, ask her over. But calling her out if she doesn't say yes or ignores your text just shows that you haven't the first clue about women.
If you don't know that dating is 'sampling' that's on you.
You say that you don't do sample dates. Uh, yes you do. If you didn't, you would never have gone on a single date in your life.
If you want to ask her over, ask her over. But calling her out if she doesn't say yes or ignores your text just shows that you haven't the first clue about women.
If you don't know that dating is 'sampling' that's on you.
You say that you don't do sample dates. Uh, yes you do. If you didn't, you would never have gone on a single date in your life.
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If this is the mature section, why did you respond like a douche ? If your a hockey freak... makes sense. You guys act like douches.
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Texted her immediately after, she didn't respond. I texted her the day after, then the next day. She responded both times but she answered my questions, buy she wasn't reciprocating.
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Cause you obviously are desperate.
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So douches wish people good luck? Why so sensitive and so damn serious?
Never text immediately or the next day or the next day! Facepalm
Never text immediately or the next day or the next day! Facepalm
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You shouldn't text her anything other than to schedule another date. And my goodness please wait longer than 48 hours.
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Hey man! --- I want you to take a deeeeeeep breath and just take a step back alright. This is a recurrent problem on these boards and this is something I want you to understand...that there is no such thing as absolutes. What that means is that there is no 1 solid answer to your problem especially at this stage HOWEVER, once you have enough experience under your belt (which you will develop by going out and asking out more women) you will be able to see things for what they are pretty fast. You should have some sort of a system in place where you can successfully weed not only women but people in general out. Most human beings that you will come across and even women are very fickle in nature and completely and absolutely full of $hit ooooooor they just don't want to deal with you. You MUST learn to accept that without letting it effect you in any way shape or form. Develop a thick skin and never get too emotionally attached too quickly. The more authentic and in tune with your masculinity you become the more you will start to attract the right type of people into your life.
Another point that I want to get across to you is that you should never feel the need to "call" a women out especially at this stage of dating. You are NOT in a relationship neither have you even had sex. Not only does that reveal a lack of control on your part but the fact that you can't handle things NOT going your way... screams immaturity. You are too outcome dependent. You are expecting too much out of a person that you truly and really don't know. All it was...was a date. Yea there was touching and kissing but again that doesn't mean anything. There are more levels to becoming intimate with someone and you haven't even gotten there yet for you to start feeling frustrated and angry all of a sudden because you are not getting the right response. Slow yo roll playa!!!!!! This woman doesn't owe you anything but all you can do is try to gauge her interest and keep moving forward. Don't expect to read everything on this forum and become an over-night pimp. It's a gradual & trans-formative process towards self-actualization that takes time but you have to be willing to keep going and not give up and most of all DON'T TAKE THINGS SO PERSONALLY!!!!!!
Now go out and get some more dates because I BELIEVE IN YOU!!!!!!
Another point that I want to get across to you is that you should never feel the need to "call" a women out especially at this stage of dating. You are NOT in a relationship neither have you even had sex. Not only does that reveal a lack of control on your part but the fact that you can't handle things NOT going your way... screams immaturity. You are too outcome dependent. You are expecting too much out of a person that you truly and really don't know. All it was...was a date. Yea there was touching and kissing but again that doesn't mean anything. There are more levels to becoming intimate with someone and you haven't even gotten there yet for you to start feeling frustrated and angry all of a sudden because you are not getting the right response. Slow yo roll playa!!!!!! This woman doesn't owe you anything but all you can do is try to gauge her interest and keep moving forward. Don't expect to read everything on this forum and become an over-night pimp. It's a gradual & trans-formative process towards self-actualization that takes time but you have to be willing to keep going and not give up and most of all DON'T TAKE THINGS SO PERSONALLY!!!!!!
Now go out and get some more dates because I BELIEVE IN YOU!!!!!!
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Read this again OP. If she's not reciprocating your attempts to move forward, cut her off. A woman who wants to see you will rearrange the Florida-Georgia Line to see you. Don't call her out. That's a surefire loss.
Maybe she found someone better. You can find someone better too.
Case closed.
Any number of things could have gone wrong, it's not clear why she's such low interest. However... what can be said is that by texting immediately after the date, and then continuing to initiate the following two days... you lowered your value by a lot.
As you gain more experience and get other options the correct mentality will come to you naturally. In the meantime, play the game better and don't do this again.
Based on experience, girls that texted me first after our first date, their interest level is rather obvious. That being said there were a couple where i texted first and it went well.
One motto which i go by is 'If she likes you, she won't confuse you' She won't tell you stuff like maybe or we'll see or not respond when you ask her out. That **** signifies low interest and as a man of value we don't waste time with women with low interest.
It sucks i know, especially when you like her and thought the date went well. Happens to the best of us more than once.
It would be in your best interest to move on and hang out with other girls. If she wants to hang out she will contact you.
Dating is a numbers game, like it or not.
One motto which i go by is 'If she likes you, she won't confuse you' She won't tell you stuff like maybe or we'll see or not respond when you ask her out. That **** signifies low interest and as a man of value we don't waste time with women with low interest.
It sucks i know, especially when you like her and thought the date went well. Happens to the best of us more than once.
It would be in your best interest to move on and hang out with other girls. If she wants to hang out she will contact you.
Dating is a numbers game, like it or not.