Couldn't get it up again for the third time

[skinnyguy]

Was with an HB 8 on Friday night. She was naked in my bed begging me to fvck her and I could not get hard.

This has happened multiple times in the past. Is it the porn?

I don't watch that much maybe jack off 2-3 times per week. Some guys do it every day.

 

[Fireballs]

Porn doesn't help..
I used to have the same problem whenever I was with a new girl. But once I'm comfortable with someone I never have a problem.
I just used to take some Cialis when I thought the anxiety would come on. Helped get my confidence back and it lasts for 24 hours so doesn't matter if you don't bang her straight after you take it.

For it to really work and work quickly, take it on an empty stomach.

 

[HeadLightsOn]

OP

How old are you as a matter of interest?

It sounds like typical 'performance' anxiety. At the risk of sounding vanilla, do you actually take YOUR time to progress bedroom activities? IMExp, it can go like this:

- Guy/girl get back to someones place.
- Kissing/grabbing etc etc ensues.
- Enter bedroom.
- Girl gets stripped off, into bed.
- Guy de robes, and 'performance time' is on you.

Sometimes Ive found its a whole lot better to run things YOUR way. Set the schedule to your sexual response time. Im not saying you're doing the above, but a lot of times it seems to be a race.

I like to spend at least 1/2 an hour just slapping her ass. And Im not kidding. Then leave her for a bit to get a beer out of the fridge. Believe me, she gets keener and keener the longer it takes me to drink that beer!

 

[MrWood]

my ex-ex just met after a 2yr break. We always had great sex, but after spending the weekend realized she cums at the drop of a hat, and recalled this before we split...

often couldnt get it up with her near the end...
and had trouble during the reunion.

last ex was going strong daily 2x after 2 years

sometimes you need to be comfortable and not rushed, the ex-ex could hardly contain herself during foreplay, already had an orgasm from finger and oral... sheesh!

I like to control the womans sexual experience, not the other way

 

[Infern0]

It could be the porn.

I didn't think i was overusing it but a couple of years ago i couldn't get it up one time when there was no real reason not to, found out about nofap, disregarded it then it happened again a little while later, and then again.....

Eventually tried nofap and .....jesus.

the results are real. I will never whack off to porn again.

It's horses for courses and "occasional" use i.e less than 1x a week might be ok for some guys but for many, even that is too much.

If you want to be primed, and hungry (in a good way) don't be stuffing yourself with the sexual fast food that is porn.

 

[ubercat]

@HeadLightsOn that is a crack so to speak ;-). I've never heard of this one outside of a dungeon. Do you talk to the chick. Do u have a favourite arse slapping track u put on. Do u tell her you re going to do it. Dish the goss

 

[bigneil]

This happened to me with the girl I lost my virginity to. It also happens a lot in your 40's, especially with a new girl.

While at age 30 I would be at full attention seeing a hot girl walk by at the grocery store (and she wouldn't talk to me), now I get that same girl in bed (rather easily) but unless she tries to turn me on I'm not turned on. And most women these days don't know how to be intimate or close because they don't show that in porn.

I'm not sure which is better, being turned on too easily, or too infrequently. In a way it's nice to no longer be controlled by them, but I missed out on a lot of good sex as well, especially if I'd been drinking.

 

[ubercat]

Cialis sounds effective but can b side effects
http://www.pharmafab.com/cialis.htm

 

[Dingo]

Cialis is awesome....

Real stuff (US pharmaceutical) is expensive though...

 

[Augustus_McCrae]

Ubercat,

Are you saying that you don't spank a girl's ass sometimes before and during? Believe me, most of them love it. I have one that I usually see on Fridays. Sometimes I'll have her bend over my knees for a good spanking before we get started. She LOVES it.

And like headlightson said, it's important that the man control the pace.

-Augustus-

 

[thatfeel]

If you're young I would NOT be taking cialis recreationally, at least not often(wouldn't take it at all if you can help it, you really probably don't need it), as it can have negative effects on the connective tissues and fibers responsible for obtaining an erection which can come back to bite you when you're older and actually -need- something like cialis. In a sense you'd be giving yourself early onset of ED.

Do yourself a favor and just stay drug free until you reach a point in your age where you actually need medical assistance from a powerful drug like viagra. It sounds fun but really this problem is just all in your head.

 

[MrWood]

I have never taken any "helpers", never had a problem either.
but I do spank 'dat ass

 

[Reykhel]

That's what fluffers are for....

She is your fluffer.....

 

[Building_and_Loan]

Take part in this, it will help you: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index.php?threads/120-day-sexual-healing-experiment.231859/

I haven't fapped or watched porn in a few months now, and I no longer even have the desire to.

It could be a little bit of performance anxiety in addition to watching porn too much, so it may be beneficial to cut back porn and jacking it. Just try it and see how it goes.

 

[MrWood]

I haven't fapped or watched porn in a few months now, and I no longer even have the desire to.

this +1

 

[marmel75]

Could be low testosterone levels...that's one of the most tell-take signs. I have problems keeping it down on TRT, never an issue keeping it up

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

It could be from watching porn or just sexual performance anxiety. If you're 18 or older you can speak to your doctor and get a prescription for Viagra or Cialis. I couldn't get it up at all the first 2 times I tried having sex because I was so nervous. Viagra made me rock hard despite being nervous.

Pornography induced erectile dysfunction. This youtube channel has a wealth of information for men trying to beat porn addiction and erectile dysfunction caused by porn

Tips for avoiding porn http://www.wikihow.com/Avoid-Pornography

 

[bigneil]

I've never used erectile drugs, but I've had to keep moving to younger and hotter women, and I'm pushing the limit. Plus, younger women are horrible in bed so there's almost a continuum.

 

[Serenity]

Didn't really ever have an issue, even when I did watch porn and fap every day. I stopped doing it to make real sex better, I can see how it could dull you to the point of not getting it up.

I used to get hard by just thinking of fvcking a woman, now it's a bit more normal. I get hard when kissing my girlfriend and until a few minutes after I orgasm, it's like this every time now. I notice when I'm a little more stressed or tired I last longer, but when I do come it's more intense because I worked so hard at it.

I have watched porn around 4-5 times during the relationship, I could just as well fap without it, does nothing extra for me. I very rarely fap, first reason being I have no need, second reason being that it's inferior to good sex with a woman anyways.

If I'm going to give you any advice it's to stop watching porn. It's something to at least try, give it a good chance and don't watch it for a month. About the fapping you can try stopping that too and rather spend your energy finding and having a woman to fvck. If you're running dry and can't stop fapping then at least fap to your imagination, realistically visualize what you'll do with the next woman you fvck. You might think up some new things to do in the process and find what turns you on, which can be helpful the next time you have a woman to fvck.

 

[Infern0]

Also if you do jerk off beware the death grip