Gold Heart
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I have been in LTR's all my life. That's just the way I am. I prefer them over everything else. And ever since I have come across this site, I started to experiment with everything I learned.
After years of experimenting the correct mindset on an LTR, I discovered plenty of ways to keep your relationship as fresh as possible. I went from getting tired of each other at 3 months, to still being fresh at 2 years. Right now I'm in a great relationship with a great girl, we are still strong to this day. It's a great feeling, and now, it's my turn to give back to this site.
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My best advice for high school kids is not to get involved in LTR's if possible. But you can if you really want to. I am not stopping you. Just letting you know that 99.9% of the time, no matter how beautiful, hot and sexy the girl is, you WILL become tired of her, 110% guaranteed. The sex will become boring though she can be the kinkiest of the kinkiest, the talks will cease to be fun, and you will just become tired of it or too used to it. You will be tired of her, but here are some tips to keep it strong for years, and slow down the development of the disease: "getting used to each other."
1. Only see her once a week. There are exceptions here, like if there are emergencies, but every other time, always be busy with something else. You don't have to be out with other people, maybe you could be at a gym, working, balling at the park. ANYTHING. Just don't see her any more than ONCE A WEEK or you will be bored by the time you have been together for one year, and that's if you're lucky. Also, don't see her every Saturday, or every Monday, etc. Switch up the days. Let her come out with you on different days. You can also skip a week or so, but then see her 2 days of the next week. Just don't become monotonous.
2. Have a variety of things to do when you two go out. Switch it up every single date, don't do the same thing twice. If you find something that was fun to do, don't do it twice in a row; do it again after a few dates.
3. Movies are good SECOND dates. This doesn't really have to do with LTR's but I wanted to show a different perspective to movies. At the high school level, movies aren't as bad as this site makes it out to be. After a lot of talking and asking around, I've realized that many girls take a date to the movies as A MAKEOUT SESSION. So after a successful first date, (complete with kino, laughing and fun,) bring her to the movies. Hold her hand, cuddle her, and while you do that during the flick, eventually start caressing her face, look into her eyes. This gets her warmed up and bubbly. When she looks at you, keep that eye contact up and GO FOR IT. If you turn away, you have passed the first frame of opportunity, and you will only confuse her. "I thought he brought me here to make out." Yes, that's what they are thinking if they are interested. And make sure you are more exciting than movie. You don't want to end up watching it. I suggest seeing a movie that is not too good. Come in early for the movies, so that you are already kissing by the time the movie starts. Whatever else you decide to do is up to you.
4. Absolutely NO MONTHLY GIFTS. Say you two declared yourselves boyfriend/girlfriend on Jan 1. On Feb 1, don't give her a gift. On March 1, don't give her a gift either. Absolutely nothing, even if she gives you. Do not make a big deal of monthly passings, because it will only take away the "special" feeling of the 1st year anniversary.
5. Flowers on Valentine's Day?. Always, if you plan to be with her for a long time. HS girls like the attention of carrying flowers through the school hallways, saying that you got it for them. A teddy bear? Only if you think it's appropriate. Don't do anything more than that though.
6. Don't talk w/ her on the phone before going to bed. These are the worst. This is what I did to make a LTR boring after 6 or 7 months. I am actually surprised that I wasn't bored after a week with consecutive talking. AVOID THIS AT ALL COSTS. You can say you are on a special muscle growth diet and you must sleep at a certain time for it to work. AVOID TALKING AT NIGHT. Once you start it up, it stays. Trust me. If you stop doing it, all you will hear is "How come we don't talk at night anymore?"
7. Don't talk to her the minute you wake up in the morning. It's the same exact thing as #6, except this is when you have the phone by your bed, and then you wake up, call her, and say good morning before taking a shower.
8. Don't see her/talk to her if you are on your bad side. Only let her see the good side. Don't let your image be tarnished by bad temper/grumpy days. She will probably still like you even after she sees your bad side if she really digs you, but let her see you as the "perfect man", not the "almost perfect man."
9. Anniversary gifts? Yes. 1st year shouldn't be too special, something sweet but not too expensive. Jewelry with both of your names on it is a charm. Keeps her guy-classmates off of her too As the years progress, let it get better and better. Just don't go from a small ring to a Mercedes. You're only setting precedents by buying her expensive things. They can even be tickets to concerts of her favorite singer.
10. If she cheats, she's done. Absolutely no exceptions, even if it's been 10 years! Once a cheater, always a cheater, is what I like to say about dis-loyal women.
11. If she flirts and makes you jealous, don't cry about it. Always handle these situations with caution. Don't come off like an idiot. Just say she meets a friend and is really flirty with him. Interrupt her in mid-conversation with him. Say something like "Oh, so you're the FLIRTY type huh? I thought you was better than that." And shake your head, tsk tsk a little, kind of surprised, but NOT EMOTIONAL. Don't get emotional, don't let it show in your face, don't look disappointed. Just laugh it off, but at the same time, give a subtle message that you are completely turned off by it. Whatever you do, don't go for that kiddy "revenge" crap. Doesn't get you anywhere. Hell, you might even change her ways, it's happened to a lot of my girlfriends. They stop doing it and get very loyal.
