Women lose Interest after I go out with them

SamTheHobit · Jan 5, 2014

Went out with a girl for coffee a week back.

Conversation was good. She seemed interested. Made out with her after I dropped her off at her house.

Anyway I sent her some messages and I get very despondent reply's.

I would of asked her to do something again but Ive had a pretty sick.

So Maybe I'm reading to much into this but can anyone explain to me why this sh1t happens..

Does It all just come down to looks can be deceptive?

TheException · Jan 5, 2014

SamTheHobit said:
So Maybe I'm reading to much into this but can anyone explain to me why this sh1t happens..

Does It all just come down to looks can be deceptive?

Sometimes it just happens....

Could be a million reasons. The bigger issue here is why do you care? I understand it can feel like a disappointment to progress with a girl, only to have her ignore you, but you need to learn how to handle these type of situations.

A woman that doesnt show extremely high interest and the willingness to be with you, shouldnt even be worth the time it takes to THINK about her. Ive had women who showed high interest and then for some reason or another(she was dating another guy and liked him more, I acted clingy/desperate, etc) she would become low interest. At the time I wouldnt understand and instead try harder to make her like me......boy is that the WRONG way to go about it.

Now....if a girl goes from high interest to low interest....I practically ignore her until she contacts me. You will be surprised how often a girl from your past will actually hit you up to "see how you re doing" in hopes that you ask to hang out.

Just dont get down on yourself. You wouldnt care if you had multiple women in your life.....just go out and meet more of them. Someone will display high interest if you are doing the correct things.

nismo-4 · Jan 5, 2014

All women have multiple options. Be glad she said yes to you.

It seems easy as hell to make a woman have low interest. Women know how to fake interest level.

But maybe she didn't find you attractive? The Brad Pitt lookalike asked her out? She needed an ego boost? Who knows. AFAIC, your princess is in another castle. Just go ghost.

SamTheHobit · Jan 5, 2014

Thanks for the above posts it's what I need to hear.

But nothing breaks you down more when you have a little bit of hope and that gets smashed to pieces.

I'm sure some people here can relate.

Jair213 · Jan 5, 2014

SamTheHobit said:
Thanks for the above posts it's what I need to hear.

But nothing breaks you down more when you have a little bit of hope and that gets smashed to pieces.

I'm sure some people here can relate.

Yep I could relate .. sucks bro

Formerlyrossitheking · Jan 5, 2014

nismo-4 said:
All women have multiple options. Be glad she said yes to you.

It seems easy as hell to make a woman have low interest. Women know how to fake interest level.

But maybe she didn't find you attractive? The Brad Pitt lookalike asked her out? She needed an ego boost? Who knows. AFAIC, your princess is in another castle. Just go ghost.

Or maybe she does find you attractive and is faking low interest.

One way to find out - ask her out again and see what she says. Then you will know rather than assuming.

rushing dude 123 · Jan 5, 2014

hmmm considering the title of the post, it looks like you are the common denominator of these reactions, so it could potentially be either something you did or something you didn't do.

She seems interested on the date and allows you to go for a kiss close and date seems to go well, so your date game looks ok and it can be safe to assume everything done up until these point is kool. Unless it is kind of more friendly interest and she might like you and just felt obliged to kiss you, but there isn't really any really attraction there. In that case be a bit more playful, teasy and play up the kino more.

The more likely problem is going to be something you did or didn't do after the date. So tell me about these texts you sent her? Did you send many in a short period of time? Didn't happen to put the I love you in any of them lol.

I think like it was said before there should be an element of "if this girl is going to be flaky then who cares I got lots of other options", but if it is a consistent problem. Then sometimes it is good to look on yourself and see it might be a problem with how someone is perceiving your actions and improve yourself in this manner. Don't compromise your soul values though, but if i'm spouting some needy stuff in text there is nothing wrong with correcting it and looking into why I am actually doing that.

Poop1337 · Jan 5, 2014

Girls are flakey. I've had sex with them telling me they love me then more sex only to have them disappear. Enjoy what you got and don't care about the ones that disappear.

Coffee dates are lame. Go for drinks. If that's not an option try to figure out something better than coffee. You should also be escalating things physically as much as possible. Go for the lay.

Jariel · Jan 5, 2014

Nothing quite as frustrating as being rejected and not knowing why. I actually made a point of asking a few girls why (the cool ones who were mature and open) and got a few different answers. One was that I was too fidgety and restless, another said I seemed tense and nervous and kept looking around, another said she felt I was too laidback and she wanted someone more into partying, others said we just didn't have enough common ground, one said she felt I wanted more than she could offer, and others said there was someone else in the picture or they were still getting over their ex.

You can see I've had a lot of rejections. It happens, even when some of these girls have initiated kissing, or after we had sex or fooled around, and despite the physical attraction being high.

Sometimes it's as simple as two people not being compatible.

However, you have to understand that some girls will play cool after a date and they're still very interested. I've had that a few times and I'm seeing someone who is like that now. Basically, they either don't want to come on too strong and scare you off or they want to keep things cool and casual.

The biggest mistakes you can make here is to push for answers on where you stand or to try to escalate when they're holding back. In these cases, keep the texting short and make a date.

