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I'm going to make a thread on my approaches. I have been getting PM's how I'm getting dates, so here it is. Critique, learn and apply my experiences. Feel free to share your own in this thread.

Building a safety net:

When I walked in I immediately approached a set of 2 women in their 30's just because they gave me eye contact. One of them initiated kino with me and the flood gates were open. I was able to go around and chat people up comfortably, knowing there was a fallback.

The approach:

I introduced myself to my target's group and made sure to befriend all the guys. Asking them questions, making stupid comments to exude some laughter from them - Pretty much displaying I'm The GUY. They bought into it. I took the fat one to dance, she sucked but I didn't care. I danced with the all in the order of attractiveness. Finally danced with my target. She was very touchy feely, like the dog you left alone and coming home from work. It was very easy to isolate since the group knows me and trusts me. After I ignored her for the rest of the night and danced with others outside of the social group. I would conveniently come back to my intial safety net group just to let them know I didn't forget about them. The night closes, and I approached my target group again. Went around in circles giving them hugs and banter just trying to get a laugh or smile from them. I made sure my target was last and simply told her - "Hey Jessica, let's hang out sometime, what's your number" Her name was Jennifer lol. The level of interest is still there through texts and calls.


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Nice dude. Sounds like you have experience already. You're physically escalating as well. Solid stuff. What do you feel is your current sticking point? Did you K close her? Move her around the club/isolate her?

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Vice said:
Nice dude. Sounds like you have experience already. You're physically escalating as well. Solid stuff. What do you feel is your current sticking point? Did you K close her? Move her around the club/isolate her?

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My stinking point, according to my wing, is that I am too touchy in the beginning of the approach. In my opinion, if they feed off your energy and find you remotely presentable, they'll brush it off. The ones that reject me because of that should be a blessing since they are going to reject me later anyways. I don't know if I should test that out (holding back kino.) I'm more of the type to think - reject me right now so I can move on.

My next stinking point would probably be transition from isolation to seduction/escalation. Most of my ONS comes when it naturally progressed to seduction and intimacy. I had no control over it, if I could make that transition, my night game would be so much more effective. Atom Smasher had an idea - "Do you know how to purr" I've been meaning to use that line for a long time, but it simply never came across.

The target on the field report did not seem to be the 'impulsive' type. She was sipping on only water the entire night. She would never turn down a dance when asked, even from ugly men - I had a 'just being nice' attitude from her. So, I did not pursue any seduction or escalation. I just made myself known that I am fun, socially intelligent and have options through the corner of her eye. I knew that chances of her being receptive to groping or even a kiss close was pretty low. I was good with the number. Today I took her on a 2 hour date, worth mentioning I asked her if she wanted another beer - She said "Why? I already had one." We kissed closed at the end and she put her head on my chest for about 5 seconds after. I received and Thank You text and an invitation to hang out with her again. She's seems like a very nice girl.




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I'll go next, mine was a different goal in mind.

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Backdrop Where in a club, my mate has told me he wants to pick up. Since I havent seen him in a while, I tell him I'd wingman it for him like old times. We look around until we see 4 girls, 2 blondes 1 brunette and a redhead. My mate says I want the brunette, I say to him "Dude, you make the first move and I'll take care of the rest." He approaches.


The Approach: My mate appraoches and begins to chat-up, while I wait and then introduce myself to her friends. There open at first as I talk to the redhead for a minute then begin to engage the whole group. My goal is to give my mate enough time to get the brunette's number, yet I have to be charismatic to have her friends attention for long enough. After finding out the basic info (name, age) I start some light negging:

"That bags huge, please tell me you have a gun in there....can I shoot it?"

I find out that its a 21st, so I say lets do some shots to celebrate, they politely refuse since there driving, to which I reply:

"Ladies, dont get me confused, I'm not saying lets get drinks, coz Im one of those guys with no game, trying to buy you a drink coz I think your cute...Its your friends 21st....you gotta fukking drink"

I took them to the bar, so they can have their backs to their friend and where I can see my mate & the brunette. I ended up getting them a glass of water. Just as I gave them i noticed, my mate had gotten his phone out, and was getting the brunettes number. I politely ended the convo with the girls and told them it was a pleasure to meet them, I tried to get the redheads number, yet found out they all were in LTR with their bf's who were in the club somewhere. I ended up seeing them later, and got some big greasies from 3 guys. Yet I couldnt help not smiling....mission accomplished.



