The Slvt-O-Meter: Signs you are talking to/dating a slvt!

Hey ninja! Can we get a list of what behaviour quality women exhibit.

Would be nice to see it from the other side.

SamTheHobit said:

Hey ninja! Can we get a list of what behaviour quality women exhibit.

Would be nice to see it from the other side.

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I agree, sluts are more common these days and age

How they dress should be up there. If she's got everything hanging out she is desperate for male attention.

If she makes out with random guys at a club/bar/whatever.

If she has ever cheated before. I honestly feel that someone that cheats can change but its still a personality flaw that says "I didn't have the guts to end my relationship before screwing around".

A decent girl (in my opinion)

Will dress modestly and with class. She may have a great figure but she doesn't show all her skin at once.
Doesn't post scantily clad photos of herself online...she believes the only one that should see that much of her is her significant other.
Will have some maternal instincts...knows how to nurture and have compassion
Has self respect and has her affairs in order; she would rather take care of her problems than whine or burden others (basically isn't codependent)
Understands that actions have consequences and tries to keep herself safe and doesn't end up in stupid situations
Will only be intimate with a significant other, and uses her personality and behavior to attract men, not her body.
Will not have daddy issues...she was raised by a strong mother and father figure.
May be religious but not necessarily...usually they are raised this way
Appreciates a decent man and has the self respect to prefer being single than to date a scumbag.

i have second the statement about religious freaks, but i want to clarify something about this also.

many girls who become suddenly religious, especially if they were not RAISED religious are suspect. this goes for all people actually. let me give you an example. let's say a girl was raised in a hellish condition, did all kinds of bad things and then "found religion". well, good for them that they are seeing the error of their ways. but, consider that even if their religious affections are true and noble, they have a lifetime of bad behavior and habits that are already ingrained into them. if they have been on drugs, they may still struggle in this area, same with sexual looseness. unfortunately, girls with instant religion will often be particularly zealous about their new faith or ideologies and this will often seem like true maturity to the casual observer.

similarly, you have to be wary of women who have been influenced by "fleshly" religions and religious affections that cater to the flesh or human goodness. for instance, lots of new age religions and even some mainstream offshoots of conventional religions teach things about "loving yourself", or "self-acceptance". this is particularly dangerous, especially if the "self" they have in their own mind has been involved in promiscuous or dirty behavior. this type of "self-love" religion is in stark contrast to the conventional, let's say christian, ideas of repenting of sin and bad behavior and actually allowing spiritual change into your life. lots of women (men also) get swept up by odd cults and crazy religions which do nothing but inflate their self-esteem while draining their pocketbooks and doing more damage to any already fragile relations the participants might have with their families.

warning to you young players - if you meet a girl who comes from a religious family and is continuing their long held family traditions from a true heart - God help you if you try to corrupt her or lead her astray. you will be in grave danger doing this sort of thing. not only from a spiritual sense, but also from a practical sense, as girls fathers, brothers, and other men (especially if they see your advance as trying to undermine their religion) will pose a significant threat to your well-being; much more so than the average chump boyfriend she might have with her in a bar or night club. if you do this purposely and delight in it, i can tell you for sure that you have no future in this world, or the world beyond. guys, if you have friends who claim to specialize in this type of thing, mark my word you will see a great downfall in their lives if you stick around long enough. i can tell you countless stories of heartache and misery from those that arrogantly try to corrupt decent religious women. not all of the girls you meet who say they are religious are phony.

both should be avoided actually - the real and the fake. stick to more mainstream women if you want to date and get to know girls. unless the religious traditions are the same as yours, don't bother. if you have no religion, then stick to girls who have no religion either. if you are a certain religion stick to girls from that same or similar mindset.

Naughty Ninja said:

You can never be 100% sure IMO. But if you are confident in yourself and not needing another person to complete you as if you are a broken person already then you'd have no problem leaving if red flags start popping up. The less of the signs I mentioned the less likely the chick is to have been or is a slvt.

She'd have strong family values. Her parents would have a good relationship. (No name calling, arguing constantly, or history of cheating on each other. Usually better if the parents are together and have a good relationship but sometimes it's not 100%.)

She isn't an AW. Has mostly friends and family on her FB. Still you'd never know but it's better than she has loads of "friends" who don't know her from a can of paint but rather a piece of azz/wank material. (If she has a lot of scantily clad pics, too many "party girl" pics she could be showing off or making certain friends "jealous" even IF she doesn't have many guys on her profile.) I personally would never know nor care as I don't use FB anymore. But the less of it the better.

Good with kids. Not the type to "hate" kids or the type kids tend to avoid. I think in some ways kids can pick up on certain people.

Isn't always a drama queen, or constantly involved in others or having her own overblown or serious issues.

Isn't "too good" or wild in bed. **No guarantee with that either as some slvts will just lay there as they're used to just being pumped and dumped. (If she can svck start a Harley Davidson and can put her legs behind her head she just might be a little "too" experienced.)

Is responsible and accountable for her actions. (Rare) lol

Appreciates a good man and doesn't take advantage of him.

Open with communication. Loves to talk to you. Likes being around you. Compliments you. Is PROUD to be seen with you.

I'll think of more later.

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these are all awesome points.

I will also add the following brief list:

1. a decent woman has some kind of passion she is seriously interested in. it could be painting, art, writing, photography, a sport, music, fitness, anything - the empty headed suck-and-**** hoes tend to be all about partying, ****ing and sleeping it off, and not much else. look for a girl who has some creative or industrious interests NOT related to whatever she does as a job.

