The #1 mistake men make

[Alpheta]

okay this is just my opinion but I feel very confident in it.

Women's interest will ALWAYS fluctuate. She will never always be up your azz. She may send you "I miss you" messages for weeks and then stop doing it. She may call you everyday but at a point she may stop.

It's when the woman stops or gets a bit distant men make the biggest mistake.

We think something is wrong so we call her and text her or buy her stuff.

Biggest mistake.

After calling her/buying gifts/texting, she may come around but subconsciously she hasn't. Sooner or later she'll go back to her distant stage again and then before you know it, maybe 2-3 months down the line as this pattern keeps going, the dude will suddenly get the dreaded"I need space" speech. She herself may not be able to explain why she lost attraction ,but she will.

So when you get the glimpse of distance from her,be it her not texting you that day, you MUST stay calm. We mustn't panic. Let her go and come as she pleases. Women are like cats. Pat her when she purrs and rubs up between your legs but don't chase when she backs off. By this I mean if she suddenly stops sending all the lovey messages then just wait for her to initiate even if it means 2-3 days of waiting.

She may even have another guy hitting her up but if you can master this she will always be addicted to you as most men can not or do not possess such game in their arsenal.

The point is, when she backs off even a little,let her.DO NOT CHASE. She will always come back. Mark my words.

 

[Stugots26]

I think that the #1 mistake that men make is represented within your post, but it's more general:

Fundamentally, men try to generally measure success based on fulfilling what they think women want, rather than men focusing on their own lives and becoming the best versions of themselves without regard to what any particular woman wants.

 

[EyeBRollin]

The best course of action is always to do nothing.

Continue as you were before. Live your life. Ask her out no more than once per week. If she doesn't agree, withdraw your offer and move on. Interested women make time. Interested women don't leave you. Judge her actions.

 

[captain55]

I think that the #1 mistake that men make is represented within your post, but it's more general:

Fundamentally, men try to generally measure success based on fulfilling what they think women want, rather than men focusing on their own lives and becoming the best versions of themselves without regard to what any particular woman wants.

Good post. And OP are we talking about interest level before or after you sleep with the chick? Your woman should never be feeling distant or having up and down interest level if your ****ing her right. A chick your talking to who you haven't banged yet is another story. Once you give a woman an orgasm you can pretty much get away with anything in my experience....

 

[Bingo-Player]

okay this is just my opinion but I feel very confident in it.

Women's interest will ALWAYS fluctuate. She will never always be up your azz. She may send you "I miss you" messages for weeks and then stop doing it. She may call you everyday but at a point she may stop.

It's when the woman stops or gets a bit distant men make the biggest mistake.

We think something is wrong so we call her and text her or buy her stuff.

Biggest mistake.

After calling her/buying gifts/texting, she may come around but subconsciously she hasn't. Sooner or later she'll go back to her distant stage again and then before you know it, maybe 2-3 months down the line as this pattern keeps going, the dude will suddenly get the dreaded"I need space" speech. She herself may not be able to explain why she lost attraction ,but she will.

So when you get the glimpse of distance from her,be it her not texting you that day, you MUST stay calm. We mustn't panic. Let her go and come as she pleases. Women are like cats. Pat her when she purrs and rubs up between your legs but don't chase when she backs off. By this I mean if she suddenly stops sending all the lovey messages then just wait for her to initiate even if it means 2-3 days of waiting.

She may even have another guy hitting her up but if you can master this she will always be addicted to you as most men can not or do not possess such game in their arsenal.

The point is, when she backs off even a little,let her.DO NOT CHASE. She will always come back. Mark my words.

good post but theres slightly more too it than that because just like cats women hold the most loyalty to whoever feeds them the most .....

 

[Lozboss]

This is a Corey Wayne video.

Good advice. The main thing is that you have to be the prize. So if she becomes distant then let her- her loss.

 

[jackhamma]

This is a great post, something that was on my mind recently. Now so you are already sleeping with the girl, and she starts to become distant, and you reach out to invite her out and its been 3 days with no response. Would you apply this method of just letting it go? Or would you reach out again a week later? When do you decide to reach out again to see if you can smash again VS knowing to let it go?

 

[Stugots26]

When do you decide to reach out again to see if you can smash again VS knowing to let it go?

Just let it go regardless. Her interest level cuts through everything. If she really wants to see you, nothing will stand in her way.

You need to disavow yourself of any belief in the illusion of action that you need to do SOMETHING to get a woman interested. Women who want you will want your attention focused on them ALL OF THE TIME and will find little reasons to text you to provoke paying them attention. Let them.

