Got very rare chance to date with HB9 hiphop celeb that I almost ruined it!

It was a unbelieveable year for me!

Not here for advices because the done is done so far. The only thing I can do is tell my story and wait for what happens next...

Originally I am from Turkey. I was totally AFC back then. Then I decided to change myself as a man! I discovered sosuave almost 1 year ago. I read alot of materials, tried some exercises by my own and managed to change my personality to a certain level until finally I got in my first true (sadly very shortly) relationship after 3 months later on jan 2014. After 2-3 weeks of this I decided to break up. Because I feel myself a little bit overwhelmed and exhausted of in the period of change.

The biggest change for me was the day that I learned I won the United States Greencard Lottery. But this was before my first relationship.

Anyway after my first breakup I decided to not enter any kind of relationship or spin plates. Because I had some other important things todo like moving United States. The problem is I stopped exercising and reading the materials of sosuave during that time. It causes to forget some key aspects of becoming PUA or a real man.
2 weeks ago I moved to United States. Living my dream in Los Angeles right now.

Now time to get the point!

Currently I am studying English on a course for 1 month. I have 2 more weeks to complete. I am staying in a student apart that is a walking distance to my course. I made some friends very quickly. But most important thing for me at first was finishing the course, find a good place, buy a car, have a great social circle and start to work. Relationship and spinning plates was out of radar.

But something happened that I was not prepared. And it was kind of a treasure for a regular man! And I kinda lost and did not know what todo.

Last saturday me and my classmates decided to go Universal Studios in LA. For me it was a pretty funny day. One of my classmates staying in a apartment with the girl that I am going to tell you about.

She is solid 9.5 and I learned later that she is a hiphop celebrity back in her country. (Sorry I cannot give where she is from, that will reveal her identity). We were ın the line waiting to enter transformers attraction. Some of you may be knew that during the waiting line there were some buttons and stuff that you can press them to keep yourself busy. I just started to press this buttons randomly and having fun with my mates and with that girl. She suddenly laughed and enjoyed of the thing I was doing. After a few min later I just started a conversation with her. I ask some some usual stuff and in 30 sec we were talking us to get married this week! It was sort of joke of course but the whole thing happened like this.

Me: So where are you from.
She: I am from X.
Me: When did you came and How long are you gonna stay in LA.
She: I came 1 week ago and I wanna stay forever.

In that point I stopped a little bit and asked in a surprised way.
Me: So how do you really gonna stay here and how do you plan to stay forever in USA.
She: I will stay for 2 months. And...

After that point she showed his fingers and mentioned wants to get married.
And I jumped with a sort of joke.
Me: Ok thats very easy. I have a greencard and if you want we can marry.
She: What! Are you serious. Ok what about this weekend.
Me: Are you serious?
She: Yes.

At first I tried to keep this as a joke. But I will learn the truth in the same evening that I will almost ruined! Still not sure if I can fix this. Because I became a little bit rusty.

And we started to make jokes on this funny conversation.

After we get out from Universal we decided not to go back home. It was dark but still too early to go home. I asked that to everybody do you want to have some drink or some other things todo. That girl and my roommate agreed to have drink and we went to home and changed our clothes. We meet 1 hr later. Went to a nice bar and drinking and enjoying the place.

And eveything started in there.

My roommate is a real pickup artist. And I started to act little bit needy. But I was really lucky that the girl just interested with me because I learned after that she has some sort of weakness against turkish ppl. Even of my little shyness she was trying to reach me. Well I was not trying to get away but I was kind of passive mode I cannot describe. Like a needy guy.

Anyways my roommate decided to play a game. He asked 4 questions and he mentioned these are very simple but hard to answer. Me and that girl unable to answer except I answer the last question that my roommate menstIt was a unbelieveable year for me!

Not here for advices because the done is done so far. The only thing I can do is tell my story and wait for what happens next...