Thought you guys might enjoy that
 

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Setup: My bud and I roll to our favorite dive bar, where there's dancing on Friday nights after 11. Dancehall, pop, hip-hop, etc. I'm not really feeling it this particular Friday, so we're at the end of the bar chatting with the bartender who's my bud's roommate. Suddenly there's a pool of light halfway down the bar and into it emerges this smoking hot blonde. It's one of those stupid movie moments where the lights just fall perfectly on a girl, and she's got that vibe like she's bored and waiting for a guy to sweep her into his world. I actually recognize her from coming into my business a year prior. I was taken (and AFC) at the time, but now that is not the case. Challenge Accepted.

Approach: She leaves the bar with a drink, and I tell my bud "be right back." I approach strongly through the dancing throng, walk right up to her and say "You've been in my business before. You're cute as f*ck. Let's dance." Her best friend is standing beside her and looks visibly impressed with my forthrightness. The target, a bit stunned, goes "ok" and we're off to the races.

She's not much of a dancer, and she's a little too dour, but we introduce ourselves, dance for a bit, then move outside for her to smoke. She (let's call her Wendy) lays off me a little bit, so I put the friendly vibes towards her best friend (who is not remotely single) and have her laughing and enjoying herself. Soon a couple more of her friends join, and they're eating it up. I'm having a great time, and Wendy rejoins the conversation. We vibe, get to know each other a little, then she moves off and I continue charming her friends. In the process I find out she's 21, broke up with her only LTR earlier in the year and then promptly went to South America for eight months. She's just now done with school and traveling and is partying before Christmas break.

Soon it's closing time, and I look at Wendy and say "Let's hang. What's your #?" In the process of getting it, I learn that on Sunday she's going home for Christmas for a month, and so my window is the next (Saturday) night. I decide to go for it and ask "well, what are you doing tomorrow night?" Her best friend immediately blurts out "nothing!" to give me the assist. We make plans to meet up, and I head home.

Round 2: The next night I head to my favorite bar, flirt with the cute waitress who I've f*cked, and meet up with a bud. I've been texting with Wendy, who attended graduation earlier in the day for her friends, some of whom she's still hanging out with. I tell her to bring them all to the bar I'm at, and soon, Wendy and a group of six roll in. Game time!

I get the good vibes flowing with her friends again, ignoring Wendy a little bit but also bringing my attention back to her when I sense she's wilting. My bud (who's a big gay bear) is helping me keep everyone social and feeling good, and putting in a good word to Wendy for me when I'm otherwise engaged. Soon they're all itching to roll, so we pile into a van and head to a house party. It's been a long time since I've been at a college house party, but I make the rounds and get on the good foot with people. We leave after half an hour and head to a warehouse dance party with free liquor (!) that one of Wendy's friends had heard about.

A quick aside here - I was mentally a little worried about Wendy constantly drifting away from me during the course of these social interactions. I played it cool and charmed her friends, but there was a definite question of whether she was into me. ALWAYS KEEP YOUR FRAME. I did in this situation and it paid off.

At the warehouse party, I lose track of her for fifteen minutes (there were hundreds of people there) but say hello and chat with a bunch of folks I know instead. Eventually Wendy and I find each other and start dancing, this time much closer. I can tell we're vibing, I'm touching her lower back and she's resting her head on my shoulder. I've still not kissed her at this point, as I don't like making out in public. She's tipsy but I'm sober as a judge - I was having too much fun to drink. Soon the party's over, and I ask her back to mine for coffee. We find her friends and say goodbye.

At mine, we're on the couch drinking decaf and cuddling. I'm touching her leg, running my hands over hers, and doing some comfort building - talking about family, loss, and the meaning of things. I have Bill Evans on the stereo. After half an hour I tell her to stand up so I can kiss her. She obliges, I grab the back of her hair and kiss her hard. Soon we're back on the couch, she's straddling me, and I tell her we're going to the bedroom. She tells me that she first thought I was "too cute to f*ck" but that she's changing her mind. By the time we're done making love there's lady goodness all over the floor and we lay in bed talking for a couple hours before I drive her home. She leaves for a month the next day.

Conclusion: We text / Facebook back and forth a bit while she's gone but I can tell she's back in serious life mode and this was a party weekend aberration. She's back at home with her family and is grounded again. This upcoming semester is her last in college and she's got her game face on. We have a drink a month later and vibe a bit but I can tell she's done, so I tell her that's cool and NEXT.

