Do you think about the other guys?

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If you're not exclusive and both spinning plates, does it ever gross you guys out knowing some other guy smashed that recently? Just curious.
 

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I personally never gave two s.hits about the other guys.

I knew a girl was mine, because she'd always tell me about how much this or that guy wants her as a test to see if I'd get jealous. I'd just tell her "that's nice" or "cool" and move on.

To me it was a test, they wanted me but wanted to see how I'd react about other guys.

I passed the test and smashed her box, like all DJs should.
 

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A little bit. But, what they do outside of my presence isn't really my concern.

The real problems start, if a woman decides to rub it in your face. I've had quite a few women attempt to make me jealous in this manner. I think the reason they do it is because this sort of thing (jealousy) creates attraction for them, so they think it'll create attraction for us. However, they don't understand that social proof doesn't work on men. It just makes me feel disgusted, disrespected, and generally p*ssed off.
I have a plate ask for exclusive, i said no, there next day she sends me snap vids with another guy. Hoes these days.
 

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lol If you haven't realized yet that with every girl you date or fvck It's just your turn ( your turn can last a week or years or a lifetime) then you still have a lot to learn. the field is your best teacher to learn and live this universal truth about dating market!
 

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If you're not exclusive and both spinning plates, does it ever gross you guys out knowing some other guy smashed that recently? Just curious.








 

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Every day I have less of both desire to be exclusive with women and problem with not being so. The process started only recently, when I was thinking about all this stuff and asked myself why I needed validation from a woman in the first place. I asked myself, what's the ultimate reason why I care about a woman's traits and history? Why does it matter to me whether for example she's a slvt or not? I came to the conclusion that it only matters if you are invested in her to some point. If you derive some kind of self-worth from her. If your ego is invested in pride, security, or whatever based not on yourself but her - if you are invested (which is different from liking someone), then it matters. If you don't hold her up to an ideal and you derive no self-worth from someone else fulfilling that ideal, you are freed of it.

Let me make an example. You are a brand enthusiast and look only for shirts that are originals by the right brand. But one day you just stop caring about it. Someone points out that the shirt you're now wearing is by a low-prestige brand. You do not start to defend your choice by saying that it is actually good quality or whatever. You simply aren't affected because the brand is no longer something that you are invested in, it'd be like someone insulting the design of your tax folder. You hold no value in the ideal of a brand or whatever you could call it. You just like the shirt - it's comfortable and looks good on you, and that's it. You can have many shirts or keep using that one, just don't steal them from others (corresponding to doing stuff like cheating on a hypothetical "good" girl who is in it to have a family). The only reason why you'd care now is you want to provide a good environment for the labourers who made the shirt, so they don't grow up in child sweatshops (corresponding to only having kids with a woman who is suitable for them, so they can be raised in a good environment).

I hope this brief explanation got my point of view across fully. It's a complete mentality shift for me. I consider it to be a different perspective or perhaps an evolution of what I think was @logicallefty 's "beer theory" of women.
 
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Nope.... don't care, and it doesn't bother me a bit. However, I do have a fellow DJ that I'm friends with, we have the same circle of friends, so on occasion we end up banging the same woman. I really don't care, but this guy wants to talk about it. I tell him "Man, shut the fvck up... I'm not comparing notes!" I NEVER talk about anything private that happens between me and another woman.
 

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Every day I have less of both desire to be exclusive with women and problem with not being so. The process started only recently, when I was thinking about all this stuff and asked myself why I needed validation from a woman in the first place. I asked myself, what's the ultimate reason why I care about a woman's traits and history? Why does it matter to me whether for example she's a slvt or not? I came to the conclusion that it only matters if you are invested in her to some point. If you derive some kind of self-worth from her. If your ego is invested in pride, security, or whatever based not on yourself but her - if you are invested (which is different from liking someone), then it matters. If you don't hold her up to an ideal and you derive no self-worth from someone else fulfilling that ideal, you are freed of it.

Let me make an example. You are a brand enthusiast and look only for shirts that are originals by the right brand. But one day you just stop caring about it. Someone points out that the shirt you're now wearing is by a low-prestige brand. You do not start to defend your choice by saying that it is actually good quality or whatever. You simply aren't affected because the brand is no longer something that you are invested in, it'd be like someone insulting the design of your tax folder. You hold no value in the ideal of a brand or whatever you could call it. You just like the shirt - it's comfortable and looks good on you, and that's it. You can have many shirts or keep using that one, just don't steal them from others (corresponding to doing stuff like cheating on a hypothetical "good" girl who is in it to have a family). The only reason why you'd care now is you want to provide a good environment for the labourers who made the shirt, so they don't grow up in child sweatshops (corresponding to only having kids with a woman who is suitable for them, so they can be raised in a good environment).

I hope this brief explanation got my point of view across fully. It's a complete mentality shift for me. I consider it to be a different perspective or perhaps an evolution of what I think was @logicallefty 's "beer theory" of women.
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Here's a post about how I handle it:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index.php?threads/post-lay-soft-no-contact.230526/page-2#post-2312301

If you're the one guy who's not jealous and sends her happily on her way to go see someone else...there is a boomerang effect. When she's with that other guy, all she can think about is you, the guy who didn't seem to give half a sh!t about the risk of losing her. She'll come right back. It's reverse psychology, and it doesn't happen when you demand boundaries. When you make insecure demands, a woman will nod her head and then just go do whatever she wants. When you act like you don't care, it's a huge demonstration of value. It tells a girl that you see her as easily replaceable, and that's exactly the frame you want to have.
 