Originally I am from Turkey. I was totally AFC back then. Then I decided to change myself as a man! I discovered sosuave almost 1 year ago. I read alot of materials, tried some exercises by my own and managed to change my personality to a certain level until finally I got in my first true (sadly very shortly) relationship after 3 months later on jan 2014. After 2-3 weeks of this I decided to break up. Because I feel myself a little bit overwhelmed and exhausted of in the period of change.

The biggest change for me was the day that I learned I won the United States Greencard Lottery. But this was before my first relationship.

Anyway after my first breakup I decided to not enter any kind of relationship or spin plates. Because I had some other important things todo like moving United States. The problem is I stopped exercising and reading the materials of sosuave during that time. It causes to forget some key aspects of becoming PUA or a real man.
2 weeks ago I moved to United States. Living my dream in Los Angeles right now.

Now time to get the point!

Currently I am studying English on a course for 1 month. I have 2 more weeks to complete. I am staying in a student apart that is a walking distance to my course. I made some friends very quickly. But most important thing for me at first was finishing the course, find a good place, buy a car, have a great social circle and start to work. Relationship and spinning plates was out of radar.

But something happened that I was not prepared. And it was kind of a treasure for a regular man! And I kinda lost and did not know what todo.

Last saturday me and my classmates decided to go Universal Studios in LA. For me it was a pretty funny day. One of my classmates staying in a apartment with the girl that I am going to tell you about.

She is solid 9.5 and I learned later that she is a hiphop celebrity back in her country. (Sorry I cannot give where she is from, that will reveal her identity). We were ın the line waiting to enter transformers attraction. Some of you may be knew that during the waiting line there were some buttons and stuff that you can press them to keep yourself busy. I just started to press this buttons randomly and having fun with my mates and with that girl. She suddenly laughed and enjoyed of the thing I was doing. After a few min later I just started a conversation with her. I ask some some usual stuff and in 30 sec we were talking us to get married this week! It was sort of joke of course but the whole thing happened like this.

Me: So where are you from.
She: I am from X.
Me: When did you came and How long are you gonna stay in LA.
She: I came 1 week ago and I wanna stay forever.

In that point I stopped a little bit and asked in a surprised way.
Me: So how do you really gonna stay here and how do you plan to stay forever in USA.
She: I will stay for 2 months. And...

After that point she showed his fingers and mentioned wants to get married.
And I jumped with a sort of joke.
Me: Ok thats very easy. I have a greencard and if you want we can marry.
She: What! Are you serious. Ok what about this weekend.
Me: Are you serious.
She: Yes.

At first I tried to keep this as a joke. But I will learn the truth in the same evening that I will almost ruined, sort of! Still not sure if I can fix this. But I believe I have a one more shot.

I hate myself. Because I became a little bit rusty.

Anyways we go outside from the park, still making this joke. It was dark but still very early. I asked everybody that do you want to do something. The girl answered yes I have still energy. (Yes because you are very hot and a very sexy hiphop dancer). My roommate had another schedule but he cancelled it and decided to join us. That girl roommates are decided to leave.

We went home. Take a quick shower and 1 hr later we went a nice bar. It was a nice night and we were talking about pretty much everything. My roommate escalated conversation a litte bit sometimes about sex but she became nerveous. And I keep the joking about our wedding that you cannot ask such questions to my wife to relieve a little bit. My roommate is also PUA of some sort and he tried to intimidate her but I keep him in bay by joking.

But the real thing that I learned after next day from another friend that knows this girl pretty well, was makes me realized that I am a very lucky person. That girl had a really crazy fondness about Turkish men.

With this luck that I didnt realized that until next day I keep her in my side. But I have a little problem.

I was shy and become AFCyish because of no reason.

And unbelieveably I was really really lucky again. My shyness attracted her unintendedly more to me that I was saddenly realized until it was too late! God damn it!!!!

Anyways we started a little game that my roommate started to. He ask 4 question to me and she. She cannot answer them correctly. I just managed to answer last question which was the hardest part. This game also attracted her more to me that she also mentioned to me indirectly.

