Emotional Intelligence is Key

What we call 'inner game' is a facet of emotional intelligence. It's basically having your own mind together enough so that your own personal issues do not screw up your life. That sounds easier than it is.

One of the comments to the article below was by a retired teacher who blamed bad parenting. I think that if no one ever taught you how to emotionally relate to people, then you'll probably have a hard time with women, because they are emotional creatures. Guys who are good with girls tend to be intuitive. If you can get an idea of what a woman is thinking by looking at her, then it's easy to pick out the horny ones. That's emotional intelligence.

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/09/15/m...telligence-be-taught.html?pagewanted=all&_r=0

...So-called noncognitive skills — attributes like self-restraint, persistence and self-awareness — might actually be better predictors of a person’s life trajectory than standard academic measures. A 2011 study using data collected on 17,000 British infants followed over 50 years found that a child’s level of mental well-being correlated strongly with future success. Similar studies have found that kids who develop these skills are not only more likely to do well at work but also to have longer marriages and to suffer less from depression and anxiety. Some evidence even shows that they will be physically healthier.

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There is no such thing as "emotional intelligence". The word "intelligence" can't just be slapped onto every mental skill. That comes from one psychiatrist, who made up a list of "intelligences" like "musical intelligence". Why? In order to cheapen the word intelligence. Egalitarians hate the fact that people have different levels of intelligence, so if they can't ban the word intelligence outright, they want to devaluate it by applying it to everything.

Much like how in Western armies the Left has called for handing out berets to every single person, even those who are tasked with folding laundry. That way a symbol of the elite is devaluated. It takes a sick mind to hate the reality of different strengths.

Musical proficiency is a talent. Being able to read emotions well is a talent - one that almost everyone has, unless you are authistic. Linguistic skill is a talent. Intelligence is also a talent - that is, a mental strength. The particular mental strength called intelligence is the ability to see how things work, to see cause and effect, to see patterns.

As studies have shown, having strong mental talents in areas, such as linguistics, spatial recognition, etc, often comes packaged with a high intelligence. But that doesn't make them "intelligences" any more than being a good archer means that you have "archery strength".

Being able to emote, without faking it, is one of the keys of social aptitude.

Fake emotions can be detected by anyone with an average social life. When you back your conversation with real emotion, you add value and depth to your words. You will be able to respond to social cues almost immediately.