penkitten said:
francisco what do you mean by authentic power?
Good question and excuse me for saying something sexist but I'll explain why afterward. Women usually do not know the definition of
authentic power because of their nature, they are not power seekers by default. Men on the other hand either seek power, long for it, and typically define themselves by being in power, the Alpha, in control.
Now don't get me wrong, it's great to feel that level of control however men typically go after the wrong things to "emote" the look of power. This could manifest in having a high paying job and title to match, the most expensive luxury cars, the finest babe in the neighborhood, the most sexual conquests; you get the idea.
The common thread in all of these things is that they are based on things
other than themselves, it's all about what they believe they own. It's not internal (authentic). Case in point, compare the demeanor of these same men if they loose one of these things. If they had defined themselves by it, loosing it could be comparable to loosing an appendage in their eyes.
Having authentic power means that you are in control, but of
yourself without any external influences. Character traits that are personal in nature such as charisma, intelligence, integrity and self confidence can all contribute to one's authentic power.
The best way to cultivate traits like these is to become passionate about something, anything! Something that energizes you no matter if you are the best at it or not, it's not about competition against anyone else.. It's all about finding something that you just enjoy doing no matter what. Something that when you describe it to someone, you sound like a late night infomercial salesperson. You speak of it as if it's your life's blood.
Finding that passion (or passions if you're lucky) will change a person's life. It will put other things in perspective in comparison. It will give them a power from within themselves that no one can manipulate nor take away. It will be completely be in
your control. And with that, you are your true authentic self whenever you take part in that passion. There are no airs, no facades, no bullsh1t in you or your actions.
You are true to yourself and your presentation to the world will be that true self; without fear, without competition, without embellishments. True, pure, authenticity; authentic power...
