The bias of Sosuave and the self-sabotage that ensues...

I've been doing alot of thinking, lately, and I've come to realise just how flawed our board is or has become. In regards to a recent thread that I posted about a girl I was still in love with, it became apparent that many on here are bitter and have no concept of what "love" is.

The oneitis stamp is always brought out in brute force, and I think the guys on here are brainwashing themselves into thinking that the second they develop "feelings" for a girl, they need to do everything they can to turn those feelings off.

Everyone who is on this board is here because at some point they got burned really bad by a woman, or for many, burned by several women. A huge bias has formed concerning women and how they are all slvts and can't be trusted...etc...

This sh!t has gotta stop.

It is your fault that she messed around, or flaked on you, or tried to lead you on.
How is it your fault, you might ask? Because you weren't (at the time, anyways) MAN enough to keep her. That's all it comes down to.

Any women who is truly invested in a relationship with you will not cheat. She will not flake. She will only love and respect you.

It's your job to be man enough to make sure she stays that way.

Let's stop with the woman-hating mysogony that runs rampant on these boards. Eventually, that mindset will sabotage any progress you make, because you will have conditioned yourself to not love and respect women and you'll spend your entire life alone and bitter with possibly a few fvck buddies or endless nights of casual sex.

Take it from a 27yr old who has pretty much been through it all..... casual sex is great for a while, but without a deeper connection with a great girl you're doomed to an ever increasing emptiness that you perpetually try and fill only to have the emptiness get bigger and bigger with each passing year and each new temporary lover.

I agree wholeheartedly

Many men are appaled at the female version of the board known as the book "the rules"

Well guess what for every ying there is a yang, and girls can play this Don Juan game too. But men get offended by it and say it is trickery and you will never get a good guy doing that stuff.

Well I am telling you the same thing about DJing

Listen if a woman loves you, and I mean loves YOU, and knows you love her too. She will go to the ends of the earh for you. She will do anything, she wouldn't stray, she wouldn't cheat, she would rot in jail for you

Like BAC said, it is your fault you were burned, and you weren't burned because you didnt know the rules of DJ'ing you were burned because you werent a man.

All this DJ crap is a false facade built to keep your true feelings out in and a good woman out

Any women who is truly invested in a relationship with you will not cheat. She will not flake. She will only love and respect you.

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THANK FYCKING GOD!

maybe you can start a revolution here.

and if you think its bad here..the mature mans forum is worse.

Listen if a woman loves you, and I mean loves YOU, and knows you love her too. She will go to the ends of the earh for you. She will do anything, she wouldn't stray, she wouldn't cheat, she would rot in jail for you

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this is 10000 percent true.

the only problem is MOST OF THE GUYS HERE have never had a women love them like that.

you think your mom is bad..a women who loves u will want to protect u as well..and want have sex..they are like sticky glue.


my girl says things to me like..ok gotta get off teh phone to sleep..or get back to work or well we dont have to see each other since ur tired.

if I listen to SS.com then she is flaking and lying...!


i will still claim there are just as many women out there who want to genuinlly love a man..as there are men who want that.


Ive heard guys here say only 20 percent of women are worth it?

2 of 10? would be loyal? BULLSHYT

maybe the guys here need to realize..WOMEN WANT A MAN WITH CONFIDENCE...NOT LOW SELF ESTEEM IT GOES BOTH WAYS!

CARRY on gentlemen.

Happy Holidays, Merry Christmas!

I'm glad I'm not the only one who sees this. That's one stage of dj'ism that often goes unnoticed here, the stage when you realize alot of the things not just posted here, but even some of the main tenets are to be taken with a grain of salt.

I agree most men never experienced the real love of a woman

When I went away to college my boyfriend and I were 1600 miles apart. For 3 years I didn't date anyone.

It eventually ended because when I came home, I was grown up and more mature, and he wasn't.

Now I could look at that as wasted time, or I can look at that as a good experience. I know I loved him, and that is all that matters to me. I just wanted something more at a time when he didn't. Now I wish him the best of luck in hei endeavors

tseluca-

most of my female friends..went threw the same thing.

Oh well. People are like sheep. They follow whatever's cool.

