Okay. You asked for it. Put your big boys pants on cause we all come here for authenticity and honesty. True help is derived from hearing what we may not always want to accept is the truth.
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Sorry I had to.
@Asmodeus Is %100 correct. You must get rid of that first picture. Its a terrible first impression. Everything is wrong with it.
The second picture is better, but must go also, your smile is contrived and unnatural, at best. Also, its a selfie, with should be avoided at all costs. Girls do it all the time. You are not allowed.
The third picture I agree is the best. It can stay. Still though, you look stiff and posing. Here is a tip.
Take videos, not pictures. Then go through the videos frame by frame and pull out good photos. Its very easy with very common and accessible free software. Usually, built right into your phone. If you really really need to, and if I can find the time. Ill do it for you.
Forth picture is garbage. I know what you were going for here but its too cluttered of a scene. Again, posed as well. If you want a photo of your DJ profession to be included, which I think could be cool, have it be an action shot of you talking into the mic at the studio.
5th picture again, looks like you are special needs. We get it. Cowboys. Right. Its to much bro.
Glasses can work. Yours do not. They are not classy on you. Later, when youre dating the girl a bit, they can be charming, but right now, Id say lose em in photos. They are not working for you.
You say you go to the gym. I can see effort, but, I think you need to kick it up a notch or two. You seem to be a bulky dude and I think you are 3 months away from looking pretty fu)cking built. Build up those arms, bi's tri' and shoulders. Arms, in photos are the first thing a girls notices. Id go light weights, high reps chest and tris, on mondays, shoulders and bis on tues. Weds rest. Repeat thurs fri. Rest sat. Sun H.I.IT traing and hit the heavy bag. I can see you have made efforts. Time to cut up. Then, bulk after you build the muscles. HEavier weight after 3 months. Cardio week once per month. In july, go heavier weights and start working in legs and back.
No social proof in any of your photos!( you cropped out the only girl in any of your photos? Why?)( In full discloser, I need to add group phots to my profile too, not as easy to come by as when you are younger)
No activities either. You need some kind of action shots. It dosent have to be rock climbing. Guitar, painting, cooking even. Anything besides just you sitting in front of a camera saying "cheese please".
And now for a public announcement. The real reason you dont have any of the pics described, is becasue you are not really any of the things a girl wants to see. GO be them. Forget that girls like it. You will like it. Take road trips and take pictures. GO out with strangers and make new friends all the time. And...take pictures. Join a club, ride a roller coaster, shoot darts and ask a stranger to be your teamate, and take pictures. Ask strangers to take pictures. Buy people drinks, ask people to buy you a drink. Talk, converse, interact. In real life. Then your OLD profile will come easy.
I sometimes think that people suspect OLD is the easy way to meet people. Its different now than it once was. 25-30 percent of everyone you meet has a strictly dating profile, 70 percent or greater, in the U.S has an online profile of some kind. Its actually HARDER to meet someone online, than in real life. You gotta be competitive. OP you even said it yourself.
OLD is not the easy way to find your perfect match. Its the hard way. You have to compete if you want to choose this route.
Foot notes.
Your statements about yourself:
It pedestrian at best. Its boring. Its totally ignorable. Best advice I ever got.
Tell a story that includes you. Dont tell people about you. Tell them what its like to be around you.
" I was at a Cowboys game once. Box seats. Company I work for invited the top performers. Great view, great game. However, the best memory I have from that was when after my boss came up to me and said" Corky, we didnt know at first, what an asset you would be around here was. Im glad your here to share the game with all of us. Next year, your buying the beers."
Its not the demonstration of success that you are selling, its the emotion and feeling of the story. Girls dig that. They dont care you got a promotion, they care that you say how things make you feel.
"Hunny, I got a promotion today" Girl says "Thats great babe" Girl thinks. "Great now he'll be spending more time at work and less time loving me, and helping around the house."
"Hunny. I got a promotion today AND IM EXCITED THAT its going to alleviate some of my stress and time so that we can spend more quality time together." Commence blow job.
Girls want to know how IT FEELS to be around you. Sell it.
Dinner is a ****y first date. Tell em how it feels to go out with you.
First date. " Chemistry is never planned. Drinks, conversation, laughter, you'll agree to nightcap. So will I." Second dates are the most fun anyway."
To someone, even you have exceeding value and something to offer. When you believe that, because you put the work and effort into yourself, you wont need or critiques to help you create your profile.
P.S. My profiles on OLD have me disqualifying way more than hoping. Cause in real life, when I do whats required, makes em fall into me. Make your profile a reflection of your dedication to yourself and youll be successful on it. Don't be lazy and looking for love.
Feel free to P.M for more.
-Saline
