I recently went over Bradd80's guide one more time and since I got some spare time I decided to apply his "tests" for my case as this girl went for vacations and I won't see her for another 2 weeks... I guess I need to mention for those who are not familiar with my other thread that I am 23, she is 17. She is Russian, played sports most of her life just like I did (=didnt have time for "life"), quite shy, dated only once (she said that she was actually engaged with 29yr old Italian dude which is fvcking crazy lol), not sure what else to mention.. just her mentality is sooo different from American girls I dated, just absolutely another galaxy
So here it goes, my comments in bold.
- Making eye contact (oh hell yea she does a lot)
- Ignoring her friends even if it is a girls night (n/a for now)
- Slightly touching you (too much touch is a sign of extreme comfort and possible future friendship) (hell yea she does, actually the first girl who started touching me so early into dating process, I think she started doing so on our 1st date, it took me some time to realize that she is actually touching me.. on 2nd I noticed that even during the date)
- Engagement in conversation (hell yea)
- Twirling her hair (during our first dates, she didn’t. She started doing so during our most recent dates)
- Puckering her lips (same as with hairs, actually began doing so after I kissed her)
- Going to the bathroom and coming back all touched up and looking fresh (that’s interesting one, she didn’t go to a bathroom at all during our first dates, not even when we were eating.. She started doing so lately though)
- She asks you if you like certain physical or personality characteristics that she has (I guess so, but it was not that direct. She just casually talking about her weight/diet/that she started going to workout with her mom, I can sense she wanted some feedback. She also talked about her hairs, that they are shorter now and her mother doesn’t like it. Then again about her weight, saying she wanted to lose some more on her legs.. not sure if this qualifies)
1. She responds to messages *** (all her texts are prompt, that is impressive. I think she tried to initiate conversation like “hi, what’s up?” few times, but I was busy and didn’t really follow up that much, so she stopped texting me about general stuff, so in past few weeks we didn’t really text each other that much)
2. She will invite you over for dinner and happily cook for you. She may not pay for meals, and may look at being taken out for dinner as a treat, but she will always even things out by cooking for you. (hell yea, she talked a lot about cooking, told me she cooks well telling me I should try it, later on she even told me before our date that she cooked something for me and invited me to come over, but I said I was busy and ate already.. after the date she did so again, but her father was at home so I told her I had to go..)
3. She will invite you to spend time with her and her friends. When you ask her out, she will say yes and be happy to spend time with you. (not my case, I guess the issue is that she lives freaking 60 miles away from me lol)
4. She will be a positive supporter. You tell her you did something awesome at work? She will praise you. Sore from the gym? A shoulder massage and a protein smoothie will be offered. (I mentioned few times about certain achievements on my job, she didn’t really follow up on that)
5. She may sometimes keep things platonic for a while to get a sense of who you are as a person. Figure out if you have your **** together or if you are just another manchild. Some girls choose to be friends first. Decide whether or not you want to put up with this. (My particular case falls big time over being friends first… I guess I can go thru it as her background is so amazing)
6. A girl that likes you will welcome you into her life, not just her bed. (tough to judge on this one for now)
7. She returns all messages/calls in a timely manner (she does)
8. She accepts all date invites and/or counter-offers if she can't make the suggested date/time (flaked me once, but it was a day before the date. Maybe she indeed she had something to do, or she was on period or some sh1t like that. The next we had, I was treated with her attention big time, invited me over for a dinner and so on)
9. She doesn't flinch when you try to touch her (she doesn’t, but I didn’t really touch until our recent dates. I hugged her on our past two dates, she didn’t flinch at all. I suck here big time, on our last date I put my arm over her back when we were sitting on the bench and didn’t move it all for like 30 minutes. Can’t think about it without a laughter now, I am still such a AFC lol)
10. She is willing to have sex with you as early as the first date. But if she doesn’t fvck you right away, this does not necessarily mean she is not into you either. Some women prefer to wait a bit and get to know you. (no way, probably will take months to get there)
11. She takes initiative to call YOU up and ask YOU out on a date (she called me several times which was surprising as girls rarely call by themselves.. at least in my case. She didn’t ask for a date directly, however, she provided a lot of indirect references)
12. She doesn't go 2 weeks without contacting you - heck, she can barely go 2 DAYS without contacting you (she doesn’t, first weeks she tried to text me from to time, but I don’t like texting so I didn’t really follow up on texting conversations, just answered shortly being polite. We also live far apart, I don’t really use social websites so we haven’t really talked to each other outside of our dates recently)
13. She'll go on vacation and still hit you up every so often (RIGHT NOW, she is on vacation, I didn’t have contact with her since our last date, at all. I am trying to figure out whether I am being too cold or it’s cool, because she has quite a bit of self respect and she wont go wild chasing/overtexting me.. not sure how do I play it)
14. She voluntarily pays for the occasional meal or date outing (yea, I let her pay for some sh1t sometimes. By let I mean that she tells me something “let me pay for this at least” so I tell her “ok”)
15. She doesn't tell you she's "confused" about her feelings for you - there is no confusion because she likes you and ONLY you. (we didn’t talk about that..)