Anyways we left the bar but she still wants to drink. I brought some raki from Turkey with me and( it is similar to greek uzo) I said we can drink if you want. She become very eager at that moment.

We went to my apartment. After we enter my roommate started acted again in pua. I was just stay cool. I started to prepare raki and some fruit to eat while they were making jokes each other.

We sat started to drink. Talking usual stuff etc...

At some point of conversation she just asked me suddenly that you look so shy to me and why are you acting like this. I started to tell my reasons but it is another story. And in the point where we were discussing about this I just try to be honest and said to her that I am still virgin.

In that moment she shocked and went outside to smoke a cigarette. I was also kinda shocked. But my rommmate was totally cool and we were starting to talk about that while she was smoking in balcony. I was talking about the reason why I was still virgin. After 10 minutes she came back inside and she started to argue with us that she thought that we were talking about her. But it was completely wrong that from that balcony she can only use her imagination and our very quiet
voices that almost impossible to understand. I went to bathroom and they go to balcony again to smoke.
I joined them shortly.

Everything become normal. Actuallly way better than before! She just started look at me directly and said can I hug you. And i said sure. She hugged me so lovely that I almost lost my senses. She stayed like 1 min. After we smoked and went inside. Talked a little bit more and she wants to go her apartment. I was kinda confused that I cannot think correctly. I opened the door for her and she went outside. She started to looking to me and I was just standing
like i dunno what todo. She said to me dont you bring me to my apartment. I replied ah ok sorry yes sure...

I feel so stupid!!!

But the most and my biggest failure is about to come!

We went to elevator. I pushed the button. She told me in that moment that she forget to get her jacket from my apartment. I told her i will bring her later. When the elevator comes she started to look into my eyes uninterrupted. So that was the beginning of the first part that I should kiss her!

God damn it i am a moron!

We enter the elevator and she was still looking me and I just stare and try to smile in a very very awkward situation. That was my second chance that she give me!

I want to kick myself!

We went outside from elevator and she asked me lets sit sit in front of her apartment. We are living in the same place. We sit and she lend me a cigarette. She was still waiting for that kiss without any speech!

Please someone wakes me up!

We finished smoking and she just opened the door. She turned towards to me we hugged like 15 sec. and she was still looking for a kiss that i supposed to give.

I WANT TO DIE!

She went into her apartment. I went back to mine in a desperation that what did i do!

I realized that I was lost my confidence and balls!

I woke up next day with a very negative mode that i just kept thinking what did I do...

I was in the line of oneitis thinking. I started to overcome and managed myself to a certain point.

Hopefully I forgot my apartment keys into my female classmates car that she was also living in the same room with my "supposed to be kissed my me" girl.

I texted to my classmate about my keys and she said you can come this time evening to get them. And she texted me again that i can go to her room to get them. In the same time I was also chatting with another girl that she was also staying in my classmates room asked about what is my wife is doing and I can come to see her in a jokely manner. She said she is kinda busy. After few minutes later she replied me that ok you can come but your wife wants 2 cigarette to smoke. I bring 2 cigarettes that obviously one of them is for me!

I went to their apartment. My "wife" s friend opened the door. My "wife" was laying on the couch with her pyjamas. I went next to her and sit besides her head while she was still laying on. We talked a little bit about our day bla bla. Made some joke etc...

I get my keys. After my "wife" asked me to smoke together. We webt balcony. But at the time we just started the smoke mu classmate come from nowhere that warned us harshly do not smoke here, i dont like it etc...

We were kinda interrupted. I apologized and went outside to smoke. We didnt talk too much. I just asked one question that normally I shouldnt ask. But what the hell I said from my inside and I asked anyway. Besides the damage is already done.

Me: what do you think about me?
She: you are very nice person and i like you.
Me: ok
She: why did you ask that.
Me: nothing, i just wanna know.

And we hugged again briefly. I went back to my apartment and slept.

