Should I end it?

So to make it really short. A girl I know for about a month, we hit it off really well and fast. Lots of make outs, fun after basically a week and a half of knowing eachother she wrote a text message to me that she probably likes me a lot. Notice that she used the word probably.

Anyway after that night when she sent me the text message things went downhill, we met basically two times a week after school.

Once she asked me why aren't we in a relationship and if I would like to be in a relationship with her, since I did want it I said that I would like but she then said that she has to think about it.

About a week later I went out with her, again things seemed well, she asked me when will we meet again so I said on monday.

On monday her best friend was there and she was ignoring me a bit and so on. We argued a bit.

I went out with her again on friday, told her why I was angry, we didn't talk for about 45 minutes. Then she began talking and the rest went a bit better but she said to me a couple of times that she isn't sure if she likes me. But when I told her that I might be in her town next day that I could call her and she would come to see me.

So I haven't contacted her for a week now, she haven't contacted me either though she used to contact me and I'm thinking about ending it with her. I thought abou tomorrow or Monday. I don't know if it's worth waiting any longer and tomorrow evening I could get a new girl maybe.

What do you say? Wait or just move on? Is there even anything to end since we were never officially GF and BF but we were exclusive.

You're giving her waaay to much attention.

Remember, you have to act like you're extremely desirable and get tons of girls.

That means:
You shouldn't care that she's ignoring you.
You shouldn't care enough to argue with her.
You shouldn't care if 'she isn't sure she likes you.'

You're a great catch and a chick magnet. So why would you care about any of these things? There are tons of other girls clambering for your attention.

Basically, she is sensing your neediness and it is lowering her IL. The solution is to, yes, move on and go after other chicks. And brush up on PUA knowledge.

playing games...too much trouble for me...(im lazy)
find a girl who doesnt play games ...this one...dump her

i dont kno about others but when a chick makes me confused i drop her
i don't care who or what she is i drop her...

i want a date not a headache, if you keep thinking about whether she is legit or not YOU are gonna go bald and lose your hair(mental stress causes hair fall)

maybe its difficult for you bcuz she mite b special tou...i understand but LJBF her and then date her friends
i used to b a total wimp, i even got victimised by a range of gold diggers,
but i learned to let go, u shud too

********remember we r looking for dates not headaches***********

If she is playing this type of game 1 month in cut your losses now the games will only get worse. But do keep her on the back burner be highly unpredictable I guarantee once you start seeing a few other chicks she will ride your d!ck so hard and give you some really great sex but only use her for that. Stay a mystery and never more never less.

sighsigh: Yes, I do give her a lot of attention, but I don't think that's the main problem. And we didn't argue actually, I just don't know how to call it, basically she said something that got me angry so I turned around and left, she ten sent me a text message saying that she didn't thought that about me. I called her and we met again, I said why I was angry, she then basically said some patethic excuse to what I didn't react. I just said ""Let's go for a walk." after a minute.

And yes I'm a great catch :yes: but still we are basically exclusive so I would feel kinda bad if I say make out with another girl tomorrow without officially ending it with her. For one thing her ex cheated on her and I told her that I won't and I tend to keep my promises also it might ruin my reputation, I live in a small town where the word spreads fast.

Haha, what is she like 15 or something?

Renegade357 said:

Haha, what is she like 15 or something?

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17 actually, though she sometimes does act like a child.

NobodyCares1 said:

she said something that got me angry so I turned around and left

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So you let her have a higher frame than you. You are letting her wear the pants by allowing her thoughts emotions actions and words effect you. You need to read up on fram and shyt tests. Do not let this discourage you I have this problem to and its easier to tell somone than it is to do it. Read this http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=134995

Also when you let her control the frame that puts her in control she wants a MAN not a boy.

NobodyCares1 said:

And yes I'm a great catch but still we are basically exclusive so I would feel kinda bad if I say make out with another girl tomorrow without officially ending it with her. Also it might ruin my reputation, I live in a small town where the word spreads fast.

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How are you basically exclusive?! This blows me away you are in so much denial I apologize if this comes off rude but it hits deep with me because I have been in your shoes. You are basically exclusive? Thats why when you asked her out she had to think about it? Thats why she is not sure if she likes you? I am sorry dude you are not exclusive if she has to ask these questions she is a f buddy and that is all she is going to be good for. Otherwise she is going to take you down a long and spiraly emotional rollercoaster that will leave you badly bruised and scarred.

If word spreads what a player you are it will only benefit you all the girls will see you as high value and wanted and you will have to beat them off with a stick.. I am seeing no disadvantage to this..

NobodyCares1 said:

17 actually, though she sometimes does act like a child.

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Yeah man, get used to women acting trifling and confused until about age 25. You're supposed to be having fun at this stage not stressing over how much they love you. You need to learn not to care.

