Approach Data - You're Gonna Love This.
A few years ago, I did an experiment with a friend of mine where we approached 100 women and directly asked for sex. You can see the results on this thread: Raw Data on Approaches
There was a bit of criticism in the thread because I didn't actually sleep with any of the women who said yes, so we don't know exactly how accurate the results really were. So last month I decided to repeat the experiment with a solid opener and actually follow through with a close.
NOTE: I did this for my own purposes because I love to study psychology and human response. I only approached the most attractive women I could find, and out here in Newport Beach, almost all of the women are extremely attractive. I did not go after sluty women or ones I thought would be easy. I'm fairly attractive, but I'm not a model or a hot surfer guy like everyone else in town. I also did not carry a video camera around with me, so if you think I'm lying, then feel free to go away.
The experiment:
Approach 100 girls and ask for sex.
The Location:
Fashion Island Shopping Center. Newport Beach, California.
The Rules:
The girl must be very hot. 9 or higher.
The girl must be by herself.
The Opener:
I've learned very well that women are not fans of direct proposals, especially when your proposal involves anything that could possibly make them look like a wh*re. My objective was to come up with a way to ask for sex, without actually doing it.
Me: (casual, almost like I know her) Hey how are you?
Expected Response: (not sure if she should know me) Good! You?
Me: I'm good. (eye her up and down) Wow you're looking great.. HEY I just got a new place right up the street. Come on over we'll play chutes and ladders!
Now I know this is not the best opener, but it works waaaay better then "hey, wanna fuk?" First off, approaching her almost as if you know her will make her curious and bring her guard down. Checking her out (and acknowledging it politely) will make her aware of your intentions (and her desires) and the closing invitation indirectly offers her the chance to have some great sex, something all women desperately want. The subtext is completely clear to them.
The Results
It took me over 3 weeks to approach 100 women. How many of them did I actually hook up with? 14. That's almost 1 in every 7 girls. Not bad for a canned, 20 second pickup. Every single one that agreed to come over ended up sleeping with me, and I don't even own Chutes and Ladders
Of the women who said no, I'm curious to know how many would have said yes, but didn't because they were either married, in a relationship, or had prior obligations.
Common Responses
Of all the women I approached, none became offended or disgusted. In fact, I'd go as far as saying I didn't really get a negative response at all. Most of the NO's I got were a simple "No, sorry" or "I can't I'm in a hurry." A few said no but then asked me for my phone number.
Most of those who said YES were cheerfull and eager/excited to come with me.
I also got a few who asked "do I know you?" to which I responded "no, but you seemed to me like a cool person who might wanna hang out or something."
Other Thoughts
Those of you who still think that the best way to approach a girl is by saying "hi", pay attention: Saying hi, introducing yourself, or asking her name right at the beginning of a conversation instantly puts her in a defensive state. "What do you want?" is probably what's going through her head after a stranger randomly approaches and says "hi." I'm not saying it doesn't work. I used "hi" all the time, with quite a bit of success. But there's something else that works 100 times better, and that's skipping introductions altogether.
Think about how you talk with your best friends. Do you say hi and shake their hand every time you see them? Probably not. Skipping formalities and protocol is the simplest way to make someone comfortable with you almost instantly. For example, here's how I approached a girl earlier today:
Me: Hey have you seen Tropic Thunder?
Her: No.
Me: It's hilarious! Top Cruise wears a fat suit!
Her: (laughing) really? Well I hate Tom Cruise. Haven't you heard he's crazy?
Me: Crazy? No way! Haven't you seen Top Gun? He's dangerous! But not crazy.........by the way, I'm Dustin.
Her: (still laughing) Sheila.
Simple. That was a girl I met on the beach. By skipping introductions, you can open with just about any random thing you can think of to spark conversation, the same type of thing you do around your friends. After the ice has been (easily) broken, then you can go back and introduce yourself. Got it? I hope this inspires some of you.
