***Official Late Night with Bukowski Merit Interview Thread***

HumbleNinja

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Here's your questions:

What brought you to SS and how did you find the site?

What's the best and or worst advice you've ever received in regards to chicks?

Have you ever posted or lurked on other seduction forums?

How many chicks have you slept with?

What was your worst experience with a chick? (girlfriend or not)

Have you ever gotten friendzoned by a chick and if so were you able to get out of it?

Most plates you've spun at one time?

How do you handle having no plates?

Dress style for going out to meet chicks?

For meeting chicks which way is most successful in your point of view and have you tried all venues? Day, Social circle, Online social media/ Online dating, clubs, vacation, through family, work or whatever else..

Have you ever went full "No Contact"? (Not expecting "results" of getting a chick back.)

Do you ever see yourself getting married?

Have you read the full DJ Bible? Or some of it/none of it?

Have you ever met up with or talked to any So Suave posters offline?

Favorite So Suave posters?

Your thoughts on the Manosphere?

Thoughts on Rollo Tomassi’s book? Have you read it or plan on it?

Thoughts on So Suave itself and ideas for improvement/ last words or comments?
 

bukowski_merit

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What brought you to SS and how did you find the site?

I bought David Deangelo’s ebook out of the back of a Men’s Health magazine around 99-2000. Mostly to try to get one girl (who I never got). But it opened my eyes to a lot of the basics that most men didn’t know (at the time.)

Anyway, I wanted more – so I did a search for “seduce women” online and this site came up. Been a member ever since. Do not remember my first user name, but Art_Love is the first name I remember having and this is the first post of that name:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=133104#post133104

(I was mostly a KJ back then; who would read other peoples work and let it greatly influence my opinion at that time.)



What's the best and or worst advice you've ever received in regards to chicks?

The worst is anything that sounds like “roll over like a good dog and do what she wants.” Like I hear this commercial on the radio that goes “a happy wife makes for a happy life.” And I want to vomit at the weakness of that.

As far as best: I think it was more the revelation that women love sex on a level that most guys don’t even understand. They love thinking about it, talking about it, doing it… And it brings something totally different to them than it does to us.



Have you ever posted or lurked on other seduction forums?

Fast-seduction, and pua-zone (the best posters on fast seduction decided to leave the site and open their own site) are the only 2 places I’ve really hung out at other than here. I lurked briefly on RSD, but didn’t like the hive mind mentality there.

I used to be a mod at rapmusic.com lol



How many chicks have you slept with?

I don’t know. I don’t even remember most of their names. Hell, I don’t even remember most girls names when I’m hanging out with them, and you’d be surprised how that’s NEVER been an issue (there’s not many times that you have to say a girl’s name.) Wait, this is about how many girls I’ve slept with?

Rough estimate: 80-120. Most in the last 4 years.



What was your worst experience with a chick? (girlfriend or not)

You know I do a lot of online dating. So I have a ton of these…. but worse?

I drove 40 minutes to this place that was a long dirt road in the country and the woman told me to wait at the end of it and she’ll be out. After sitting there for 10 minutes – this silhouette of a beast of a woman comes down the road. I take a breath and get out. She gets to me and is about 10 years older than her pics, and at least 4 inches taller than me! On top of that she has hair like one of the Harris Brothers. We go out to a shed, because her kids are sleeping. The shed didn’t have lights, instead she has Christmas lights all over the place…. I started wondering if I was in a horror film.

We talked some. Then I started feeling my legs itch. I lifted up my pants leg and there were bugs all over me! I freaked out on the b!tch, and really thought I was about to die lol… She told me they were fleas and that her dogs sleep out in that same shed.

I left soon after even though she now trusted me enough that she suggested we go to her room instead. I used her kids against her (“I don’t feel comfortable being in there with your kids.”)

On the way out, she told me “I like you, you seem like such a bad boy.”

I told her “Nah, I go to church.” And drove off into the darkness.

