Señor Fingers
Master Don Juan
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Click the link ^^^ for the Table of Contents.
"Always Be Prepared"
That's right boyscout. You gotta pass inspection first!
PERSONAL HYGIENE
It's embarrassing how many people I know do not follow these basic rules:
Oral Hygiene
Home to a city of disgusting bacteria living in their own filth, your mouth is the dirtiest place on your body. Ever meet someone whose breath smelled like shyt? It's because there really is feces in your mouth if you don't clean it properly. Hell, microorganisms may be small, but they got to take a dump like the rest of us. Does this gross you out? Good! Maybe it will force you to remember to:
1. Floss 2. Brush 3. Use a tongue scraper. 4. Mouthwash.
Hair
Don't wash with shampoo everyday, it dries your scalp and eliminates your natural smell. Use a hot water rinse instead and shampoo every few days. Remember when your mom told you to wash behind your ears? Few people know this but it's because you secrete most of your pheremones around this area. Ever smell a girl right where her neck meets the back of her ear? Ever notice her do the same to you? Looks like Mom was trying to sabotage your game with her advice!
Body
Shower every day. No exceptions! Give your body a once over and give your stink zones (armpits, crotch, ass & feet) a couple of extra washes for good measure. I personally use natural bath products and am a big fan of Dr. Bronner's soaps. Peppermint soap is the bomb! Gives your nuts a nice tingly-clean feeling.
FLY GEAR
My style used to be straight up gangsta. Oversized clothes, with the bling bling and the whole 9. How did it work out for me? Women ignored me on the street. Having mellowed out quite a bit in the last few years, my style has become more classic and refined. My clothes fit me well, tailored to my form, not too baggy or tight but just right. Now I notice women noticing me and it makes it so much easier to meet them when they are already attracted. Looks may not be everything, but good presentation really does make a difference!
Footwear
If you are going to spend good money on anything, make sure you get a nice pair of shoes. Women are ALWAYS checking out your kicks and are impressed by the rare man who has distinguishing taste in footwear. It's cool to wear your sneakers too if they are crispy clean and you match their color with your outfit. I have a pair of Nike boots that are the best. They are AirMax for comfort but with a nice pair of pants, they look like dress shoes.
Shirts
• Have at least 2 long sleeve dress shirts
• Short Sleeve dress shirts where the sleeve is cut around mid-bicep level.
• A few polo shirts
• Some T-shirts with nice logo/design work on them
Pants
• I LOVE cargo pants! So many places to stash things.
• At least 1 pair of dress slacks
• Some classic blue jeans
• A pair of black jeans
• Some nice linen pants/shorts for the summer
Accessories
I don't really like to wear too much jewelry. I have two Kangol hats and a leather bracelet with tiny seashells on it that my niece made for my birthday (Just imagine the HB's go Awwww!)
Favorite Places to Shop
• H&M
• Structure
• Zara
• J Crew
• Gap
I could go on, but I am not much of a fashionista. My style is very casual and I am a cheapass when it comes to gear. I could care less about a brand name as long as it looks good on me. If you are lookin for a more contemporary/upscale look, our friend Vassago has a detailed thread on this and he does a much better job explaining How to Make Yourself Good Looking
YOUR BACHELOR PAD
Your home is your Macking Headquarters so make sure the pad is pimpin! If you live with your folks or your place just isn't an option, skip past this section and don't sweat it. You can always go to her place or a friend's house, or your car, etc. Where there's a will there's a way! For those of you who have your own crib, read on...
Cleanliness
If you are a slob, you better get your shyt together. Make double sure that the bathroom and kitchen are spotless because these two rooms are often the source of a player's biggest enemy...foul odors! Keeping your living space clean also helps keep your head straight and it's nice to hang out in a place that is orderly and smells nice. Take pride in your environment and she will find you that much more attractive.
Decor & Furnishings
Keep it simple.
• Hang some artwork up on the wall for flavor. I said ART, not Pam Anderson's ass!
