***Official BeDJ interview thread***

Ok BeDJ since you volunteered you're up first as my choice for an interview. Here's your questions:

What brought you to SS and how did you find the site?

What's the best and or worst advice you've ever received in regards to chicks?

Have you ever posted or lurked on other seduction forums?

How many chicks have you slept with?

What was your worst experience with a chick? (girlfriend or not)

Have you ever gotten friendzoned by a chick and if so were you able to get out of it?

Most plates you've spun at one time?

How do you handle having no plates?

Dress style for going out to meet chicks?

For meeting chicks which way is most successful in your point of view and have you tried all venues? Day, Social circle, Online social media/ Online dating, clubs, vacation, family, work or whatever else..

Have you ever went full "No Contact"? (Not expecting "results" of getting a chick back.)

Do you ever see yourself getting married?

Have you read the full DJ Bible? Or some of it/none of it?

Have you ever met up with or talked to any So Suave posters offline?

Favorite So Suave posters?

Thoughts on So Suave itself and ideas for improvement/ last words or comments?


That's all the questions I could think of off the top. Other posters can ask BeDJ questions in this thread after he answers the first batch (if there are any you can think of or want a bot more expansion) Let's go!

Holy sh!t. You were not kidding.

What brought me to SS was when I got down on one knee and gave a rose to this chick in high school. This happened in front of 500 people and I happily skipped home. I found this site after I Google: 'Am I fvcking gay?'

SoSuave is the only 'seduction' forum I've been a part of. How many chicks? Let's just say the numbers I've slept with are exponential within this past year. Worst (funniest) experience can be found here:
http://sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=205509

By plates, those are the ones that I've had sex with and want to see again. 3 simultaneously is my record.

Having no plates? This is the subject I love to talk about. The moment that you have ZERO plates and could care less while not giving a sh!t about women is when you are on your journey to being awesome. In my opinion, plate spinning is overrated. Once you develop that indifference mindset, spinning plates just comes natural. Trying to do so is training wheels.

Slim fit dress shirt tucked into jeans wrapped in belt that match casual dress shoes. It doesn't matter, I've gotten numbers in white tees and basketball shorts.

Day. Game. All. The. Way.

I've never went No Contact - not even with my ex. I send her texts quarterly to tell her how awesome my life is without her. Beta? Yeah. I simply have a vendetta. Ironically, of all the women I've met this past year, my ex would be the only one to be considered marriage material. So no, fvck marriage.

I've read the DJ Bible before, I've printed those 400+ pages of text. I read it during high school and never referenced to it since 2005. As far as having a conversation with dudes on SS offline, not yet. I'd like to just to match a voice to a name. I'd love to talk to this crazy ass mofo named NaughtyNinja. Last words - I'm bringing too much attention to myself. See ya =)

Potential questions and answers:

Yes, what I value the most to women is Indifference. I believe it is the strongest sex tactic for men.

Well, I'm currently taking a break from dating and women in general. I've never had a passion or hobby so I'm working on that right now. This will mean I won't be posting here as much.

Those threads that specify me? I became the center of attention recently, but my actions deserved it. I respect the mods on how they handled the situation.

Definitely Crown and Diet Coke.

How to not give a sh!t? Fvck it, seriously. You aren't going to see your prospect again. Why not introduce yourself and see how far it takes you?

I don't know what my ex is doing right now, she's a great woman. I wasn't the DJ to keep her around. If I was, she would have been gone a year prior.

Yes, I believe HumbleNinja is NaughtyNinja and SagePro________ is a beta for life.

Any other posters can ask more questions of BeDJ in this thread. (Try to hold off on flaming.)

Anyone else who wants to interview another poster can use the same questions I used and or add more in their own thread for some other poster they'd like to interview. Maybe come up with better questions than I thought of to ask. (Breaks up the BS threads on here and is something hopefully informative and new to those who are new or have been on the site for a while.)

I'd guess BeDJ you could pick anyone you'd want to ask questions to in your own thread.