One of the few times, I was happy to waste gas without a payoff.



Have you ever gotten friendzoned by a chick and if so were you able to get out of it?

The friendzone is abstract to me.

It essentially means “girls who I tried to game but ended up not fvcking.”

Yes, there’s been tons of them. Never really heard “I just want to be friends though” perhaps before I’m so sexual, women just ignore me when they don’t want the c!ck ….

But there’s also been tons of girls who I’ve fvcked that were friends first. All within my social circle though.



Most plates you've spun at one time?

I don’t spin plates in the traditional sense. But I fvcked 5 different women in 7 days once. And then didn’t want to have sex again for a couple weeks.



How do you handle having no plates?


It’s not a problem. I’m more crazy than sane, and can literally stare at a ceiling for hours on end and never get bored. I live in this crazy world that I’ve created in my head (where im always the hero/guru).

I also don’t completely subscribe to the plate thing because of this. If a woman is treating me bad and I don’t have other plates – I can drop her. But as a man who mostly does flings (for the rush) and one night stands – plates don’t really exist.

Failed “plates” affect me more (women I spent a lot of time gaming for nothing.)

I guess this is the correct time to talk a little about my childhood.

Growing up, my mom was married to an abusive man. He wasn’t abusive to me or my sister; only to my mom. And when sh!t like that is going down and you’re a child – you learn to cope with it. You learn to shut down your emotions.

This has caused what it probably viewed as a psychosis, but is actually a positive in my eyes – to this day – the minute I no longer want to attach to something emotionally – it’s over.

This doesn’t mean that I haven’t had sleepless nights thinking about a woman who seems to be drifting away from me…. I have had plenty of those nights. But the minute – my mind says “ok enough”. The valve that controlled my feelings for her – instantly shuts off. Plates or no plates.

I believe I've encountered multiple BPD women in my life, maybe even dated a few. Whenever it happens, in my head I'm like "Sociopath vs. BPD" let's see who wins... But again... This is in my world, and I always win.



Dress style for going out to meet chicks?

Whatever is clean in my closet …. Most of my shirts are button ups…. I don’t put much thought into this.



For meeting chicks which way is most successful in your point of view and have you tried all venues? Day, Social circle, Online social media/ Online dating, clubs, vacation, through family, work or whatever else..

I’ve gamed in all those avenues, although day game is something I only have very limited experience with.

I’d say my strongest points are online and work game…. I’m a guy who likes the easy way.



Have you ever went full "No Contact"? (Not expecting "results" of getting a chick back.)

Sure. Although it’s more “I’m done with this girl” than it is trying to send a message or get over her.



Do you ever see yourself getting married?

Yes, if I can find the right woman. And the right woman would be fine doing it in Vegas.



Have you read the full DJ Bible? Or some of it/none of it?

I’ve read it multiple times. It’s been a long time though. I really immersed myself in it when it first came out.



Have you ever met up with or talked to any So Suave posters offline?

No, I’ve probably ran into Colossus a few times out, because we live(d) in the same area and once had a discussion about how we frequent the same bars/area.



Favorite So Suave posters?

There’s tons! But I’m going to just pick one and say Igetit – there was a time when he was active that we agreed on pretty much everything.



Your thoughts on the Manosphere?

It’s not for me. Mostly because of the presentation and cultishness of the whole thing. There’s definitely some merit to what they have to say, but sometimes it goes too far in the negative direction. I love mostly all types of women, and from what I’ve seen of most men who frequent manosphere places – that is not the case there. I liken it to RSD - I like a lot of what they have to say, but it comes off trite to me.



Thoughts on Rollo Tomassi’s book? Have you read it or plan on it?


Haven’t read it. Don’t intend to. It’s probably good, I just don’t read books on these topics anymore. Instead I read a lot of copywriting and advertising books.



Thoughts on So Suave itself and ideas for improvement/ last words or comments?