12. Don't get caught in her girl drama. If her best friend did this, did that, took the last good dress in the store, DON'T LET HER TALK TO YOU ABOUT IT! Honestly, that is the worst thing I have to say about girls. The overreacting, and that they have to talk about every little detail. Don't get stuck in it. If you're on a date, listen to her completely and agree with what she has to say. Disagree if she was wrong though. She'll love you for that. When she pauses for a bit, CHANGE THE SUBJECT INTO SOMETHING MORE POSITIVE AND FUN.
13. Absolutely no letters. No notes, no letters, no anything. Unless it's your anniversary, ABSOLUTELY NONE. Not even on monthly passings. The only exception is if the letter involves a surprise gift or something like that. But otherwise, no.
14. Be fair. Don't make her do something that you wouldn't do yourself. Just say that you ask her to give you head. Reciprocate. It makes her more eager to give it to you.
Another example: This is a not so good example, but here goes. You ever had a girlfriend who kept "memory boxes?" and had old boyfriend material in them? Like love letters, movie ticket stubs, etc.? Of course, all of them do. Just say you had one too. You told her to throw it away. Do not tell her to throw it away, if you would not do the same. Always be fair. It shows a good moral man in you. And if you're planning to take it all the way, her parents will appreciate those things.
My last advice, I'm repeating it again. HS kids, you shouldn't have serious relationships if at all possible. When college hits, you will have a very hard time keeping your relationship going. Women will be everywhere, and the last thing you want to do for your girls out there is cheat. Don't ever let cheating be an option for you, ALWAYS dump your girl first before moving on to another. Your reputation will plummet if you cheat on a girl you agreed to be exclusive with. Plus, her cute friends will all hate you.
And one more very important but very much overlooked fact: don't be another girl's side thing. Don't let her cheat on her man, or be an influence to her cheating on him. This will tarnish your rep with BOTH guys and girls. In the end, we are all like brothers. We should be looking out for each other in such a nasty world. Don't let your fellow brother get played.
I hope this helped all of you. Even if you may not agree with my views, I am sure you've picked up some ideas from this. Only follow it if you want to pro-long your relationship. Just keep in mind that if you do follow this, you must be a very fun person to be with, because she will be more suseptible to cheating, because she is seeing you less.
Good luck with your relationships. If you've got a good girl, don't let it become boring, let the best in the both of you last.
After years of experimenting the correct mindset on an LTR, I discovered plenty of ways to keep your relationship as fresh as possible. I went from getting tired of each other at 3 months, to still being fresh at 2 years. Right now I'm in a great relationship with a great girl, we are still strong to this day. It's a great feeling, and now, it's my turn to give back to this site.
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My best advice for high school kids is not to get involved in LTR's if possible. But you can if you really want to. I am not stopping you. Just letting you know that 99.9% of the time, no matter how beautiful, hot and sexy the girl is, you WILL become tired of her, 110% guaranteed. The sex will become boring though she can be the kinkiest of the kinkiest, the talks will cease to be fun, and you will just become tired of it or too used to it. You will be tired of her, but here are some tips to keep it strong for years, and slow down the development of the disease: "getting used to each other."
1. Only see her once a week. There are exceptions here, like if there are emergencies, but every other time, always be busy with something else. You don't have to be out with other people, maybe you could be at a gym, working, balling at the park. ANYTHING. Just don't see her any more than ONCE A WEEK or you will be bored by the time you have been together for one year, and that's if you're lucky. Also, don't see her every Saturday, or every Monday, etc. Switch up the days. Let her come out with you on different days. You can also skip a week or so, but then see her 2 days of the next week. Just don't become monotonous.
2. Have a variety of things to do when you two go out. Switch it up every single date, don't do the same thing twice. If you find something that was fun to do, don't do it twice in a row; do it again after a few dates.
3. Movies are good SECOND dates. This doesn't really have to do with LTR's but I wanted to show a different perspective to movies. At the high school level, movies aren't as bad as this site makes it out to be. After a lot of talking and asking around, I've realized that many girls take a date to the movies as A MAKEOUT SESSION. So after a successful first date, (complete with kino, laughing and fun,) bring her to the movies. Hold her hand, cuddle her, and while you do that during the flick, eventually start caressing her face, look into her eyes. This gets her warmed up and bubbly. When she looks at you, keep that eye contact up and GO FOR IT. If you turn away, you have passed the first frame of opportunity, and you will only confuse her. "I thought he brought me here to make out." Yes, that's what they are thinking if they are interested. And make sure you are more exciting than movie. You don't want to end up watching it. I suggest seeing a movie that is not too good. Come in early for the movies, so that you are already kissing by the time the movie starts. Whatever else you decide to do is up to you.
