Mr Wright
Master Don Juan
Firstly, it seems a lot of you are making a dogs dinner of getting women by reading too much and not doing enough.
Whether you like it or not your success should be judged on how much effort you put in. If you're writing field reports often or spending lots of time dating online etc, if you arent meeting up with these girls regularly, no matter what spin you want to put on it, you are failing. Accept that and move on.
Over time I have worked out what works for myself and filtered out the rest of the crap and have isolated this. What I write about works best for me in all situations, whether it's during the day, in a club, meeting girls through social circle. But I dont do any online game anymore because I get filtered in with the riff raff.
Part 1
Ask yourself one question: Have you ever managed to bang a girl who initially did not like you? The answer is probably not, which means that if a girl is not showing interest early on, she probably wont be so stop wasting your time chasing shadows. The best guys know when they're wasting their time with a chick and that can only really come from reading situations.
So simply do this. Split girls into 3 catergories: Yes, no and maybe girls.
It's that simple and here's a little on each type of girl:
Yes = Don't fvck it up, less is more, you're not trying to impress her if she already wants you. If you're in a club, walk her out of there. If you're in a more restricted situation, make solid plans with her(yes tell her what you want to do so she can sit there at home and daydream about it) and exchange numbers then set up a date close to your place so you can easily walk her back. Dating these girls should be easy, from my experience some of the even make jokes about how little resistance they are putting up. The amount of yes girls you get will vary depending on superficial factors like looks, status etc, it's just how it is. Good looking guys will naturally have more girls who want to date them compared to even an average looking guy. Understand, accept and play the system.
No = I know they call it game but if she's not into you, stop wasting your time and walk away. Don't worry about being rude because trust me she probably wants you out of there too. A firm no will rarely become a yes but most of the time you will be encountering no girls and thinking they are a maybe because they're nice and smile at your jokes but don't be fooled her actions will not lie. This isn't a Hugh Grant movie, you wont get the girl. Read later on how to identify a no girl pretending to be a maybe.
Maybe = This is where you will get most of your headaches. Those girls who seem like they're into you but you're just not sure. If you're in a club, you can test if shes attracted by getting her to move with you, if she does, you still have work to do but you can turn it around. If she doesn't move with you but keeps engaging you, tease her, flirt then try again. In terms of dating and trying to get the girls in your phonebook out on a date, a maybe girl will be texting you back but will be a little hesitant when it comes to meeting up. Personally I think my texting is pretty awful so I keep it simple, strictly a logistical and the occasional text to just stay on radar and that's it. But the goal over text is to get her out but from my experience maybe girls are tricky to get out over text but it can be done. Getting into the how would take a whole new thread and I believe other people out there could explain it better than I can.
If you're not good at reading women's signals, you will be destined to have a bunch of maybe girls hanging around your life. They'll flake on you and be forever leaving you thinking that you'll get her next week. No guy on here can tell you what type of girl she is because we cannot see the full interaction, the only way you will learn is by trying something and making a mistake.
Part 2
These four things are pretty much the only things I actively think about when I'm with a girl these days because they cover everything so well. I'll briefly cover the topics and give a situation where using it as really paid off for me.
Confidence
I understand that the term confidence is a bit of a nebulous concept and that if you don't have any it's hard to generate it from no where.
If you think using the yes, no or maybe concept you will need confidence in order to keep approaching women to find the right options for you because there are bucket loads of women out there, you just have to meet them all.
Confidence is attractive to women because you exude dominance and provide the leadership she craves. Confidence is not having to make out with her but knowing shes coming home with you anyway. Confidence is knowing you dont have to grind your d!ck on her in the club to turn her on. Confidence is inviting her around for wine but never have to open the bottle. Confidence is just knowing women find you attractive.
Escalation
Escalating just means moving the interaction forward. Sometimes, you're talking to a girl and you just don't know what to do. Fortunately you can escalate and that does not mean it has to be something sexual. It may just be holding eye contact a little bit longer or touching her in a more sexual manor. Escalation will weed out the no girls who are masquerading as maybe girls, that may not mean you have a yes girl but you know you're not completely wasting your time if she responds well to escalation.
