SoSuave666
Master Don Juan
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This is a list of exactly what the title says. I think we can all admit to making some of these mistakes either currently or in the past. Add your own input as you see fit.
1.) You’re chasing the wrong women. In my mind, this is the #1 seed of why you’re failing with women. Meeting women in clubs is NOT going to get you LTRs. 24+year old women who hang around bars every weekend are 99% wh0res. Worse than club ho3s are the women on POF. If you’re seeking women online, you better be looking only for a quick bang. 18-22 year olds may seem innocent and cute; but beware the age of free-sex and liberal propaganda. These women are potentially banging dudes left and right while still maintaining a socially acceptable image. It's up to you to properly screen.
2.) You’re an a$$hole. And not the good kind. Remembrance of your AFC days has made you so sick and disgusted with your former self that you have done a complete 180 and now only act like a d!ckhead…to everyone. Mix that with some very extreme viewpoints here on SS and you’ve got yourself a recipe for what women DON’T want. You talk too much, you’re too loud, you belittle everyone, and sulk on your way home alone after binge drinking with the expectation that women should be flocking to you because of your arrogant aura. You’re just being lame dude. Your act is not one that will help you with women. Don’t let people fvck with you; but conversely don’t go around instigating sh!t all the time. Quit feigning confidence with over-compensation and start building your empire through steady self-improvement.
3.) Your self-defeating attitude. You think you’re ugly. Maybe overweight. You aren’t successful in your career. You haven’t gotten laid in a year or two. So fvcking what dude? One of the most important parts of game is confidence, and this attitude is fvcking with your subconscious. Women will sense it and they will stay away. If you’re overweight, get in the gym and stop binge eating Burger King. If you aren’t succeeding in your career path, find new ways to get ahead. The only barrier to self-improvement is your attitude. Change it or forever remain a sulky, pathetic loner. No one owes you a goddammmm thing.
4.) Pvssy on the Pedestal. You believe women are something you need to earn. I mean why not? They’re so sexii and those legs make your knees tremble with the thought of being inside her. She’s so perfect and the ONLY ONE FOR YOU! No other woman could ever compare to her bright personality and bangin body. That kind of thinking will get you sick with oneitis and a clear path to the friend zone faster than a 12 year old’s first masturbation session. Man up. One of my favorite quotes is this: “She may look fit, sexy and sophisticated, but after you’ve banged her and she’s naked, with mascara running down her face and she’s trying to stuff her thighs into a pair of too small jeans at 2am, you’ll realize she’s just another person trying to get by. Don’t be intimidated.” Stop waiting for the perfect woman, she doesn’t exist.
5.) You’re not spinning plates. One of the easiest ways to keep from catching oneitis--or just simply feel more comfortable with women--is to have at least two of them around and accessible. Women can be different from each other and you’ll be able to pick up on these differences; but you’ll also be able to see how women are very similar. You can more easily learn the subtle nuances of women as a gender by dating women from different areas and backgrounds vs just dating one girl because she’s your only option. Only have one option? Zero? Well this leads me to my next point…
6.) You’re not approaching women. Please do not confuse this with “You’re not getting dates from women who you try and pick up in the grocery store the very first time you talk to them.” I’m assuming your main goal in pickup is to get better with attracting women. But you can’t just go around asking every single woman in the world to go on a date with you as soon as you meet them. You’ve got to ease your way into it. Become a better conversationalist by starting small. Chat up someone who HAS to talk to you, like a cashier or a girl in your class. Talk about literally anything…if you approach women with confidence they will more than likely be receptive. Once you are comfortable speaking to people you’ll begin to naturally flirt. You can also move to tougher targets like women in a coffee shop or women moving around in the grocery store. Eventually sh!t comes naturally. Join one of those annual approach challenges on SS or just do it on your own. Either way, practice will help.