4. Absolutely NO MONTHLY GIFTS. Say you two declared yourselves boyfriend/girlfriend on Jan 1. On Feb 1, don't give her a gift. On March 1, don't give her a gift either. Absolutely nothing, even if she gives you. Do not make a big deal of monthly passings, because it will only take away the "special" feeling of the 1st year anniversary.
5. Flowers on Valentine's Day?. Always, if you plan to be with her for a long time. HS girls like the attention of carrying flowers through the school hallways, saying that you got it for them. A teddy bear? Only if you think it's appropriate. Don't do anything more than that though.
6. Don't talk w/ her on the phone before going to bed. These are the worst. This is what I did to make a LTR boring after 6 or 7 months. I am actually surprised that I wasn't bored after a week with consecutive talking. AVOID THIS AT ALL COSTS. You can say you are on a special muscle growth diet and you must sleep at a certain time for it to work. AVOID TALKING AT NIGHT. Once you start it up, it stays. Trust me. If you stop doing it, all you will hear is "How come we don't talk at night anymore?"
7. Don't talk to her the minute you wake up in the morning. It's the same exact thing as #6, except this is when you have the phone by your bed, and then you wake up, call her, and say good morning before taking a shower.
8. Don't see her/talk to her if you are on your bad side. Only let her see the good side. Don't let your image be tarnished by bad temper/grumpy days. She will probably still like you even after she sees your bad side if she really digs you, but let her see you as the "perfect man", not the "almost perfect man."
9. Anniversary gifts? Yes. 1st year shouldn't be too special, something sweet but not too expensive. Jewelry with both of your names on it is a charm. Keeps her guy-classmates off of her too
As the years progress, let it get better and better. Just don't go from a small ring to a Mercedes. You're only setting precedents by buying her expensive things. They can even be tickets to concerts of her favorite singer.10. If she cheats, she's done. Absolutely no exceptions, even if it's been 10 years! Once a cheater, always a cheater, is what I like to say about dis-loyal women.
11. If she flirts and makes you jealous, don't cry about it. Always handle these situations with caution. Don't come off like an idiot. Just say she meets a friend and is really flirty with him. Interrupt her in mid-conversation with him. Say something like "Oh, so you're the FLIRTY type huh? I thought you was better than that." And shake your head, tsk tsk a little, kind of surprised, but NOT EMOTIONAL. Don't get emotional, don't let it show in your face, don't look disappointed. Just laugh it off, but at the same time, give a subtle message that you are completely turned off by it. Whatever you do, don't go for that kiddy "revenge" crap. Doesn't get you anywhere. Hell, you might even change her ways, it's happened to a lot of my girlfriends. They stop doing it and get very loyal.
12. Don't get caught in her girl drama. If her best friend did this, did that, took the last good dress in the store, DON'T LET HER TALK TO YOU ABOUT IT! Honestly, that is the worst thing I have to say about girls. The overreacting, and that they have to talk about every little detail. Don't get stuck in it. If you're on a date, listen to her completely and agree with what she has to say. Disagree if she was wrong though. She'll love you for that. When she pauses for a bit, CHANGE THE SUBJECT INTO SOMETHING MORE POSITIVE AND FUN.
13. Absolutely no letters. No notes, no letters, no anything. Unless it's your anniversary, ABSOLUTELY NONE. Not even on monthly passings. The only exception is if the letter involves a surprise gift or something like that. But otherwise, no.
14. Be fair. Don't make her do something that you wouldn't do yourself. Just say that you ask her to give you head. Reciprocate. It makes her more eager to give it to you.
Another example: This is a not so good example, but here goes. You ever had a girlfriend who kept "memory boxes?" and had old boyfriend material in them? Like love letters, movie ticket stubs, etc.? Of course, all of them do. Just say you had one too. You told her to throw it away. Do not tell her to throw it away, if you would not do the same. Always be fair. It shows a good moral man in you. And if you're planning to take it all the way, her parents will appreciate those things.
My last advice, I'm repeating it again. HS kids, you shouldn't have serious relationships if at all possible. When college hits, you will have a very hard time keeping your relationship going. Women will be everywhere, and the last thing you want to do for your girls out there is cheat. Don't ever let cheating be an option for you, ALWAYS dump your girl first before moving on to another. Your reputation will plummet if you cheat on a girl you agreed to be exclusive with. Plus, her cute friends will all hate you.
And one more very important but very much overlooked fact: don't be another girl's side thing. Don't let her cheat on her man, or be an influence to her cheating on him. This will tarnish your rep with BOTH guys and girls. In the end, we are all like brothers. We should be looking out for each other in such a nasty world. Don't let your fellow brother get played.
I hope this helped all of you. Even if you may not agree with my views, I am sure you've picked up some ideas from this. Only follow it if you want to pro-long your relationship. Just keep in mind that if you do follow this, you must be a very fun person to be with, because she will be more suseptible to cheating, because she is seeing you less.
Good luck with your relationships. If you've got a good girl, don't let it become boring, let the best in the both of you last.
