Señor Fingers
Master Don Juan
This post was inspired by a recent thread.
In a nutshell, my buddy Duke is having trouble with this girl (Sarah) who is giving him mixed signals. Does she like him as a friend or is there something more going on in that pretty little head of hers?
The best advice I can give in this situation is not to get hung up on Sarah. Keep her on the back burner and pursue other prospects.
On a sidenote, If she does eventually give you the old LetsJustBeFriends, then see this thread here:
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=43174
I would also like to add that reading posts here is a good way to open your mind to new ideas, but honestly all this research is just mental masturbation unless you APPLY yourself! The surest way to gain insight into the true nature of woman is if you experience it for yourself, so get out there and get some experiences!
Yes, you will fail repeatedly for it is inevitable. Your confidence will take a vicious beating at times, but you must overcome these odds and just keep pushing. You are one step closer to manhood each time you can chalk "failure" up as a valuable lesson, for in the end, our mistakes can be the greatest teachers of all.
Many girls have pulled this on me. We flirt or make out or do SOMETHING that gets her turned on and then the anti-slut defense pops up and she gives me the ol´shyt test. I pass it by simply agreeing with what she says, making a joke or ignoring it completely as I get her more turned on.
For Example:
SARAH: blowing on your stomach is as far as I'm going to go with you
DUKE: thats cool. you seem like you would make a good friend... and i like a girl who blows
Just dont take her seriously next time she plays this card on ya. If you cant think of anything witty, just ignore it and be unfazed. No matter what you say, just make sure you dont let her see that she has the power to ruffle your feathers, because as soon as a female senses this ... she will be gone faster than you can say "LJBF" !
Hmmm....I can already hear Dukes response (I am psychic)
Very simple-
The purpose of the infamous shyt test is
1. To avoid being perceived as a slut.
2. To see if you are man enough to not be affected by their silly games.
You will face similar tests when you actually hook up with girls too. The truth is that sometimes it is a just a huge turn-on for them to resist and ultimately SURRENDER to a man who has the strength of character to make them feel womanly. A real man, so firmly grounded in his own reality that she cant shake him.
When you pass their tests their desire to affect you somehow will often translate into sexual as opposed to psychological stimulation. They start to flirt more and often playfully hit you.
Ironically enough, these little tests of theirs are one of the biggest signals of attraction, so stay sharp and pick up on these hidden cues!
Translation: Always assume that the game is ON. Dont get all insecure and doubtful when she tests you and this will get her even more revved up for some action.
The craziest thing about shyt tests is that they will often pop up after you have gotten physical with a girl..
Sometimes I will get a girl back to my house and will just be rounding third base when she freaks out and tries to stop the sex from happening. I used to get all flustered and start to feel like a loser who wasnt attractive. I would proceed to mess the whole thing up by trying to ask her what was wrong or just sulking like a little bytch.
With more experience I came to realize that the problem wasnt about me as a person, but the fact that I was moving too fast and simply needed to slow down and tease her until she was begging for sex.
Try this out...
If you are getting it on with a girl and out of nowhere she drops the old "We shouldnt be doing this" line, just tell her " you´re absolutely right" and go right back to what you were doing...just slow it down a little, get her warmed up by teasing her more. Kiss her slowly and get lost in the sensuality of the moment. Often times "no" really means "not yet...turn me on more and we will see!"
VERY IMPORTANT NOTE: This does NOT mean that you should force yourself on her. If she tells you a firm "no" and pushes you away, then you need to chill because she is really saying "no". Ultimately.. you need to pay attention to what she says with her body more than what she says with her mouth.
Though many of them will deny it to their dying day, the honest truth is that most women love to "no" their way right into your pants.
Some food for thought...
FINGZ
In a nutshell, my buddy Duke is having trouble with this girl (Sarah) who is giving him mixed signals. Does she like him as a friend or is there something more going on in that pretty little head of hers?
The quick answer is that you should NOT confront her or give her any ultimatums. This is childish behavior and a huge turnoff for women. Dont do this unless you never want to have sex with this girl.
The best advice I can give in this situation is not to get hung up on Sarah. Keep her on the back burner and pursue other prospects.
On a sidenote, If she does eventually give you the old LetsJustBeFriends, then see this thread here:
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=43174
I would also like to add that reading posts here is a good way to open your mind to new ideas, but honestly all this research is just mental masturbation unless you APPLY yourself! The surest way to gain insight into the true nature of woman is if you experience it for yourself, so get out there and get some experiences!
Yes, you will fail repeatedly for it is inevitable. Your confidence will take a vicious beating at times, but you must overcome these odds and just keep pushing. You are one step closer to manhood each time you can chalk "failure" up as a valuable lesson, for in the end, our mistakes can be the greatest teachers of all.
I know this too well. All I can say is get used to silly comments like this from women.
Many girls have pulled this on me. We flirt or make out or do SOMETHING that gets her turned on and then the anti-slut defense pops up and she gives me the ol´shyt test. I pass it by simply agreeing with what she says, making a joke or ignoring it completely as I get her more turned on.
For Example:
SARAH: blowing on your stomach is as far as I'm going to go with you
DUKE: thats cool. you seem like you would make a good friend... and i like a girl who blows
Just dont take her seriously next time she plays this card on ya. If you cant think of anything witty, just ignore it and be unfazed. No matter what you say, just make sure you dont let her see that she has the power to ruffle your feathers, because as soon as a female senses this ... she will be gone faster than you can say "LJBF" !
Hmmm....I can already hear Dukes response (I am psychic)
Yeah.. I used to think the very same thing. But it all makes sense now.
Very simple-
The purpose of the infamous shyt test is
1. To avoid being perceived as a slut.
2. To see if you are man enough to not be affected by their silly games.
You will face similar tests when you actually hook up with girls too. The truth is that sometimes it is a just a huge turn-on for them to resist and ultimately SURRENDER to a man who has the strength of character to make them feel womanly. A real man, so firmly grounded in his own reality that she cant shake him.
When you pass their tests their desire to affect you somehow will often translate into sexual as opposed to psychological stimulation. They start to flirt more and often playfully hit you.
Ironically enough, these little tests of theirs are one of the biggest signals of attraction, so stay sharp and pick up on these hidden cues!
Translation: Always assume that the game is ON. Dont get all insecure and doubtful when she tests you and this will get her even more revved up for some action.
Dont hold your breath dude,
The craziest thing about shyt tests is that they will often pop up after you have gotten physical with a girl..
Sometimes I will get a girl back to my house and will just be rounding third base when she freaks out and tries to stop the sex from happening. I used to get all flustered and start to feel like a loser who wasnt attractive. I would proceed to mess the whole thing up by trying to ask her what was wrong or just sulking like a little bytch.
With more experience I came to realize that the problem wasnt about me as a person, but the fact that I was moving too fast and simply needed to slow down and tease her until she was begging for sex.
Easier than it sounds actually.
Try this out...
If you are getting it on with a girl and out of nowhere she drops the old "We shouldnt be doing this" line, just tell her " you´re absolutely right" and go right back to what you were doing...just slow it down a little, get her warmed up by teasing her more. Kiss her slowly and get lost in the sensuality of the moment. Often times "no" really means "not yet...turn me on more and we will see!"
VERY IMPORTANT NOTE: This does NOT mean that you should force yourself on her. If she tells you a firm "no" and pushes you away, then you need to chill because she is really saying "no". Ultimately.. you need to pay attention to what she says with her body more than what she says with her mouth.
Though many of them will deny it to their dying day, the honest truth is that most women love to "no" their way right into your pants.
Some food for thought...
FINGZ
