Dealing with girls who don't want to be seen as sluts

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A lot of women are programmed whether it is by society, religion or friends to put their guard up against men who want immediate sex. These women don't want to be seen as sluts or get used and therefore are nervous/wary of getting too sexual too early.

So what's the best way to deal with girls who put their anti-slut guard up?

Would you be sexual anyway? And what would you do if they reject your sexual advances?
 

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Be subtle, use innuendos. Tell them nobody has to know.

If they reject and keep rejecting just move on, some of them simply won't change their mind.
 

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"So what's the best way to deal with girls who put their anti-slut guard up?"

Simple. You don't.
 

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Play along like you couldn't agree more with their decision not to have immediate sex, do other things to build interest\attraction, then make your move.
 

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me: stop looking at me like that
her: like what?
me: like you want to rape me
her: no
 

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Taking a step back helps alot!!!!

Slow your game down and take it a step at a time, as long as she feels comfortable then that's the main thing.

Assure them that stays between you both and noone needs to know.

Once there comfortable, take control.

There's alot of girls i hooked up with who went slvts but used me to "practise" on.

Alot of dudes getting grade A bjs because of me hahaha
 

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^ Attraction alone doesn't = sex. That's way too simplistic. As the others are saying women need to feel safe and that things between you are private.
 

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Play along like you couldn't agree more with their decision not to have immediate sex, do other things to build interest\attraction, then make your move.
recently done this with one of my plates

she started off with the usual spiel " ive got morals" , "i make my men wait 3 months before they get any"

blah blah blah

i just agree and keep ramping up the buying tempreture

now shes sending me messages like " i need you to f@ck me so badly" , " when can i ride you next"

and also sending me filthy photos

dont listen to a word they say , just tell them they have needs just like everyone else
 

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A lot of it comes down to mindset. Girls can pick up on when you're someone who might judge them--there'll be certain hesitations in your speech and body language, etc. that will signal to her that she needs to play 'good girl' around you.

If you can internalize the belief that: Every girl wants to fvck me. Sex means nothing. I don't even count as a number., and really believe it, watch how little ASD you run into in the first place. Beyond that, just use dominance--be comfortable touching girls boldly, openly talking about sexual topics, etc. And know when to take a step back.
 

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Isn't this the same thing as dealing with LMR on a date? You get her back to your place, succeed in making out on the couch. Start feeling her up. She pushes you away saying she can't or she isn't "that type of girl". Take a few minutes to cool, start up again. Get any woman's pu$$y wet enough and the majority of them eventually give in.
 

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I'll go even further and say that many women prefer to fvuck guys whom they DO NOT feel "safe" around...they LIKE unpredictability.
Unpredictability, in and out of the bedroom, from a man of unwavering strength and dominance, is a HUGE turn on for women.
 

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I'll go even further and say that many women prefer to fvuck guys whom they DO NOT feel "safe" around...they LIKE unpredictability.
I often say the quickest way to fvck a woman is to make her feel safe. Contrary to logic, predictability is not what a woman is seeking/needing to feel safe, to be sexual.

A woman is seeking to know/feel she doesn't need to have any concerns about your being pleased with her body. She knows already without a doubt you are more than pleased and happy with her body, just as it is. She can drop any of those concerns if she had them. Secondly, she knows/feels that no matter what she does, how she responds, how wild she gets, and if she completely loses her mind for a bit along the way, that you will remain unfazed, by any side of herself, she could show you. There is no boundary of too wild or too much, that she could cross with you. She knows she can be completely uninhibited with you, without judgement from you. This gives a woman permission to let go and feel free with you, that is what it feels like to feel safe.

A man she just met 5 minutes ago can give her that feeling immediately. It's not a sense of safety that has to built with time. It's a sense of safety that she feels from his type of presence.

A man's unpredictability can be an example of that. It can show how comfortable and playful he can be with change. That can be a huge turn on for a woman as it makes it feel very 'safe' to bring out her wild side. Contrast that with a man who is predictable. The woman will be walking on egg shells a bit, holding back, and not comfortable letting go in front of him.


A woman's sense of safety comes from a man's presence. Strength, dominance, unwavering...these are characteristics that make women feel safe with a man...not his actions being predictable.
 

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What I've learned in the field:

Women's words are sh1t. If she likes you enough, she will fvck you.

There's no way a girl would deny sex from a guy she's head over heels in love with. If she's oh-so attracted to him, I don't care if she's the most religious woman on Earth. If she's attracted enough, she will fvck him on the spot. Words are nothing, actions are everything. I believe it's been preached on here too. Don't listen to the nonsense lies women talk about. They want d1ck. All women who are straight are sexual. Forget what they say, pay attention to how they act. And as far as I'm concerned, if a girl's straight and she's attracted to me, and if I work on her enough, she'll want my d1ck no matter how many times she says shes a good girl, or she doesnt do this or that.
 
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