16. She doesn't try to invite friends along on your dates (fvck no, I wouldnt go out with her and her friends at the same time, that’s so lame)
17. She doesn't come over your house and leave you with blue balls (didn’t happen yet)
18. She gives you compliments about the way you look, act, smell, etc. (cant recall that, she talked once about my height and asked her tall I am, told her it varies from 6’2 to 6’4)
19. She will know what your invitation to your house means... and still want to show up (we are not there yet :/ I wish though)
20. The words "let's just be friends" are never spoken by her (on our first date I mentioned that since I moved back to Moscow, I don’t really have any friends here, she told me so we might become ones, but I didn’t follow up there as I didn’t freaking want to her friend lol. Since then she havent used that word at all)
21. It won't matter what your life situation is - you could be poor, living on someone else's couch, with a lousy job and no car, and she'll still want to be seen in public with you (THIS one is very difficult. She is from somewhat rich family so this one is not that easy, at all. One of her first questions when she texted me was “I’ve heard you are busy, you work?” and on the date she asked me again about my job. Anyways, she had to ask about that so we could schedule our time)
22. She won't send you mixed signals - a girl that likes you doesn't want you confused about how she feels about you (not sure about this one, n/a I guess)
23. It won't matter how long it's been since her last boyfriend (2 days, 2 weeks, 2 months, etc.) since she won't have feelings for him after being around you (not sure about this either)
24. She won't keep talking to ex-boyfriends, as this is disrespectful. (she mentioned about that only once after I kissed her, she told me that she was actually engaged, but they broke out last November)
25. You can act like an idiot clown, and she'll be right there with you acting like just as much of an idiotic clown. (not sure about this one)
26. Her friends won't be able to persuade her not to date you. (not sure about this one either)
So here it goes, my comments in bold.
- Making eye contact (oh hell yea she does a lot)
- Ignoring her friends even if it is a girls night (n/a for now)
- Slightly touching you (too much touch is a sign of extreme comfort and possible future friendship) (hell yea she does, actually the first girl who started touching me so early into dating process, I think she started doing so on our 1st date, it took me some time to realize that she is actually touching me.. on 2nd I noticed that even during the date)
- Engagement in conversation (hell yea)
- Twirling her hair (during our first dates, she didn’t. She started doing so during our most recent dates)
- Puckering her lips (same as with hairs, actually began doing so after I kissed her)
- Going to the bathroom and coming back all touched up and looking fresh (that’s interesting one, she didn’t go to a bathroom at all during our first dates, not even when we were eating.. She started doing so lately though)
- She asks you if you like certain physical or personality characteristics that she has (I guess so, but it was not that direct. She just casually talking about her weight/diet/that she started going to workout with her mom, I can sense she wanted some feedback. She also talked about her hairs, that they are shorter now and her mother doesn’t like it. Then again about her weight, saying she wanted to lose some more on her legs.. not sure if this qualifies)
1. She responds to messages *** (all her texts are prompt, that is impressive. I think she tried to initiate conversation like “hi, what’s up?” few times, but I was busy and didn’t really follow up that much, so she stopped texting me about general stuff, so in past few weeks we didn’t really text each other that much)
2. She will invite you over for dinner and happily cook for you. She may not pay for meals, and may look at being taken out for dinner as a treat, but she will always even things out by cooking for you. (hell yea, she talked a lot about cooking, told me she cooks well telling me I should try it, later on she even told me before our date that she cooked something for me and invited me to come over, but I said I was busy and ate already.. after the date she did so again, but her father was at home so I told her I had to go..)