MisterSisterFister No I didn't let it affect me, I just didn't want to take any disrespect from her, though it might have been too late for that then.

And basically exclusive because, well it's kinda complicated. Everyone that saw us together thought that we are in a relationship because we did everything you would expect for two people in a relationship to do, it just wasn't official. Anyway I always thought that she didn't want a relationship with me so she could easily slip away when things get to a point like this.

And I read that article but a lot of the stuff just leaves my mind when the situation when I need to use them comes, I guess I just need more practise.

So anyway after thinking about this, reading about the active test again it's definitely over. So the question now is if I should go and say to her that I'm ending things (I kinda gravitate towards this more) or just let it go NCing her.

NobodyCares1 said:

So the question now is if I should go and say to her that I'm ending things (I kinda gravitate towards this more) or just let it go NCing her.

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If you're ending it you give them nothing.

What do you mean?

He means say nothing, do nothing, just go NC. Don't give her closure, a goodbye, an argument... give her nothing.

Fine, I guess you're right. Funny though it's been 8 months since I swallowed the red pill and it still gets me down sometimes. Still this was basically the first almost relationship that I got to with a girl that I found really attractive.

Now I have to think what did I do different than with a girl that was completely into me. The only difference was that I didn't want a relationship with her.

Just keep learning man. You'll be making plenty of mistakes which is fine so long as you are aware after the fact. You're too young right now to get worked up over relationships. 95% of the women at your age are very immature and don't do the right things. They fall in and out of love within 5 minutes for no reason. If I were you I'd just "bro" it and not take anything personally/seriously. Just try to have fun and stay out of trouble.

You are right though I was always more into relationship stuff than just one night stands. Anyway I thought about what went wrong with her and basically the only big thing that I could think of was that I was too avaliable. Basically I went to her like a puppy everytime, I never cancelled any date. And I remember that day when she told me that she really likes me that I didn't go like a puppy to her then because when she called me I was with friends so I kept her waiting a bit.

Also the day when she asked me why aren't we in a relationship I was acting more manly as the days before because I could see that her IL was going down. But that question threw me back to the AFC mode I guess.

Other than that I don't know, I never acted jelaously around her, I was ****y a lot. Through the whole time that I was seeing her I spend exactly 0 money on her.

Though I might have been a bit pressuring her into liking me a bit, but that was because she was already starting to lose interest anyway a very AFC move.

So some changes I have to do next time:
Be less avaliable
Don't be too eager to get into a relationship
Never take what she says/asks seriously, it might be a trap!!!
Don't pressure her, play it cool

NobodyCares1 said:

Once she asked me why aren't we in a relationship and if I would like to be in a relationship with her, since I did want it I said that I would like but she then said that she has to think about it.

About a week later I went out with her, again things seemed well, she asked me when will we meet again so I said on monday.

On monday her best friend was there and she was ignoring me a bit and so on. We argued a bit.

I went out with her again on friday, told her why I was angry, we didn't talk for about 45 minutes. Then she began talking and the rest went a bit better but she said to me a couple of times that she isn't sure if she likes me. But when I told her that I might be in her town next day that I could call her and she would come to see me.

So I haven't contacted her for a week now, she haven't contacted me either though she used to contact me and I'm thinking about ending it with her. I thought abou tomorrow or Monday. I don't know if it's worth waiting any longer and tomorrow evening I could get a new girl maybe.

What do you say? Wait or just move on? Is there even anything to end since we were never officially GF and BF but we were exclusive.

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Lol.

"Why aren't we in a relationship? I like you a lot"
"OK let's be in a relationship."
"I have to think about it."

"I'm not sure if I like you."
"I'm in town tomorrow, I'll call you so you can see me."

"Hey Cindy, I know you haven't called me for a week, so you don't care I'm dead or alive or sleeping with other girls, but I have to end it with you even though I know you are in love with me but I cannot accept this behaviour of no contact."

Move on bro.

So today at school she rang me on my phone, I didn't rang back and don't intend to. I might break the NC if she writes me something meaningful. Though I don't care so much if she does I managed to move on but I might still have some fun with her.

So my plan for now is to keep her hamster spinning, and we'll see what happens next, I'll keep you updated.

She wrote to me on FB about two hours ago, the convo went like this:

HB: Hi, are you angry at me?

ME: Should I be?

HB: probably not but you're not talking to me and won't even write to me

ME: Well you don't write to me either

HB: I expected that you will, but oh well I don't care anyway (sh!t test alert)

ME: Why shoud I always do it? I didn't have time, I have prom very soon

HB: You always, I always write to you first, I know that you have prom

ME: Merry, it was almost always me that called you to go out together so don't say I never wrote to you

HB: Well to go out yes

ME: See. Ok I have to run now bye

HB: bye

Maybe I could've played it better but I tried my best and was in a rush.