I think I could have played the text game better while she was gone. She said I was a bit persistent, even though it was just a short exchange once every 3-4 days. It's definitely hard to keep momentum for a month away after just one lay, and my attempt to keep that momentum probably showed up as try-hard. She seemed concerned about our age difference also. But I think I just happened to be the guy with decent game that made a strong move at the perfect time, and that lay might not have happened otherwise. Overall, good lessons to be learned and things to improve upon, but I got the close.
 
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old_skoolr said:
The Approach: My mate appraoches and begins to chat-up, while I wait and then introduce myself to her friends. There open at first as I talk to the redhead for a minute then begin to engage the whole group. My goal is to give my mate enough time to get the brunette's number, yet I have to be charismatic to have her friends attention for long enough. After finding out the basic info (name, age) I start some light negging:

"That bags huge, please tell me you have a gun in there....can I shoot it?"

I find out that its a 21st, so I say lets do some shots to celebrate, they politely refuse since there driving, to which I reply:

"Ladies, dont get me confused, I'm not saying lets get drinks, coz Im one of those guys with no game, trying to buy you a drink coz I think your cute...Its your friends 21st....you gotta fukking drink"

I took them to the bar, so they can have their backs to their friend and where I can see my mate & the brunette. I ended up getting them a glass of water. Just as I gave them i noticed, my mate had gotten his phone out, and was getting the brunettes number. I politely ended the convo with the girls and told them it was a pleasure to meet them, I tried to get the redheads number, yet found out they all were in LTR with their bf's who were in the club somewhere. I ended up seeing them later, and got some big greasies from 3 guys. Yet I couldnt help not smiling....mission accomplished.



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My opinion for what it is worth.

You did very well to hold the conversation with the group to have your wing get the number. This can also work in your favor as others in the bar see you entertaining a group of 3 women. I'm not sure if the number your buddy got means anything since it was almost a quick out. Even if you are a wing, never eject unless they reject. You guys did build some rapport with the group, why stop there? You suggesting drinks and getting water most likely ruined any chances you or your friend had of making progress, since it appears cheap/assho|e. I would use a different approach. You can start a guessing game and prod in to see how they know each other and build some conversation from there. Good on you for getting out there.



noheroes said:
Approach: She leaves the bar with a drink, and I tell my bud "be right back." I approach strongly through the dancing throng, walk right up to her and say "You've been in my business before. You're cute as f*ck. Let's dance." Her best friend is standing beside her and looks visibly impressed with my forthrightness. The target, a bit stunned, goes "ok" and we're off to the races.

She's not much of a dancer, and she's a little too dour, but we introduce ourselves, dance for a bit, then move outside for her to smoke. She (let's call her Wendy) lays off me a little bit, so I put the friendly vibes towards her best friend (who is not remotely single) and have her laughing and enjoying herself. Soon a couple more of her friends join, and they're eating it up. I'm having a great time, and Wendy rejoins the conversation. We vibe, get to know each other a little, then she moves off and I continue charming her friends. In the process I find out she's 21, broke up with her only LTR earlier in the year and then promptly went to South America for eight months. She's just now done with school and traveling and is partying before Christmas break.

Soon it's closing time, and I look at Wendy and say "Let's hang. What's your #?" In the process of getting it, I learn that on Sunday she's going home for Christmas for a month, and so my window is the next (Saturday) night. I decide to go for it and ask "well, what are you doing tomorrow night?" Her best friend immediately blurts out "nothing!" to give me the assist. We make plans to meet up, and I head home.
My opinion as well, if you don't mind.

You'll notice that everyone in a group follows the herd mentality. Regardless if it is all men, all women or a mix. When you approach the herd, they will ALL be thinking the same thing. WHO THE FVCK ARE YOU? The guys are going to prop the herd to take a defensive approach. Most of the time, I introduce myself to the guys first and get buddy buddy with them. A little too buddy buddy sometimes to draw the attention of the women in the group. Once the guys let their guard down, the women will too. What you did was be friendly and charming with one of them and the entire group ensued. Well played.
 
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After Super Bowl Sunday, my wing and I were sniffing for Denver Broncos fan-girl sorrows. We started out at the arcade bar and noticed 2 chicks in the middle sitting down. We gave each other a look - First approach of the night, let's get this rejection out of the way. We picked our target and moved in, "Hey! I'm BeDJ." 5-10 minutes into the conversation, I had very little vibe so I introduced my target to my wing on a 'shared' interest. He picked up the clue and we did the ol' switcheroo.