7.) You’re looking for a LTR. Personally, this is the last thing on my mind. A LTR is tertiary in my interaction with women. Primary is getting them to sleep with me. Secondary is how to leave their bed without them getting upset. Take sh!t slow brothers. You’re not going to will yourself into any kind of meaningful relationship. A good woman proves herself to YOU, not the other way around. Once a woman gives up the poon to you, you are in control. You have scoreboard over her for life. You're more important than 99% of men she has or will meet in her life because she deemed you worthy of secks. Don't reward her immediately for giving up secks by jumping into a relationship. You set up a reward system where she knows all she has to do is bang you and she'll get her way. Ease yourself into a relationship. Please.
8.) You never “next.” Sticking around waiting for women who flake constantly and reject you incessantly is like continually burning your hand on a stove. Deep down you know it’s not the right thing to do, but hey maybe this time is the one time things change, right? This action reinforces that you’re not worthy of women. Constantly getting burned by the same woman sounds pathetic, and it is. Because really, you have the opportunity to change that. Not necessarily with THAT woman, but with another. Your odds of securing dates grows with the number of women you ask out. I operate under the two-strike rule and do not budge.
9.) Your ego. In most aspects of life hard work, determination, and persistence lead to success. When you get fired from a job you can easily work much harder to get a new, well-paying job. But going back to the same position at your old job? Not only is it highly unlikely because they don’t want you, but if you improved as an employee and have garnered more desirable utility, you won’t want to go back to the company that let go of you because presumably you can do better. If however, you do not improve, and you constantly beg and badger your ex-employer, you’ll reinforce their decision and begin to look pathetic. Same with women. Don’t pester after a break up, and never go back. You’re better than that. The only thing clouding your judgment is ego. It took a while for me to learn that I’m not the special little flower I thought I was. People will drop you for a better deal quicker than you think…even that gf of yours who has been faithful for 10 years. The only reason to look back is to see how far you’ve come.
1.) You’re chasing the wrong women. In my mind, this is the #1 seed of why you’re failing with women. Meeting women in clubs is NOT going to get you LTRs. 24+year old women who hang around bars every weekend are 99% wh0res. Worse than club ho3s are the women on POF. If you’re seeking women online, you better be looking only for a quick bang. 18-22 year olds may seem innocent and cute; but beware the age of free-sex and liberal propaganda. These women are potentially banging dudes left and right while still maintaining a socially acceptable image. It's up to you to properly screen.
2.) You’re an a$$hole. And not the good kind. Remembrance of your AFC days has made you so sick and disgusted with your former self that you have done a complete 180 and now only act like a d!ckhead…to everyone. Mix that with some very extreme viewpoints here on SS and you’ve got yourself a recipe for what women DON’T want. You talk too much, you’re too loud, you belittle everyone, and sulk on your way home alone after binge drinking with the expectation that women should be flocking to you because of your arrogant aura. You’re just being lame dude. Your act is not one that will help you with women. Don’t let people fvck with you; but conversely don’t go around instigating sh!t all the time. Quit feigning confidence with over-compensation and start building your empire through steady self-improvement.
3.) Your self-defeating attitude. You think you’re ugly. Maybe overweight. You aren’t successful in your career. You haven’t gotten laid in a year or two. So fvcking what dude? One of the most important parts of game is confidence, and this attitude is fvcking with your subconscious. Women will sense it and they will stay away. If you’re overweight, get in the gym and stop binge eating Burger King. If you aren’t succeeding in your career path, find new ways to get ahead. The only barrier to self-improvement is your attitude. Change it or forever remain a sulky, pathetic loner. No one owes you a goddammmm thing.
4.) Pvssy on the Pedestal. You believe women are something you need to earn. I mean why not? They’re so sexii and those legs make your knees tremble with the thought of being inside her. She’s so perfect and the ONLY ONE FOR YOU! No other woman could ever compare to her bright personality and bangin body. That kind of thinking will get you sick with oneitis and a clear path to the friend zone faster than a 12 year old’s first masturbation session. Man up. One of my favorite quotes is this: “She may look fit, sexy and sophisticated, but after you’ve banged her and she’s naked, with mascara running down her face and she’s trying to stuff her thighs into a pair of too small jeans at 2am, you’ll realize she’s just another person trying to get by. Don’t be intimidated.” Stop waiting for the perfect woman, she doesn’t exist.
