if you get flaky excuses cancelling on dates, is the best reply you can give no reply? i.e. silence.
my understanding of this whole process is if she has high IL, then nothing will stop her meeting you, but if it's dwindling the excuses start to come thick and fast. this chick from facebook on my other thread, super high IL (or it seemed) initially on monday, gave me the number without even me askign for it.. she offered it. i suggested to meet sunday as im in her area then, but then back tracked and suggested tues/weds (may have came across eager) she agreed but tried to suggest she decides where she wants to go rather than me decide. i tell her i know 2 quiet places and to meet at a certain place near her, she's like 'ok'. yesterday i tell her where to meet me, she gives me flaky excuse her best friend is here and it's best to meet weds (flaky excuse number 1, could be sh1t test too i dont know to see how available you are) i agree, i tell her where to meet tonight, she flakes again saying she had a nightmare.. so lame.
i haven't responded nor will i.. what i can't understand is why would a woman suddenly lose interest from seemingly high IL to low in space of 2 days?
i don't 'think' i came across too available/needy/eager but yes i could have done a bit better with my text responses.
is the rule that unless she contacts me again now there's no point as her IL is too low? she should contact me EVEN if she's just checking to see if im still interested and if she doesn't then she's not. it's prob not even worth trying again in a couple weeks is it? even though i might. i just cant understand why her IL suddenly dropped for no inexplicable reason apart from maybe me looking bit too available and me not letting her decide where to go. maybe she saw one of my recent pics on facebook i uploaded she didn't like i've put on a bit of weight so..
how do you actually convey 'your excuses are lame i'm not buying it until you come correct im not interested' without actually saying it.. is that silence and let their hamster in head spin to figure out WHY you're not responding (even though it ends up being the wrong reason they think of)?
my understanding of this whole process is if she has high IL, then nothing will stop her meeting you, but if it's dwindling the excuses start to come thick and fast. this chick from facebook on my other thread, super high IL (or it seemed) initially on monday, gave me the number without even me askign for it.. she offered it. i suggested to meet sunday as im in her area then, but then back tracked and suggested tues/weds (may have came across eager) she agreed but tried to suggest she decides where she wants to go rather than me decide. i tell her i know 2 quiet places and to meet at a certain place near her, she's like 'ok'. yesterday i tell her where to meet me, she gives me flaky excuse her best friend is here and it's best to meet weds (flaky excuse number 1, could be sh1t test too i dont know to see how available you are) i agree, i tell her where to meet tonight, she flakes again saying she had a nightmare.. so lame.
i haven't responded nor will i.. what i can't understand is why would a woman suddenly lose interest from seemingly high IL to low in space of 2 days?
i don't 'think' i came across too available/needy/eager but yes i could have done a bit better with my text responses.
is the rule that unless she contacts me again now there's no point as her IL is too low? she should contact me EVEN if she's just checking to see if im still interested and if she doesn't then she's not. it's prob not even worth trying again in a couple weeks is it? even though i might. i just cant understand why her IL suddenly dropped for no inexplicable reason apart from maybe me looking bit too available and me not letting her decide where to go. maybe she saw one of my recent pics on facebook i uploaded she didn't like i've put on a bit of weight so..
how do you actually convey 'your excuses are lame i'm not buying it until you come correct im not interested' without actually saying it.. is that silence and let their hamster in head spin to figure out WHY you're not responding (even though it ends up being the wrong reason they think of)?