"Where are your friends?"

[jaydilla]

This is the question that I get asked, it seems I never can answer it correctly. I've thought of reasons why I get asked this question but then again i'm not entirely sure. One reason maybe i'm moving to slow, i'm just talking like we're friends, and im not showing any physical interest. If anyone has been asked this before and answered it correctly let me know.

 

[Asmodeus]

She is asking "where are your friend" not "I want to be just friends".... Thus I am thinking she may just be testing you and looking for a kind of "social proof" type thing. Here is the thing, women are programed to be attracted to "alpha" males. Now I hate using the term alpha, because it is too one dimensional, however it is kind of true in an innate psycho/biological way. Ones who are considered alphas of a species are ones that have strong social circles, and often play a dominant role in the social circle (the leader of the wolfpack that fvcks all the females in the pack).
Thus, women have a tendency to be attracted to men who have a strong social standing. A man who does not have an active social circle may be seen as boring or aloof which are undesirable traits in a mate. Thus, she may be interested in you enough to at least be testing your qualities.
I get this question a lot too because I tend to go lone wolf a lot myself. If you have friends then point them out and show her you have an active social circle and try to show that you are a dominant member of that circle... If not then come up with a witty response to it, or deflect it to her... Say something like: "I like hanging out with my friends but the problem in meeting people through my social circle is that I always meet and see the same old people. I am an adventerous person so I thought I would go out myself and meet new people. And you, are you adventurous enough to meet new people?"
^That affirms that you have friends, but gives her a reason as to why your friends and spins it in a positive way and also engages her as a new person you are meeting and challenges her directly and engaging her.

 

[jaydilla]

She is asking "where are your friend" not "I want to be just friends".... Thus I am thinking she may just be testing you and looking for a kind of "social proof" type thing. Here is the thing, women are programed to be attracted to "alpha" males. Now I hate using the term alpha, because it is too one dimensional, however it is kind of true in an innate psycho/biological way. Ones who are considered alphas of a species are ones that have strong social circles, and often play a dominant role in the social circle (the leader of the wolfpack that fvcks all the females in the pack).
Thus, women have a tendency to be attracted to men who have a strong social standing. A man who does not have an active social circle may be seen as boring or aloof which are undesirable traits in a mate. Thus, she may be interested in you enough to at least be testing your qualities.
I get this question a lot too because I tend to go lone wolf a lot myself. If you have friends then point them out and show her you have an active social circle and try to show that you are a dominant member of that circle... If not then come up with a witty response to it, or deflect it to her... Say something like: "I like hanging out with my friends but the problem in meeting people through my social circle is that I always meet and see the same old people. I am an adventurous person so I thought I would go out myself and meet new people. And you, are you adventurous enough to meet new people?"
^That affirms that you have friends, but gives her a reason as to why your friends and spins it in a positive way and also engages her as a new person you are meeting and challenges her directly and engaging her.

I see what you mean. It doesn't help my chances that this question comes up always when I'm at a bar where alpha males rome in packs. Majority are alpha males that go to this particular establishment. To help my chances I should look into going to a bar where it's not so much alpha- or maybe just normal. It's amazing because sometimes I get asked and other times I don't. I noticed it hurts more if I try to "fight it" instead of just leaving look for someone else. In this specific case, this girl asked the question "where are your friends?" , lets just say I didnt answer correctly. So I leave her, a hour later, I'm talking to some chic a few feet away from her. I can hear talking ****. This girl that I was talking looked over at her like "you wanna fight me?". This chic i was talking to ended up just walking away. Its really bizarre how a chic might not approve of you but then will hate when we're talking to someone else.

 

[Von]

I see what you mean. It doesn't help my chances that this question comes up always when I'm at a bar where alpha males rome in packs. Majority are alpha males that go to this particular establishment. To help my chances I should look into going to a bar where it's not so much alpha- or maybe just normal. It's amazing because sometimes I get asked and other times I don't. I noticed it hurts more if I try to "fight it" instead of just leaving look for someone else. In this specific case, this girl asked the question "where are your friends?" , lets just say I didnt answer correctly. So I leave her, a hour later, I'm talking to some chic a few feet away from her. I can hear talking ****. This girl that I was talking looked over at her like "you wanna fight me?". This chic i was talking to ended up just walking away. Its really bizarre how a chic might not approve of you but then will hate when we're talking to someone else.