There’s a handful of guys on this site who are knowledgeable and honest.
Then you have trolls.
Then you have aliases (some that im sure belong to mods themselves).
Then you have people who fail and begin to blame the site for it.
Then you have guys who act like they’re successful with women who obviously are not.
Then you have this and that.

What I’d like to see is much MUCH better rules to fight trolls and aliases. I’d like to see the mods get ban powers and not have to discuss it with the owner first.

Other than that – I pretty much only go in threads that look interesting or that I have some kind of expertise on.
 

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bukowski_merit said:
What brought you to SS and how did you find the site?

I bought David Deangelo’s ebook out of the back of a Men’s Health magazine around 99-2000. Mostly to try to get one girl (who I never got). But it opened my eyes to a lot of the basics that most men didn’t know (at the time.)

Anyway, I wanted more – so I did a search for “seduce women” online and this site came up. Been a member ever since. Do not remember my first user name, but Art_Love is the first name I remember having and this is the first post of that name:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=133104#post133104

(I was mostly a KJ back then; who would read other peoples work and let it greatly influence my opinion at that time.)



What's the best and or worst advice you've ever received in regards to chicks?

The worst is anything that sounds like “roll over like a good dog and do what she wants.” Like I hear this commercial on the radio that goes “a happy wife makes for a happy life.” And I want to vomit at the weakness of that.

As far as best: I think it was more the revelation that women love sex on a level that most guys don’t even understand. They love thinking about it, talking about it, doing it… And it brings something totally different to them than it does to us.



Have you ever posted or lurked on other seduction forums?

Fast-seduction, and pua-zone (the best posters on fast seduction decided to leave the site and open their own site) are the only 2 places I’ve really hung out at other than here. I lurked briefly on RSD, but didn’t like the hive mind mentality there.

I used to be a mod at rapmusic.com lol



How many chicks have you slept with?

I don’t know. I don’t even remember most of their names. Hell, I don’t even remember most girls names when I’m hanging out with them, and you’d be surprised how that’s NEVER been an issue (there’s not many times that you have to say a girl’s name.) Wait, this is about how many girls I’ve slept with?

Rough estimate: 80-120. Most in the last 4 years.



What was your worst experience with a chick? (girlfriend or not)

You know I do a lot of online dating. So I have a ton of these…. but worse?

I drove 40 minutes to this place that was a long dirt road in the country and the woman told me to wait at the end of it and she’ll be out. After sitting there for 10 minutes – this silhouette of a beast of a woman comes down the road. I take a breath and get out. She gets to me and is about 10 years older than her pics, and at least 4 inches taller than me! On top of that she has hair like one of the Harris Brothers. We go out to a shed, because her kids are sleeping. The shed didn’t have lights, instead she has Christmas lights all over the place…. I started wondering if I was in a horror film.

We talked some. Then I started feeling my legs itch. I lifted up my pants leg and there were bugs all over me! I freaked out on the b!tch, and really thought I was about to die lol… She told me they were fleas and that her dogs sleep out in that same shed.

I left soon after even though she now trusted me enough that she suggested we go to her room instead. I used her kids against her (“I don’t feel comfortable being in there with your kids.”)

On the way out, she told me “I like you, you seem like such a bad boy.”

I told her “Nah, I go to church.” And drove off into the darkness.

One of the few times, I was happy to waste gas without a payoff.



Have you ever gotten friendzoned by a chick and if so were you able to get out of it?

The friendzone is abstract to me.

It essentially means “girls who I tried to game but ended up not fvcking.”

Yes, there’s been tons of them. Never really heard “I just want to be friends though” perhaps before I’m so sexual, women just ignore me when they don’t want the c!ck ….

But there’s also been tons of girls who I’ve fvcked that were friends first. All within my social circle though.



Most plates you've spun at one time?

I don’t spin plates in the traditional sense. But I fvcked 5 different women in 7 days once. And then didn’t want to have sex again for a couple weeks.



