No bull**** policy I : how to tell if a girl is not interested

[Who Dares Win]

We were talking about girls flaking in an other thread and a guy quoted my post asking for a specific thread about it.

I think that we should all get togheter and make it clear for the inexperienced guys how to tell if a girl is interested or simply wasting their time, as an average guy with plenty of experience (success and losses) I developed a bullettproof instinct to screen girls, most of that came from experience and evaluation from a critical cold point of view of those facts, till it simply became one of my social skills.

1) Anyway first thing I believe needs to be said altought a very basic thing is :
" CONSIDER HER ACTIONS NOT HER WORDS"

This line explain itself, it doesnt matter how often she tells you that she likes you, that you're god gift to women or that she wanna date/fvck/blow you...as long as her actions dont match her words its a fake and a fraud, actions speak louder than words.

No need to talk about unreturned texts or calls which are a crystal clear actions.

2) The second point is about availability and it connects with the first one, a girl that is all the time buys wheter she openly communicates it to you and let you know it by rejecting your invites to meet is in the majority of the case an uninterested girl.

Do you think that as much as her schedule is tight, she cant find a couple of hours to see you?
Do you think that despite her work is so important she would simply let a guy she wants to go away?

The answer is no, so a full time busy unavailable girl that doesnt apologize nor counteroffer nor try to find time for you is an uninterested girl.

3) The conditions in which your meetings happen are a clear sign of her interest and intentions toward you, setting up a date and having her to show doesnt equal interest.
An interested girl will create or accept an environment which allows intimacy and time with no factors that could complicate your interaction, the case of a girl which let you know that her flatmate is out for the weekend and you can sleep to her place clearly shows interest, she is available and working to make it happen.

An uninterested girl or worse yet a girl that wants to take advantage of you, will do the opposite.
She will chose places where no intimacy is contemplated or even group meetings..."can I bring a friend to our date?" is a line you will often her from girls with lot to no interest...why?

Well because the presence of other people, especially her friends is an amazing barrier between you and her, not only it prevents you to make any move on her but it also grant her a chance to leave whenever she wants and take no responsibility by blaming her friend.

This is the basic, easy to tell, easy to spot and most guys know about it.

If anyone has anything to add is welcome, even making real life examples.

On the following thread we will go into details and share knowledge that only experienced guys (experiences in bull****, pain in the ass of dates and so on) have.
We will talk about precise lines we are told, body language, games and so on, so please let this thread be on the basic, we will open the advanced one once this one is worn out).

 

[icantgetlaid]

was hoping to learn something that hasn't been stated 100 different ways here already when clicking this thread ... oh well

 

[Who Dares Win]

was hoping to learn something that hasn't been stated 100 different ways here already when clicking this thread ... oh well

There was a time when you didnt know this things, back then you learn something from a post like this so surely some newbye will.

As said in the end, the advanced part about body language and reading between the lines will come later.

If you knew this stuff at 18 lucky you, I learnt at 25 after so many rejections and humiliations that I wish someone else told me before.

 

[Mot1veProgress]

Girls are masters of hiding their true emotions at times too.. So...........

IF a guy doesn't show his attraction to a female to see how she responds, he may go forever without knowing if she ever liked him.. Of course, she'll be gone long before you finally realize that you have to make a move to see how she responds..because she doesn't want to waste her time with someone she's not sure of.

^ WHICH IS WHY, Most guys don't get 2nd dates... They just don't do enough to make th e girl feel valued enough to continue the relationship!!!!!!

 

[fastlife]

I think I can make it simpler: If you're having fun, keep doing it. If it stops being fun, move on.

I spend very little time worrying what a girl thinks about me or what her 'interest level' is or whatever. I could care less. Naturally, low interest women won't be more fun--so I focus on my interest level and carry myself accordingly.

(PS--a 'group outing' or whatever isn't a huge deal or sign of disinterest IMO. It's just like the 'fake' friendzone, if you've never experience that one--just because a girl is trying to keep herself from sleeping with me, for whatever reason, doesn't mean she won't. All you have to do is win over the friend(s) and you're so in.)

 

[Serenity]

I've got a story from when I learned this and put it to use the first times. I met some girl when out drinking, made out, got invited to her party a couple of weeks later and she seemed interested. Came to her party, had fun and we got all the way to me fvcking her and she clearly liked that. After that I asked to see her again and sure she would she said, then there was all the bad signs. She made it difficult, didn't want to meet alone, was always busy and generally flaky. I thought I'd wait a week and check back, but nope it was a waste of time. I got that this wasn't happening because she wasn't cooperating, so I quit early and guess what? I never heard from her again.

Here's how it goes down if she's actually interested, this happened shortly after I had learned to check their actions. Met another girl when I was really just out to have fun, she ended up at my place and she stopped me before her clothes got off. Did that mean the end? I thought it did, but she texted me a couple of days later. That's clearly interest from her side, I set up a date. Told her to come to my place and I thought if she won't then fvck it, if she wants me she'll come. So she did to the minute, no bullsh!t, no delays, no games or silly excuses. Then it happened again and again. She responded within seconds on text and always gave clear responses. She told me her entire work schedule and really helped finding a day to come see me.