Yes it's me. Naughty Ninja. hahaha

Flaming is positive criticism, please do so. TELL ME how I can improve.

BeDJ said:

Flaming is positive criticism, please do so. TELL ME how I can improve.

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Try getting sober. Not completely - but you do seem to post here a lot when youre drinking / drunk. And seeing as you come here like every day...


I used to drink A LOT. Sober now, have the occasional night out - but nothing like I was (all day every day). Best thing i did was sort out the drink drugs and smoking I used to do a lot of. I mean - I bang less chicks now, but notching up the bed post isnt the be- all and end- all. its just a change of scene for me - no jumping on bar sluts, purefilth is on the hunt for Quality - and has found it in a young Brazilian .

Haha, Purefilth - I thought we were on the same team.

Nice to know that you are after quality, good stuff. We've exchanged online dating profiles and yes, you should be doing better. We are dealt the different cards, not everyone here is 6' 3" so that makes me motivated.

You are gifted, no question. For most men like myself, we aren't born with the same attributes or attractiveness. What is my achievement is your 'everyday' pull, given your attributes. The moment I do better will be a big fvck you. You are supposed to pull hotter women, you know that.

For me, I'm below average in looks. I can't change that. However, as long as I am closing the same chicks you are says something about my game. I can guarantee you that my inner game is much stronger than yours.

Throwing me under the bus for a little drinking is really a cheap way of discrediting me. You know that and I know that. Everyone on SoSuave knows that. I respect you as a moderator, but for you to specify that argument shows the vendetta you have against me.

That aside,

Why are you on the hunt for quality?

For future purposes, this is my take on dating and life in general right now.

I've never asked advice regarding a particular women on here. Everything I've learned is from hindsight, which was a b!tch at times. You miss out on some opportunities, but those lessons are burned into your memory. Nothing stick like that feeling of regret. That moment when you could have said the right thing. You'll get another moment, there's an infinite amount of women out there. The beauty of FVCKING UP. Take that jump and see if the parachute opens.

Turning 26 was a big Oh Sh!t! moment. The next few years are going to define my entire life. I've reflected on my career and general life. I don't think I'm using my best attributes to their fullest potential. I've reflected on family. I've reflected on friends. I've reflected on a lot of things. Things are going to change. For better or worse, I have no idea.

Relationships. I can say right now, I'm not at all thrilled by it. Even if I found the love of my life, I'll manage to find a way to fvck it up on purpose. I guess you can say I'm selfish living with no personal attachment to anyone. I remember being in a relationship a while back and I compromised a ton to make it work. All said and done, what I did was for the happiness of the relationship and not for my own. I wasn't truly happy. I have to admit, it was nice to wake up next to someone you care about. Although the one you care about turns into a different person every so often. Almost similar to the women I wake up next to these days.

Marriage and kids - my god. My relatives shove that down my throat every meeting. Sometimes, I want to just say I am gay so they can shut the fvck up about it. Being the last male of an entire bloodline, I don't blame them. I've been to many weddings, I hate them. I show up single and get frowned upon. The push for finding that someone special is pathetic. I'm much happier on my own, as selfish as that sounds.

Some random thoughts, that song Wake Me Up that just played 5 times in a row on the radio...How the fvck did it become so popular. It's the same generic EDM beat so it has to be something else.

Wake me up when it's all over
When I'm wiser and older
All this time I was finding myself
Didn't know I was lost.

I think this chorus made the song popular. Perhaps most people can relate these words to their own life. When a hot chick gets up to dance to this song....Dibs.

I was at the bank today and forgot my debit card at home. I was talking to 2 cute tellers, joking around and calling them out on stupid stuff. My teller was so caught up in the moment that she gave me $80 more than my withdrawal. When I was a broke college kid, I would have taken it. Not so much anymore, I can't accept 'free' money. I made a comment relevant to some previous small talk and got her number. When you get a chick in the moment, she's on cloud 9. Go for it, her emotional high makes it impossible for her to say no. I threw receipt with the number away, she knew how much was in my bank account.

