girl wasn't responsive to my kiss

[pyros]

So I had a date with this 26 years old chick I met online.
We seemed to click very well while texting and when we met in person we clicked very well again.

I took her to have a coffee (just to filter her in case she was weird or something) and after that we went to grab a drink to another place.
Since we were having such a good time, laughing , talking a lot etc, I started to kino escalate: I caressed her forearms, her chin, touched her knees etc. she seemed to enjoy it. I thought about kissing her a few times; I fainted it a couple of times , but I decided to leave it for the end of the date. I think at this point she got kind of disapointed. Im not sure but I got this feeling.

When I dropped her home she was staring at me so I went for the kiss BUT, she was not responsive at all. I mean, I gave her a small kiss in the mouth and it was just like kissing a sculpture. She had her mouth closed, she did not move her lips...so I gave her like three small kisses and that was it.

It felt like a consolation prize or something. Maybe she liked it and she just wanted a small peack etc, but it was disapointing...

Thoughts?

 

[dustmuffin]

Closed mouth kiss...kiss if death...

 

[parkthebus]

Maybe she had expected you to kiss earlier but you went with the safe option, thus killing the attraction. Maybe she wanted you to be sexually aggressive and it was just lmr.

 

[CuddleJunkie]

Maybe she had expected you to kiss earlier but you went with the safe option, thus killing the attraction. Maybe she wanted you to be sexually aggressive and it was just lmr.

Probably this. It's crazy how easy you can blow the whole thing up. What the **** do these women expect? haha

 

[Floydispink01]

Read this somewhere....

Look at her lips then migrate up to her eyes. Look up and down for 5 seconds.

If she looks at your lips during that time. That's her invite to you.

 

[marmel75]

Maybe she had expected you to kiss earlier but you went with the safe option, thus killing the attraction. Maybe she wanted you to be sexually aggressive and it was just lmr.

Again...same issues...Pyros, you need to take a long hard look at what is going on in date because this seems to be a recurring theme.

I agree you aren't being aggressive enough. You need to go from Kino, to hair stroking, to kissing to putting her hand on your c0ck, which usually REALLY helps escalate the date...

Safe is boring. She gets boring a lot, be the rare exciting guy.

 

[pyros]

marmel75, I dont really know when and where do you expect me to get her hand and put in on my c-ock. I guess we should first kiss, then makeout and then I could do that maybe in my car.

Anyway,

did this ever happened to any of you? I mean, you kiss a girl and she is just plain quiet, she doesnt respond in any way, so the kiss seems empty and without any sparks.

 

[marmel75]

marmel75, I dont really know when and where do you expect me to get her hand and put in on my c-ock. I guess we should first kiss, then makeout and then I could do that maybe in my car.

Anyway,

did this ever happened to any of you? I mean, you kiss a girl and she is just plain quiet, she doesnt respond in any way, so the kiss seems empty and without any sparks.

You do it while you are wherever you are at. In a bar, coffee shop, restaurant, wherever. Stop worrying about all these things and just do it. Like Nike.


Yes it has, most times either because the woman wasn't that attracted to me or became less attracted the longer I waited...

 

[marmel75]

The 'hand on ****' move is brilliant when pushing for sex, but if you're going to use it, you'd better be ready to pull the trigger and get her to your place quick. I've screwed this up and never heard from the woman again: it's a sh*t or bust moment.

Do it where-ever you like, just make sure you have the logistics planned. 'Hand on ****' means time for sex.

I used it before where it didn't lead to sex and pretty much every woman I used it with texted me immediately after the date and told me they had fun and wanted to do it again...

A woman wants to know that you know how to lead them to sex properly, and that type of sexual aggressiveness plays a big role in it. Pyros, I think this might be what's happening in date. Chick is interested, you don't make any type of move, woman thinks you don't know how to lead them towards sex, attraction falls off a cliff.

 

[marmel75]

You used that move whilst on a coffee shop date?

I need to push the boundaries a bit more...

Fvck no...I don't do coffee shops. Drinks.

And yes, while we would be seated in a booth at the bar...well, it was a bar/restaurant, cool place with lots of space...

Always push the boundaries. Chicks LOVE when you put their hand on your c0ck...I don't know what it is about it, but it drives them wild...

 

[Building_and_Loan]

Do girls have inhibitions or reservations about kissing at a bar on date because there are people around?

I honestly don't know if I've ever kissed a girl in a bar, I always escalate later in private and I've been fairly successful, so I guess I've never gone that route.