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It's laughable when women think they have the ability to make me jealous. I've had several women ATTEMPT to make me jealous and it always back fires. I just act indifferent towards their attempt to make me jealous. I'll tell her "thats nice to know" or "thats cool" in a tone of disinterest to show that I couldn't care less.

Having jealousy in your heart is not healthy. Anyways, I couldn't be jealous if I wanted to. It's just something I can't do. The fact that women use such a tactic in an attempt to stir up my emotions is amusing to me, because it'll never work; a tactic as petty as that. I can't and will never be jealous over a man and another woman? Why? There's plenty of ther woman on this world, plus: I'm not worried about what another's woman's doing with another man. The ONLY thing that would be on MY mind is what I'm doing with a female.

I don't worry about the business of other people; it's none of my concern (which includes what women do with other guys). All I'm worried about is what I'm doing (including what I'm doing with females)

What women do with other men is their business and has no value towards me; I just don't care.

It can reaaaallly get annoying though when they try to RUB in your face that they're getting other guys. I just don't care and I'm pretty sure I've made this known; so why do you insist to tell me what you're business is with other males? What you're doing with him is none of my concern. I don't care.
 

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It's laughable when women think they have the ability to make me jealous. I've had several women ATTEMPT to make me jealous and it always back fires. I just act indifferent towards their attempt to make me jealous. I'll tell her "thats nice to know" or "thats cool" in a tone of disinterest to show that I couldn't care less.

Having jealousy in your heart is not healthy. Anyways, I couldn't be jealous if I wanted to. It's just something I can't do. The fact that women use such a tactic in an attempt to stir up my emotions is amusing to me, because it'll never work; a tactic as petty as that. I can't and will never be jealous over a man and another woman? Why? There's plenty of ther woman on this world, plus: I'm not worried about what another's woman's doing with another man. The ONLY thing that would be on MY mind is what I'm doing with a female.

I don't worry about the business of other people; it's none of my concern (which includes what women do with other guys). All I'm worried about is what I'm doing (including what I'm doing with females)

What women do with other men is their business and has no value towards me; I just don't care.

It can reaaaallly get annoying though when they try to RUB in your face that they're getting other guys. I just don't care and I'm pretty sure I've made this known; so why do you insist to tell me what you're business is with other males? What you're doing with him is none of my concern. I don't care.
How do you communicate that you don't care, without being overt? Women are crazy. I don't get her motive, she keeps seeing me, fu**ing me, and seemingly shi* testing me by trying to make me jealous.
 

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How do you communicate that you don't care, without being overt? Women are crazy. I don't get her motive, she keeps seeing me, fu**ing me, and seemingly shi* testing me by trying to make me jealous.

I make it known that I don't care, whether its obvious or not to her. I don't worry about whether it's covert or overt as long she gets the idea that I don't care. Certainly, I wouldn't scream in her face saying "I DON'T CARE!" but I just simply look at her, give a straight face, maybe sometimes a slight smile and say "That's nice to know" or I'll say "cool", or sometimes I might tease her and say "Oh, you get all the guys don't you?" in a jokey tone.

The key is to act indifferent. You're supposed to be unfazed by what she said; as if it had no effect on you. Fortunately, I don't have to put up an act because I really don't care.

I don't think you should stress it. As long as you get the message around that you don't care (in a manner that's not angry) you should be fine.
 

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No, worrying about other guys ****s breeds insecurity... don't worry about that sh1t. Just go and find yourself a VIRGIN because dating a girl that isn't a virgin is a sign of a low status male. Only rats like to play in the dumpster.
 

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With all due respect to the OP, I think the question we all need to ask ourselves is not "Do you think about the other guys?" but "What's the point in thinking about the other guys?" Now the answer to that question simply is there is no point." Whether you do or don't doesn't matter, but why would you? What does it solve? You'll just get jealous, think about it for a while, loose precious time when you could be concentrating on more important things.

Tell me what good it would do if you actually brought your concern up to that girl? She wouldn't give a shvt and you would look like a fvcking pvssy.

My point is that, if you do think about it, find a sure way to get your head where it needs to be. And the place is in the now, about yourself, and your happiness.
 
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I don't at all because I don't go for girls on TInder/POF where I know the chick is smashing a buncha diff dudes.

I already know that some of these chicks think there's something building between me and them.. and since they don't want to break that .. They're highly likely to be exclusive to me.

I can only suspect maybe 2-3 of my plates are smashing anyone else. The rest are busy AF and highly involved with me.. To the point not a single day goes by where they aren't talking to me.
 

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Are you guys saying you don't mind "DNA evidence" of other men in that thang? The very thought disgusts me, which is why I only go for women who are obviously not sleeping around with f buddies. When you get to be my age you can tell very easily.
 

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If I found out the single ones were... Next!

Though, most of plates have boytoys so, you know.

I'm looking for someone who doesn't sleep around.

Fat chance, right?
 
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