When I go to talk to a girl, if she responds well from the get go, I ramp it up a little but you dont want to go too far. But once you get to a certain point and you know it could well be on, like you it's just the two of you but she's not quite giving in. Remember persistence is sexy. Test her limits.
Leading
For women, leading is sexy. For you, it may be a chore but it will be worth it. Leading means you take charge of the situation. Have an idea in your head rather than spend your time waffling about like a pansy. I can't remember where I heard this, but a good quotation is "the dynamics between a man and a woman is like water flowing down a river, the man is the river bank; sturdy and unmoving. Whilst the woman is the water, fast, unpredictable but all within the confines of the banks of the river."
Have a plan, know what you're doing and dont be afraid to implement it due to fear.
If you do not lead, you will end up with women who will dominate you and take whatever they want. A family friend of mine(female) basically just organised her proposal, when the wedding is and when they're going to try for a baby. Now I've met the guy and hes a total dweeb, and thats why hes getting totally dominated by his woman.
That also means in a relationship you lead and guide your woman. As soon as you let up, you'll get run over, chicks are clever like that.
Abundance
Have the power to walk away. Too many guys show their hands way too early so get ruthlessly manipulated by women who know that they can toy with you because you have no other options. No more, even if you have no other options for now, dont put up with it. Walk away. If you can just walk away, she has no way to manipulate you, she can either play ball or can just watch your sweet a$$ walk away. This site bangs on about it enough, spin plates, it will prevent you from being hung up to dry.
The more girls you talk to the quicker you'll be able to identify a girl who is not worth your time of day and you'll easily be able to walk away from her without having negative emotions.
Final Thoughts
In other words, once you're talking to a girl, screen her quickly and stop lying to yourself. Work on getting your awareness up because the proof will be in the pudding, if shes not responding well to your texts or wont meet you one on one, shes probably not that into you. This works well for me, it may not be your cup of tea but I recommend you keep it in mind.
Happy hunting boys
Whether you like it or not your success should be judged on how much effort you put in. If you're writing field reports often or spending lots of time dating online etc, if you arent meeting up with these girls regularly, no matter what spin you want to put on it, you are failing. Accept that and move on.
Over time I have worked out what works for myself and filtered out the rest of the crap and have isolated this. What I write about works best for me in all situations, whether it's during the day, in a club, meeting girls through social circle. But I dont do any online game anymore because I get filtered in with the riff raff.
Part 1
Ask yourself one question: Have you ever managed to bang a girl who initially did not like you? The answer is probably not, which means that if a girl is not showing interest early on, she probably wont be so stop wasting your time chasing shadows. The best guys know when they're wasting their time with a chick and that can only really come from reading situations.
So simply do this. Split girls into 3 catergories: Yes, no and maybe girls.
It's that simple and here's a little on each type of girl:
Yes = Don't fvck it up, less is more, you're not trying to impress her if she already wants you. If you're in a club, walk her out of there. If you're in a more restricted situation, make solid plans with her(yes tell her what you want to do so she can sit there at home and daydream about it) and exchange numbers then set up a date close to your place so you can easily walk her back. Dating these girls should be easy, from my experience some of the even make jokes about how little resistance they are putting up. The amount of yes girls you get will vary depending on superficial factors like looks, status etc, it's just how it is. Good looking guys will naturally have more girls who want to date them compared to even an average looking guy. Understand, accept and play the system.
No = I know they call it game but if she's not into you, stop wasting your time and walk away. Don't worry about being rude because trust me she probably wants you out of there too. A firm no will rarely become a yes but most of the time you will be encountering no girls and thinking they are a maybe because they're nice and smile at your jokes but don't be fooled her actions will not lie. This isn't a Hugh Grant movie, you wont get the girl. Read later on how to identify a no girl pretending to be a maybe.