I suppose it's all about your ability to escalate during the date. Sitting on the same side rather than across from each other so you can touch her leg, lower back, hand, etc. Getting her to tingle will make her forget or not really care where she's at when you go in to kiss her.

 

[marmel75]

Do girls have inhibitions or reservations about kissing at a bar on date because there are people around?

I honestly don't know if I've ever kissed a girl in a bar, I always escalate later in private and I've been fairly successful, so I guess I've never gone that route.

I suppose it's all about your ability to escalate during the date. Sitting on the same side rather than across from each other so you can touch her leg, lower back, hand, etc. Getting her to tingle will make her forget or not really care where she's at when you go in to kiss her.

Some do, but if you get them caught up in the moment it won't matter.

And yes, you need to make escalation easy...grab a booth and slide to the middle...I would usually do this after the first drink and after we played darts, which always worked well, then when we got the second drink she would always move to the middle next to me and it was on...

 

[Bingo-Player]

why move to a second place for drinks when you could of just asked her back to your place ?

you just created a pointless barrier for yourself there i know because i have done it so many times in the past ,

ive learnt the biggest holdup in trying to get a new woman into bed is getting her on that first meet

once youve made that first face to face meet with her it doesnt matter how long your with her 10 mins or an hour shes pretty much ready to fvck you from there on in providing you have enough energy and can confidentley lead her to bed

women dont generally just get themselves dolled up and go on dates just for the sake of it , by this point shes proably ready to have sex just as much as you are BUT

its your job to facilitate it

 

[marmel75]

why move to a second place for drinks when you could of just asked her back to your place ?

you just created a pointless barrier for yourself there i know because i have done it so many times in the past ,

ive learnt the biggest holdup in trying to get a new woman into bed is getting her on that first meet

once youve made that first face to face meet with her it doesnt matter how long your with her 10 mins or an hour shes pretty much ready to fvck you from there on in providing you have enough energy and can confidentley lead her to bed

women dont generally just get themselves dolled up and go on dates just for the sake of it , by this point shes proably ready to have sex just as much as you are BUT

its your job to facilitate it

I didn't move to a second place. Most dates went something like:

Drink 1, sit and talk for 10 minutes
Play darts
Drink 2, sit and escalate, make out, hand on c0ck, me saying "Lets get out of here"

This was all at the same place.

 

[Bingo-Player]

no post was aimed for OP lol

 

[marmel75]

no post was aimed for OP lol

Lol...OP just needs to take off his skirt and find his balls in date and escalate. Bottom line.

 

[mental blockstack]

I've had that kind of thing happen where I kiss her, she doesn't move away but just takes it as a peck "like she's a sculpture," as you said.
At least she didn't pull away or resist. But if you get her in this kind of halfway-kiss like you described, best to do it with more time left in the date, because she might just need warming up. Both times I had this happen, the girl wanted things to move forward but just wasn't fully there yet and needed further escalation.

If you do it at the very end of the date, there's no time left to further escalate and you need to start over. Hope you get another chance.

 

[mental blockstack]

Now here's a more confusing situation

Had a girl cuddling on my shoulder on my couch, so I touched her arm then she got up/pulled away.
Tried to kiss close later on and she didn't feel comfortable. Might have been too much comfort, not enough attraction...

 

[parkthebus]

What was your body language saying at the time?

 

[Bingo-Player]

Girls generally don't want to f*ck me after the first ten minutes of a date - I've gotten away with that before with girls from my social circle who already know me (turned up at a club once and said "this sucks, let's go to mine, and it worked ), but it just doesn't seem to work that way with a woman that I don't know very well (I fear that coming on that strong would just be socially inept, if i'm honest. Being that thirsty can be a turn-off). I find bouncing a woman from a coffee shop to a pub creates good comfort and reduces resistance for later.

I generally go for coffee for 30 to 45 minutes, then a pub where I escalate/kiss-close, and then home if I can manage it on that date.

you give women too much credit mate

trust me if shes bothered to get herself dolled up to meet you in the first place then shes DTF from the word go, only you can fvck it up from there

my fastest ever lay was 30 mins and 20 of that was the taxi ride ride to my hotel she was one of the best fvcks ive ever had too

i dont know its like when you progress that quickly with a woman it drives them wild , she knows she shouldnt be doing it , she knows it isnt soically acceptable and she knows your going to fvck her like a w1hore but all that just seems to turn her on even more