HyperAnalyze · Jan 6, 2014

#1 rule in dating. NEVER initiate a conversation after the date is over. LET HER wonder what you thought of the date. BE mysterious.

You were texting her and being too needy after the date. Her interest level drops.

Also, you need to go sexual early in the date. Kiss at the end of the date are you kidding??

If the end result is sex, you need to go for the kiss within the first 10-15 minutes. OR as soon as you build up rapport and buying temperature.

Don't waste your time on dates like that.

SamTheHobit · Jan 6, 2014

I'll update this thread and let you guys know what comes of this girl.

I've got the feeling nothing will.

Guess we shall see.

trent_afc · Jan 6, 2014

HyperAnalyze said:
If the end result is sex, you need to go for the kiss within the first 10-15 minutes. OR as soon as you build up rapport and buying temperature.

Do you have a link to a guide/walkthrough/something on this? Thanks

SamTheHobit · Jan 6, 2014

trent_afc said:
Do you have a link to a guide/walkthrough/something on this? Thanks

It's pickup techniques.

Not sure it work all to well. On anything decent anyway.

JohnChops · Jan 6, 2014

nismo-4 said:
All women have multiple options. Be glad she said yes to you.

It seems easy as hell to make a woman have low interest. Women know how to fake interest level.

But maybe she didn't find you attractive? The Brad Pitt lookalike asked her out? She needed an ego boost? Who knows. AFAIC, your princess is in another castle. Just go ghost.

if one more person brings up how they compare themselves to brad pitt, ill freak the fvck out. Please , we get it, girls are shallow and some arent.

Best to not ponder why Sam and simply move to the next available pvssy.

nismo-4 · Jan 6, 2014

SamTheHobit said:
I'll update this thread and let you guys know what comes of this girl.

I've got the feeling nothing will.

Guess we shall see.

Don't hold your breath. Just move on.

GS750 · Jan 6, 2014

Rejection sucks yeah. Just remind yourself that it's a numbers game and maybe she just has poor taste.

SamTheHobit · Jan 12, 2014

Update...

Any way so Instead of calling it quits I decided I had nothing to lose..

So I asked if she had any Plans for the weekend etc..

then we made plans for today.

Took her for some drinks then I decided we should go to the park.

Went to the park then As we got out the car I decided to hold her hand. Not sure if holding hands is afc??

Found a place In the shade to sit. I let her do most of the talking..

She was going on about something so i just grabbed her and kissed her while we were sitting then she said I don't normally kiss so early on, so I kissed her again haha

I kinda felt the conversation was strained alot of the time. But Im not gonna put to much thought into it.

Guess I might of acted too nice? Unless nice mean friend zone? IDK.

Guess well see if anything comes from this..

Plus im 80 percent she's a virgin fingers crossed on that one.

PlayHer Man · Jan 12, 2014

SamTheHobit said:
Update...

Any way so Instead of calling it quits I decided I had nothing to lose..

So I asked if she had any Plans for the weekend etc..

then we made plans for today.

Took her for some drinks then I decided we should go to the park.

Went to the park then As we got out the car I decided to hold her hand. Not sure if holding hands is afc??

Found a place In the shade to sit. I let her do most of the talking..

She was going on about something so i just grabbed her and kissed her while we were sitting then she said I don't normally kiss so early on, so I kissed her again haha

I kinda felt the conversation was strained alot of the time. But Im not gonna put to much thought into it.

Guess I might of acted too nice? Unless nice mean friend zone? IDK.

Guess well see if anything comes from this..

Plus im 80 percent she's a virgin fingers crossed on that one.

A man can never be too bold. The only women who have harsh reactions to bold moves are women who:

- Are not sexually attracted to you
- Want a beta fag for a boyfriend
- Want a beta orbiter

Rejection is your friend and the earlier the better. Barking up the wrong tree is a waste of time. As long as your are getting physical (kissing, inappropriate touching) you're on the right track. Just keep going and don't over-think it.

You should also have your eyes open for other plates to spin. Don't focus too much on this one girl. She hasn't earned that privilege yet.

Harry Wilmington · Jan 12, 2014

2 cents added: Aside from the part about sex and kissing her within the first 15 minutes, the rest of HyperAnalyze's comment is spot on. The reason the majority of your dates don't result in you getting another one is because you're being too available too soon, which shows neediness. I promise you, if you follow the following pattern for all future women, you will get better results:

1. Get her info
2. Call her (don't text) and ask her out for 2 days or more later than the day you called. Make sure it's not a Friday or Saturday when you first start going out with a woman.
3. Wait until the day you actually see her to communicate with her again. No texting her, no hitting her up the day of to make sure the date's going to happen - if anything, let HER be the one to do that; otherwise, once you set the time and place for the date, just show up.
4. Show her a GREAT time on the date. Don't start touching her until she breaks the touch barrier first
5. At the end of the date, go in for the kiss. Nothing too over-the-top, but nice enough for her to remember.
6. Don't contact her for a minimum of 4 days
7. On day 4, hit her up and ask her out again. Assuming she likes you, she'll say "yes."
8. Repeat steps 2 through 7 until she asks you to be the boyfriend.

It's really, REALLY that simple. Hope this helps! (Oh, and if you need more help, check out my podcast, link is in my signature!)

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