• A few indoor plants are great. Cleans the air and adds natural ambiance
• Some cheap yet stylish furniture (ikea rules for this)
• A comfy sofa where you can start to innocently light her fire
• A mirror in the bedroom so you can watch the fireworks
Conversation Pieces
This can be an unusual piece of furniture, sculpture, a video, book or whatever. It should be something visible that you can talk about. I have a few massage books blatantly sitting on my coffee table and they always get a conversation going, usually followed by a massage.
Lighting
Buy a fader switch so you can dim the lights. Get the kind that you plug into your wall and then plug a lamp in. I love this thing and it costs $5. I have a bunch of red and white christmas lights strung up to the ceiling and plugged into my fader. I also have some dope vanilla scented candles (vanilla drives girls crazy for some reason)
The Bathroom
Here is a checklist of inexpensive items you can buy to make your new guests feel more comfortable during their stay.
• Extra toothbrushes still in their wrappers.
• Extra clean towels.
• Liquid Hand soap and a clean hand towel by the sink.
• Tampons. Because you never know when Aunt Flow is comin to town. Better to be safe than sorry.
• Liquid shower gel. Why liquid? Much more hygienic than using a crusty bar of soap.
• Skin Moisturizer. I like cocoa butter personally, smells nice and edible!
• Scented candle or incense.
• A small rack of porn magazines so she will have something to read. (ok that might be pushing it)
The Kitchen
You don't have to keep your fridge fully stocked but it helps to at least have some of the following items:
• Spring Water. Much sexier than tap!
• Chocolate, cuz what girl can say no to this aphrodisiac?
• Whipped cream and hot fudge (use your imagination)
• Strawberries, Grapes and other finger fruits (great for kiss closes)
• Red Wine, gets girls all loose and tingly. Rioja and Shiraz are my faves.
• Beer, a few of these will make just about anyone look attractive
• Some eggs and stuff for breakfast. I hate having to run errands after a nice lay.
The Bedroom
This is your Bone Zone so make sure everything is tight and correct!
• Clean bedsheets
• Condoms within arm's reach (under the bed)
• Massage Oil
• Spare towel for post-sex clean up.
• Vanilla Candles
• Another fader switch for lighting
• Stereo
The Music
Some tunes to set the right atmosphere. I always get compliments on my soundtrack:
Nightmares on Wax
Both "Smoker's Delight" & "Carboot Soul" are amazing albums. Very chill. VERY sexy!
DJ Vincenzo
"Strip Joint Grooves" A sultry mixed compilation of funk, breakbeat and deep, sexy house music.
Crazy Penis
"A Nice Hot Bath With" - Funny name for a group that makes such beautiful tunes. "Star Wars" is my fave cut.
Faze Action
All their stuff is pretty cool, but "Moving Cities" is absolutely gorgeous. The girls ALWAYS comment on it.
Buena Vista Social Club
"The Soundtrack" - An excuse to salsa dance slowly in my living room.
Scientist
"Evil Curse" & "Heavyweight Dub" - Some great dub reggae for the massage session.
Al Green
Lots of AFC lyrics, but sweet tunes to stroke by, and chicks dig this silly romantic stuff.
Mark Farina
"Mushroom Jazz Vol 1 & 2" - Both are great, but Volume 2 is amazing from beginning to end.
Portishead
"Dummy" - One of my favorite albums of all time. Sexy as hell!
Massive Attack
"Blue Lives" & "Protection" - Dark, sultry chillout tunes
Led Zeppelin
Great for stoner chicks. I once seduced an LJBF to the sounds of "No Quarter"
FINAL CHECKLIST
What you got in your pocket there?
A Small Tip: I know this might sound crazy, but I like to balance out my pockets so they are filled equally. Not only does it look more symmetrical, but it feels more comfortable and ergonomic to balance yourself out.
• Money Clip. Because wallets are too bulky.
• Gum or mints
• A lighter (even though I don't smoke)
• A small pen & pad
• 2 condoms
• A tiny sample vial of Kenzo cologne in case I get all sweaty.
• Tiny travel toothbrush cuz I never know where I will end up.
Excellent! Looks like you are all set so it's time to get out there and meet some ladies! What's that you say? Rejection is scary? Awwwww sheeit man, don't flake on me now! Can't you see that deep within you there is a bold, badass mofo just waiting to bust out? Ahh, but fear is holding you back. Hmmm..I think it is time you learned...
