Waiting on Booty Call

[gravityeyelids]

I've been sleeping with this girl and the sex is great but one thing really annoys me. I always go to her place since I live at home, and since I like outside the city it's like a 20 min drive. Every single evening her and her roommates don't go out, they're sitting watching like 45 min dramas on Netflix. The kind of ones that you have to watch in order.

Every time I get there, all ready for sex, they're watching one. I don't want to be rude and its the evening so I don't expect her to turn it off and ditch on her roommates to bang me immediately. So I have no problem waiting until they finish the current episode. However...every single time they put on another one and watch it while I'm sitting there. This means im sitting there for between an hour and an hour and a half after a 20 min drivr watching random episodes of a show where i have no idea whats going on, and the show is ruined in case i want to watch it sometime. Which was fine the first couple times but now im fed up with it.

Plus, after watching like an hour and a half of SVU and watching men be made out to look like denegerates and rapists, the last thing im thinking about is sex and my mood is killed. I have better things to do than leave my house at 9:30 pm and sit around until close to midnight before we actually hang out and end up driving home 20 mins at like 1 or 2am so they can watch a fvxking show. Plus once it hits too late...being a girl she's all sleepy and half the time doesn't wanna go for round two or three whatever while I'm still horny, when if it were earlier shed be ready to go.

I don't want to seem like a psycho and get all pissed about it, and im not going to leave like a whiney 2 yr old. What's the best way to go about this?

 

[dustmuffin]

When the first episode is over take her by the hand and lead her to the bedroom. Take action....lead....if she throws a stink say ok...call me when you want to get together and leave. Do not get angry....be calm remain confident.

 

[gravityeyelids]

That's fine except it's a quiet room with just her and her like roommate/BFF. She's the type of girl who would turn that around and act indignant like I was rude and out of line for having done that.

You know what? After evaluating the situation from day 1 I've concludes that I've become blinded by the pu$$y and am investing way too much time and effort into a girl that I'm not really into and is jerking me around too much. I was off my game when I met her and remained that way until recently, largely because I was in a negative mindset, drinking too much and have been too needy. No more. I'm back on my grind, taking care of myself, working out and staying sharp.

And here i started to think that this girl had some serious game and was jerking me around because she could and because she was seeing two steps ahead of me. And the truth is, for the past month that's absolutely true. She's had the upper hand the entire time even though I've thought that I was setting the proper frame. For some reason I thought she was immune to the regular gaming tactics because at every step she was gaining the upper hand. But now that my head is clear I'm seeing the matrix and seeing that she's putting up a giant front and I am so centered and grounded that she doesn't stand a chance.

I'm the man here. I set the frame. She is pudding in my hands and if she wants the privilege of being able to spend time with me, she sure as sh!t better check herself because I don't have the time and have better things to do than waste my beautiful self letting her walk all over me for a few minutes of sex. Pardon me for the rambling but the bottom line is: I got this sh!t.

 

[dustmuffin]

That's fine except it's a quiet room with just her and her like roommate/BFF. She's the type of girl who would turn that around and act indignant like I was rude and out of line for having done that.

You know what? After evaluating the situation from day 1 I've concludes that I've become blinded by the pu$$y and am investing way too much time and effort into a girl that I'm not really into and is jerking me around too much. I was off my game when I met her and remained that way until recently, largely because I was in a negative mindset, drinking too much and have been too needy. No more. I'm back on my grind, taking care of myself, working out and staying sharp.

And here i started to think that this girl had some serious game and was jerking me around because she could and because she was seeing two steps ahead of me. And the truth is, for the past month that's absolutely true. She's had the upper hand the entire time even though I've thought that I was setting the proper frame. For some reason I thought she was immune to the regular gaming tactics because at every step she was gaining the upper hand. But now that my head is clear I'm seeing the matrix and seeing that she's putting up a giant front and I am so centered and grounded that she doesn't stand a chance.

I'm the man here. I set the frame. She is pudding in my hands and if she wants the privilege of being able to spend time with me, she sure as sh!t better check herself because I don't have the time and have better things to do than waste my beautiful self letting her walk all over me for a few minutes of sex. Pardon me for the rambling but the bottom line is: I got this sh!t.

So what are you going to do?

 

[parkthebus]

I would just tell her you're not going round to watch Netflix; you're going round to spend time with her. Youre happy to spend time with her friends but if that's what she wants to do then she should say that.

Edit: I don't think this would have been a big deal if you called her on it as soon as it became a habit.

 

[El Payaso]

That's fine except it's a quiet room with just her and her like roommate/BFF. She's the type of girl who would turn that around and act indignant like I was rude and out of line for having done that.

You know what? After evaluating the situation from day 1 I've concludes that I've become blinded by the pu$$y and am investing way too much time and effort into a girl that I'm not really into and is jerking me around too much. I was off my game when I met her and remained that way until recently, largely because I was in a negative mindset, drinking too much and have been too needy. No more. I'm back on my grind, taking care of myself, working out and staying sharp.

And here i started to think that this girl had some serious game and was jerking me around because she could and because she was seeing two steps ahead of me. And the truth is, for the past month that's absolutely true. She's had the upper hand the entire time even though I've thought that I was setting the proper frame. For some reason I thought she was immune to the regular gaming tactics because at every step she was gaining the upper hand. But now that my head is clear I'm seeing the matrix and seeing that she's putting up a giant front and I am so centered and grounded that she doesn't stand a chance.

I'm the man here. I set the frame. She is pudding in my hands and if she wants the privilege of being able to spend time with me, she sure as sh!t better check herself because I don't have the time and have better things to do than waste my beautiful self letting her walk all over me for a few minutes of sex. Pardon me for the rambling but the bottom line is: I got this sh!t.

That's a good realization right there. It's also better to be more upfront and don't wuss out for fear that you might offend her or her roommate.

Simply say, let's go chill in your room. If she whines, tell her I came to spend time with you not watch random shows with your roommate. At worst, she says no and you know where you stand. You can simply leave after that.

However, try mixing things up a bit. If you just constantly go to her house only to chill and sex. It will become monotone and she might start to feel like a prostitute.

 

[gravityeyelids]

That's a good realization right there. It's also better to be more upfront and don't wuss out for fear that you might offend her or her roommate.

Simply say, let's go chill in your room. If she whines, tell her I came to spend time with you not watch random shows with your roommate. At worst, she says no and you know where you stand. You can simply leave after that.

However, try mixing things up a bit. If you just constantly go to her house only to chill and sex. It will become monotone and she might start to feel like a prostitute.

Yea I did bring it up with her and she said something like "oh so you don't want to hang out with me for a bit?" To which I responded, "sitting in silence watching a show is not hanging out and spending time with a person." To which she said, "well you're just negative, why don't you just try to enjoy it??"
*rolls eyes* Whatever. Going ghost a couple times and blowing her off a bit should do the trick and see just how badly she wants to spend time with me. I don't have time for this. At this point, half the time sitting at home myself with a six pack watching the shows I want to and jerking off at my leisure is more satisfying than these interactions have been.

The sex was good, but now it's time to find a girl that makes time for me, not the other way around.