2. a decent woman speaks with very little, if any profanity. guys come on, you don't want a girl with a gutter mouth. you might like a like risque talk in the bedroom, but don't go after the leah-remney-king-of-queens-i-can-trash-talk-just-like-the-guys girl. if your woman is foul mouthed as part of her normal way of being, even in public, trust me she will be attracting the wrong kind of attention everywhere she goes. saying the f-word 3 times in every sentence is a sure sign of bad upbringing and low morals. if she slams her finger in the car door and says, oh %^& that hurts, that's a different story.

3. a decent woman is NOT openly flirtatious with almost EVERYONE she meets. likewise, she is not a miserable ***** to everyone she meets, guy or girl. no woman of decent upbringing and good standards operates in the extremes.

4. a decent woman does NOT spend an inordinate, obsessive amount of time on hair, makeup, accessories, - while this is not a sure sign of a ho, it often is. its fine for women to want to look nice when they go out, and they should, but really...you should know the difference. the exception to this is women who are very concerned about poor complexion or other skin defaults and they just want to hide out of insecurity. in actuality, obsessing about all these things can all point to an underlying insecurity or low-self esteem. but seriously, we ALL HAVE MIRRORS in our bathrooms, so everyone is guilty of at least caring a little bit about their appearance. but trashy eye makeup, way too much bling and crappy, trashy clothing - even if it isn't revealing, is a sure sign of trouble.

5. a decent woman should have a sense of motherly, womanly sympathy for those who are struggling in this world. that is, when she hears about people getting foodstamps or help from the government, she doesn't just blurt out "that those ****ers need to get a ****ing job, lazy ****s!" this is not a good sign. i am not saying that she needs to be mother teresa, but she should at least display some kind of understanding that the world is hard for some people and even if she doesn't do anything directly to help the poor, she should at least not hate them for being poor or needy.

a decent woman speaks with very little, if any profanity. guys come on, you don't want a girl with a gutter mouth. you might like a like risque talk in the bedroom, but don't go after the leah-remney-king-of-queens-i-can-trash-talk-just-like-the-guys girl. if your woman is foul mouthed as part of her normal way of being, even in public, trust me she will be attracting the wrong kind of attention everywhere she goes. saying the f-word 3 times in every sentence is a sure sign of bad upbringing and low morals. if she slams her finger in the car door and says, oh %^& that hurts, that's a different story.

This is a good addition to the signs in the OPs list.

Its really unbelievable how ninja is spot on, few years ago I would have disregarded that list as some forum rubbish but after the huge experience Im getting now I have to agree totally.

That list is pretty accurate in what makes girls you have to avoid if you are serious but at the same time show that type of girl which could give you the most satisfaction in the long term (given she is attracted from you).

a woman who is extremely insecure is another one to add to the list. they always need validation and even if you give it to them they may still search for it from other sources. They may have sex with different guys behind your back to fill up a void for love and acceptance.

girls who follow known celebrity slvts and idolize them. Linsey Lohan, Kim Kardashian, Nicky minaj or people like them. Should they mention or talk about them positively or are obssessed with those kids of trash role models even if they constantly talk bad about them they secretly want to be just like them.

good lists

I dated a very decent non slvt and she did have 3 small tattoos.

I don't like them and run from any with major ones.

a bit OT, but do you guys think Norah Jones gives slutty vibes?

http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&...urce=og&sa=N&tab=wi&ei=4JDsUNiYKaGjigKr24GQDg

OP you've just described every woman in Los Angeles.

Naughty Ninja said:

Chicks who suddenly become religious/find "God"/ or wear Religion on their sleeve. This on it's own may not completely mean she is or was a slvt but they are trading some kind of addiction with "God" and will use "God" to manipulate you while hiding behind "him". Could be past drug use/alcohol addiction/ wild ways/ were rebellious etc. to which I'd ask questions on why they'd suddenly found "God"...they may follow up with a lie and or the truth but overly religious IMO have things to hide.

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A slvt who won't put out. The WORST of BOTH worlds! hahahaha :crackup:

I would also add "open to interracial dating" to that list (especially when it comes to stereotypical interracial pairs - i.e. white girl/black guy and asian girl/white guy).

The girl is highly self-centered, not to be confused with ambitious.
She has no self-respect, shame or pride for that matter.
Has daddy issues.
She is addicted to drama in general.
Has no real hobbies/life as mentioned somewhere above.

CostaDeSol said:

a bit OT, but do you guys think Norah Jones gives slutty vibes?

http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&...urce=og&sa=N&tab=wi&ei=4JDsUNiYKaGjigKr24GQDg

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Norah Jones? eh, kind of. but then again she is paid to be a talented, public figure, so she has to evoke a certain emotion in her looks onscreen and in print media.

she is probably just a typical, talented, driven, artsy chick who has had normal relationships with the guys in her life.

but thats just a guess. wish i was one of them...:nervous:

pinkfl said:

How they dress should be up there. If she's got everything hanging out she is desperate for male attention.

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I'm gonna have to disagree with this one. The one's who dress more provocative can actually be the ones that are LEAST likely to put out. They do get a lot of hate from other females who also tend to spread rumors amongst themselves and to men.

Signs of sh*tty home life growing up, bad father or mother and #1 is signs of poor boundaries.