3. She will invite you to spend time with her and her friends. When you ask her out, she will say yes and be happy to spend time with you. (not my case, I guess the issue is that she lives freaking 60 miles away from me lol)
4. She will be a positive supporter. You tell her you did something awesome at work? She will praise you. Sore from the gym? A shoulder massage and a protein smoothie will be offered. (I mentioned few times about certain achievements on my job, she didn’t really follow up on that)
5. She may sometimes keep things platonic for a while to get a sense of who you are as a person. Figure out if you have your **** together or if you are just another manchild. Some girls choose to be friends first. Decide whether or not you want to put up with this. (My particular case falls big time over being friends first… I guess I can go thru it as her background is so amazing)
6. A girl that likes you will welcome you into her life, not just her bed. (tough to judge on this one for now)
7. She returns all messages/calls in a timely manner (she does)
8. She accepts all date invites and/or counter-offers if she can't make the suggested date/time (flaked me once, but it was a day before the date. Maybe she indeed she had something to do, or she was on period or some sh1t like that. The next we had, I was treated with her attention big time, invited me over for a dinner and so on)
9. She doesn't flinch when you try to touch her (she doesn’t, but I didn’t really touch until our recent dates. I hugged her on our past two dates, she didn’t flinch at all. I suck here big time, on our last date I put my arm over her back when we were sitting on the bench and didn’t move it all for like 30 minutes. Can’t think about it without a laughter now, I am still such a AFC lol)
10. She is willing to have sex with you as early as the first date. But if she doesn’t fvck you right away, this does not necessarily mean she is not into you either. Some women prefer to wait a bit and get to know you. (no way, probably will take months to get there)
11. She takes initiative to call YOU up and ask YOU out on a date (she called me several times which was surprising as girls rarely call by themselves.. at least in my case. She didn’t ask for a date directly, however, she provided a lot of indirect references)
12. She doesn't go 2 weeks without contacting you - heck, she can barely go 2 DAYS without contacting you (she doesn’t, first weeks she tried to text me from to time, but I don’t like texting so I didn’t really follow up on texting conversations, just answered shortly being polite. We also live far apart, I don’t really use social websites so we haven’t really talked to each other outside of our dates recently)
13. She'll go on vacation and still hit you up every so often (RIGHT NOW, she is on vacation, I didn’t have contact with her since our last date, at all. I am trying to figure out whether I am being too cold or it’s cool, because she has quite a bit of self respect and she wont go wild chasing/overtexting me.. not sure how do I play it)
14. She voluntarily pays for the occasional meal or date outing (yea, I let her pay for some sh1t sometimes. By let I mean that she tells me something “let me pay for this at least” so I tell her “ok”)
15. She doesn't tell you she's "confused" about her feelings for you - there is no confusion because she likes you and ONLY you. (we didn’t talk about that..)
16. She doesn't try to invite friends along on your dates (fvck no, I wouldnt go out with her and her friends at the same time, that’s so lame)
17. She doesn't come over your house and leave you with blue balls (didn’t happen yet)
18. She gives you compliments about the way you look, act, smell, etc. (cant recall that, she talked once about my height and asked her tall I am, told her it varies from 6’2 to 6’4)
19. She will know what your invitation to your house means... and still want to show up (we are not there yet :/ I wish though)
20. The words "let's just be friends" are never spoken by her (on our first date I mentioned that since I moved back to Moscow, I don’t really have any friends here, she told me so we might become ones, but I didn’t follow up there as I didn’t freaking want to her friend lol. Since then she havent used that word at all)
21. It won't matter what your life situation is - you could be poor, living on someone else's couch, with a lousy job and no car, and she'll still want to be seen in public with you (THIS one is very difficult. She is from somewhat rich family so this one is not that easy, at all. One of her first questions when she texted me was “I’ve heard you are busy, you work?” and on the date she asked me again about my job. Anyways, she had to ask about that so we could schedule our time)
22. She won't send you mixed signals - a girl that likes you doesn't want you confused about how she feels about you (not sure about this one, n/a I guess)
23. It won't matter how long it's been since her last boyfriend (2 days, 2 weeks, 2 months, etc.) since she won't have feelings for him after being around you (not sure about this either)
24. She won't keep talking to ex-boyfriends, as this is disrespectful. (she mentioned about that only once after I kissed her, she told me that she was actually engaged, but they broke out last November)
25. You can act like an idiot clown, and she'll be right there with you acting like just as much of an idiotic clown. (not sure about this one)
26. Her friends won't be able to persuade her not to date you. (not sure about this one either)