I had a date on Wednesday at the arcade. The entire time, I just did my own thing and having fun while she followed me endlessly. I didn't even go for the kiss close, just a hug. She texted me about making the salsa we talked about. Before, I would have jumped at the opportunity. After mastering this whole indifference thing, I really don't care anymore. Maybe I'm on the Journey to Celibacy. That's not good.

BeDJ said:

Haha, Purefilth - I thought we were on the same team.
We are
Nice to know that you are after quality, good stuff. We've exchanged online dating profiles and yes, you should be doing better. We are dealt the different cards, not everyone here is 6' 3" so that makes me motivated.

You are gifted, no question. For most men like myself, we aren't born with the same attributes or attractiveness. What is my achievement is your 'everyday' pull, given your attributes. The moment I do better will be a big fvck you. You are supposed to pull hotter women, you know that.
i know

For me, I'm below average in looks. I can't change that. However, as long as I am closing the same chicks you are says something about my game. I can guarantee you that my inner game is much stronger than yours.
A bit of confidence there - I like that Hows that inner game without the liquor?

Yeah, cheap- shot, I know

Throwing me under the bus for a little drinking is really a cheap way of discrediting me. You know that and I know that. Everyone on SoSuave knows that. I respect you as a moderator, but for you to specify that argument shows the vendetta you have against me. I'm not throwing you under a bus buddy - I merely shared an opinion since you asked for it. You said you welcome all criticism. Thats one that comes from a place Ive been before.

That aside,

Why are you on the hunt for quality?

Bored with the same old, same old. Its not even a hunt really tbh. Hunting implies that I'm actively chasing tail. I am, but not in the way that implies. Women take a back seat nowadays.

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I thought I knew what inner game was, I guess it's how you would describe self confidence. Does the guy that pull chicks to make up for past failures have 'inner game?' Is 'inner game' reflected on the amount of chicks you bang? How would someone measure it? The least you give a sh!t about women, the stronger your 'inner game?' Is it the sum of all Seduction tactics you apply on consistency?

There's the discrepancy I've uncovered about Don Juanism. We are ever changing and ever improving. Before I go further, it's improvement with every aspect of life (in my opinion is a very broad term.) For 90% of the members here, it's improving your success with women. The Don Juan, the Casanova, the Mr. Suave...don't we lump them all into the same category as successful at seducing women? I agree that women should supplement a man's life, but look at the threads and tips.

It brings me to this.

Aren't we playing the same game that women have naturally played?

Abundance. Plate spinning. Generating options. Indifference. Manipulation. Teasing. The sh!t test. What is that? Isn't it a term men came up with to describe female nature? Now we must pass it to unlock the thighs?

It's a game where the rules are set out for you. In order to win, you have to follow those rules and devise your own strategy. Breaking the rules means that you lose the game. You can say WAIT A MINUTE - I AM A MAN, I CREATE MY OWN RULES. Do you really? Most failures with women are not our fault. Hypergamy. Options. Infidelity. Women Nature. We have no choice, but to accept it. Isn't that playing by the rules?

Oh yeah, to answer your question, someone has to be sober to drive these chicks home.

Do you think sex is more for the ego than actual physical pleasure?

Was Ronaldo7 you?

BeDJ said:

I thought I knew what inner game was, I guess it's how you would describe self confidence. Does the guy that pull chicks to make up for past failures have 'inner game?' Is 'inner game' reflected on the amount of chicks you bang? How would someone measure it? The least you give a sh!t about women, the stronger your 'inner game?'

I would say its self confidence, yeah. Just being comfortable in your own skin, at peace with yourself and confident in your own abilities.

Is it the sum of all Seduction tactics you apply on consistency?
I dont really apply "seduction tactics" per se. I'm aware of tactics and thats enough.

