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Content:
I - Introduction
II - Getting Numbers
III - Setting up the Date
IV - The First Date
V - The Kiss
VI - Next Steps
In the perfect world, you will be guaranteed 100% success if your actions are flawless. It is your ego telling you that you live in that perfect world, the harsh reality is that you aren't. You are not in control of your destiny...
I - Introduction
My 5 year LTR ended a couple of years ago, but I didn't move on until nearly a year afterward. In my mind, I thought someone who loved me for half a decade, would love me again. She did not, I had to move on.
Over her?
I went to visit her and told her this is the last time I will ever see her. We both sat there and cried out hearts out
I still maintained contact with her, hour long conversations for the next month. I kept thinking she still wanted us to be together from what she was saying. I bought into it for a month before...
The Awakening
This was the hardest thing I have done up to this point in my life. I looked at all my weaknesses and insecurities. Until then, I thought we were perfect for each other and that "it just wasn't the right timing"
WRONG
I lead myself to believe the breakup was mutual, bad timing. LMFAO, protecting my ego, I deluded myself. She was dating a guy 2 weeks after our breakup, but I told myself they were just friends!
Oh how I was caught in my own fantasy world. That's when I realized I was putting my EX on a pedestal.
Slowly (and painfully), I looked back, putting my pride aside and saw everything that I had covered in the land of ponies and unicorns. I was unplugged. I saw the truth for what it was, I saw her for who she was. I played into her frame and made prioritized her over these other women because we had "wonderful memories together" Well, I fvcked myself emotionally by doing that, as she is riding the c0ck carrousel. :kick:
By looking back, throwing my ego aside, I was able to make connections and not have a facade of our memories. She left me because she found someone better, why else would she step out of her comfort zone that was our relationship?
The cold hard truth.
I was back into the dating world. Desperate. Clueless. Naive.
II - Getting Numbers
A year after my LTR ended, I told myself - 'It's time to move on.' Given my time out of the game, I was a puppy being introduced to the dating world. I did 20 cold approaches the first week. No numbers. 20 More. Not numbers. The amount of rejection I received made me second guess if I should try to reach out to my ex one more time. I did not. The third week, I finally got a number. I received my first legit number after doing 50 approaches. Pitiful when I look back, but it had to be done. What I learned:
Numbers don't mean sh!t.
You have to think as a business owner, developing your own business. You will not have prospects unless you go out and make cold calls, campaigns, marketing, putting your face to a name, etc. If you are ever in telemarketing, you will receive 100 No's until you get that Yes. Regardless of how amazing your script is, every prospect is different. I no longer attempted lines, and hope for the number. I improved my genuine approach. I asked questions that pertained to the women I approached. I answered questions that connected to the women I approached. Tweaking my annunciation, body language, eye contact, posture and overall confidence, I improved my odds of a number close from 1/50 to 1/4.
Setting the Date:
Like I said, numbers don't mean sh!t. If a chick does not respond to your initial text, it's done. Over. Even if she makes out with you before giving you her number, it does not mean SH!T. Your first text to her should be an introduction with an open ended statement. My default is ending the text with - 'was your day as crazy as mine?' You can make up some bullsh!t from there, but you need to get her attention. The length of her response is a strong indicator of her interest, there are exceptions, of course. Regardless, the call/text to ask her to hang out should happen after 1-2 exchanges.
(Continuing this thread shortly)
I - Introduction
II - Getting Numbers
III - Setting up the Date
IV - The First Date
V - The Kiss
VI - Next Steps
In the perfect world, you will be guaranteed 100% success if your actions are flawless. It is your ego telling you that you live in that perfect world, the harsh reality is that you aren't. You are not in control of your destiny...
I - Introduction
My 5 year LTR ended a couple of years ago, but I didn't move on until nearly a year afterward. In my mind, I thought someone who loved me for half a decade, would love me again. She did not, I had to move on.
Over her?
I went to visit her and told her this is the last time I will ever see her. We both sat there and cried out hearts out
I still maintained contact with her, hour long conversations for the next month. I kept thinking she still wanted us to be together from what she was saying. I bought into it for a month before...
The Awakening
This was the hardest thing I have done up to this point in my life. I looked at all my weaknesses and insecurities. Until then, I thought we were perfect for each other and that "it just wasn't the right timing"
WRONG
I lead myself to believe the breakup was mutual, bad timing. LMFAO, protecting my ego, I deluded myself. She was dating a guy 2 weeks after our breakup, but I told myself they were just friends!
Oh how I was caught in my own fantasy world. That's when I realized I was putting my EX on a pedestal.
Slowly (and painfully), I looked back, putting my pride aside and saw everything that I had covered in the land of ponies and unicorns. I was unplugged. I saw the truth for what it was, I saw her for who she was. I played into her frame and made prioritized her over these other women because we had "wonderful memories together" Well, I fvcked myself emotionally by doing that, as she is riding the c0ck carrousel. :kick:
By looking back, throwing my ego aside, I was able to make connections and not have a facade of our memories. She left me because she found someone better, why else would she step out of her comfort zone that was our relationship?
The cold hard truth.
I was back into the dating world. Desperate. Clueless. Naive.
II - Getting Numbers
A year after my LTR ended, I told myself - 'It's time to move on.' Given my time out of the game, I was a puppy being introduced to the dating world. I did 20 cold approaches the first week. No numbers. 20 More. Not numbers. The amount of rejection I received made me second guess if I should try to reach out to my ex one more time. I did not. The third week, I finally got a number. I received my first legit number after doing 50 approaches. Pitiful when I look back, but it had to be done. What I learned:
Numbers don't mean sh!t.
You have to think as a business owner, developing your own business. You will not have prospects unless you go out and make cold calls, campaigns, marketing, putting your face to a name, etc. If you are ever in telemarketing, you will receive 100 No's until you get that Yes. Regardless of how amazing your script is, every prospect is different. I no longer attempted lines, and hope for the number. I improved my genuine approach. I asked questions that pertained to the women I approached. I answered questions that connected to the women I approached. Tweaking my annunciation, body language, eye contact, posture and overall confidence, I improved my odds of a number close from 1/50 to 1/4.
Setting the Date:
Like I said, numbers don't mean sh!t. If a chick does not respond to your initial text, it's done. Over. Even if she makes out with you before giving you her number, it does not mean SH!T. Your first text to her should be an introduction with an open ended statement. My default is ending the text with - 'was your day as crazy as mine?' You can make up some bullsh!t from there, but you need to get her attention. The length of her response is a strong indicator of her interest, there are exceptions, of course. Regardless, the call/text to ask her to hang out should happen after 1-2 exchanges.
(Continuing this thread shortly)