5. The Power of Detachment
Click the link ^^^ for the Table of Contents.
"Always Be Prepared"
That's right boyscout. You gotta pass inspection first!
PERSONAL HYGIENE
It's embarrassing how many people I know do not follow these basic rules:
Oral Hygiene
Home to a city of disgusting bacteria living in their own filth, your mouth is the dirtiest place on your body. Ever meet someone whose breath smelled like shyt? It's because there really is feces in your mouth if you don't clean it properly. Hell, microorganisms may be small, but they got to take a dump like the rest of us. Does this gross you out? Good! Maybe it will force you to remember to:
1. Floss 2. Brush 3. Use a tongue scraper. 4. Mouthwash.
Hair
Don't wash with shampoo everyday, it dries your scalp and eliminates your natural smell. Use a hot water rinse instead and shampoo every few days. Remember when your mom told you to wash behind your ears? Few people know this but it's because you secrete most of your pheremones around this area. Ever smell a girl right where her neck meets the back of her ear? Ever notice her do the same to you? Looks like Mom was trying to sabotage your game with her advice!
Body
Shower every day. No exceptions! Give your body a once over and give your stink zones (armpits, crotch, ass & feet) a couple of extra washes for good measure. I personally use natural bath products and am a big fan of Dr. Bronner's soaps. Peppermint soap is the bomb! Gives your nuts a nice tingly-clean feeling.
FLY GEAR
My style used to be straight up gangsta. Oversized clothes, with the bling bling and the whole 9. How did it work out for me? Women ignored me on the street. Having mellowed out quite a bit in the last few years, my style has become more classic and refined. My clothes fit me well, tailored to my form, not too baggy or tight but just right. Now I notice women noticing me and it makes it so much easier to meet them when they are already attracted. Looks may not be everything, but good presentation really does make a difference!
Footwear
If you are going to spend good money on anything, make sure you get a nice pair of shoes. Women are ALWAYS checking out your kicks and are impressed by the rare man who has distinguishing taste in footwear. It's cool to wear your sneakers too if they are crispy clean and you match their color with your outfit. I have a pair of Nike boots that are the best. They are AirMax for comfort but with a nice pair of pants, they look like dress shoes.
Shirts
• Have at least 2 long sleeve dress shirts
• Short Sleeve dress shirts where the sleeve is cut around mid-bicep level.
• A few polo shirts
• Some T-shirts with nice logo/design work on them
Pants
• I LOVE cargo pants! So many places to stash things.
• At least 1 pair of dress slacks
• Some classic blue jeans
• A pair of black jeans
• Some nice linen pants/shorts for the summer
Accessories
I don't really like to wear too much jewelry. I have two Kangol hats and a leather bracelet with tiny seashells on it that my niece made for my birthday (Just imagine the HB's go Awwww!)
Favorite Places to Shop
• H&M
• Structure
• Zara
• J Crew
• Gap
I could go on, but I am not much of a fashionista. My style is very casual and I am a cheapass when it comes to gear. I could care less about a brand name as long as it looks good on me. If you are lookin for a more contemporary/upscale look, our friend Vassago has a detailed thread on this and he does a much better job explaining How to Make Yourself Good Looking
YOUR BACHELOR PAD
Your home is your Macking Headquarters so make sure the pad is pimpin! If you live with your folks or your place just isn't an option, skip past this section and don't sweat it. You can always go to her place or a friend's house, or your car, etc. Where there's a will there's a way! For those of you who have your own crib, read on...
Cleanliness
If you are a slob, you better get your shyt together. Make double sure that the bathroom and kitchen are spotless because these two rooms are often the source of a player's biggest enemy...foul odors! Keeping your living space clean also helps keep your head straight and it's nice to hang out in a place that is orderly and smells nice. Take pride in your environment and she will find you that much more attractive.
Decor & Furnishings
Keep it simple.
• Hang some artwork up on the wall for flavor. I said ART, not Pam Anderson's ass!
• A few indoor plants are great. Cleans the air and adds natural ambiance
• Some cheap yet stylish furniture (ikea rules for this)
• A comfy sofa where you can start to innocently light her fire
• A mirror in the bedroom so you can watch the fireworks
Conversation Pieces
This can be an unusual piece of furniture, sculpture, a video, book or whatever. It should be something visible that you can talk about. I have a few massage books blatantly sitting on my coffee table and they always get a conversation going, usually followed by a massage.