A few years ago, I did an experiment with a friend of mine where we approached 100 women and directly asked for sex. You can see the results on this thread: Raw Data on Approaches
There was a bit of criticism in the thread because I didn't actually sleep with any of the women who said yes, so we don't know exactly how accurate the results really were. So last month I decided to repeat the experiment with a solid opener and actually follow through with a close.
NOTE: I did this for my own purposes because I love to study psychology and human response. I only approached the most attractive women I could find, and out here in Newport Beach, almost all of the women are extremely attractive. I did not go after sluty women or ones I thought would be easy. I'm fairly attractive, but I'm not a model or a hot surfer guy like everyone else in town. I also did not carry a video camera around with me, so if you think I'm lying, then feel free to go away.
The experiment:
Approach 100 girls and ask for sex.
The Location:
Fashion Island Shopping Center. Newport Beach, California.
The Rules:
The girl must be very hot. 9 or higher.
The girl must be by herself.
The Opener:
I've learned very well that women are not fans of direct proposals, especially when your proposal involves anything that could possibly make them look like a wh*re. My objective was to come up with a way to ask for sex, without actually doing it.
Me: (casual, almost like I know her) Hey how are you?
Expected Response: (not sure if she should know me) Good! You?
Me: I'm good. (eye her up and down) Wow you're looking great.. HEY I just got a new place right up the street. Come on over we'll play chutes and ladders!
Now I know this is not the best opener, but it works waaaay better then "hey, wanna fuk?" First off, approaching her almost as if you know her will make her curious and bring her guard down. Checking her out (and acknowledging it politely) will make her aware of your intentions (and her desires) and the closing invitation indirectly offers her the chance to have some great sex, something all women desperately want. The subtext is completely clear to them.
The Results
It took me over 3 weeks to approach 100 women. How many of them did I actually hook up with? 14. That's almost 1 in every 7 girls. Not bad for a canned, 20 second pickup. Every single one that agreed to come over ended up sleeping with me, and I don't even own Chutes and Ladders
Of the women who said no, I'm curious to know how many would have said yes, but didn't because they were either married, in a relationship, or had prior obligations.
Common Responses
Of all the women I approached, none became offended or disgusted. In fact, I'd go as far as saying I didn't really get a negative response at all. Most of the NO's I got were a simple "No, sorry" or "I can't I'm in a hurry." A few said no but then asked me for my phone number.
Most of those who said YES were cheerfull and eager/excited to come with me.
I also got a few who asked "do I know you?" to which I responded "no, but you seemed to me like a cool person who might wanna hang out or something."
Other Thoughts
Those of you who still think that the best way to approach a girl is by saying "hi", pay attention: Saying hi, introducing yourself, or asking her name right at the beginning of a conversation instantly puts her in a defensive state. "What do you want?" is probably what's going through her head after a stranger randomly approaches and says "hi." I'm not saying it doesn't work. I used "hi" all the time, with quite a bit of success. But there's something else that works 100 times better, and that's skipping introductions altogether.
Think about how you talk with your best friends. Do you say hi and shake their hand every time you see them? Probably not. Skipping formalities and protocol is the simplest way to make someone comfortable with you almost instantly. For example, here's how I approached a girl earlier today:
Me: Hey have you seen Tropic Thunder?
Her: No.
Me: It's hilarious! Top Cruise wears a fat suit!
Her: (laughing) really? Well I hate Tom Cruise. Haven't you heard he's crazy?
Me: Crazy? No way! Haven't you seen Top Gun? He's dangerous! But not crazy.........by the way, I'm Dustin.
Her: (still laughing) Sheila.
Simple. That was a girl I met on the beach. By skipping introductions, you can open with just about any random thing you can think of to spark conversation, the same type of thing you do around your friends. After the ice has been (easily) broken, then you can go back and introduce yourself. Got it? I hope this inspires some of you.
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