I take almost everything posted here with a grain of salt, but a lot of members like backbreaker inject a dose of reality and simplicity that puts things in the proper perspective for someone like me.

I came here to understand interest --- a girl's interest.

Why do they flake? What's wrong with them? What's wrong with me?

My problem was, I was under the impression that lust, like love, wasn't black or white. It is. They're either interested in you or not; they're either attracted to you or not; whether you have value or not. You either have it or you don't...there's no inbetween.

I've stopped focusing on the whys and have started concentrating on the hows: how I can improve.

Nice post.

The oneitis stamp is always brought out in brute force, and I think the guys on here are brainwashing themselves into thinking that the second they develop "feelings" for a girl, they need to do everything they can to turn those feelings off.

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I think the meaning of "one-itis" has been distorted over the last couple of years. One-itis only applies to men who claim to be "in love" with a woman who they've never been in a relationship with, nor will they ever be in a relationship with.

When a man has been in a relationship with a woman and she leave, it's the lingering "love" that makes him want her still. Love cannot be turned on an off. Love fades in and out. Love also developes over time, not in an instant.

Like BAC said, it is your fault you were burned, and you weren't burned because you didnt know the rules of DJ'ing you were burned because you werent a man.

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tseluca, before you go and trash the entire Don Juan system, you should realize that it HAS helped AFCs become what you call MEN. The information in the DJ Bible is a collection of experience and knowledge. It's up to the individual how to use this knowledge. He can use it to repeatedly get laid, or he can use it to better himself.

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I was thinking the same thing. I agree wholeheartedly.

Great post.

my canadian brother...

as much as your right, your wrong.

you had your share of women, so you'd know. what procentage of all those women are actually "quality women". give it some thought, let it meranate. Ho is a ho, and no metter haw much of a "man" you are, she is still a ho. And No man should take responsability for what a ho does or for hoes mistakes....

you had your share of women, so you'd know. what procentage of all those women are actually "quality women". give it some thought, let it meranate. Ho is a ho, and no metter haw much of a "man" you are, she is still a ho. And No man should take responsability for what a ho does or for hoes mistakes....

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Originally posted by spider_007
my canadian brother...

as much as your right, your wrong.

you had your share of women, so you'd know. what procentage of all those women are actually "quality women". give it some thought, let it meranate. Ho is a ho, and no metter haw much of a "man" you are, she is still a ho. And No man should take responsability for what a ho does or for hoes mistakes....

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Here's the difference. I'm choosy of the women I go out with. I don't date the ones who I guage as showing tramp-like qualities.

There are hoes out there, definitely... but I'm inclined to ask who on earth would want to go out with a girl like that? I don't want to. This post is more ab out finding a quality girl and keeping her.

Every woman would eventually stray, if her man isn't living up to what she expects of him.

I'm not wrong.... I said it before. If a girl truely loves you, then she will never stray. Only if those feelings start to fade, will she give into her natural instinct to be with the better man.

It is not her fault if she stops seeing you as someone of value.... You need to maintain your value and you'll keep your girl.

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i notice posts like this in EVERY FORUM

in the world, there will always be stupid people. and that is that.

dont get pissed off cuz there just so happens to be a few idiots out there. its not worth it!

I agree. There's nothing wrong with falling for a girl... I hope I find someone worth giving this all up one day. But there's definitely something to be said about guarding your heart against girls. Even now that I'm in a relationship, I stay independent and protect myself. I can foresee putting myself in a position to get hurt, but we've been dating two months and I'm not even close yet. It's the way I operate, and it's not a bad way to do it.

I find it funny how many guys on this forum seem to hate women.

The irony is, those same guys are just as flawed as the women they hate.

For instance, let's look at the guys who say "women are b!tches because they're no longer subservient housewives like during the 1950s".

Well, those same bitter guys aren't exactly great husbands. How many of them would marry a woman after getting her pregnant? How many of those guys use deception to trick women into bed, then complain about deceptive women?


It is said that we hate those who reflect our own shortcomings.

I think guys get a bit bitter. I agree, I have become that way as well.

It is just the pendulum swinging back from the whipped AFC's that many guys are nowadays.

But I have to admit until my recent ex, I never knew how bad a breakup could be. I think there can be that one special girl that rocks your world.

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