 

[kenpiffyjr]

Good post. And OP are we talking about interest level before or after you sleep with the chick? Your woman should never be feeling distant or having up and down interest level if your ****ing her right. A chick your talking to who you haven't banged yet is another story. Once you give a woman an orgasm you can pretty much get away with anything in my experience....

This is not always 100% true imo.

If you are dating chicks in their "prime" and on the carousel, sex doesn't matter as much as them milking all of the attention and resources from different men they can while they still have "it". An orgasm doesn't mean nothing in her head. What gets this type of chick going and off the carousel in her prime is if you hit her in her feelings RATIONALLY AND IRRATIONALLY. Everything has to click. If it doesn't, interest can get lost just due to the fact that she's constantly being hit on and meeting new men that she can pull from.

 

[Alvafe]

This is not always 100% true imo.

If you are dating chicks in their "prime" and on the carousel, sex doesn't matter as much as them milking all of the attention and resources from different men they can while they still have "it". An orgasm doesn't mean nothing in her head. What gets this type of chick going and off the carousel in her prime is if you hit her in her feelings RATIONALLY AND IRRATIONALLY. Everything has to click. If it doesn't, interest can get lost just due to the fact that she's constantly being hit on and meeting new men that she can pull from.

then I say you failed to screen her, you wouldn't want to waste your time on a girl who go around whoring atencion like that, don't matter if is her prime or not, if she is interested she will not do so, if she do, well screen better next time, its time to look else where

 

[kenpiffyjr]

I want to say I agree with this thread but there's a thin line and you have to be experienced enough to understand the distinct differences.

If you all of the sudden see a woman become distant and her interest level drop, best believe there is another guy in the picture. At worse what she is doing is in a small honey moon phase and comparing you to her rookie of the moment. That's why yes, your best bet is to ALWAYS fall back. There's really nothing you can do by throwing her more attention and nothing that will keep her attraction like giving her space and spin other playtes. Hypergamy is a b***h but it's natural for women. She hasn't figured out all of the positives and negatives of this new guy yet so you are still in the picture but you HAVE to continue believing you are the prize and never show the fear of losing her. It's a MUST.

 

[kenpiffyjr]

then I say you failed to screen her, you wouldn't want to waste your time on a girl who go around whoring atencion like that, don't matter if is her prime or not, if she is interested she will not do so, if she do, well screen better next time, its time to look else where

Lol...majority of good looking women in their prime experience this. If you are thinking of the screening for a relationship process then yes, you may be right. But it a lot of times comes down to which aspect in life you catch a broad in.

 

[Alvafe]

Lol...majority of good looking women in their prime experience this. If you are thinking of the screening for a relationship process then yes, you may be right. But it a lot of times comes down to which aspect in life you catch a broad in.

really? dont matter much if you are looking for a ltr or not, you should still be screening woman, if is only sex you want and she provide it, you really shouldn't care much, you also would have others in line.

 

[kenpiffyjr]

really? dont matter much if you are looking for a ltr or not, you should still be screening woman, if is only sex you want and she provide it, you really shouldn't care much, you also would have others in line.

See but that's the thin line and the actual purpose of what this thread is saying.

Her becoming distant and losing some interest is actually as natural as hypergamy is natural to good looking women who are constantly getting attention. Unless you are SS' fav Brad Pitt who has women falling over you in front of her all the time, a good looking woman's attention is her fuel to always be on the look out. No matter how alpha you are. Are you suggesting you do not agree with the theory of the OP?

If we are going to believe that acting alpha versus beta can shift a woman's mindset on you, we have to also understand the dynamics that other suitable guys can also have her taking a peek and shift her IL just a bit...even if you believe you are the best guy out here. Women do not value loyalty like men.

 

[Alpheta]

This is a great post, something that was on my mind recently. Now so you are already sleeping with the girl, and she starts to become distant, and you reach out to invite her out and its been 3 days with no response. Would you apply this method of just letting it go? Or would you reach out again a week later? When do you decide to reach out again to see if you can smash again VS knowing to let it go?

Just let go. If youve bedded her already. Let her go. Let her be free. She will deff contact you be it in a few days or a week. At least when she comes to you its because SHE wanted to.

Let women free. Never panic. She comes and goes. By you not chasing her when she falls back, just assures her your value as a man.

Imo no woman will ever get over you if you can master this. If she EVER even makes the smallest of moves portraying distance or lower interest, just LET GO.

 

[kingofthelions]

"If you love something, let it go if it comes back to you its yours if it doesn't it never was" DMX

 

[om1xr]

The biggest mistake young boys do and can affect them for the rest of their lives is the thought/belief that a girl will change your life for better and when she leave you you will lose a lot bullshiiit.