Today I decided to be myself again and the first thing I did was visit here and started to read donjuan bible to gian a little bit strength. I felt better and i called my another female friend from turkey that also knows my "wife" pretty well. I started to tell everything that I mentioned here. Them she told me that your "wife" is a kind of turkish man lover. Dont worry about it you can still get her! I put together my balls and started to gain my self esteem very quickly. I sent a message to my "wife". (I send a message from facebook because I dont have her phone number,
i prefer to call actually). I keep mu message very short and brief:

Me: Hi wife. How are you? Do you have any plans for wednesday or friday night?

I expected her to answer this message at least 1-2 days later but she answered in just 30 min later.

She: Hi .. i am fine .. u? I dont have any plans

I was become a little bit relieved. But i still doesnt get me anywhere. So I asked directly what I want.

Me: I am ok, just a little bit tired. There is a nice club on X. I never been there but I heard its a good place. You and me can go there alone together on wednesday or friday. What do you say?

And she went silent.

Of course it was just 5 hours ago today. I still expect her answer in 24 hours.

So thats my story so far and I m still very curious where this leads to...

I will update you as soon as anything happens.

Feel free to write what do you think about this wierd situation... Maybe it can help me in some point later.

Find a hobby bro, I don't care if she has golden nipples she ain't worth even a sentence let alone two long posts. Stop putting so much value on women...

Cool story bro, but what's the point of beating yourself over not making a move and then after you want to take her out on a date to a club?????? This exact conversation could run between two female friends. A club really isn't among the top spots for the first date, or, actually, any date at all.

You're texting, asking too many questions, makes you seem insecure. From the first meeting a female to the first sex, you didn't have to ask her a single relevant question - for her name, for her number, is she available on x day at x hour, does she like this place you've picked, your place or her place.... you don't ask questions, you take her hand and you lead.

Marhaba, edik salek?

Babam Istanbul da

Thanks for the comments;

Adam: Dont worry man! I have enough hobby and todo to keep me busy whole year. I just wanted to tell you my wierd story. I dont come here for help or try to fix the things right. What happened is already happened!

Hudpes: Yes youre right! I dont have any point to act like this. I am just so angry to myself. Its because even I know some of the key aspects of how to play game (I am not saying I m am a PUA but I gained enough confidence back in Turkey for ask woman to date) I found myself very wierd and unexpected situation. Usually when you want to date with someone you plan it before you do it. It was impossible in that condition. I also realized that I lost some confidence since then...

UPDATE 1: She replied me this morning. She said "I will think about it ;-)".
I answered like this: "Ok. Let me know when you decided. See you in Friday!"

Not bad even that how I ****ed up 2 days ago!

In addition to date location: She is a kind of hyperactive and crazy and I dont think she will like a very formal date at the begining. I wanted to keep things a little bit casual and relaxed for me and her.

U would make a great girlfriend with all ur crazy planning.

A man wants to plan the sex, not the date....

Yes but Im not looking for one night stand or hookup. Of course sex is important but its not my top priority to get in her pants.

I forgot to mention before. When I added her to my facebook she had a relationship with another guy. When I asked her what the hell is this, She panicked and told me that she had a explanation for this. she was in a LTR with a boy that she is about to break up. She said she was so tired that boy.

So I believe she is not looking just for sex...

astrn said:

UPDATE 1: She replied me this morning. She said "I will think about it ;-)".
I answered like this: "Ok. Let me know when you decided. See you in Friday!"

Not bad even that how I ****ed up 2 days ago!

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Well, you fvcked up 2 days ago and haven't strayed from that path. "Ok. Let me know when you decided. See you in Friday!" Why the hell was that necessary??? Let me expand your response a little:

I understand how you feel, and I am fine with that, but please don't forget to let me know how you've decided and whatever it will be, I will respect it, I promise. But I will see you on Friday, of course you are coming, I am counting on that.

This is possibly the weakest response that you could have sent. The strongest one would be no response. Meek is weak. That's hard truth my man, and probably not an emotionally expensive lesson for you, so learn from it.

As for the future with this chick, pick up your game, bring it up and play to win. You can't lose, only learn.

So how could this help me by getting ghost in that situation. She is still interested in me i know that even my wrong steps.

