Scared of sex

[Super223]

Hey guys I'm new here so lemme know if this is the wrong place to post.

Kind of embarrassing but here we go:

-I have no problem attracting hot women
-Only ever banged couple times when very drunk - dont remember it well
-Definitely heterosexual

The problem
Before sex:

-Mind goes in overdrive
-Don't want to disappoint her
-Cant stop thinking about what she is thinking of me and how the foreplay is for her
-Nervous, not in control anymore
-Become very temperature type hot and adrenaline sort of kicks in
-Lose my wood completely
-Give up

Ive tried a couple times sober and I just freak out almost... since then Ill hook up in clubs, parties etc but avoid the actual thing.

Am I the only male on the Earth that this is happening to? How the **** do I cure this guys

 

[Night-hawk]

When younger I used to have a fear of stds and pregnancies. It made some first sexual encounters very uncomfortable. With experience and becoming competent at sex and learned you will be more comfortable I'm sure. Just play safe.

I also believe for most men they have a proclivity to nervousness about sex because for the most part it's a sign of innocence, misinformation and scare tactics from parents, school, religion, and of course the foreign territory that is woman.

 

[logicallefty]

It hasn't been to your extreme but I have had similar after I get out of a LTR. The very first woman I b@ng after an LTR, I don't get really nervous, but I am just so used to the ex and it takes me a 2-3 times with a new woman to get used to the change. It has, at times, prevented me from getting h@rd.

You have to realize that what she is thinking of you if you have made it to sex at all is "I am attracted to this man and I hope he fvcks me so good my eyeballs pop out".

So here is what ya do:

- Always keep your fingernails trimmed

- Start off by eating her \|/ for 15-20 minutes. Write the letters of the alphabet with your mouth on her \|/. They especially love the letter "T"! Get her nice and wet

- Then take 1 or 2 fingers and find her g-spot inside on the top of her \|/ hole

- Do the come hither motion on her g-spot while also continuing to eat her and \|/ on the outside and write your favorite words! I like to write things like "You are mine b!tch". They have never figured out what I was writing, though.

- While you are doing this, if you absolutely have to, think about anything that might make you h@rd, your ex, your favorite celeb nude, your deepest fetish, who cares! Remember she is having fun so now you gotta start thinking about you.

- After she has one or two nice big Os, get your sh|t in there and pound another O out of her, or two, or 10! Then it's all you...

Good luck!

 

[jurry]

No you are not the only one. Just chill out a bit you're taking it way too serious when its supposed to be enjoyable.

Take your time with a girl, you dont have to fvck her the first time you get her back to your place. Enjoy her body.. Go slow, let it happen naturally. You're building it up into this incredible all important event when it is something that is literally going on all the time all over the world, it is not nearly as important as you think.

If it happens it happens, if you get nervous just acknowledge it dont make it into a big deal and try again later. This has happened to me many many times, you never run out of chances

 

[Mike32ct]

You might be better off with a girlfriend, even if it's only for a few months. ONS' are a lot of pressure. You have to perform right away on the spot.

Find a chick that you are really comfortable with, even if she isn't hot (but still passes the boner test). Then you can experiment and bhang her multiple times in a low pressure environment.

 

[Alvafe]

like they said ONS is like get hard on on the spot and sometimes it can make things hard(and not in a good sense )

here is more like you would need to stop to care about her and think more about you, and what night-hawk said is true you being younger is more difficult, even if would let you get hard on easier, you lack of experience, and mind in overdrive would make you too nervous to perform.

what mike said also would be better for you at least for now, try to find a GF get confortable with her and see how it goes

 

[crgideon]

Get some Viagra and do some practice with pros

 

[Fireballs]

Go to the doctor and tell him what you've written here. They will most likely give you some Cialis or Viagra. (get Cialis if you can as it lasts 2 days. Viagra lasts 4 hours) Use it a few times to get your confidence up and see how you go.