5.) You’re not spinning plates. One of the easiest ways to keep from catching oneitis--or just simply feel more comfortable with women--is to have at least two of them around and accessible. Women can be different from each other and you’ll be able to pick up on these differences; but you’ll also be able to see how women are very similar. You can more easily learn the subtle nuances of women as a gender by dating women from different areas and backgrounds vs just dating one girl because she’s your only option. Only have one option? Zero? Well this leads me to my next point…
6.) You’re not approaching women. Please do not confuse this with “You’re not getting dates from women who you try and pick up in the grocery store the very first time you talk to them.” I’m assuming your main goal in pickup is to get better with attracting women. But you can’t just go around asking every single woman in the world to go on a date with you as soon as you meet them. You’ve got to ease your way into it. Become a better conversationalist by starting small. Chat up someone who HAS to talk to you, like a cashier or a girl in your class. Talk about literally anything…if you approach women with confidence they will more than likely be receptive. Once you are comfortable speaking to people you’ll begin to naturally flirt. You can also move to tougher targets like women in a coffee shop or women moving around in the grocery store. Eventually sh!t comes naturally. Join one of those annual approach challenges on SS or just do it on your own. Either way, practice will help.
7.) You’re looking for a LTR. Personally, this is the last thing on my mind. A LTR is tertiary in my interaction with women. Primary is getting them to sleep with me. Secondary is how to leave their bed without them getting upset. Take sh!t slow brothers. You’re not going to will yourself into any kind of meaningful relationship. A good woman proves herself to YOU, not the other way around. Once a woman gives up the poon to you, you are in control. You have scoreboard over her for life. You're more important than 99% of men she has or will meet in her life because she deemed you worthy of secks. Don't reward her immediately for giving up secks by jumping into a relationship. You set up a reward system where she knows all she has to do is bang you and she'll get her way. Ease yourself into a relationship. Please.
8.) You never “next.” Sticking around waiting for women who flake constantly and reject you incessantly is like continually burning your hand on a stove. Deep down you know it’s not the right thing to do, but hey maybe this time is the one time things change, right? This action reinforces that you’re not worthy of women. Constantly getting burned by the same woman sounds pathetic, and it is. Because really, you have the opportunity to change that. Not necessarily with THAT woman, but with another. Your odds of securing dates grows with the number of women you ask out. I operate under the two-strike rule and do not budge.
9.) Your ego. In most aspects of life hard work, determination, and persistence lead to success. When you get fired from a job you can easily work much harder to get a new, well-paying job. But going back to the same position at your old job? Not only is it highly unlikely because they don’t want you, but if you improved as an employee and have garnered more desirable utility, you won’t want to go back to the company that let go of you because presumably you can do better. If however, you do not improve, and you constantly beg and badger your ex-employer, you’ll reinforce their decision and begin to look pathetic. Same with women. Don’t pester after a break up, and never go back. You’re better than that. The only thing clouding your judgment is ego. It took a while for me to learn that I’m not the special little flower I thought I was. People will drop you for a better deal quicker than you think…even that gf of yours who has been faithful for 10 years. The only reason to look back is to see how far you’ve come.
. You send far too many texts to women you are interested in. I understand that texting is the norm for women now, so I’m not totally against it. Especially when you use day game to pick up a target…it’s not invasive and is a good way to build rapport if you’ve just met. But overly texting and using smileys and saying “lol” is girly as fvck. Constantly texting women non-sequiturs as they relate to going on a date puts you on track to the friend zone. “Hey what’s up” or “Hi girlie ” are not acceptable texts. When in doubt, don’t fvcking text. The end goal is to get her to go out with you, not become a pen-pal. 