I want all of you guys to read the next points and think about them for a little bit:

* Any girl isn't yours, it is just your turn

* You were fine before she entered your life and you will be fine after she is no longer a part of it

* Frame is the weapon you develop to protect yourself from getting played and being able to detect shiit tests and games girls play or even during your daily professional, social, private life

* Game is the skill or weapon that you make you able at reversing the games and tests others throw at you and by the right reaction or action you make it work for you instead against of you and Game is what make you manipulate the world and people for best of your interest

* Life is boring without experiences, new encounters and new people, so make it a point to keep your life a place of novelty and never let it go stale by getting a oneitis or accepting some idea that there is no more new things or a room of improvement

* There is no such thing as not playing a game, if you are not gaming and manipulating the world then be 100% sure that you are getting played.

* Emotional intelligence is a real thing that you should develop and the way to develop it is by constant experimenting with new methods with manipulating the world and environment around you to get what you want.

* Throw that negativity and fear away and replace it by understanding, understand what is fear is, understand why you are feeling like this and that, don't resist it, just allow it and be aware of it and then understand it and all this negativity, fear and anger will diminish one by one and the surprising thing is that when you understand fear for example you start to do the opposite, when you are afraid of that raise request, you go and ask that jerk boss for that raise,when your ego tells you that model like girl is out of your league you watch your legs move and the first thing you realize is thta you are chatting her up and if she is a lesbian or a stuck up biitch you walk away feeling good because you are have no regrets anymore.

* The same way you build that body, build that mind and knowledge and awareness of what is going on around you and that will lead to a better understanding and your frame and game will grow and develop that you will be able to pimp biitches around if you want to

 

[Glumix]

The biggest mistake young boys do and can affect them for the rest of their lives is the thought/belief that a girl will change your life for better and when she leave you you will lose a lot bullshiiit.

I want all of you guys to read the next points and think about them for a little bit:

* Any girl isn't yours, it is just your turn

* You were fine before she entered your life and you will be fine after she is no longer a part of it

* Frame is the weapon you develop to protect yourself from getting played and being able to detect shiit tests and games girls play or even during your daily professional, social, private life

* Game is the skill or weapon that you make you able at reversing the games and tests others throw at you and by the right reaction or action you make it work for you instead against of you and Game is what make you manipulate the world and people for best of your interest

* Life is boring without experiences, new encounters and new people, so make it a point to keep your life a place of novelty and never let it go stale by getting a oneitis or accepting some idea that there is no more new things or a room of improvement

* There is no such thing as not playing a game, if you are not gaming and manipulating the world then be 100% sure that you are getting played.

* Emotional intelligence is a real thing that you should develop and the way to develop it is by constant experimenting with new methods with manipulating the world and environment around you to get what you want.

* Throw that negativity and fear away and replace it by understanding, understand what is fear is, understand why you are feeling like this and that, don't resist it, just allow it and be aware of it and then understand it and all this negativity, fear and anger will diminish one by one and the surprising thing is that when you understand fear for example you start to do the opposite, when you are afraid of that raise request, you go and ask that jerk boss for that raise,when your ego tells you that model like girl is out of your league you watch your legs move and the first thing you realize is thta you are chatting her up and if she is a lesbian or a stuck up biitch you walk away feeling good because you are have no regrets anymore.

* The same way you build that body, build that mind and knowledge and awareness of what is going on around you and that will lead to a better understanding and your frame and game will grow and develop that you will be able to pimp biitches around if you want to

That's great stuff!

 

[Yewki]

I think that the #1 mistake that men make is represented within your post, but it's more general:

Fundamentally, men try to generally measure success based on fulfilling what they think women want, rather than men focusing on their own lives and becoming the best versions of themselves without regard to what any particular woman wants.

Yes, the #1 mistake with women isn't anything you do with a woman. It traces all the way back to the basic idea that you need any woman. Every problem you read about here, stems from that.

Reading the OP just makes me feel nauseous. All this talk about winning and losing the girl. If you do this, she'll come back blah blah blah. Please... stop. Ugh.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

then I say you failed to screen her, you wouldn't want to waste your time on a girl who go around whoring atencion like that, don't matter if is her prime or not, if she is interested she will not do so, if she do, well screen better next time, its time to look else where

I think it would be wise for us to realize what the person we are messing with is doing. IE: what phase in life they are in. Ken is right though, but not all women "in their prime" would milk dozens of men for resources and attentions, however I believe in our culture MOST will. It's for you to screen for it.