A lot of what determines one’s interpersonal relationships, especially with members of the opposite sex, has a lot to do with how one has been socialized. I first noticed this by noticing that fat chicks tended to have certain behaviors and attitudes that are strikingly different from thin chicks – something in their personality. Then I noticed a simular thing between ugly chicks, average chicks, and hot chicks. Then it occurred to me.
It is a lot along the line of one tends to act in response to the way others see them or as they think others see them. Everyone tends to think that their babies are cute but the reality is that some just aren’t that cute and only get uglier as they grow. Others truly are cute and get cuter only in a different way as they grow. This matters; as people, in general, tend to treat better looking people better than average looking people and ugly people worse. From one’s birth onward, one is constantly facing these differences.
Take, for instance a cute little girl. When people see her they often smile and as such she tends to smile when she meets people, which only makes her more cute and get a greater response out of those she encounters. An ugly little girl, on the other hand, doesn’t get a constant stream of smiles and thus doesn’t normally smile when she meets others. As just the fact of youth tends to have a cuteness to it and most programming geared towards children tends to put on a happy face; this difference isn’t at first noticed but as those little girls grow into young women the differences can be great. This difference in socialization also applies to men.
What this all amounts to is that better looking people tend to have more and more positive social interactions whereas uglier people tend to have less and more negative social interactions. That means that a better looking person tends to have a more developed social sense and pick up on most of the little clues whereas the less socialized uglier person has a less developed social sense and often misses little clues.
Thus; in a social setting the better looking men and women will tend to interact at a level that those lower on the socialization scale may fail to pick up on. The better looking will tend to have a more cheerful vibrant personality whereas the ugly tend to have a more sour drab personality.
The point of this is to point out the importance of looks. A point being that an average man with all the game in the world is at a distinct disadvantage to a good looking man because he lacks the socialization to properly communicate with good looking women.
Here is something to illustrate the powerfulness of this socialization due to looks. Say a boy grows up with an abusive father who is always telling the boy that he is stupid and ugly and no one could possibly like him. A less attractive boy would tend to believe the words of his abusive father and forever have problems fitting in socially. A good looking boy on the other hand will run into girls who will have an opposite opinion of him. With the words of his abusive father being rather hurtful and the words of the girls he meets so pleasurable, the girls will tend to undo much of the damage the abusive father causes.
It is a lot along the line of one tends to act in response to the way others see them or as they think others see them. Everyone tends to think that their babies are cute but the reality is that some just aren’t that cute and only get uglier as they grow. Others truly are cute and get cuter only in a different way as they grow. This matters; as people, in general, tend to treat better looking people better than average looking people and ugly people worse. From one’s birth onward, one is constantly facing these differences.
Take, for instance a cute little girl. When people see her they often smile and as such she tends to smile when she meets people, which only makes her more cute and get a greater response out of those she encounters. An ugly little girl, on the other hand, doesn’t get a constant stream of smiles and thus doesn’t normally smile when she meets others. As just the fact of youth tends to have a cuteness to it and most programming geared towards children tends to put on a happy face; this difference isn’t at first noticed but as those little girls grow into young women the differences can be great. This difference in socialization also applies to men.
What this all amounts to is that better looking people tend to have more and more positive social interactions whereas uglier people tend to have less and more negative social interactions. That means that a better looking person tends to have a more developed social sense and pick up on most of the little clues whereas the less socialized uglier person has a less developed social sense and often misses little clues.
Thus; in a social setting the better looking men and women will tend to interact at a level that those lower on the socialization scale may fail to pick up on. The better looking will tend to have a more cheerful vibrant personality whereas the ugly tend to have a more sour drab personality.
The point of this is to point out the importance of looks. A point being that an average man with all the game in the world is at a distinct disadvantage to a good looking man because he lacks the socialization to properly communicate with good looking women.
Here is something to illustrate the powerfulness of this socialization due to looks. Say a boy grows up with an abusive father who is always telling the boy that he is stupid and ugly and no one could possibly like him. A less attractive boy would tend to believe the words of his abusive father and forever have problems fitting in socially. A good looking boy on the other hand will run into girls who will have an opposite opinion of him. With the words of his abusive father being rather hurtful and the words of the girls he meets so pleasurable, the girls will tend to undo much of the damage the abusive father causes.
