Might just delete my online dating profiles

Crissco · Oct 17, 2013

Ive had amazing success with online dating, i even wrote my own ebook because i got so good..lately out of every 25 numbers i get, i get about 3 meets up out of it..its frustrating. And its all the same excuses every time.

2 years ago I would get 6 dates a week, literally, 2 girls in one night. I dont know what changed.

Even the meet ups i get,girl i get 1 that i doesnt give met hassle, and the other its take ton of rapport to be built. Im getting of sick it, i would rather just approach in real life.

Anyone else notice the same thing lately?

Albatross953 · Oct 17, 2013

Feast and famine dude. Find other things in life for a while if its getting to you.
I torpedoed my profiles for a bit, after finding a gorgeous little red head on match...runners body, feminine, rocked a little black dress. Then found out she was on pof in parallel.
I'm on a break...!

Colossus · Oct 17, 2013

Yeah I 'retired' from online dating. Like you I had a lot of success over the years with it, but I found girls were getting more and more entitled without actually increasing in value. In fact they bring less to the table every day. All the patterns I saw were just making me cynical.

Online dating is like a big box of rocks with a few gold nuggets hidden in there. The box is getting bigger, but so is the proportion of common ore. The gold nuggets are few and far between, and don't stay in the system long.

Solomon · Oct 17, 2013

Albatross953 said:
Feast and famine dude. Find other things in life for a while if its getting to you.
I torpedoed my profiles for a bit, after finding a gorgeous little red head on match...runners body, feminine, rocked a little black dress. Then found out she was on pof in parallel.
I'm on a break...!

So much this

I've said it before and I'll say it again, Online dating goes in cycles for most guys. There are times where you're killing it and times where you're not. I think any guy who is going on 6 dates a week is easily in the top 10% of online dating. Even I didn't have that much success(I think my best ever week I went on 3 dates etc).

The reality is if you're a aeshtetic or good looking guy even during "down" times you still will be beasting so to speak. I saw this firsthand with a goodlooking buddy who was texting 20-30 chicks at a time he met thru online dating. He had so many women he couldn't keep up with them all. Whilst a guy like me was/is lucky to get three numbers a week tops

I hate online dating, but I'm lazy now a days and I rather focus my energy in the gym to get back into shape to kill it on the field

Online dating also causes low self-esteem if you're not doing on it that well. You will meet women who will try to friendzone you on the first date and talk about their lame ex's or use you for a free meal. I really don't have the patience that's why I don't bother anymore unless I know the bang is 100% guranteed

Crissco · Oct 17, 2013

I realized it also goes in cycles. I still get the numbers, yesterday from okcupid alone i got 3 numbers. Thats minimum for me. Maybe it is my looks or my body. Ill admit though its an addiction, since i work from home it helps big time to do online dating but i can def see its not good for my mind.

There you go again, had a date planned for tonight, literally just got a text, she cancelled because her cuz came into town. Wants to reschedule.

Albatross953 · Oct 17, 2013

Mess with her. Tell her a make up date has strings attached. Then pick something YOU want to do and tell her she's paying. I did this and waited a half hour between texting the two parts. She ate it up. Would correct the frame, and I could have banged if I'd wanted to. If she walks...so what.

London NATURAL · Oct 17, 2013

I had some great times with online dating and "sexting" straight to a lay. But giving it a break from time to time was always a good thing, you kind of burn out from it. I found it left a bitter taste in my mouth and made me think poorly of all women.

BeDJ · Oct 17, 2013

I stopped doing online dating beginning this year, OKC was my bread and butter. I wouldn't touch POF with a 10 foot pole and Match was too time consuming. Raked in a ton of numbers and dates with the NaughtyNinja 3 exchange C&P number close.

I came back to OKC a couple of months ago with the same profile, pictures and method. The results were dismal compared to a year ago. OKCupid simply got much more popular.

More members = more messages
More messages = more options
More options = more screening
More screening = lower odds of closing

http://www.alexa.com/siteinfo/okcupid.com

It's not a waste of time to cast an online dating, but you have to challenge yourself to be the man you want to become.

MaddXMan · Oct 17, 2013

When I did online dating things would absolutely pop in spring and summer.

Fall and winter saw a drop off in new members joining and in response rates.

The time from April - June was the best.

Just my experience.

Crissco · Oct 17, 2013

Online dating is too easy sometimes, ive had so many SNLs its not even funny, I have a routine i use of ever girl and it works like a charm everytime. I noticed like you guys it depends on the time of year also.

Im probably just burning my self out. As london said it is also leaving a bitter taste in my mouth with all woman, i noticed im judging all woman now in a bad way because of my experiences.