There's the discrepancy I've uncovered about Don Juanism. We are ever changing and ever improving. Before I go further, it's improvement with every aspect of life (in my opinion is a very broad term.) For 90% of the members here, it's improving your success with women. The Don Juan, the Casanova, the Mr. Suave...don't we lump them all into the same category as successful at seducing women? I agree that women should supplement a man's life, but look at the threads and tips.

It brings me to this.

Aren't we playing the same game that women have naturally played?
In theory yes.
Abundance. Plate spinning. Generating options. Indifference. Manipulation. Teasing. The sh!t test. What is that? Isn't it a term men came up with to describe female nature? Now we must pass it to unlock the thighs? Beginners tips. Becoming aware of these nullifies the need to play the game. By becoming aware - I mean, instantly recognising a "test" or a frame grab and dealing with it. (Normally by ignoring / disregarding the fact that there was an attempt to put you off your game)

It's a game where the rules are set out for you. In order to win, you have to follow those rules and devise your own strategy. Breaking the rules means that you lose the game. You can say WAIT A MINUTE - I AM A MAN, I CREATE MY OWN RULES. Do you really? Most failures with women are not our fault. Hypergamy. Options. Infidelity. Women Nature. We have no choice, but to accept it. Isn't that playing by the rules? Again. Rules are there for beginners. Theyre just guidelines really anyway.

"First you must learn the instrument, and learn the notes. then disregard all that craap and just play"

Oh yeah, to answer your question, someone has to be sober to drive these chicks home.

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When I began my journey a year ago, I wasn't prepared for the dangers from the real world. I was that little boy with a wooden sword leaving the only place he knew to become a man. You begin do what you have to do to survive, slowly losing your innocence and sense of self. You are the only person you can trust, although sometimes, you aren't. With every slay, the faith you have in restoring your innocence and self slowly fades.

A year ago, dating was fun. Learning and getting my hands wet was exciting. I also enjoyed failing. Then, it turned into a Machine of Consistency, Efficiency and Percentages. The desire and doubt of seeing her again after an awesome first date was being on Cloud Nine. The hoping and wishing was what made dating exciting, wistful and sometimes gloomy. But those were emotions, those were feeling; it's living.

When I took on this journey of seducing women, I wasn't prepared to compromise who I was. I'm currently seeing an amazing women. She's classy, very literate, traditional career, pampers me, never parties and likes me for who I am. I have no idea why I have to put her in a mind-fvck. She doesn't deserve any of it. Why couldn't she just be another typical s|ut?

With great power comes great responsibility.

Peter Parker was beta as fvck.

BeDJ said:

When I began my journey a year ago, I wasn't prepared for the dangers from the real world. I was that little boy with a wooden sword leaving the only place he knew to become a man. You begin do what you have to do to survive, slowly losing your innocence and sense of self. You are the only person you can trust, although sometimes, you aren't. With every slay, the faith you have in restoring your innocence and self slowly fades.

A year ago, dating was fun. Learning and getting my hands wet was exciting. I also enjoyed failing. Then, it turned into a Machine of Consistency, Efficiency and Percentages. The desire and doubt of seeing her again after an awesome first date was being on Cloud Nine. The hoping and wishing was what made dating exciting, wistful and sometimes gloomy. But those were emotions, those were feeling; it's living.

When I took on this journey of seducing women, I wasn't prepared to compromise who I was. I'm currently seeing an amazing women. She's classy, very literate, traditional career, pampers me, never parties and likes me for who I am. I have no idea why I have to put her in a mind-fvck. She doesn't deserve any of it. Why couldn't she just be another typical s|ut?

With great power comes great responsibility.

Peter Parker was beta as fvck.

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Dude I'm in the same boat. I'm all on my own away from home yet trying to survive. I have my insecurities though and I care way too much about what people think about me but I'm good at hiding it and I'm a pretty good actor as long as I don't get too close to people. I'm lost right now though. Caught that 1itis for a CoWork that has a bf and I've been having serious AFC thoughts. Not sure what to do so I'm just distracting myself with hobbies.