Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Let's face it, you didn't come to sosuave because your love life was going well. If you had everything you wanted, you wouldn't be here. When I joined, I was recently divorced and had forgotten how to date.
Before I throw around an offensive term like "loser," I want to give it a non-offensive definition. By loser, I mean someone who is not getting what he wants out of life, and more importantly, not on a realistic path toward getting what he wants. The definition is subjective. Maybe you have a million bucks and are fvcking two women right now - but your heart is set on having ten million and four women at once. Without a clear path toward that goal, such a guy would meet my definition of loser, because he's not happy with his life.
So most of us here are losers. Don't be offended. There are a few people here who do not meet that definition, but they are probably just narcissists. I would say that I am one, too, but it is impossible for a narcissist to view themselves as a narcissist.
That brings me to the point of this post. There are two types of losers - the temporary and the permanent. They can be defined by one particular trait, which is very simple - who do they blame? The temporary loser blames himself for his problems. He will attribute his failures to poor choices and lack of knowledge. That's the key, because the underlying philosophy is the idea that each of us are in control of our own life.
Now, obviously, we are not in full control of our futures. Life sh!ts on everybody from time to time. A lot of bad things happen to people for no fault at all of their own. Maybe it's not their fault that they meet my definition of loser, but regardless, the temporary loser is going to view himself as the way out of the problem. Work harder, get smarter - most problems can be fixed or mitigated with enough effort.
That brings us to the other type of loser, the permanent. The essence of being a permanent loser is taking the blame for your problems and laying it on anything and everything in the world ...except for yourself. Read through sosuave, and you will see that the list of things to blame is almost endless. It's not your fault: it's society, or the female gender, or feminism, or liberalism, or the Illuminati, or the damn homos. The permanent loser will also blame every unchangeable trait about himself he can think of. He's too old, too young, too poor, too short, the wrong color, or not good looking enough. That's what makes his loser-ness permanent. If he blames it on something that will never change, then he will never change himself, and will thus stay a loser forever.
So now, when you talk to people about their problems, whether it is in person or over the Internet, take notice of whom that person blames for their problems. It is a very simple litmus test that will predict their future. You might also ask yourself, if you meet my broad definition of loser as someone who is not getting what they want, what type of loser am I - the temporary, or the permanent? You are the one who controls the answer to that question.
Before I throw around an offensive term like "loser," I want to give it a non-offensive definition. By loser, I mean someone who is not getting what he wants out of life, and more importantly, not on a realistic path toward getting what he wants. The definition is subjective. Maybe you have a million bucks and are fvcking two women right now - but your heart is set on having ten million and four women at once. Without a clear path toward that goal, such a guy would meet my definition of loser, because he's not happy with his life.
So most of us here are losers. Don't be offended. There are a few people here who do not meet that definition, but they are probably just narcissists. I would say that I am one, too, but it is impossible for a narcissist to view themselves as a narcissist.
That brings me to the point of this post. There are two types of losers - the temporary and the permanent. They can be defined by one particular trait, which is very simple - who do they blame? The temporary loser blames himself for his problems. He will attribute his failures to poor choices and lack of knowledge. That's the key, because the underlying philosophy is the idea that each of us are in control of our own life.
Now, obviously, we are not in full control of our futures. Life sh!ts on everybody from time to time. A lot of bad things happen to people for no fault at all of their own. Maybe it's not their fault that they meet my definition of loser, but regardless, the temporary loser is going to view himself as the way out of the problem. Work harder, get smarter - most problems can be fixed or mitigated with enough effort.
That brings us to the other type of loser, the permanent. The essence of being a permanent loser is taking the blame for your problems and laying it on anything and everything in the world ...except for yourself. Read through sosuave, and you will see that the list of things to blame is almost endless. It's not your fault: it's society, or the female gender, or feminism, or liberalism, or the Illuminati, or the damn homos. The permanent loser will also blame every unchangeable trait about himself he can think of. He's too old, too young, too poor, too short, the wrong color, or not good looking enough. That's what makes his loser-ness permanent. If he blames it on something that will never change, then he will never change himself, and will thus stay a loser forever.
So now, when you talk to people about their problems, whether it is in person or over the Internet, take notice of whom that person blames for their problems. It is a very simple litmus test that will predict their future. You might also ask yourself, if you meet my broad definition of loser as someone who is not getting what they want, what type of loser am I - the temporary, or the permanent? You are the one who controls the answer to that question.