I had a girl who wanted me to be an orbiter.... yet couldn't stand me having fun with other girls, and girls told me how jealous she seemed

Oh I was interested in her but she just gave me''lets be friend talk''.... she also had popped the question: ''who are your friends'' .....

She was mixed-signals to the core.

Sometimes its better to walk away from such girl who are one to ''qualify you based on your friends''.... cause they in more for the standing than you.

All the girl I slept with, dated etc.... never asked me who my friend were.

Your OP girl had a ego struggle and she was pissed that you proven that you were above her ''pocket''

 

[Asmodeus]

I see what you mean. It doesn't help my chances that this question comes up always when I'm at a bar where alpha males rome in packs. Majority are alpha males that go to this particular establishment. To help my chances I should look into going to a bar where it's not so much alpha- or maybe just normal. It's amazing because sometimes I get asked and other times I don't. I noticed it hurts more if I try to "fight it" instead of just leaving look for someone else. In this specific case, this girl asked the question "where are your friends?" , lets just say I didnt answer correctly. So I leave her, a hour later, I'm talking to some chic a few feet away from her. I can hear talking ****. This girl that I was talking looked over at her like "you wanna fight me?". This chic i was talking to ended up just walking away. Its really bizarre how a chic might not approve of you but then will hate when we're talking to someone else.

That statement I bolded happens to me all the time. When I withdraw the ego validation and instead focus on another woman it is a minor burse on their self-esteem as then they realize that they are not special and that there are other woman who are better than she is. I honestly went on cursing a girl out in Peabody's Nightclub during the Hermitude show two weeks ago as she was first acting disinterested in me but then when I was talking to this other girl and dancing with her this b!tch literally buttsin (literally bumps her) and then gives me this evil sink eye... I actually straight up called that female out and asked her what her problem was. But the girl I was dancing with was offput by the whole ordeal. Women, they are complicated creatures...

 

[LiveFreeX]

Shes probably trying to figure out why you are such a lonely weirdo.

 

[Floydispink01]

'Where are your friends?'

'I'm looking at her. Go and get me a beer new best friend.'

 

[jaydilla]

I had a girl who wanted me to be an orbiter.... yet couldn't stand me having fun with other girls, and girls told me how jealous she seemed

Oh I was interested in her but she just gave me''lets be friend talk''.... she also had popped the question: ''who are your friends'' .....

She was mixed-signals to the core.

Sometimes its better to walk away from such girl who are one to ''qualify you based on your friends''.... cause they in more for the standing than you.

All the girl I slept with, dated etc.... never asked me who my friend were.

Your OP girl had a ego struggle and she was pissed that you proven that you were above her ''pocket''

The girls i've dated, maked out with, slept with never asked me where my friends were either. Time is precious, where i'm located we only have a couple of hours at night to get something. Totally waste of time to try and figure girls like that out when there's more than one hanging around.

Truth is some of these girls i'm talking to my friends would disapprove of. Sometimes I feel like saying "your one of those girls I would never let my friends know about." ha

 

[ubercat]

Yeah they might mean it as a **** test but I see it as a ****ty girl test. If their focus isn't on you to begin with it's going to be a long hard road. I like Asmodeus's reply. I d probably shorten it to '...I love my bros but I'm out to meet new people tonight. What about you are you an adventurous person?'

 

[Reykhel]

This is the question that I get asked, it seems I never can answer it correctly. I've thought of reasons why I get asked this question but then again i'm not entirely sure. One reason maybe i'm moving to slow, i'm just talking like we're friends, and im not showing any physical interest. If anyone has been asked this before and answered it correctly let me know.

Are you going out alone? Is that why there asking you? You're approaching groups in bars or clubs?

So, where are your friends?

 

[Yewki]

No but seriously

where day at doe?

 

[speed dawg]

If she's asking you questions like this, her interest is declining. Expect the inevitable.

Oh, and by the way, don't explain yourself to her. Feed her sh*t and keep her in the dark.