Lighting
Buy a fader switch so you can dim the lights. Get the kind that you plug into your wall and then plug a lamp in. I love this thing and it costs $5. I have a bunch of red and white christmas lights strung up to the ceiling and plugged into my fader. I also have some dope vanilla scented candles (vanilla drives girls crazy for some reason)
The Bathroom
Here is a checklist of inexpensive items you can buy to make your new guests feel more comfortable during their stay.
• Extra toothbrushes still in their wrappers.
• Extra clean towels.
• Liquid Hand soap and a clean hand towel by the sink.
• Tampons. Because you never know when Aunt Flow is comin to town. Better to be safe than sorry.
• Liquid shower gel. Why liquid? Much more hygienic than using a crusty bar of soap.
• Skin Moisturizer. I like cocoa butter personally, smells nice and edible!
• Scented candle or incense.
• A small rack of porn magazines so she will have something to read. (ok that might be pushing it)
The Kitchen
You don't have to keep your fridge fully stocked but it helps to at least have some of the following items:
• Spring Water. Much sexier than tap!
• Chocolate, cuz what girl can say no to this aphrodisiac?
• Whipped cream and hot fudge (use your imagination)
• Strawberries, Grapes and other finger fruits (great for kiss closes)
• Red Wine, gets girls all loose and tingly. Rioja and Shiraz are my faves.
• Beer, a few of these will make just about anyone look attractive
• Some eggs and stuff for breakfast. I hate having to run errands after a nice lay.
The Bedroom
This is your Bone Zone so make sure everything is tight and correct!
• Clean bedsheets
• Condoms within arm's reach (under the bed)
• Massage Oil
• Spare towel for post-sex clean up.
• Vanilla Candles
• Another fader switch for lighting
• Stereo
The Music
Some tunes to set the right atmosphere. I always get compliments on my soundtrack:
Nightmares on Wax
Both "Smoker's Delight" & "Carboot Soul" are amazing albums. Very chill. VERY sexy!
DJ Vincenzo
"Strip Joint Grooves" A sultry mixed compilation of funk, breakbeat and deep, sexy house music.
Crazy Penis
"A Nice Hot Bath With" - Funny name for a group that makes such beautiful tunes. "Star Wars" is my fave cut.
Faze Action
All their stuff is pretty cool, but "Moving Cities" is absolutely gorgeous. The girls ALWAYS comment on it.
Buena Vista Social Club
"The Soundtrack" - An excuse to salsa dance slowly in my living room.
Scientist
"Evil Curse" & "Heavyweight Dub" - Some great dub reggae for the massage session.
Al Green
Lots of AFC lyrics, but sweet tunes to stroke by, and chicks dig this silly romantic stuff.
Mark Farina
"Mushroom Jazz Vol 1 & 2" - Both are great, but Volume 2 is amazing from beginning to end.
Portishead
"Dummy" - One of my favorite albums of all time. Sexy as hell!
Massive Attack
"Blue Lives" & "Protection" - Dark, sultry chillout tunes
Led Zeppelin
Great for stoner chicks. I once seduced an LJBF to the sounds of "No Quarter"
FINAL CHECKLIST
What you got in your pocket there?
A Small Tip: I know this might sound crazy, but I like to balance out my pockets so they are filled equally. Not only does it look more symmetrical, but it feels more comfortable and ergonomic to balance yourself out.
• Money Clip. Because wallets are too bulky.
• Gum or mints
• A lighter (even though I don't smoke)
• A small pen & pad
• 2 condoms
• A tiny sample vial of Kenzo cologne in case I get all sweaty.
• Tiny travel toothbrush cuz I never know where I will end up.
Excellent! Looks like you are all set so it's time to get out there and meet some ladies! What's that you say? Rejection is scary? Awwwww sheeit man, don't flake on me now! Can't you see that deep within you there is a bold, badass mofo just waiting to bust out? Ahh, but fear is holding you back. Hmmm..I think it is time you learned...
5. The Power of Detachment