I am not trying to generate interest. Interest is still here. I am trying to show her that I am in charge. By getting ghost in here would is a waste of her interest. This is no "no contact" challenge.

She already know how I can be shy sometimes. Getting ghost in here would be create the same effect like "I m so afraid I dont know what to say to you!". And her interest will be vanished.

All I can do is now become ghost after my last message to her and wait for her answer until friday, if she had one!

astrn said:

So how could this help me by getting ghost in that situation. She is still interested in me i know that even my wrong steps.

I am not trying to generate interest. Interest is still here. I am trying to show her that I am in charge. By getting ghost in here would is a waste of her interest. This is no "no contact" challenge.

She already know how I can be shy sometimes. Getting ghost in here would be create the same effect like "I m so afraid I dont know what to say to you!". And her interest will be vanished.

All I can do is now become ghost after my last message to her and wait for her answer until friday, if she had one!

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Wake up! She is NOT intrested in you.. intrested woman already know, they dont have to think about anything. Can you imagine a girl saying this to Brad Pit? Get her off the Pedal. Oh yea by the way whats her name so we can all see if she is as hot as you claim? Trust me it wont make a bit of difference in your chances of hooking up with her.

WTF did I just read?

Ok guys you maybe right!

UPDATE 4: She just texted me that we can meet tomorrow on my apartment for movie night.

That means my another roommate invited her to watch some movie together...

I didnt replied anything so I am gonna turn total ghost now on her.

Sorry I cannot give her identity.

UPDATE 5: Now she asks what am I doing...

lmao this sh!t is hilarious. you better make a fvckin move tomorrow night

UPDATE 6

I replied her 2 hrs later of her message: I m on the roof now smoking and reading.

She said: Finally .. i wanted go with u to X place ... but now i am in pygama.

I replied: Why dont you come to the roof now. Actually if you have any cigarettes could you bring some?

WTF is this guys! I still cannot believe why she is so interested me! I dont know if she will show up now on roof or prefer tomorrow with friends.

UPDATE 7

She said about 40 min later: You are very kind but thanks I am in my sleeping outfit now.

And she asks again a weird question: Who is X.

In the same moment I was going down from roof to second floor. There is a open space between second and first floor that where she lives. She was there smoking outside and we saw each other. I have no choice but went to next to her.

We make a small talk bla bla and usual stuff. And I explained her X is my one of the close friend from my home country. I have some pictures with her together on my facebook account. I believe she gets a little bit jealous about it after she saw them.. I explained who she is and she become relaxed.

She said she wont be available friday because she will be going to las vegas with her roommates. But she replied that she was free on thursday so we can go to that place. I said its impossible because on thursday that place is closed. But we can go some other place. And she agreed.

She also say that I am (she means me) still a little bit shy around her. I replied that maybe I am still but not too much anymore. And I asked Why do you so curious about my shyness so much and smiled. She smiled too and she said I dont know. I replied that Ok maybe you shouldnt ask about my shyness anymore. Lets see what will be happen in time and we smiled together.

It is so awkward for me. Normally any girl should ran away a 1000 times before... I think she is from Mars or somewhere...

UPDATE 8

No action tonight...

It was a normal movie night. Thanks to my roommate and my other friends that keep the night very dull... We were 4 ppl. One of them went home because of the content. Movie is good but for this night it sux! Never watch it before so I didnt have any idea about it. Wolves of the Wall Street.

Begining was ok. When the pace was getting lower on movie she gets bored too much... She even got from the couch where she was sitting pretty close to me and lay on the floor after the first 40 min. and keep still like that. I tried to keep her interest level high during sitting next to me but it was impossible with that setting.

She said she had a stomach problem and wanted to go bed after the movie. I take her to her apartment. Low or no interest, so I did nothing...

Time to next her...

astrn said:

UPDATE 8

No action tonight

Low or no interest, so I did nothing...

Time to next her...

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Gee I wonder why...face palmed myself 5 times reading this...brutal erkek, brutal...