How do you handle having no plates?


It’s not a problem. I’m more crazy than sane, and can literally stare at a ceiling for hours on end and never get bored. I live in this crazy world that I’ve created in my head (where im always the hero/guru).

I also don’t completely subscribe to the plate thing because of this. If a woman is treating me bad and I don’t have other plates – I can drop her. But as a man who mostly does flings (for the rush) and one night stands – plates don’t really exist.

Failed “plates” affect me more (women I spent a lot of time gaming for nothing.)

I guess this is the correct time to talk a little about my childhood.

Growing up, my mom was married to an abusive man. He wasn’t abusive to me or my sister; only to my mom. And when sh!t like that is going down and you’re a child – you learn to cope with it. You learn to shut down your emotions.

This has caused what it probably viewed as a psychosis, but is actually a positive in my eyes – to this day – the minute I no longer want to attach to something emotionally – it’s over.

This doesn’t mean that I haven’t had sleepless nights thinking about a woman who seems to be drifting away from me…. I have had plenty of those nights. But the minute – my mind says “ok enough”. The valve that controlled my feelings for her – instantly shuts off. Plates or no plates.

I believe I've encountered multiple BPD women in my life, maybe even dated a few. Whenever it happens, in my head I'm like "Sociopath vs. BPD" let's see who wins... But again... This is in my world, and I always win.



Dress style for going out to meet chicks?

Whatever is clean in my closet …. Most of my shirts are button ups…. I don’t put much thought into this.



For meeting chicks which way is most successful in your point of view and have you tried all venues? Day, Social circle, Online social media/ Online dating, clubs, vacation, through family, work or whatever else..

I’ve gamed in all those avenues, although day game is something I only have very limited experience with.

I’d say my strongest points are online and work game…. I’m a guy who likes the easy way.



Have you ever went full "No Contact"? (Not expecting "results" of getting a chick back.)

Sure. Although it’s more “I’m done with this girl” than it is trying to send a message or get over her.



Do you ever see yourself getting married?

Yes, if I can find the right woman. And the right woman would be fine doing it in Vegas.



Have you read the full DJ Bible? Or some of it/none of it?

I’ve read it multiple times. It’s been a long time though. I really immersed myself in it when it first came out.



Have you ever met up with or talked to any So Suave posters offline?

No, I’ve probably ran into Colossus a few times out, because we live(d) in the same area and once had a discussion about how we frequent the same bars/area.



Favorite So Suave posters?

There’s tons! But I’m going to just pick one and say Igetit – there was a time when he was active that we agreed on pretty much everything.



Your thoughts on the Manosphere?

It’s not for me. Mostly because of the presentation and cultishness of the whole thing. There’s definitely some merit to what they have to say, but sometimes it goes too far in the negative direction. I love mostly all types of women, and from what I’ve seen of most men who frequent manosphere places – that is not the case there. I liken it to RSD - I like a lot of what they have to say, but it comes off trite to me.



Thoughts on Rollo Tomassi’s book? Have you read it or plan on it?


Haven’t read it. Don’t intend to. It’s probably good, I just don’t read books on these topics anymore. Instead I read a lot of copywriting and advertising books.



Thoughts on So Suave itself and ideas for improvement/ last words or comments?

There’s a handful of guys on this site who are knowledgeable and honest.
Then you have trolls.
Then you have aliases (some that im sure belong to mods themselves).
Then you have people who fail and begin to blame the site for it.
Then you have guys who act like they’re successful with women who obviously are not.
Then you have this and that.

What I’d like to see is much MUCH better rules to fight trolls and aliases. I’d like to see the mods get ban powers and not have to discuss it with the owner first.

Other than that – I pretty much only go in threads that look interesting or that I have some kind of expertise on.
Rapmusic.com. lol. I used to check that site out. OTBVA too. How long were you a mod there for?

How many times you been to Vegas?

Igetit is a great advice giver. Not sure if he's around anymore..
 
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