Big Nuts · Oct 17, 2013

True story...pof chick, 2nd date my house.....blow job...paint her tonsils Saturday night...texts me monday, tuesday, we chat, nothing negative...buddy emails me next morning...same chick messaged him last night....out of the blue. She is a solid 7.5 - 8.

POF is a cesspool of easy women...but you should always have low expectations. After tapping on pof and match a cornucopia of p00n, I can honestly say my opinion of women has lessened!

The women get so much attention, their hypergamy is driven to extreme levels...5s think they're 9s and they are always looking, hoping, dreaming that someone better is one more click a way.

Online is great for mass spamming and banging 6s to 8s, but your opinion of women, at the end of the day will be far worse.

In some ways, online has killed a small part of my psyche.

Crissco · Oct 18, 2013

Big Nuts said:
True story...pof chick, 2nd date my house.....blow job...paint her tonsils Saturday night...texts me monday, tuesday, we chat, nothing negative...buddy emails me next morning...same chick messaged him last night....out of the blue. She is a solid 7.5 - 8.

POF is a cesspool of easy women...but you should always have low expectations. After tapping on pof and match a cornucopia of p00n, I can honestly say my opinion of women has lessened!

The women get so much attention, their hypergamy is driven to extreme levels...5s think they're 9s and they are always looking, hoping, dreaming that someone better is one more click a way.

Online is great for mass spamming and banging 6s to 8s, but your opinion of women, at the end of the day will be far worse.

In some ways, online has killed a small part of my psyche.

Could not agree more.

Solomon · Oct 18, 2013

Big Nuts said:
True story...pof chick, 2nd date my house.....blow job...paint her tonsils Saturday night...texts me monday, tuesday, we chat, nothing negative...buddy emails me next morning...same chick messaged him last night....out of the blue. She is a solid 7.5 - 8.

POF is a cesspool of easy women...but you should always have low expectations. After tapping on pof and match a cornucopia of p00n, I can honestly say my opinion of women has lessened!

The women get so much attention, their hypergamy is driven to extreme levels...5s think they're 9s and they are always looking, hoping, dreaming that someone better is one more click a way.

Online is great for mass spamming and banging 6s to 8s, but your opinion of women, at the end of the day will be far worse.

In some ways, online has killed a small part of my psyche.

True stroy

I banged a POF chick a few months ago. Condom slips inside her vag. She goes to Planned Parenthood. I don't hear from her again. A week later she tries to get with my buddy who ignores her, another week later I ran into her at the bar and ignore her

For every woman who I use to meet who said "I'm not looking for a one night stand" and use to smoke my pole and bang me like it was nothing and I never heard from them again I would be rich

The scary part is the chicks who have STD's who have been on there for years, or the chicks who are getting pounded by random guys. And they rinse and repeat the cycle.

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Over my ten post limit Crissco

But honestly women online are foul, and IME they are *****s. I have a new rule if a chick is below a 6 I don't bother taking them out on dates(I don't wanna be seen in public with a grenade). You would be shocked how many chicks are down to fucc right away. The better looking you are the easier it ism which you probably already know but it's crazy how whorish women are online. You got 5's who think they 10's it's just nuts.

The funny part is I don't live in a super huge town, so I know why some of these girls are single. A lot of them where riding the cawk carousel in college or in their social circles and burned them to the ground or move. You would think "Gee this girl just moved and is quality" but the truth is 89% of pof women are whhores the ones who aren't sadly are the ones you're not attracted too, are awkward or overweight

Crissco · Oct 18, 2013

Solomon said:
True stroy

I banged a POF chick a few months ago. Condom slips inside her vag. She goes to Planned Parenthood. I don't hear from her again. A week later she tries to get with my buddy who ignores her, another week later I ran into her at the bar and ignore her

For every woman who I use to meet who said "I'm not looking for a one night stand" and use to smoke my pole and bang me like it was nothing and I never heard from them again I would be rich

The scary part is the chicks who have STD's who have been on there for years, or the chicks who are getting pounded by random guys. And they rinse and repeat the cycle.

You cant believe how many times ive heard, "Ive never done this before" "I cant believe in im your house" "you're the only one i messaged back" "im looking for something real/ a relationship" And the list goes on! :rockon:

OR

Her: Im not coming inside your house
Me: Lets hang on the porch
Her: Ok

10 min later after she gets here shes in my house

Big Nuts · Oct 18, 2013

I think the one exception to online not killing your soul is that occasionally a newbie chick comes on line and is truly innocent (relatively speaking) and is honestly looking for a connection/chemistry, you have to get her early. On the other hand, it is THAT same chick you see on pof.....EVERY FVCKIN DAY....that makes you wonder...she looks ok...maybe a 7....how is she on here everyday for a year??...then you meet her....and red flags pop up like a mofo.

