Girlfriend's male colleague hitting on her

sylvester the cat · Feb 14, 2015

I'm lying in bed with my girlfriend and she's telling me how one of her male colleagues (whom I know) wants her bad. How he stares at her a$$ constantly, once touched her a$$ on a work drinks do and he texts her and even asks to meet up. She asks if I am jealous. She goes on to say he is good looking then says very good looking and that he is very intelligent. She also shows me the whats app messages between them. This is one he sent her: Image from http://weknowmemes.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/05/ur26c-say-it-fast.jpg.

The first question that springs to mind is why is she telling me this?

Building_and_Loan · Feb 14, 2015

Because she wants to see your reaction.

Just maintain your poker face like you DGAF.

AttackFormation · Feb 14, 2015

Building_and_Loan said:
Because she wants to see your reaction.

Just maintain your poker face like you DGAF.

This. Just don't give her the idea that you're TRYING to not care. You need to genuinely come across as just not caring, if she thinks you care too much or you try too hard to not care it's a negative in either case.

sylvester the cat · Feb 14, 2015

PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
A. Jealousy Sh1t Test
B. Confessional
C. Both A and B.

$300 on C. This is 2015, writing off blatant disrespect to your face re: other men as a "sh1t test" is woefully naive. I would dump her, I don't fvck with this anymore. Plus you should have dumped her by now anyway based on your past threads about her. http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=224207

Yes. I agree.

sylvester the cat · Feb 14, 2015

Just dumped her. At the moment Shes throwing a hissy fit and calling me every name under the sun.

Will have to cancel the table we had booked for tonight.

way2smart · Feb 14, 2015

sylvester the cat said:
Just dumped her. At the moment Shes throwing a hissy fit and calling me every name under the sun.

Great job! Her calling you names, will only give you reassurance that you made the right decision.

SAYNO · Feb 14, 2015

Its usually a bad sign when a woman (for lack of a better word) brings up another guys name. It has always ended in disaster in just about every case I've ever seen. Glad you hit the eject button before she did. Good job soldier

now go out there and screen better next time.

sylvester the cat · Feb 14, 2015

shes blocked the guy from what's app and is showing me. I Told her that's what she should have done before.

Between_The_Lines · Feb 14, 2015

PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
A. Jealousy Sh1t Test
B. Confessional
C. Both A and B.

$300 on C. This is 2015, writing off blatant disrespect to your face re: other men as a "sh1t test" is woefully naive. I would dump her, I don't fvck with this anymore. Plus you should have dumped her by now anyway based on your past threads about her. http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=224207

Exactly.

Sylvester, correct me if I'm wrong, but didn't you admit to enjoying BPD chicks some time back? If so, I understand, hard as it may be to admit, I too like to get tangled up with girls who are a bit unstable, but there's often a price to pay - a precipitous one at that, all too often - and here it is ...cash, check, or credit card???

I fully accept that occasional sh1t tests are to be expected from a woman you're dating, but flagrant disrespect? Pair's right - completely unacceptable. What's next? He 'accidentally' sends a pic of his c0ck which she later shows to you? "Sylverster, look! Ugh! Can't believe he did that!"

way2smart · Feb 14, 2015

sylvester the cat said:
shes blocked the guy from what's app and showing me. I Told her that's what she should have done before.

She will show you whatever you want after you dumped her. Don't believe her for a moment. She probably blocked him a minute ago just to show you and make you regret.

sylvester the cat · Feb 14, 2015

way2smart said:
She will show you whatever you want after you dumped her. Don't believe her for a moment. She probably blocked him a minute ago just to show you and make you regret.

Yeah she blocked him and made me watch her do it saying 'everything's alright now?'

Between_The_Lines · Feb 14, 2015

sylvester the cat said:
Just dumped her. At the moment Shes throwing a hissy fit and calling me every name under the sun.

Will have to cancel the table we had booked for tonight.

Oh wow, that was fast! Good move. Of course she's pissed - you just threw a monkey wrench in her little love triangle.

Dreesy · Feb 14, 2015

And here I thought I was going to have to read through 5 pages of denial before anything was done.

Good job Sylvester!

sylvester the cat · Feb 14, 2015

Between_The_Lines said:
Exactly.

Sylvester, correct me if I'm wrong, but didn't you admit to enjoying BPD chicks some time back? If so, I understand, hard as it may be to admit, I too like to get tangled up with girls who are a bit unstable, but there's often a price to pay - a precipitous one at that, all too often - and here it is ...cash, check, or credit card???

I fully accept that occasional sh1t tests are to be expected from a woman you're dating, but flagrant disrespect? Pair's right - completely unacceptable. What's next? He 'accidentally' sends a pic of his c0ck which she later shows to you? "Sylverster, look! Ugh! Can't believe he did that!"

Yup I did say that. But the drama is more than I'm wiling to bear. As an afc I would have mistaken this tension for love but not no more.

I mean who tells their boyfriend about their colleague is hitting on them and continues to keep in contact with them? Surely a good girlfriend would tell him to stop contacting her outside of work.

Ray S · Feb 14, 2015

Dumping her was the best option

Harry Wilmington · Feb 14, 2015

Oooooooh, and on Valentine's Day, too??

I can't find a clapping smiley face, so... :rockon:

sylvester the cat · Feb 14, 2015

She's in absolute tears. An hour before our valentines meal was scheduled. She's literally clinging onto me and begging me not to dump her saying she doesn't want to live without me swearing blind nothing happened with this guy.

I'm just lying here with her blubbing on top of me. This isn't easy.

Tictac · Feb 14, 2015

Nuclear option for a minor sh*t test.

Yorkex · Feb 14, 2015

Honestly you are too old for these childish games as many have said.
If a Co worker is doing that WHY not call sexual harassment ? Unless she enjoys it ( Which I think she does )
And to purposely rub it in your face just to get a reaction & so she can call you insecure is plain stupid. Good call breaking up , I don't approve on V day but hey your call.

Next time ask your self , does BEYONCE go to Jay Z and tell him Kanye is rubbing her ass ?

Suspens · Feb 14, 2015

sylvester the cat said:
How he stares at her a$$ constantly, once touched her a$$ on a work drinks do and he texts her and even asks to meet up. She asks if I am jealous. She goes on to say he is good looking then says very good looking and that he is very intelligent. She also shows me the whats app messages between them. This is one he sent her: Image from http://weknowmemes.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/05/ur26c-say-it-fast.jpg.

The first question that springs to mind is why is she telling me this?

:crackup: :crackup: OMG, She's ****ing hilarious, hahaha.

Some girls are just insane.

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