Maybe = This is where you will get most of your headaches. Those girls who seem like they're into you but you're just not sure. If you're in a club, you can test if shes attracted by getting her to move with you, if she does, you still have work to do but you can turn it around. If she doesn't move with you but keeps engaging you, tease her, flirt then try again. In terms of dating and trying to get the girls in your phonebook out on a date, a maybe girl will be texting you back but will be a little hesitant when it comes to meeting up. Personally I think my texting is pretty awful so I keep it simple, strictly a logistical and the occasional text to just stay on radar and that's it. But the goal over text is to get her out but from my experience maybe girls are tricky to get out over text but it can be done. Getting into the how would take a whole new thread and I believe other people out there could explain it better than I can.
If you're not good at reading women's signals, you will be destined to have a bunch of maybe girls hanging around your life. They'll flake on you and be forever leaving you thinking that you'll get her next week. No guy on here can tell you what type of girl she is because we cannot see the full interaction, the only way you will learn is by trying something and making a mistake.
Part 2
These four things are pretty much the only things I actively think about when I'm with a girl these days because they cover everything so well. I'll briefly cover the topics and give a situation where using it as really paid off for me.
Confidence
I understand that the term confidence is a bit of a nebulous concept and that if you don't have any it's hard to generate it from no where.
If you think using the yes, no or maybe concept you will need confidence in order to keep approaching women to find the right options for you because there are bucket loads of women out there, you just have to meet them all.
Confidence is attractive to women because you exude dominance and provide the leadership she craves. Confidence is not having to make out with her but knowing shes coming home with you anyway. Confidence is knowing you dont have to grind your d!ck on her in the club to turn her on. Confidence is inviting her around for wine but never have to open the bottle. Confidence is just knowing women find you attractive.
Escalation
Escalating just means moving the interaction forward. Sometimes, you're talking to a girl and you just don't know what to do. Fortunately you can escalate and that does not mean it has to be something sexual. It may just be holding eye contact a little bit longer or touching her in a more sexual manor. Escalation will weed out the no girls who are masquerading as maybe girls, that may not mean you have a yes girl but you know you're not completely wasting your time if she responds well to escalation.
When I go to talk to a girl, if she responds well from the get go, I ramp it up a little but you dont want to go too far. But once you get to a certain point and you know it could well be on, like you it's just the two of you but she's not quite giving in. Remember persistence is sexy. Test her limits.
Leading
For women, leading is sexy. For you, it may be a chore but it will be worth it. Leading means you take charge of the situation. Have an idea in your head rather than spend your time waffling about like a pansy. I can't remember where I heard this, but a good quotation is "the dynamics between a man and a woman is like water flowing down a river, the man is the river bank; sturdy and unmoving. Whilst the woman is the water, fast, unpredictable but all within the confines of the banks of the river."
Have a plan, know what you're doing and dont be afraid to implement it due to fear.
If you do not lead, you will end up with women who will dominate you and take whatever they want. A family friend of mine(female) basically just organised her proposal, when the wedding is and when they're going to try for a baby. Now I've met the guy and hes a total dweeb, and thats why hes getting totally dominated by his woman.
That also means in a relationship you lead and guide your woman. As soon as you let up, you'll get run over, chicks are clever like that.
Abundance
Have the power to walk away. Too many guys show their hands way too early so get ruthlessly manipulated by women who know that they can toy with you because you have no other options. No more, even if you have no other options for now, dont put up with it. Walk away. If you can just walk away, she has no way to manipulate you, she can either play ball or can just watch your sweet a$$ walk away. This site bangs on about it enough, spin plates, it will prevent you from being hung up to dry.
The more girls you talk to the quicker you'll be able to identify a girl who is not worth your time of day and you'll easily be able to walk away from her without having negative emotions.
Final Thoughts
In other words, once you're talking to a girl, screen her quickly and stop lying to yourself. Work on getting your awareness up because the proof will be in the pudding, if shes not responding well to your texts or wont meet you one on one, shes probably not that into you. This works well for me, it may not be your cup of tea but I recommend you keep it in mind.
Happy hunting boys
