Harry Wilmington
Master Don Juan
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Hey guys:
I'm on these boards at least once or twice a day (or more if I'm responding to stuff), and it saddens me when I see guys posting on here who just don't seem to get how simple dating really is.
They post these stories up here about these girls they're interested in, and they're perplexed because the girls they're after are giving them mixed signals. They may be girls who showed initial interest but aren't going on dates with them, or girls who made out with them but won't go all the way. Regardless of the situation, the stories all sound the same - in fact, here's a mad libs version of just about every post on here involving a guy with girl problems:
"Hey guys - so I met this girl at _____, and we hit it off at first. I did the technique of _____ on her, and she seemed to like it because she ______ when I did ______. I got her ______ so I could hit her up later. After _____ days of contacting her by _______, I invited her out for _______. She said _____ at first, but on the day of the date she hit me up last minute and said she couldn't go because of _______. She provided no counter-offer. Should I go no contact so she'll want to ______ me? I thought she liked me!"
In reading these things, I've come to realize that, due to men's egos, they either can't or don't want to admit to themselves when a girl just doesn't dig them the way he digs them. In the process of denying what's actually going on, they forget one important thing:
When a girl likes you, she makes it OBVIOUS.
Now, some may read that and think: "But Harry, what about girls who are shy, or don't want to seem to forward?" And my response is that, yes, even THEY make their like for you obvious. For you see, a girl that is truly, truly into you WANTS you to be into her, and will do the things an interested girl does to make sure she keeps you around. In many of the threads I read, the girls these guys are after are showing clear signs of disinterest - i.e. not returning messages/phone calls, not suggesting date ideas, etc. - and yet, to the guys posting these threads, the girls actions aren't making it clear to them that her interest isn't there.
So, for the benefit of all the guys on here that keep posting up these threads asking if a girl likes them, I'm starting this simple post. For the DJs or moderators who have been here for a while, as well as anyone who is actually good with women, please post down below a listing of things that girls who are interested in a guy will do, so that others can look at it and see if the girl they are currently one-i-tising about are doing these things to/for them. I'll start the list off...
WHEN A WOMAN LIKES YOU...
1. She returns all messages/calls in a timely manner
2. She accepts all date invites and/or counter-offers if she can't make the suggested date/time
3. She doesn't flinch when you try to touch her
4. She is willing to have sex with you as early as the first date
5. She takes initiative to call YOU up and ask YOU out on a date
6. She doesn't go 2 weeks without contacting you - heck, she can barely go 2 DAYS without contacting you
7. She'll go on vacation and still hit you up every so often
8. She voluntarily pays for the occasional meal or date outing
9. She doesn't tell you she's "confused" about her feelings for you - there is no confusion because she likes you and ONLY you
10. She doesn't try to invite friends along on your dates
11. She doesn't come over your house and leave you with blue balls
12. She gives you compliments about the way you look, act, smell, etc.
13. She will know what your invitation to your house means... and still want to show up
14. The words "let's just be friends" are never spoken by her
15. It won't matter what your life situation is - you could be poor, living on someone else's couch, with a lousy job and no car, and she'll still want to be seen in public with you
16. She won't send you mixed signals - a girl that likes you doesn't want you confused about how she feels about you
17. It won't matter how long it's been since her last boyfriend (2 days, 2 weeks, 2 months, etc.) since she won't have feelings for him after being around you
18. She won't keep talking to ex-boyfriends
19. You can be as goofy as you'd like, and she'll be right there with you acting just as goofy
20. Her friends won't be able to persuade her not to date you
Well, that's all I got for now - feel free to add to the list, guys!
I'm on these boards at least once or twice a day (or more if I'm responding to stuff), and it saddens me when I see guys posting on here who just don't seem to get how simple dating really is.
They post these stories up here about these girls they're interested in, and they're perplexed because the girls they're after are giving them mixed signals. They may be girls who showed initial interest but aren't going on dates with them, or girls who made out with them but won't go all the way. Regardless of the situation, the stories all sound the same - in fact, here's a mad libs version of just about every post on here involving a guy with girl problems:
"Hey guys - so I met this girl at _____, and we hit it off at first. I did the technique of _____ on her, and she seemed to like it because she ______ when I did ______. I got her ______ so I could hit her up later. After _____ days of contacting her by _______, I invited her out for _______. She said _____ at first, but on the day of the date she hit me up last minute and said she couldn't go because of _______. She provided no counter-offer. Should I go no contact so she'll want to ______ me? I thought she liked me!"
In reading these things, I've come to realize that, due to men's egos, they either can't or don't want to admit to themselves when a girl just doesn't dig them the way he digs them. In the process of denying what's actually going on, they forget one important thing:
When a girl likes you, she makes it OBVIOUS.
Now, some may read that and think: "But Harry, what about girls who are shy, or don't want to seem to forward?" And my response is that, yes, even THEY make their like for you obvious. For you see, a girl that is truly, truly into you WANTS you to be into her, and will do the things an interested girl does to make sure she keeps you around. In many of the threads I read, the girls these guys are after are showing clear signs of disinterest - i.e. not returning messages/phone calls, not suggesting date ideas, etc. - and yet, to the guys posting these threads, the girls actions aren't making it clear to them that her interest isn't there.
So, for the benefit of all the guys on here that keep posting up these threads asking if a girl likes them, I'm starting this simple post. For the DJs or moderators who have been here for a while, as well as anyone who is actually good with women, please post down below a listing of things that girls who are interested in a guy will do, so that others can look at it and see if the girl they are currently one-i-tising about are doing these things to/for them. I'll start the list off...
WHEN A WOMAN LIKES YOU...
1. She returns all messages/calls in a timely manner
2. She accepts all date invites and/or counter-offers if she can't make the suggested date/time
3. She doesn't flinch when you try to touch her
4. She is willing to have sex with you as early as the first date
5. She takes initiative to call YOU up and ask YOU out on a date
6. She doesn't go 2 weeks without contacting you - heck, she can barely go 2 DAYS without contacting you
7. She'll go on vacation and still hit you up every so often
8. She voluntarily pays for the occasional meal or date outing
9. She doesn't tell you she's "confused" about her feelings for you - there is no confusion because she likes you and ONLY you
10. She doesn't try to invite friends along on your dates
11. She doesn't come over your house and leave you with blue balls
12. She gives you compliments about the way you look, act, smell, etc.
13. She will know what your invitation to your house means... and still want to show up
14. The words "let's just be friends" are never spoken by her
15. It won't matter what your life situation is - you could be poor, living on someone else's couch, with a lousy job and no car, and she'll still want to be seen in public with you
16. She won't send you mixed signals - a girl that likes you doesn't want you confused about how she feels about you
17. It won't matter how long it's been since her last boyfriend (2 days, 2 weeks, 2 months, etc.) since she won't have feelings for him after being around you
18. She won't keep talking to ex-boyfriends
19. You can be as goofy as you'd like, and she'll be right there with you acting just as goofy
20. Her friends won't be able to persuade her not to date you
Well, that's all I got for now - feel free to add to the list, guys!