How an interested girl acts is worlds apart from how an uninterested girl acts. The ones with interest will help you see them, the one's playing games or have no interest will make it difficult. The gamey b!tches are hilarious as they think playing hard to get will appeal to me, I don't pursue on bullsh!t anymore so I'm basically immune against it.

 

[yungballa]

I have some to add to this (based on my experience and knowledge):

Girls with mixed signals: If a girl shows you mixed signals then she is uninterested. A girl who is interested would not risk her chance of getting with you just to play games on you or show you mixed signals. As a matter of fact, mixed signals could mean she's not even sure of her interest, or she's playing with you,
or that she just really doesn't like you at all, because like I said: A girl who likes a guy wouldn't risk the chance of their relationship progressing over some stupid games. If the girl really likes you, she won't send mixed signals. A girl who's interested will show you nothing but signs of interest. Maybe a sh1t test here and there, but definitely won't send you mixed signals. Mixed signals = disinterest.


Also, a girl is disinterested if she is talking about other guys in front of you (in a sexual manner). A girl who's attracted to you wouldn't rub her attraction towards other guys in front of you. She'd be solely focused on your presence since she likes you.

 

[RangerMIke]

I hate to say this, but the best way can only be gained with experience.... When you have been with enough women you just get a 6th sense about them and their interest. A lot of it is body language and things the OP mentioned, but truth is that women are masters of hiding their true feelings. Women know their actions give away how they feel. OP's #2 for example, I know PLENTY of women who avoid men they like, and this mostly occurs because the man failed to show her enough sexual interest. This is fixed with deesade's #2 above... how she responds when you escalate will tell you everything you need to know. You can develop this 6th sense by accepting the fact that ALL women are the same, they ALL respond to the same things. Always say this to yourself when you are talking to them "She is not a special snowflake, she is just like every woman I've ever known." This will allow you to set a baseline of behavior and let your intuition develop. You also have to learn to be observant.... really observant, you can train yourself to do this by starting with something simple like paying attention to everything she is wearing... what kind of jewelry she has one... try and commit this to memory. So there really are no tricks... well there are a couple... but you have to have experience and you MUST be observant.

(1) When you think she is interested in you, casually mention another women, as a non sequitur, IAW just out of nowhere mention a woman that is interested in you. If she really likes you, you will see a flash of jealousy, I have NEVER seen this fail, but you have to be observant. Some women are pretty obvious, some not so. Another tid-bit.... women test us in this way, only what they do is mention they have a BF... a man who is really interested will not give up easily.

(2) Now this one only works with women you see on a regular basis, and you have to be observant. Pay attention to what she wears, memorize it, take notes later if you have to... when she wears something that you seldom see her wear, complement her.... then notice how often you see her wearing it. If the frequency goes up, she respects your opinion, which means she likes you. Women only like men they respect.

 

[nismo-4]

Actions speak louder than words always.

Mixed signals are signs of disinterest.

Ditch a woman who keeps inventing rules for you.

Ask yourself if you were interested aka put yourself in her shoes. Would she do these things if Channing Tatum asked her out? Would you be closed off if Sofia Vergara hinted at asking you out?

A woman is only interested if she says yes, and her actions back it up. Go for women who show high interest.

And goddammit escalate! This will make the woman go along with you because you took action, or back away because she just wanted a new orbiter.

 

[Afrei]

Great post ....one thing that has alway work for me is to try and kiss her at the end of the first date....if there is a real desire from her, she won't mind making out with you or you scalating a bit ,however, if she is using you just to go out cause she is bored or to keep her mind off some other dude that she really like and will fvck him as soon as he give her the command, she will be kind of hesitant at the thought of having to kiss you

I have seen it a lot with my girls friends they will go out with dudes just cause it entertaining to them..... then act all respectfull and lady like when the guy try to make a move o her...now the same girls will leave work early just to fvck the guy the like, I have even see one of then leaving a study group to go and fvck on the car parked at the front of the house

 

[Who Dares Win]

Great post ....one thing that has alway work for me is to try and kiss her at the end of the first date....if there is a real desire from her, she won't mind making out with you or you scalating a bit ,however, if she is using you just to go out cause she is bored or to keep her mind off some other dude that she really like and will fvck him as soon as he give her the command, she will be kind of hesitant at the thought of having to kiss you

I have seen it a lot with my girls friends they will go out with dudes just cause it entertaining to them..... then act all respectfull and lady like when the guy try to make a move o her...now the same girls will leave work early just to fvck the guy the like, I have even see one of then leaving a study group to go and fvck on the car parked at the front of the house

Agree on the go for the kiss at the end protocol.

It screams accurately her interest level, if she finds you attractive she is attracted from you and will reciprocate either out of sexual attraction or simply to avoid giving you a reason to leave, even if she rejects the kiss she will add something soft maybe trading it with more physical contact altought not as intimate.

If she reject the kiss while being cold, offended, angry or mocking you its a red flag.

It can happen (it happened to me) that an uninterested girl able to see your experience and game will accept the kiss only to keep you hooked you while being perfectly confident of what she is doing, but we talk about a tiny minorities of psycos and surely girls that show many other red flags.