I should mention that my wing and I have two unique personalities so we can salvage some sets through different conversations. Off the bat, I neg her, "You don't normally wear that funky shawl, do you?" During the conversation I used someone of the following tactics:

Being assertive
I asked her what she was drinking and told her I've never tried hard cider. I immediately took a sip from her bottle and she was okay with that. I followed it up with, 'don't tell me this is your drink of choice.' This led to drinking conversations.

Creating a shared world

I brought up, "You girls are sitting here to people watch, aren't you?" Following up on that, I asked her what people would think about what we were wearing. This led to me asking if they think we were husband and wife by the way we both dressed. I then disqualified her by playfully listing reasons why I would divorce her.

"Are you gay?" Bait
This is a new bait that I'm going to start using to draw out the 3 words from my target. I think this is a good setup to take it to the next level. Here was how I drew it out during the approach (It was about 20 minutes into the conversation)

I totally caught that guy checking me out!
Are you gay?
Why would you ask that?
Blah blah blah
Let's see
(Immediately went in for the kiss)

She wasn't receptive, nor was she repulsed. I may have pulled it too early without isolation, her twin sister was next to her at the time talking to my wing. After that semi-rejection, I fired, "So what does that tell you?" without hesitation. If I looked defeated, apologetic or surprised, I was a goner. It was brushed off pretty quick and she was more receptive to kino. 5-10 minutes later, I tried to isolate by bringing her to the bar and having her order my drink. No go. Since she was faced towards the bar, I began to flirt with one of the chicks there while ordering my drink. In the corner of my eye, my target was staring at me. I come back and sit next to my wing and we had a crossfire discussion. It was the perfect isolation maneuver since it gave him a reason to pull his target aside, leaving me with mine. After more bullsh!t conversation and free touching, there was no way to get further physical intimacy given the environment. I told her we were hanging out sometime this week and got the number close.
 

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BeDJ said:
After Super Bowl Sunday, my wing and I were sniffing for Denver Broncos fan-girl sorrows. We started out at the arcade bar and noticed 2 chicks in the middle sitting down. We gave each other a look - First approach of the night, let's get this rejection out of the way. We picked our target and moved in, "Hey! I'm BeDJ." 5-10 minutes into the conversation, I had very little vibe so I introduced my target to my wing on a 'shared' interest. He picked up the clue and we did the ol' switcheroo.

I should mention that my wing and I have two unique personalities so we can salvage some sets through different conversations. Off the bat, I neg her, "You don't normally wear that funky shawl, do you?" During the conversation I used someone of the following tactics:

Being assertive
I asked her what she was drinking and told her I've never tried hard cider. I immediately took a sip from her bottle and she was okay with that. I followed it up with, 'don't tell me this is your drink of choice.' This led to drinking conversations.

Creating a shared world

I brought up, "You girls are sitting here to people watch, aren't you?" Following up on that, I asked her what people would think about what we were wearing. This led to me asking if they think we were husband and wife by the way we both dressed. I then disqualified her by playfully listing reasons why I would divorce her.

"Are you gay?" Bait
This is a new bait that I'm going to start using to draw out the 3 words from my target. I think this is a good setup to take it to the next level. Here was how I drew it out during the approach (It was about 20 minutes into the conversation)

I totally caught that guy checking me out!
Are you gay?
Why would you ask that?
Blah blah blah
Let's see
(Immediately went in for the kiss)

She wasn't receptive, nor was she repulsed. I may have pulled it too early without isolation, her twin sister was next to her at the time talking to my wing. After that semi-rejection, I fired, "So what does that tell you?" without hesitation. If I looked defeated, apologetic or surprised, I was a goner. It was brushed off pretty quick and she was more receptive to kino. 5-10 minutes later, I tried to isolate by bringing her to the bar and having her order my drink. No go. Since she was faced towards the bar, I began to flirt with one of the chicks there while ordering my drink. In the corner of my eye, my target was staring at me. I come back and sit next to my wing and we had a crossfire discussion. It was the perfect isolation maneuver since it gave him a reason to pull his target aside, leaving me with mine. After more bullsh!t conversation and free touching, there was no way to get further physical intimacy given the environment. I told her we were hanging out sometime this week and got the number close.
Excellent post :up:
 

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