The longer a woman is on pof, etc., the more seriously damaged she is.

The chick I referenced above who contacted my buddy has been on pof since 2009!!!! No joke she is a serious 8...but I guess she thinks the "NEXT" guy will be better than me...which, if she hasn't found him...won't be....especially on pof...which is a cesspool.

Wilko · Oct 18, 2013

Big Nuts said:
I think the one exception to online not killing your soul is that occasionally a newbie chick comes on line and is truly innocent (relatively speaking) and is honestly looking for a connection/chemistry......

Aha, and you know what I tend to find happens with these girls, the promising ones you're describing. You bring some A-game, you cut through all the noise on the site, establish solid rapport....and BAM....she freaks the fvck out, decides she can't handle all the attention (d!ck pics?) she's getting and ejects from the site, usually to reappear a few months later. I recognise the pattern now, I can usually call it in advance. Whatever. I'm not going to bother myself with anyone who's already proven themselves to be that fragile.

Awwww, yes princess, I'm sure all that positive reinforcement must be just hell to deal with. Seriously.

Desdinova · Oct 19, 2013

I quit doing online dating because I have NEVER had a successful LTR with any of the girls from it. Their personalities themselves are usually much better than the garbage I meet in the bars, but they become addicted to the online dating scene because of all the positive attention they get. If you date a woman from POF or OKC, I guarantee they most likely won't be deleting their profile. They like that consistent attention, and it becomes a drug to them.

Chicks on online dating sites can be compared to alcoholics or drug addicts.

Solomon · Oct 19, 2013

Big Nuts said:
I think the one exception to online not killing your soul is that occasionally a newbie chick comes on line and is truly innocent (relatively speaking) and is honestly looking for a connection/chemistry, you have to get her early. On the other hand, it is THAT same chick you see on pof.....EVERY FVCKIN DAY....that makes you wonder...she looks ok...maybe a 7....how is she on here everyday for a year??...then you meet her....and red flags pop up like a mofo.

The longer a woman is on pof, etc., the more seriously damaged she is.

The chick I referenced above who contacted my buddy has been on pof since 2009!!!! No joke she is a serious 8...but I guess she thinks the "NEXT" guy will be better than me...which, if she hasn't found him...won't be....especially on pof...which is a cesspool.

True but two things happen. Those girls either leave right away cause they're disgusted by all the attention and thristyness or they meet a dude right away

Women online who are quality IMO are far and few in between usually the ones that are, are the ones sadly you're not attracted too

Desdinova said:
I quit doing online dating because I have NEVER had a successful LTR with any of the girls from it. Their personalities themselves are usually much better than the garbage I meet in the bars, but they become addicted to the online dating scene because of all the positive attention they get. If you date a woman from POF or OKC, I guarantee they most likely won't be deleting their profile. They like that consistent attention, and it becomes a drug to them.

Chicks on online dating sites can be compared to alcoholics or drug addicts.

Yup, there are girls who have been online for 5+ years. A girl who friend-zoned me many years ago has been online dating since 2008. She wasn't ugly but she was (and probably still is) riding the hell out of the c*ck carousel. Seriously this girl would get 20-100 messages per day. You frigigng tell me when you getting nearly 140-700 messages per week, not one guy, not even one frigging guy meets your overall criteria for relationship? I just find it hard to belive

Big Nuts · Oct 19, 2013

Yup, there are girls who have been online for 5+ years. A girl who friend-zoned me many years ago has been online dating since 2008. She wasn't ugly but she was (and probably still is) riding the hell out of the c*ck carousel. Seriously this girl would get 20-100 messages per day. You frigigng tell me when you getting nearly 140-700 messages per week, not one guy, not even one frigging guy meets your overall criteria for relationship? I just find it hard to belive[/QUOTE]

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Totally, 100's of messages...was out on a date with a pof slu....she got 115 messages in 4 hours...she blew me twice tho...lol....but, I remember thinking....wow...I get like 6 messages a week, and I am considered good looking...she was a 6.5, nice tits....nothing special...but she had a good body and had a bikini picture up...ding, ding, ding.....still see her on there every fvckin day.....

How does any guy really compete with 115 messages in 4 hours???

Online in essence destroys women.....sure it is great for easy lays, but as I stated, you will not come away thinking any better of women.

Crissco · Oct 20, 2013

Im coming so close to deleting it..Its just flakes galore lately and im getting sick of it. Even night game, my night game isnt perfect nor day game, but you can accomplish alot more in term of instant dates or SNLs in person.

Might just delete my online dating profiles

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