A huge part of maintaining a healthy marriage is staying physically attractive to your mate. Which is why I’m in the process of bulking up to a nice, lean 5’9” 185 lbs. Right now I’m in my bulking phase, going from 170 to 180 pounds since the beginning of this month. The problem?......Most of what I gained was FAT.
My wife doesn’t seem to care. She loves how I’ve become bigger. But that’s only because when we first met I was nothing but a scrawny 150 soaking wet with visible ribs. To her, anything is better than the skinny bastard I once was.
Developing the habit of lifting weights regularly hasn’t been a problem at all for me.
It’s the EATING HABITS that I struggle with. Yeah, I know the drill (eat lean meats, whey protein, creatine before workouts, 6 meals a day, blah, blah, blah). But when you live in the real world like I do, executing those best laid plans isn’t easy when you have a demanding full-time job, a long commute, and rigorous night and weekend classes at an elite grad school.
Nevertheless, I make no excuses and press on. Still, bulking has done something unexpected.
Bulking has challenged my personal management skills. It has forced me to think about how I spend each portion of my day. It has forced me to plan and prepare meals days in advance, which alone should reduce my fat intake. I’m more diligent about using my daily planner. This emphasis on time management has not only positively affected my health, but also my career, and my marriage. I am a more productive engineer and student because of it. My sex drive has blown off the charts.
More important than muscle, bulking builds inner game.
I started bulking so that I could BE big. But I am BECOMING so much more.
So how does this help you get laid?
Glad you asked.
At some point, someone has told you “Just be yourself and the girls will flock to you.”
Let’s set something straight here. For skinny guys like us, “Being yourself” is about as counter productive as strutting down Muscle Beach with your shirt off.
I think the main reason attractive people tell us to “just be yourself” is because that’s all THEY have to do to attract someone. All they have to do is simply BE. Yes, a wonderful state, but it doesn’t apply to us.
BEING yourself is easy. It is BECOMING yourself that all of us struggle with.
Just as I won’t get big unless I become a good time manager, no one will be comfortable around you until you first become comfortable with yourself. Such is the importance of inner game.
Bulking is just one inner game builder. There are others.
Sosuave.net is your crossroads. You can either BE in a constant state of information overload, trolling and self deprecation (sosuave’s pitfalls), or you can BECOME more confident through the real-life actions you take to improve yourself.
Stop being and start becoming.
My wife doesn’t seem to care. She loves how I’ve become bigger. But that’s only because when we first met I was nothing but a scrawny 150 soaking wet with visible ribs. To her, anything is better than the skinny bastard I once was.
Developing the habit of lifting weights regularly hasn’t been a problem at all for me.
It’s the EATING HABITS that I struggle with. Yeah, I know the drill (eat lean meats, whey protein, creatine before workouts, 6 meals a day, blah, blah, blah). But when you live in the real world like I do, executing those best laid plans isn’t easy when you have a demanding full-time job, a long commute, and rigorous night and weekend classes at an elite grad school.
Nevertheless, I make no excuses and press on. Still, bulking has done something unexpected.
Bulking has challenged my personal management skills. It has forced me to think about how I spend each portion of my day. It has forced me to plan and prepare meals days in advance, which alone should reduce my fat intake. I’m more diligent about using my daily planner. This emphasis on time management has not only positively affected my health, but also my career, and my marriage. I am a more productive engineer and student because of it. My sex drive has blown off the charts.
More important than muscle, bulking builds inner game.
I started bulking so that I could BE big. But I am BECOMING so much more.
So how does this help you get laid?
Glad you asked.
At some point, someone has told you “Just be yourself and the girls will flock to you.”
Let’s set something straight here. For skinny guys like us, “Being yourself” is about as counter productive as strutting down Muscle Beach with your shirt off.
I think the main reason attractive people tell us to “just be yourself” is because that’s all THEY have to do to attract someone. All they have to do is simply BE. Yes, a wonderful state, but it doesn’t apply to us.
BEING yourself is easy. It is BECOMING yourself that all of us struggle with.
Just as I won’t get big unless I become a good time manager, no one will be comfortable around you until you first become comfortable with yourself. Such is the importance of inner game.
Bulking is just one inner game builder. There are others.
Sosuave.net is your crossroads. You can either BE in a constant state of information overload, trolling and self deprecation (sosuave’s pitfalls), or you can BECOME more confident through the real-life actions you take to improve yourself.
Stop being and start becoming.
